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Acne is making me so depressed don't know what to do. It rules my life completely, whenever i'm out all I can think about is how bad it is. I have no confidence in a lot of parts oflife purely because of that. As soon as I meet someone all I can think of is that they're looking at my spots :cry:

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You are not alone.

Anyone with an imperfections (whether it be acne, a missing arm, or a unibrow) will be self concoius about the way they look and will belive that all people notice their flaws.

Since all humans have flaws (we are not perfect), everyone feels this way at least in one part of their day.

With acne, it takes the focus away from your good looks, which is not a great thing. You need to realize that if ppl are going to base you on ur acne then they are not worth talking to or even worring about.

There will always be ppl who can see past it, and into the real you. Such ppl are hard to find, yet they exist.

Do not hold yourself back from anything in life, b/c in some cases you do not get a second chance. Just take everything lightheartedly no matter how hard it is, and do not get obssessed with your flaws.

I hope i helped. :)

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you are not the only one honey. believe me i used to feel the same way as you do. and why do i say i used to feel like you? well...because since i got tired of worrying so much about my skin i just decided to enjoy life....because life is too short and we only live it once. so i decided not to pay attention at all, not that i don´t take care of it but i don´t think about acne 24/7 like i used to do and now that my acne is healing naturally i enjoy life so much now and acne is not a terminal disease. it has a solution but maybe right now you don´t believe that...but trust me acne is not going to stay with you forever.

you just have to seek for professional help if you want to get rid of acne really fast. sitting and crying is not going to solve your problem dear. it won´t believe me. you have to fight till the end if you want to win this battle. everything has a solution except death. so...i totally understand how you feel because there was a time where i was just in the same place as you. but then i realize that life is beautiful and it´s not worth my time nor my life to cry over something that has a solution.

some people have to live in a hospital to survive to keep them alive. some people would love to be in your place dealing with acne rather than dealing with cancer, HIV, burn victims etc. life is cruel but it´s beautiful at the same time. all i want in this life is to have enough good health to live this life because i rather have severe acne than being in a hospital dying from a terminal disease.

think about it sweetheart, i totally understand your pain but you need to find a solution to this problem no matter how hard it is for you. because there is a solution! you just have to find it till the end. you shouldn´t give up honey. don´t do it!

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I think the most important thing to do is gauge whether or not the acne is the cause of the depression and how you're feeling, or if it is caused by other factors. Understand what it is that makes you depressed and work on how you can fix it, with professional help if need be, because it doesn't go away by itself and it's harder to deal with the longer you leave it. Whatever you feel the causes are and however you go about fixing them, I wish you all the best in working it out.

Personally, my depression is as a direct result of my circumstances: my living arrangements, my employment, and lack of social life. I'm very unhappy with all three areas of my my life. They are what they are because of the choices I have made. Those choices were heavily influenced by the person I became in response to my acne.

My social circle is almost non-existent because I responded to my acne by pretty much hiding away for years. My education, grades and career prospects suffered as well, so now I have a dead-end job I don't like, which of course brings me down further. I still live with my parents, while everyone around me formed friendship and relationships, left home and started to grow up. Essentially, things have kind of stood still for the last 13 years.

Ultimately, these things are the major factors in my depression, not my acne. The acne played a part, but it was the small thing at the start which I failed to control, and the other things - negative attitude, lack of confidence, lack of self esteem, loneliness - snowballed and have became depression and leads me to where I am at this moment in time.

If I'm honest, I'm sat at my desk at work, pretty much staring into space. Part of me feels desperate to get out of here because I feel horrible with my skin and the state it's in right now. part of me feels it's essential I get out of here for good, sooner rather than later, otherwise my entire working life will be one long dead-end.

When I finish work, I'll go home and spend the evening in my room by myself. Firstly because I don't have anyone to hang out with, secondly because my skin is bad and I don't want to be around people anyway. I know that's the wrong attitude to have, and I know it doesn't do me any good, but I just don't know where to start really. Feels so overwhelming sometimes.

And of course, the same home alone/work/home alone/work/ home alone routine will play out for the rest of the week, until I have to suffer through a night out on Friday, which I don't want to go to if my skin looks like this but I'll be letting people down so don't really have a choice.

That's another approach I've got wrong - I feel as though social situations are to be suffered rather than enjoyed. I feel as though I impose myself upon people rather than socialise with them. I guess that's the lack of self esteem kicking in...

I guess my point is, the acne is essentially a small thing for me now, even when it looks disgusting. Of the things in my life which are making me depressed, theoretically, the acne is easiest to deal with, so that would be at the bottom of my list in relation to fixing my depression. The hardest things to deal with, in terms of planning and the size of the tasks, is the need for a new life plan and to start afresh.

Do excuse the long rant. Woe is me! ;)

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Acne is making me so depressed don't know what to do. It rules my life completely, whenever i'm out all I can think about is how bad it is. I have no confidence in a lot of parts oflife purely because of that. As soon as I meet someone all I can think of is that they're looking at my spots :cry:

Ever tried accutane?

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Honestly, I feel the same way. When I'm at school, i feel the urge to call home sick so I can hide my face from everyone. And if someone brings my acne up, it's horrible (actually, I have little fantasies in my head which involve, but aren't limited to, me taking a handheld electric mixer to my stomach, stabbing my hand with a fork, and running a knife down my arm when people bring up my skin). So there I am, in public, people pointing out my acne, imagining killing myself (don't worry, I never actually do hurt myself) . So don't worry, you're not alone. I find helpful t5o do things like coloring in "bad" mirrors. I recently got a makeup compact that had a mirror, that made my skin look AWFUL. So, i took some eyeliner and colored the mirror in. Problem solved. :)

Also, chances are, they aren't looking at your spots. I have pretty bad acne, and while when I look in the mirror I want to cry, people still ask me out. So I think it can sometimes be more of a body dis-morphia thing. I suggest you go talk to a therapist. Yes, it sounds awkward, and it probably is, but i think it would help. But don't let acne rule you, you probably still look really good with acne (I know lots of people with sever acne who i think are really attractive). You have acne, acne doesn't have you.

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now you understand the "Life's a bitch." saying.

Thanks guys knowing that people care and have been through the same thing helps a bit. I might have to see a therapsit because my mum has said that she thinks I should. I will try to not let it rule my life but some days it is hard. Thanks so much for all your replies, hope you are all feeling good about yourselves and im sure you look amazing :D

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Honestly, I feel the same way. When I'm at school, i feel the urge to call home sick so I can hide my face from everyone. And if someone brings my acne up, it's horrible (actually, I have little fantasies in my head which involve, but aren't limited to, me taking a handheld electric mixer to my stomach, stabbing my hand with a fork, and running a knife down my arm when people bring up my skin). So there I am, in public, people pointing out my acne, imagining killing myself (don't worry, I never actually do hurt myself) . So don't worry, you're not alone. I find helpful t5o do things like coloring in "bad" mirrors. I recently got a makeup compact that had a mirror, that made my skin look AWFUL. So, i took some eyeliner and colored the mirror in. Problem solved. :)

Also, chances are, they aren't looking at your spots. I have pretty bad acne, and while when I look in the mirror I want to cry, people still ask me out. So I think it can sometimes be more of a body dis-morphia thing. I suggest you go talk to a therapist. Yes, it sounds awkward, and it probably is, but i think it would help. But don't let acne rule you, you probably still look really good with acne (I know lots of people with sever acne who i think are really attractive). You have acne, acne doesn't have you.

I know how you feel. I had them real bad in secondary school. People say there not bad like I think they are but I think theyre so bad. just have to try and get over that. If people still ask you out just be confident< youve obviously got reason to be :D

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Acne is making me so depressed don't know what to do. It rules my life completely, whenever i'm out all I can think about is how bad it is. I have no confidence in a lot of parts oflife purely because of that. As soon as I meet someone all I can think of is that they're looking at my spots :cry:

Ever tried accutane?

Yeh I tries accutane, been on it twice. Got rid of my acne but now its back. Was thinking about going back on it but my derm said I didnt need to. So im on a regimen he supplied instead.

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I think the most important thing to do is gauge whether or not the acne is the cause of the depression and how you're feeling, or if it is caused by other factors. Understand what it is that makes you depressed and work on how you can fix it, with professional help if need be, because it doesn't go away by itself and it's harder to deal with the longer you leave it. Whatever you feel the causes are and however you go about fixing them, I wish you all the best in working it out.

Personally, my depression is as a direct result of my circumstances: my living arrangements, my employment, and lack of social life. I'm very unhappy with all three areas of my my life. They are what they are because of the choices I have made. Those choices were heavily influenced by the person I became in response to my acne.

My social circle is almost non-existent because I responded to my acne by pretty much hiding away for years. My education, grades and career prospects suffered as well, so now I have a dead-end job I don't like, which of course brings me down further. I still live with my parents, while everyone around me formed friendship and relationships, left home and started to grow up. Essentially, things have kind of stood still for the last 13 years.

Ultimately, these things are the major factors in my depression, not my acne. The acne played a part, but it was the small thing at the start which I failed to control, and the other things - negative attitude, lack of confidence, lack of self esteem, loneliness - snowballed and have became depression and leads me to where I am at this moment in time.

If I'm honest, I'm sat at my desk at work, pretty much staring into space. Part of me feels desperate to get out of here because I feel horrible with my skin and the state it's in right now. part of me feels it's essential I get out of here for good, sooner rather than later, otherwise my entire working life will be one long dead-end.

When I finish work, I'll go home and spend the evening in my room by myself. Firstly because I don't have anyone to hang out with, secondly because my skin is bad and I don't want to be around people anyway. I know that's the wrong attitude to have, and I know it doesn't do me any good, but I just don't know where to start really. Feels so overwhelming sometimes.

And of course, the same home alone/work/home alone/work/ home alone routine will play out for the rest of the week, until I have to suffer through a night out on Friday, which I don't want to go to if my skin looks like this but I'll be letting people down so don't really have a choice.

That's another approach I've got wrong - I feel as though social situations are to be suffered rather than enjoyed. I feel as though I impose myself upon people rather than socialise with them. I guess that's the lack of self esteem kicking in...

I guess my point is, the acne is essentially a small thing for me now, even when it looks disgusting. Of the things in my life which are making me depressed, theoretically, the acne is easiest to deal with, so that would be at the bottom of my list in relation to fixing my depression. The hardest things to deal with, in terms of planning and the size of the tasks, is the need for a new life plan and to start afresh.

Do excuse the long rant. Woe is me! ;)

You shouldnt not do anything, not doing anything makes it worse because youve got more time to think about your acne. Get out, have some fun. if your that unhappy with your job, quit!! No point of being unhappy all your life.

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It can be hard sometimes, but it's really not worth ruining your life. It is a skin condition. That is all. It is not like you have some massive deformity growing out of your forehead or have a terminal disease. Does it make us less attractive? Of course. But this is your life, and you'll only get one. So stop worrying about being perfect, there isn't one person in this world who lacks imperfection. Enjoy your life and stop stressing out about such a minuscule problem. I've had severe acne also, and I can say that in the full scope of things, it really is a minuscule problem.

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Agreed with some that it is just a skin condition, but there are far greater problems, some may contribute towards acne some don't.

In my case, I suffered from a psychological disorder called "drug induced psychosis". I'm not going to get into detail, but it was from prior drug use. I was a bad kid (lol)

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You shouldnt not do anything, not doing anything makes it worse because youve got more time to think about your acne. Get out, have some fun. if your that unhappy with your job, quit!! No point of being unhappy all your life.

Totally agree. I guess it just took me a while to realise it. But, having got to that point, I think realising that there's a problem is the key thing. It's the first step to sorting it out, and I will figure it out. I guess we all have things we want to sort, whether it be acne, any problems we might might have ended up with due to acne, or indeed anything in life we'd like to fix. And what doesn't finish us off should only make us more focused on making the most of our time. :)

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It can be hard sometimes, but it's really not worth ruining your life. It is a skin condition. That is all. It is not like you have some massive deformity growing out of your forehead or have a terminal disease. Does it make us less attractive? Of course. But this is your life, and you'll only get one. So stop worrying about being perfect, there isn't one person in this world who lacks imperfection. Enjoy your life and stop stressing out about such a minuscule problem. I've had severe acne also, and I can say that in the full scope of things, it really is a minuscule problem.

Yeh I know what your saying, but its hard not to get upset about it at the minute.

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