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The most upsetting thing a stranger has said about your acne?

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My friend john told me "I don't want to sound like a douche but you have a lot of acne".

My friend Jonathan always tells me "Yo you should try Proactiv"

My friends a few days ago said "On a scale, Brandon (me) goes first with the worst acne"

My friend Jay said "My brothers girlfriend uses this stuff *blah blah blah*"

LOL I'm about to drop somebody

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I am fortunate enough that I never had to deal with really mean comments about my acne (except from myself confused.gif ). My 7 year old cousin once asked why I had so many cuts on my face in reference to my cystic acne (she was too young to know what acne was ). I'm not upset at her though because she is a a great kid.

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I like how we're stuck with these memories now, when the people who said this stuff probably forgot the next day.

Volunteered at an after school program for elementary school kids. Just moved a small group of kids from a 'homework help' area to the schools gym, and one of the girls sort of waited around me until everyone else was playing and asked if what I had was contagious. And then I did a horrible job of explaining how some people get acne when they're older, and she freaked out saying she never wanted to get it. She genuinely looked scared before I had to change the subject and assure her she'd be fine.

I think I went like a full year without anyone saying anything, and I slipped into a state where it sort of didn't bother me at all. I was talking to this girl at a bar and after a drink I turned to the bartender to get 2 waters. So I'm facing the bar waiting for the waters and pulling my wallet out when the girl beside me started looking at my face I guess. Then she leaned in and asked 'So what happened to your face?'. I had a buzz going and for a split second I had no clue what she was talking about. Then I'm sure my face went red as I had a stupid grin on my face sort of taken aback. It literally felt like I had been punched and the air was gone from my chest. All I could say was 'what do you mean?', then she elaborates and says it looked like I had been hit with shrapnel or something. All I could do was sort of laugh, mumble, then leave. And thats why I always try to stand on people's lefts instead of their rights from then on.

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Last night I went into my moms room after work to spend time with her and she was like why are you breaking out right here and started reaching her hand out to my face. Being the person that does not let anyone or anything touch my face, I naturally pulled away by instinct. She then was like you're so rude! I told her I didn't want her to touch my face and she started getting mad at me and I ran off crying and she said that since I was an angry person that that's why I have acne.

The sad part about this was that a couple hours earlier a lady at my work, which is as a beauty advisers for Wal greens, started lecturing me about skin and a dermatologist. She would even let customers cut in front of her to stay there and spend time to tell me. I know she was trying to help but the whole time I was fighting with myself to not cry. When she left I texted my mom and told her how sad that made me.

On the plus side, I spent the whole night crying in my room and my face looks clearer this morning, maybe all the salt from my tears? Haha

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I definitely understand how you feel...

It is very true that everyone thinks he/she is a doctor when it comes to acne, however, we must be positive about this, they all just want to help us in our problem to the best they can, even if it means acting out the part of a doctor.

just don't let it get to you... be strong, have patience, and everything will work out fine in the end.

God bless.

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I think the most hurtful thing someone's ever said to me was when I worked at the customer service desk at a grocery store, there's usually 4 people that work at Customer Service, and this customer was used to seeing the other people, I was new and she actually said "I thought pretty-people worked at customer service..." then continued with "well, if you got rid of the stuff on your face, then you'd be pretty..." as if that made me feel better... This was 6 years ago... but still hurts a whole lot... I am constantly reminded everywhere I go, especially the mall, I am always approached by the Dead Sea Scrub, or ProActive people... I can't catch a break.

lmao the mall kiosk people

I'm pretty guarded when walking past them.

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Im glad i can read this and know im not the only one!

-at work some little kid looks at my face and says "ewwww!" and runs. -____-

-at work my co-worker telling me to buy this foaming wash that they sell here and stops what she is doing and takes me where it is and my manager is RIGHT THERE and asks us what were doing! >:/

-when my "friends" (i stopped believing in true friends) any who.. when they would ramble about acne this acne that and im just sitting there quietly.

-when my friend said that she was on her way to ask a guy out to prom but then she got close to him and noticed all his acne so she didn't ask him!

-some little kid yells out loud and asks his dad "why that girl have so many spots on her face?"

-my aunts coming for the holidays telling me what works and what doesn't when they have never had acne!

I have so many other moments but I try to ignore them even though I lock myself in my room and cry WHY ME!!

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I was just hanging out with my friend skateboarding and a little kid around 6 years old was walking around the neighborhood. He looks at me and says, "What's wrong with your face"?. I shrugged it off, but it hurt me pretty bad since I know that's pretty much what everyone thinks when they see me, they just don't say it because they know its rude, where a little kid doesn't.

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Am I the only person who has never had to deal with any of this (comments from strangers)? My skin is pretty clear nowadays but even when it was at a moderate level nobody ever said anything...

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Am I the only person who has never had to deal with any of this (comments from strangers)? My skin is pretty clear nowadays but even when it was at a moderate level nobody ever said anything...

Nope, me too. Though I've definitely been sort of secluding myself away since the acne started...

-when my "friends" (i stopped believing in true friends) any who.. when they would ramble about acne this acne that and im just sitting there quietly.

Not that it's really any excuse, but maybe your friends are just genuinely oblivious/self-absorbed rather than actually trying to hurt you. I used to be like this back when I had pretty much perfect skin - I'd freak out and wail over the appearance of like, one whole zit on my chin, even when I knew a lot of my friends had worse skin than me (most of the time though, I didn't even scrutinize them closely enough to notice) because it was all about me, me, me. Looking back I realize what a giant asshole I was, but at the time it never even occurred to me that I might hurting the person I was talking to - I've always cared very deeply for my friends. Maybe you need to tell them not to say things like that if you know it's a trigger for you.

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Up until the start of '11, I only got the occasional spot on my cheek or by my nose. Even then, the only comment I remember that was made "in public" was a friend pointing out I had a huge pustule on my face, and I know he meant no harm. I also got a few hurtful ones from my mother whilst she was trying to show off in front of her friend, which was pretty upsetting (I was about 13/14).

Since the start of the aforementioned year, when my acne became moderate/severe, my cheeks are often red, I've gotten scabs, etc. (I find it incredibly hard not to pick, although I am getting better -- slowly) and nobody's made any comments. Although, since about April, I haven't socialised at all. Mainly related to acne, which is a real shame.

I consider myself very lucky. I'm sorry to hear about what people have put you all through.

Edit: Improved my grammar.

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I would get so offended if a stranger said something rude. Now, if a stranger would try to give me a helpful advice, then ok, I would not get angry. However, my mother is SO annoying she constantly stares at my face and gives "helpful advice". It's like I can't pass her in the kitchen without her making comments about my face. SO incredibly annoying. And I swear I never had any comments about acne from strangers.

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I was at a Giants-Phillies game (I am a Giants Fan) in Philadelphia and some douche bag Phillies fan said "Hey, I heard pro-activ works!" and all of the ignorant ass Phillies fans laughed and high fived eachother.

Worst-day-EVER!

I actually left the game because I was so upset. =(

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Reading this post makes me so sad, none of you deserve to be treated the way you've been treated, and I'm so so so sorry. I do believe in karma though, and everyone who's been horrible to you will at some point know how it feels and they will regret having made someone else feel that way.

Luckily no one has been incredibly rude about my skin, but that's probably just because I'm not around people very much. I work at a cosmetics store, ironically, but the only hurtful things that have happened there was my manager telling me to wear more makeup - which, in all fairness, she has a right to say because it's part of the contract, and at least it's not like she specifically said 'you need more concealer/foundation', even though I know that was what she meant. And there is a guy who works there who likes to give me suggestions, I know he is just trying to be helpful and I appreciate that, but it always stings a bit when someone brings your skin to your attention, as if it isn't already on your mind 24/7.

My mother comments on my skin a lot and also stares at it a lot, and I think that actually hurts the most, although I would never tell her that because I know she doesn't mean to hurt me. But... if you've seen the film Black Swan, my mother acts almost exactly like Nina's mother acts about her scratching habit. I feel awful comparing my mother to that woman because they are truly nothing alike, but the similarities on that one particular thing are kind of scary... especially the looks she gives her, the constant questioning, etc.

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Im glad i can read this and know im not the only one!

-at work some little kid looks at my face and says "ewwww!" and runs. -____-

-at work my co-worker telling me to buy this foaming wash that they sell here and stops what she is doing and takes me where it is and my manager is RIGHT THERE and asks us what were doing! >:/

-when my "friends" (i stopped believing in true friends) any who.. when they would ramble about acne this acne that and im just sitting there quietly.

-when my friend said that she was on her way to ask a guy out to prom but then she got close to him and noticed all his acne so she didn't ask him!

-some little kid yells out loud and asks his dad "why that girl have so many spots on her face?"

-my aunts coming for the holidays telling me what works and what doesn't when they have never had acne!

I have so many other moments but I try to ignore them even though I lock myself in my room and cry WHY ME!!

OMG I hate that!

The other night one of my girlfriends was like, "Yeah, I don't eat sweets because they give me acne."

And then I felt like everyone must think I just lay around eating chocolate chip cookies and ice cream all day!

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In fact, this is not the most upsetting thing that has been said about my acne, but couple of days ago, when I was hangin' around with my friend in shopping mall, some stupid girl from comsetic store, approached us and started giving silly advices. It's so ridiculous. Back in high school pple used to approach me to say nice things ( especially guys), but now they treating me like a freak. This is when I realize that our society is shallow and actually everybody judge you by the way you look. But....yeah, back to the incident. My friend's skin isn't flawless, but mine is definetly worse, so she made me embarrassed in front of her, by advising me some specific cleansers, cuttin' out milk from my diet and etc. I just said that I do everything right, just how did my derm said. But she kept going about diet thing and etc. I was annoyed and sort of offended,'cuz recently my skin has been doing really good, but I guess that improvements are significant only for my eye, for others I still suffer from acne and I have a crappy skin. O'well. It's not the end of thw world.

P.S Thanks God,my friend didn't make any mean comment, she didn't even talk about it afterwards. She probably knows that having acne is already hurtful enough. But I wouldn't walking by that store again if I am with friends.

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Hahahahah. So a little girl at my work asked me "so are all those dots on your face like...freckles?" and I was like "kinda" and smiled, did my spiel/let people into the exhibit I was working in front of. Waved it off thinking "I know it's healing and stuff little kids just don't know that" and thought of this thread.

THEN LATER a more persistent little girl looked at me with utmost concern and asked "what are those red dots on your face?" So I just smiled and said "oh, it's just something that sometimes happens as you get older." She asked "does it hurt?" and some other things but I just kept smiling and saying "don't worry about it" in reassuring tones (hey, worrying about it is my job! ;) ). She held my hand for a little while as her classmates examined a butterfly that was relatively close to where they were waiting. She also tried hugging me. I didn't know what to do so I just kind of let her do her thing. Thanks little girl! :)

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Awww!

I used to think children and old people were the devil's minions because of their innocent but loud/rude comments.

I remember telling my cousin's little girl that if she didn't eat all of her vegetables and clean her room that the same thing would happen to her. Lol

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Am I the only person who has never had to deal with any of this (comments from strangers)? My skin is pretty clear nowadays but even when it was at a moderate level nobody ever said anything...

nope, no ones ever made comments about my skin (back before i cleared up HEHEHE no more pimples)

the only person who ever commented about my skin was me.

Hahahahah. So a little girl at my work asked me "so are all those dots on your face like...freckles?" and I was like "kinda" and smiled, did my spiel/let people into the exhibit I was working in front of. Waved it off thinking "I know it's healing and stuff little kids just don't know that" and thought of this thread.

THEN LATER a more persistent little girl looked at me with utmost concern and asked "what are those red dots on your face?" So I just smiled and said "oh, it's just something that sometimes happens as you get older." She asked "does it hurt?" and some other things but I just kept smiling and saying "don't worry about it" in reassuring tones (hey, worrying about it is my job! wink.png ). She held my hand for a little while as her classmates examined a butterfly that was relatively close to where they were waiting. She also tried hugging me. I didn't know what to do so I just kind of let her do her thing. Thanks little girl! smile.png

thats so sweet X)

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I was at a Giants-Phillies game (I am a Giants Fan) in Philadelphia and some douche bag Phillies fan said "Hey, I heard pro-activ works!" and all of the ignorant ass Phillies fans laughed and high fived eachother.

Worst-day-EVER!

I actually left the game because I was so upset. =(

Almost everything you say makes me want to hug you.

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It no longer bothers me that people stare or make rude comments. It used to but I sort of just shrug it off. Worst one though was from a "So-Called Friend"

Friend ; Geez you've had that rash on your face forever huh?

Me: What rash?

Friend: Uhh you haven't noticed? Those hives on your jaw.

Me; It's not a rash (Blank stare)

Friend: OOh it's acne. Sucks for you? No wonder you're always so self conscious.

Me: Ohh haha Well I can always get rid of my acne you on the other hand will always be an ignorant bitch.

Needless to say we aren't friends any longer but I am perfectly fine with that

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