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Where do you find your strength?

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Hey people...

this is red marks related. On days where they look worse and you have to go out and face the world, where do you find the strength to do so? What do you do to either convince yourself or make yourself feel better about them?... I'm finding hard to even look family in the eye now during meals when speaking... any suggestions?

Thanks

Edited by jamesy90

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I don't think there's much you can do rather than trying to lighten your mood a little, block out the public's opinion. Listening to some music is what I do. I'm like you with the family situation, but, I try to socialise with my family a little more each day to gain some confidence, which gives me that little extra boost of strength to go outside for a bit.

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Wear make up that matches your skin tone, loads of guys are doing it these days.

People will never be able to tell that you have red marks.

Besides.... there are people out there with far bigger problems to deal with than the quality of their skin.

Edited by Fraz_2010

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Never tried wearing make-up :redface:

But usualy when i have to go outside, to the barber or something. I just induce to myself "ok , i have to go faster there, get the job done, buy everything i need etc. etc. the faster i get home the faster i get to safety" So i'm concentrating myself to get the job done and then it's like it never happened. Sure, it takes some time sometimes but better than nothing.

And i also understand you about eviting eye-contact, i do the same when speaking to family or especially girls :confused:

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It sucks that we can't just switch our mind to not give a fuck mode. It's within our brain programming to care what others think (in order to attract mates, reproduce etc) but still... I wear some cover up on the spots but only enough to reduce them not completely cover them, because if I do that then people will get use to it and when I stop they'll be like what the hell happened you know?

As of right now though every time I leave the house I put some on. It gives me the little extra confidence I need to feel somewhat at ease, but even then I feel uncomfortable having to talk to someone face to face. I'm always worried they can see the make up or it's rubbed off or that my spots have become red or some bullshit... god I need a solution to this lol

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I think about all the other things I like about myself! For instance, it's weird explaining it and sounds crazy but I'll try. One thing that is nice about everyone is their eyes, I think. When I talk to someone I just make direct eye contact and think about my eyes... sorta lol. If you see someone not looking you in the eyes when they're talking to you, and maybe looking at your acne/red marks, then just keep looking at them in the eyes. They will probably feel bad or forget about it once they look back at you and see that YOU don't care.

Just pump yourself up however you have to - with music, dancing, singing, reading - whatever makes you smile. If you do this in front of a mirror, you'll see yourself smiling and feel better =] That's like your "ammo" to think about when you're out there in the world, face-to-face.

If you don't think about your skin, it can't bother you. Hope that works for you!

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I can definiately relate to the makeup thing! Gives me a bit of extra confidence but at the same time it's another thing to worry about! I've been sussed out a couple of times by friends and they seemingly didn't care which was awesome :) Having said that if my dad found out he'd probably not speak to me for days... he's weird like that :D

BUT: what gives me confidence (although I do have very little) is knowing what I was like when I had full blown acne. I was far more sociable, would go out drinking several times a week and was getting along fine- I saw a photo of myself - smiling! - despite having a face full of spots. Now in my 5th month of accutane, i haven't had any new spots for a month and all I have are the red marks left over. Ofcourse I'm not happy about this- and am doing everything I can do (great diet, excercise, lots of water, tempted to try a bit of emu oil too!) to look my best by september when i go back to uni. I know if I do everything I can, I will look the best I possibly can and I'll just take that. Take it and fucking RUN :D

That probably didn't help jack. Sorry i blab sometimes!

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Music.. ROCK music! :D. It gives me some extra strength somehow. And ATM, I've holiday (so, I don't have to go out in puplic) and my red marks are slowly getting better and better (thanks to the Emu Oil). I don't like not wearing makeup. Makes me feel voulnerable :/. But I haven't worn it so much lately, due to the "healing" scars. And my skin can breathe, too. Hopefully, it'll make the progress a biiit faster (just one day faster would make a big difference).

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Guest frogskinshoelace

Music gives me just enough strength to go to work during these summer days. As many of you know I have been getting laser treatment to correct my red marks, but that is because I had recently hit rock bottom as far as "strength" to face the world. I dont really do much, but music, as dumb as it may sound gets me through the day, as Im lucky enough to get to listen to my ipod at my job.

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Guest DireStraits

Just like others have mentioned...MUSIC!

especially pumping 80's power ballads or any other good music. Just as long as it doesn't have lil' wayne cause he sucks. He wrecked Kevin Rudolf's let it rock...and YOU know it!

;)

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Stand tall with your chin parallel to the ground. When you walk with your eyes on the ground you will feel inferior but if you look others in the eye you will gain confidence.

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This is going to sound terrible.

I think of people that look worse than me.

And I think, "If they can be happy, so can I damnit!"

But that's only if telling myself "People love you no matter what you look like, stop being a whiny bitch and get out there and ROCK!!" doesn't work.

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