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This has probably been asked before but when your friend has one (or maybe two!) spots and moans about it to you/in front of you, do you feel angry/embarrassed, etc.?

I don't think my friends do it on purpose but if they have one lousy spot, they moan about it, saying stuff like "urgh, I look so disgusting because of this big, red spot" and I just stand there with my face full of big, red spots, red marks and scars feeling slightly offended! Maybe I'm just jealous that they only have one spot to moan about!! :D

Do your friends say stuff like this in front of you? I always thought that if I had no or hardly any spots and was friends with someone who had moderate/severe acne, I would never say anything about my one spot!

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its normal for your friends to think that because that 1 - 2 spots is the worst they have had..

i get embarrassed when that happens.. cause they will say "thank god i dont got it like you" or something along those lines.

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when my friends say that,i dont say anything.it just reminds me of how bad my skin is,so i just shut up.ahh makes me sad. :/

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I know people that do that and it drives me crazy! I never know what to say either, because it's obvious that I have it way worse. I am recovering from some severe acne and have several large red marks on my cheeks as well as some smaller active pimples, and every time I hear someone complain about one tiny whitehead I want to scream. I just don't think they understand what it's like to have persistent acne.

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I had a male coworker I was friends with like this. He is really handsome and charismatic ((also a douche but I suppose it doesn't matter hahaha)) and any time he would get one pimple he would cry to me, and I just said

Exxxxcuuuuuuzzzze me. You see my face every week. Please don't cry to me. You can't even see it!

LOL

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My friends used to do this and they still do at times. For a long time I felt slightly awkward and annoyed at them. For years actually. But by the time I was in college and sharing a room that was a little bigger than a closet (ah the joys of dorm life) with my best friend, I was comfortable enough to share with my friend how I felt about my skin. It was actually very nice to do because she has her own body issues that might differ from mine but she completely understood how I felt in a sense.

After that step, I became the resident skin specialist in my group of friends. If anyone had a question about facial products that would come to me. It was a silly joke and made me feel completely at ease. Trust me, if you have friends who genuinely care about you they will completely support you if you voice your concerns. =)

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I have friends that do this all the time...the definitely aren't bad friends they are some of my best friends. This is just normal for friends to talk about their imperfections in front of each other. I know none of them judge me for my acne and they have probably gotten so used to it that they don't even think twice before talking about a couple pimples. Sometimes you just have to chill out and not get so upset and self conscious. I'll say "well mine is much worse" or something but what does that prove. Should I expect them to agree with me? Also if your friends say "thank god I don't have acne like you" then they obviously aren't your friends. I've hardly managed to make any friends being as sheltered as I am but I've found real friends and even when I'm hiding away they are still there for me. I'm just glad they can tolerate my selfishness because I wouldn't want to be friends with myself either.

After that step, I became the resident skin specialist in my group of friends. If anyone had a question about facial products that would come to me. It was a silly joke and made me feel completely at ease. Trust me, if you have friends who genuinely care about you they will completely support you if you voice your concerns. =)
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