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I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...

any ideas of what I could say or do for this??

or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them smile.png

You should say you fight with a dragon. Or with a pancake pan. Or you can just say you're trialing a new acne treatment: don't be scared, people won't throw you stones.

You can use jojoba oil to make your skin look better.

Coping with anxiety? Why not some sport to unwind? Or music to practise, or juste to listen?

I start my very first job tomorrow and skin looks crappy as always.

Haha don't feel alone: I start my very first job this afternoon and skin does not look sexy either.

Hugeeee pustule on my nose this morning -_- ugh.

Pustule on my left cheek. My pustule and your pustule should meet and have a drink.

I feel disgusting... I look disgusting, my acne is causing me to be depressed more than I have EVER. I don't even want to look at myself in he mirror.

I send you good vibrations to make you feel better and clear up.

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Today, I told my dad that I didn't want to apply to med school this cycle (I want to wait a year, because I really feel that I can't churn out a great application in just a week or two.) And he responded very badly. He looked away with this expression I can only call disgust. He proceeded to insult the organization I founded at my University and my dedication/commitment to it. My letter writers are not responding to my e-mails and he essentially told me to go to their houses and stalk them (he's batshit. I hope he wasn't serious.) He talked to me like I was an idiot. He told me that he knew me better than I knew myself. He said that I was giving up. He sneered at me. I feel so alone. My mother is mad at me because I'm so stressed out that I yelled at her this morning. She smacked me on my butt. WHAT THE F**K IS UP WITH MY PARENTS TREATING ME LIKE I'M A CHILD?!?! I'M 21. Why can't they just be there for me? Why can't they just be supportive. They're freaking psychiatrists. Why can't I have a mommy and daddy? I wonder what they would do, how they would handle it if I ever said something truly groundshaking. What if I were gay and I told them? What if I were pregnant? What if I had a boyfriend? They can't handle the smallest things like "I think I have PCOS" or "I want to take a gap year". They are some of the worst parents in the world. I know every teenager says that, but they really and truly are. They've never cared when I've been depressed, when I've been stressed. They've never cared about my feelings, just about their own impositions on me. "God Help Me" are the only words that can describe how I feel right now. I feel alone. I feel angry. I feel hurt. I feel resigned. God, give me someone who will love me. My friends love me, but it isn't fair for me to depress them with my problems. They have their own problems, they're busy. I just feel so unstable. I feel like I'm a teenager again, back when I used to have angst problems and feel depressed and alone. I hate myself. I've always been told that I'm really intelligent or a really talented writer, but now, I just feel like everyone was lying to me. I feel like they expect too much out of me. God Help Me. I just need a shoulder to cry on. I need a hug. I need someone to kiss my forehead and wrap me in their arms. I need someone to just touch me, just a hand on my arm or a squeeze of my shoulder.

I understand how you feel. As painful as it could be, get away from your parents. The only way I got my parents to respect my choices was not consulting anything with them. Not telling what is happening in my life, seeing them more rarely. It gets better later, you just need to show that their opinion about you is not going to affect you. Don't let your parents manipulate with this "You disappoint me" shit.

I'm saying this because I was in kind of a similar situation. My parents divorced and my dad moved abroad. Now the situation in my home country wasn't the best for a young person who wanted to pursue a carrier, so when I graduated I decided take a chance and go to my dad. That meant I was not applying to any University like my classmates and I would need to spend some years learning the language of that new country. My mom's reaction to this decision was the worst ever. I was called a traitor (for going to my dad), failure (for not going to University right after graduating) and basically there was no support from her just a constant mental abuse with such words as "you're not gonna achieve anything" or "how could you choose your dad over me, I'm gonna go hang myself". The first year in a new country was a huge stress on it's own, but my mom's messages were what what killing me the most. My dad didn't help me much either, he had a family of it's own (this was the time when from a very mild acne I developed a severe one btw).

When I finally started studying, I quickly realised that the thing I chose it was not for me and decided to change direction. My both parents reacted as if their prediction was correct - I'm giving up, I'll never finish anything, I'm just meant to be a failure.

But they paid a price for it. I'll never be as close to them as I would be, if they showed any support. And I think they're starting to realise it.

I know parents' support is very important and needed. But you can do without it Skinnie and you don't have to live to anyone's expectations. We don't live for others. It's only your business when you want to apply to med school or anything else, so don't let your parents think they have a right to criticize you like that.

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I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...

any ideas of what I could say or do for this??

or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them smile.png

You should say you fight with a dragon. Or with a pancake pan. Or you can just say you're trialing a new acne treatment: don't be scared, people won't throw you stones.

You can use jojoba oil to make your skin look better.

Coping with anxiety? Why not some sport to unwind? Or music to practise, or juste to listen?

Haha a dragon story could be interesting :P but thanks - I may as well be up front with it if someone asks...

I've been pretty lazy lately when it comes to exercising eusa_doh.gif I like to go for a jog or take my dog for a walk in the morning or evening but it's been so rainy and cold lately I've let the laziness / my warm bed win :P But I'll get back into it because I know it helps.

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had some dessert last night and just now!

am not sure if i should freak out or anything!

plus my life st work sucks at the moment!



not to sound strange or anything.

i wish i had a best friend.the kind who share everything and never hesitate!

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had some dessert last night and just now!

am not sure if i should freak out or anything!

plus my life st work sucks at the moment!

not to sound strange or anything.

i wish i had a best friend.the kind who share everything and never hesitate!

That's not strange at all. I think everybody wants that...unfortunately not everyone can be trusted enough to share everything with them.

I wouldn't freak out about the dessert. I ate cheese (evil dairy!!!) last night and I haven't broke out...yet!

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had some dessert last night and just now!

am not sure if i should freak out or anything!

plus my life st work sucks at the moment!

not to sound strange or anything.

i wish i had a best friend.the kind who share everything and never hesitate!

That's not strange at all. I think everybody wants that...unfortunately not everyone can be trusted enough to share everything with them.

I wouldn't freak out about the dessert. I ate cheese (evil dairy!!!) last night and I haven't broke out...yet!

i know but i've met some great people.among which one is and hopefully will always remain a closest girl friend.

it's just that she's got other issues so communication can be troublesome for us!

i believe with time bonds do form and sometimes its more than u expect.lots of support from people u least expect!

i'm not giving up on that!

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I went camping for a couple of days and came back with what is probably poison ivy on my forehead. A massive, swollen, itchy, bumpy, oozing blob. Takes up probably 1/6 of my forehead. I think some has spread to/got on the tip of my nose, too. Everywhere online says to wash with dish soap. I really don't want to use that on my skin but I think I'm going to anyway.

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Got maybe five new pimples. I know that I shouldn't worry but nonetheless, I keep worrying about what caused them and worrying that it will get worse in the near future.

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One or two spots on my jawline and neck but other than that, I`m relatively clear. Biggest problem at the moment is the hot weather in the UK - it makes my skin greasy and horrible - I`m sure sebum production increases in hot weather. Just hope it doesn`t cause a breakout in the next few days.

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Today, I told my dad that I didn't want to apply to med school this cycle (I want to wait a year, because I really feel that I can't churn out a great application in just a week or two.) And he responded very badly. He looked away with this expression I can only call disgust. He proceeded to insult the organization I founded at my University and my dedication/commitment to it. My letter writers are not responding to my e-mails and he essentially told me to go to their houses and stalk them (he's batshit. I hope he wasn't serious.) He talked to me like I was an idiot. He told me that he knew me better than I knew myself. He said that I was giving up. He sneered at me. I feel so alone. My mother is mad at me because I'm so stressed out that I yelled at her this morning. She smacked me on my butt. WHAT THE F**K IS UP WITH MY PARENTS TREATING ME LIKE I'M A CHILD?!?! I'M 21. Why can't they just be there for me? Why can't they just be supportive. They're freaking psychiatrists. Why can't I have a mommy and daddy? I wonder what they would do, how they would handle it if I ever said something truly groundshaking. What if I were gay and I told them? What if I were pregnant? What if I had a boyfriend? They can't handle the smallest things like "I think I have PCOS" or "I want to take a gap year". They are some of the worst parents in the world. I know every teenager says that, but they really and truly are. They've never cared when I've been depressed, when I've been stressed. They've never cared about my feelings, just about their own impositions on me. "God Help Me" are the only words that can describe how I feel right now. I feel alone. I feel angry. I feel hurt. I feel resigned. God, give me someone who will love me. My friends love me, but it isn't fair for me to depress them with my problems. They have their own problems, they're busy. I just feel so unstable. I feel like I'm a teenager again, back when I used to have angst problems and feel depressed and alone. I hate myself. I've always been told that I'm really intelligent or a really talented writer, but now, I just feel like everyone was lying to me. I feel like they expect too much out of me. God Help Me. I just need a shoulder to cry on. I need a hug. I need someone to kiss my forehead and wrap me in their arms. I need someone to just touch me, just a hand on my arm or a squeeze of my shoulder.

I'm sorry that you now know for a fact that your parents are only humans complete with flaws and all. I think we all come to this realization eventually. It could be worse. Keep in mind that normal parents simply want the best for their children. They want them to not miss opportunities that maybe they overlooked in their own lives. They want them to learn from their own mistakes to prevent the child from having to make any. They want all these things whether they can articulate this to the child. Being a parent is a challenge and it never ends, even after the child is grown. Parents always deal with feelings of worry and want to offer guidance, hopefully it is done so in a constructive way.

When parents' messages feel destructive, especially when they should know better (like yours), I think a couple things need to happen. First don't take their comments too much to heart, they seem to be having trouble letting their little bird fly with her own two wings. You ultimately need to make choices that you are comfortable with. You will remain, long after your parents are gone you will only have yourself to answer to. I agree with not rushing through you application. It could hurt you if you apply, don't get accepted, reapply and they say "yeah, I remember her from last year, what a half-assed application that was." You can spend this year building up your activities and volunteer work to help insure that you will have a place. Now if you are only postponing your application because you are doubting your own self-confidence, because it is easier to not apply than to be rejected, then your parents may have a point. Assess the reasons behind your decision and then make YOUR decision. There are all kinds of paths that lead us to success, and forging your own path can be rewarding! Good Luck! I'm hugging you mentally wub.png

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Getting more anxious as next week draws closer. I'm starting back at uni on Monday and on the Tuesday I start my placement work for uni with an organisation that works with children with autism. I'm excited and nervous. Mostly nervous and anxious really... because my skin is SO red and flaky looking on top of still being broken out in places... I'm worried that I'll look untidy and not professional for such a workplace...I can't do makeup well on top of my skin while it's like this... I'm not sure how much of what I'll be doing will be with the children directly, but I'm sure that will be involved at some point at least, so I'm worried about being around young kids and how they'll react to how I look or how red my face is etc. Kids say what they want tongue.png

I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...

any ideas of what I could say or do for this??

or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them smile.png

I would just tell them that I have very sensitive skin. They don't need or want details, but you could tell them that most products don't work for you or you are dealing with it with help from a doctor. You might be pleasantly surprised by how many people don't ask. I think you will feel very rewarded and comfortable with the autistic kids, but they can be a challenge! For Anxiety, keep repeating a phrase until it becomes true. I had terrible anxiety when I started a job in fast food of all things. I was shaking and panicking as I was driving to work one day, wasn't sure I'd be able to function. I took some deep breaths and starting repeating out loud "I can do this". It has worked remarkably well for me in many situations since. Making phone calls to parents, going in to ask forgiveness from the boss, etc. I usually just say it under my breath, though. Smile frequently on the job, it eases tension. Keep breathing. Ask questions anytime you are not sure about something. Learn from those around you. Hold your head up and have good posture--it makes you look confident and in control even if you are questioning your skills. If you are having a particularly tough time at work, briefly confide in someone that you feel very nervous and are afraid of doing something wrong. Sometimes just voicing a concern makes it feel less threatening and if that person has any people skills at all, she will be reassuring and watch out for you the rest of the day! Good Luck!

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I went camping for a couple of days and came back with what is probably poison ivy on my forehead. A massive, swollen, itchy, bumpy, oozing blob. Takes up probably 1/6 of my forehead. I think some has spread to/got on the tip of my nose, too. Everywhere online says to wash with dish soap. I really don't want to use that on my skin but I think I'm going to anyway.

So I'm pretty sure it was just a little bug bite or sun blister or something before I used my girlfriend's after sun aloe wipes on that area and my nose. But I didn't pick up on that until now, even though there were red spots on my nose this morning (I just assumed it had spread), when I sprayed my entire face with my new aloe spray for the first time. I instantly turned bright red, face is burning. I am clearly allergic. If I get that rash all over my face I will kill myself.

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Getting more anxious as next week draws closer. I'm starting back at uni on Monday and on the Tuesday I start my placement work for uni with an organisation that works with children with autism. I'm excited and nervous. Mostly nervous and anxious really... because my skin is SO red and flaky looking on top of still being broken out in places... I'm worried that I'll look untidy and not professional for such a workplace...I can't do makeup well on top of my skin while it's like this... I'm not sure how much of what I'll be doing will be with the children directly, but I'm sure that will be involved at some point at least, so I'm worried about being around young kids and how they'll react to how I look or how red my face is etc. Kids say what they want tongue.png

I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...

any ideas of what I could say or do for this??

or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them smile.png

I would just tell them that I have very sensitive skin. They don't need or want details, but you could tell them that most products don't work for you or you are dealing with it with help from a doctor. You might be pleasantly surprised by how many people don't ask. I think you will feel very rewarded and comfortable with the autistic kids, but they can be a challenge! For Anxiety, keep repeating a phrase until it becomes true. I had terrible anxiety when I started a job in fast food of all things. I was shaking and panicking as I was driving to work one day, wasn't sure I'd be able to function. I took some deep breaths and starting repeating out loud "I can do this". It has worked remarkably well for me in many situations since. Making phone calls to parents, going in to ask forgiveness from the boss, etc. I usually just say it under my breath, though. Smile frequently on the job, it eases tension. Keep breathing. Ask questions anytime you are not sure about something. Learn from those around you. Hold your head up and have good posture--it makes you look confident and in control even if you are questioning your skills. If you are having a particularly tough time at work, briefly confide in someone that you feel very nervous and are afraid of doing something wrong. Sometimes just voicing a concern makes it feel less threatening and if that person has any people skills at all, she will be reassuring and watch out for you the rest of the day! Good Luck!

Thank you for all the helpful advice :)

I've been trying to tell myself that most people probably won't ask about my skin... maybe the worst I'll get will be stares. But it's ok I can deal with that I hope.

I've always had terrible anxiety when I start a new job and it makes it hard for me to actually keep a job at times. I'm currently looking for a paid job still - so I think that's what will help me with this 'job' for uni. I can think of it more as volunteer work or as just a uni assignment. Thinking both of these things actually helps a bit for some reason...

Thank you for all the other advice and tips. I'll try and remember to use them all. I can see how they would help - and for any situation where my anxiety is up (not just work related things).

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Thank you for all the helpful advice smile.png

I've been trying to tell myself that most people probably won't ask about my skin... maybe the worst I'll get will be stares. But it's ok I can deal with that I hope.

I've always had terrible anxiety when I start a new job and it makes it hard for me to actually keep a job at times. I'm currently looking for a paid job still - so I think that's what will help me with this 'job' for uni. I can think of it more as volunteer work or as just a uni assignment. Thinking both of these things actually helps a bit for some reason...

Thank you for all the other advice and tips. I'll try and remember to use them all. I can see how they would help - and for any situation where my anxiety is up (not just work related things).

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Good luck lilly! Whenever I have noticeable breakouts, I just pretend nothing's wrong and hope that people don't pick up on my insecurities about my skin. The good thing about kids is that they tend to have low attention spans, so if you give them a brief answer they will most likely move on to something else and divert their attention elsewhere. As for adults at your workplace, I don't think they will say anything....just try to dress nice and be professional and you should be fine!

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Getting more anxious as next week draws closer. I'm starting back at uni on Monday and on the Tuesday I start my placement work for uni with an organisation that works with children with autism. I'm excited and nervous. Mostly nervous and anxious really... because my skin is SO red and flaky looking on top of still being broken out in places... I'm worried that I'll look untidy and not professional for such a workplace...I can't do makeup well on top of my skin while it's like this... I'm not sure how much of what I'll be doing will be with the children directly, but I'm sure that will be involved at some point at least, so I'm worried about being around young kids and how they'll react to how I look or how red my face is etc. Kids say what they want tongue.png

I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...

any ideas of what I could say or do for this??

or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them smile.png

I would just tell them that I have very sensitive skin. They don't need or want details, but you could tell them that most products don't work for you or you are dealing with it with help from a doctor. You might be pleasantly surprised by how many people don't ask. I think you will feel very rewarded and comfortable with the autistic kids, but they can be a challenge! For Anxiety, keep repeating a phrase until it becomes true. I had terrible anxiety when I started a job in fast food of all things. I was shaking and panicking as I was driving to work one day, wasn't sure I'd be able to function. I took some deep breaths and starting repeating out loud "I can do this". It has worked remarkably well for me in many situations since. Making phone calls to parents, going in to ask forgiveness from the boss, etc. I usually just say it under my breath, though. Smile frequently on the job, it eases tension. Keep breathing. Ask questions anytime you are not sure about something. Learn from those around you. Hold your head up and have good posture--it makes you look confident and in control even if you are questioning your skills. If you are having a particularly tough time at work, briefly confide in someone that you feel very nervous and are afraid of doing something wrong. Sometimes just voicing a concern makes it feel less threatening and if that person has any people skills at all, she will be reassuring and watch out for you the rest of the day! Good Luck!

Thank you for all the helpful advice smile.png

I've been trying to tell myself that most people probably won't ask about my skin... maybe the worst I'll get will be stares. But it's ok I can deal with that I hope.

I've always had terrible anxiety when I start a new job and it makes it hard for me to actually keep a job at times. I'm currently looking for a paid job still - so I think that's what will help me with this 'job' for uni. I can think of it more as volunteer work or as just a uni assignment. Thinking both of these things actually helps a bit for some reason...

Thank you for all the other advice and tips. I'll try and remember to use them all. I can see how they would help - and for any situation where my anxiety is up (not just work related things).

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I agree with telling anyone who asks that you just have sensitive skin and are seeing a doctor. But I don't think many people will ask you, or even stare! Acne is a common problem, it's not like a rare disease, and it's nothing to gawk at. Good luck in your new job :)

My skin's looking pretty good right now, no new zits but AGAIN more clogged pores this morning. I just don't get what it is. I'm trying almost everything to get these things to not form overnight. They're always very small, and filled with pus (whiteheads). And they occur in same areas, over and over. I pop them in the morning, they stay empty throughout the day, and then the next day, either they refill or new ones pop up. It's just so annoying! I don't understand it.

whatever, it's not a huge deal and it'll probably solve itself soon.

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There's days where I'm feeling like complete shit, then I log in on acne.org, find the "how ya feelin about your acne today" thread, post a response and just that makes me feel like I can take on the world for another few months even though I want to punch someone AND cry the moment I post this.

holy fuck....it's summer and I'm sitting inside, depressing

I think all that about sums up how I feel today, god I need a hug or something and not a digital one either :/

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Had a better day today, the new zit has already been extracted and healed (came to a head quickly). No new clogged pores this morning, a few tiny ones came at night but those don't really count :P I actually am quite pleased with how my skin's been this week, considering I usually break out around this time. We'll see if it lasts, hopefully it will! I'm still thinking I'd like to up my dosage on the Spiro though.

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Damn just when you thought everything's going great then BAM! another breakout appears. God damn it! Tsk I really need more patience. Acne really drives me insane.

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Everything has settled down since the breakouts I had a couple of weeks ago. I've cut out caffeine, which has helped greatly and I try not to eat as much dairy as I used to.

I ordered some acne.org AHA+ today, so hopefully that can help with my red marks and skin tone.

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