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So I used to go out with my friends all the time, but once I started to develop acne my self esteem was shattered and I sort of hid at home, avoiding everyone. My lifestyle changed, and I become obsessed with heath and my diet for acne. My friends always stay out all night, drink, smoke, ect.. But I honestly hate that lifestyle, and it screws up my routine for healing my acne. So anyways I sort of secluded myself from everyone and did my own thing. However now my skin is doing better and my friends are REALLY trying to get me to come party. I always make up excuses, in fact I start to have panic attacks when thinking about going out :| I don't know why, I just always like to stay at home with family, go on the computer, study ( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am? I just feel like no one relates to me, or has the same interests, so I sort of stick to myself. My friends are nagging me soo much to come out, and i'm running out of excuses.. I can only fake sick for so long haha. Whenever I meet new people and they ask what I do for fun, they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

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So I used to go out with my friends all the time, but once I started to develop acne my self esteem was shattered and I sort of hid at home, avoiding everyone. My lifestyle changed, and I become obsessed with heath and my diet for acne. My friends always stay out all night, drink, smoke, ect.. But I honestly hate that lifestyle, and it screws up my routine for healing my acne. So anyways I sort of secluded myself from everyone and did my own thing. However now my skin is doing better and my friends are REALLY trying to get me to come party. I always make up excuses, in fact I start to have panic attacks when thinking about going out :| I don't know why, I just always like to stay at home with family, go on the computer, study ( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am? I just feel like no one relates to me, or has the same interests, so I sort of stick to myself. My friends are nagging me soo much to come out, and i'm running out of excuses.. I can only fake sick for so long haha. Whenever I meet new people and they ask what I do for fun, they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

Nothing's wrong with u. I also dun like partying and drinking even before i was strucked with acne, though now scarring. But cant go on staying at home, u must go out! I think it's bcoz of the fear of getting seen or criticised for your acne that led u to wanting to stay at home all day. The more u stay home the more u will fear going out. Be strong, dun care how others view or see u, get on with your life. Your true friends would not mind just bcoz of some spots on you.

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WOW! I have been in your position before. I shunned away all of my friends. I stayed in doors since the last day of high school. I only ever left the house to get food or buy something. Even then I had no job. And I too was scared of becoming unrepairable socially. But I remember 1 day that changed my life.

I read an article that taught me subtle things to do and incorporate as habit into my everyday social interactions. Things like holding eye contact (This took me years to master and I'm not perfect at it still!); talking direct and speaking slowly and with thought and intent.

Do these things and you'll see a difference. It's been 4 years since I was in a phase just like yours. Although I don't believe I'm completely normal (Who is?) I don't believe I am in a helpless position anymore.

P.S. I don't think any people our age really love clubbing and drinking anymore. It's a phase you grow out of. There is nothing wrong with you. I hate clubbing. But I still do it sometimes, I guess to keep my friends happy and to challenge your Saturday night wits for all those douchebag guys and gals!

Keep at it!

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I think if the reason you don't want to go out, is afraid to be seen or socialized, then you really should try to walk out of your comfort zone, and get socialized.

However there is nothing wrong with not interested in partying, drinking and smoking. Everyone has their own way to enjoy their time. If a quiet lifestyle is what makes you happy, so be it. I do let my friends know I don't love to party, and they understand and respect that.

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( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am?

Sounds like you're saying "people are telling me the things I enjoy should be boring". If so, you'll find a lot less happiness trying to make yourself enjoy what others tell you to enjoy.

they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

There's a whole other crowd out there that isn't into drinking and partying. They are harder to find because they don't congregate in buildings with neon signs (and may not congregate at all). Look for them; they're out there...

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Your not the only one .My acne has just suddening appear last angust and the last few weeks i have stay at home.Got awedding invite this weekend not going.Not had my hair done, roots showing bad.Ringing in sick for work can,t face seeing people.I hope my face is better soon as i mean to be meeting a friend for shopping in few weeks .I fear i will lose my friends .Stop going on facebook incase people want to meet up.Life S*it

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Never be ashamed of anything.Whatever problem you are facing its totally natural.Its not that much big problem that you are thinking.Its curable.Its better consult a doctor and get it treated.

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So I used to go out with my friends all the time, but once I started to develop acne my self esteem was shattered and I sort of hid at home, avoiding everyone. My lifestyle changed, and I become obsessed with heath and my diet for acne. My friends always stay out all night, drink, smoke, ect.. But I honestly hate that lifestyle, and it screws up my routine for healing my acne. So anyways I sort of secluded myself from everyone and did my own thing. However now my skin is doing better and my friends are REALLY trying to get me to come party. I always make up excuses, in fact I start to have panic attacks when thinking about going out :| I don't know why, I just always like to stay at home with family, go on the computer, study ( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am? I just feel like no one relates to me, or has the same interests, so I sort of stick to myself. My friends are nagging me soo much to come out, and i'm running out of excuses.. I can only fake sick for so long haha. Whenever I meet new people and they ask what I do for fun, they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

I'm in a similar position, only it may be even worse. I was a drug addict for the past 5 years (age 14 to 19), and I only just got completely sober (about 4 or 5 months now!). I had a revelation while tripping on psilocybin mushrooms, and I quit everything cold turkey (daily weed smoking, drinking often, doing ecstasy, cocaine, ketamine, acid, heroin...lots of bullshit...) To do this I had to completely isolate myself from my 'friends'. The sad truth is, for the past 5 years I've surrounded myself with people that partied as hard as I did. Literally 99% of my friends get fucked up on a daily basis. I have one friend who is pretty much sober like me, hes the only one I hang out with. I honestly don't even really want to hang out with my old "friends". They only want to hang out if there a drugs to do, and they constantly smoke cigarettes which I hate. Its really hard to make new friends when you have acne and no self confidence.

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When you feel like going out, you'll go out. When you don't, you won't. However, I will say that if your friends keep inviting you and you keep refusing...eventually they'll give up. Keep that in the back of your head. As long as you're fine with that, keep rockin' at home if that's what suits you. Nothing wrong with it.

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I'm presently experiencing the stage you're in. My family (mom esp) is very worried about me. I don't like partying, clubbing and all that. But I love going out for coffee and lunchdates and dinner with friends. Eversince the Big A invaded my face, it took a whole sad turn, so I'm really more at home and into reading and the net, and some of the things i've neglected when i've always gone out. My friends understand when i refuse going out with them and they always encourage me with my acne getting better soon which is nice. They even accompany me to go at the derm's whenever I had appointments from the past. They volunteer to buy my acne-meds. I'm trying to say that your real friends won't really mind you having acne and scars and spots. I've always been a happy and funny person and I'm glad I still have some of it in me. Your friends will love you no matter what and you'll be glad you didn't take them out of your life completely.

Don't lose your light..shine through=)

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I can relate. I have a birthday party coming up that my best friend is throwing for me. She's inviting friends that I haven't seen in two years since I chose to isolate myself. I'm still scared shitless, and want to bail on my own party because they saw me totally differently two years ago. I think I'm going to cry....

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I have been hiding in my house for like a year now, hardly ever going out as well. At first I kinda enjoyed it, being nice and comfortable in my home, but with bad acne and severe scars. Now it feels like I'm just rotting here in eternal damnation.

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I feel for you I really do! everyone I hang with like to party and get messed up on the weekends. For me I like to stay home...listen to music, read a book, or talk with my parents before they leave for work. Seriously, I'll go to school and run straight home. I'm obsessed with hydrating myself and drinking green tea hoping my skin will heal faster. I have sooo much time to myself and I love to sketch...we can completely relate.

but since it's my last year @ highschool I'm attempting to go out more..I did for Halloween and it was an absolute thrill to see everyone :cool: haha but with the whole drinking and smoking weed thing, my friends make bets that I'll give in someday so as of right now (most likely forever I honestly strongly dislike that lifestyle as well) I'm the only girl in my crew AND the one with a clean system.

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yep, i can relate to this. Thing is, it's not my acne that's holding me back, as i have very little acne now, it's just more the thought of socialising. Don't get me wrong, I like meeting new people, but in moderation. I was invited to a party yesterday, and the thought of having to make small talk for four hours pretty much put me off going. However, I've already decided that I have to go out this weekend, so im mentally preparing for the inevitable inane chatter...

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Feels like I'm waiting for my life to start , as if I'm living in 'tomorrow' , I say that tomorrow I'll go and do this and that but then when it arrives I'm too scared too. The happiest 10 seconds of my day is when I walk from my bed to the bathroom because there is the small chance It'll be gone and I'll be able to live a normal life.

:boohoo::boohoo::boohoo::boohoo::boohoo::boohoo:

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My position is the same.

I'll do everything possible to stay out of social situations through fear of being negatively judged and shamed.

I dread having to go out in public and my confidence is shot to hell.

I'm glad the nights are drawing in so the oppurtunity for people to see my ugly face is reduced.

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So I used to go out with my friends all the time, but once I started to develop acne my self esteem was shattered and I sort of hid at home, avoiding everyone. My lifestyle changed, and I become obsessed with heath and my diet for acne. My friends always stay out all night, drink, smoke, ect.. But I honestly hate that lifestyle, and it screws up my routine for healing my acne. So anyways I sort of secluded myself from everyone and did my own thing. However now my skin is doing better and my friends are REALLY trying to get me to come party. I always make up excuses, in fact I start to have panic attacks when thinking about going out :| I don't know why, I just always like to stay at home with family, go on the computer, study ( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am? I just feel like no one relates to me, or has the same interests, so I sort of stick to myself. My friends are nagging me soo much to come out, and i'm running out of excuses.. I can only fake sick for so long haha. Whenever I meet new people and they ask what I do for fun, they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

I used to stay in at home all the time and hide away, i did this for years.. but eventually you'll have to force yourself out.. well thats what i did, i have abit more confidences then i used too but am still some what losing the battle at times and still stay in quite abit.. i think its important to just take it slowly and not to rush going out.. im rubbish talking to someone new or who i don't know, so it usually only happens if a friend introduces them to me..

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So I used to go out with my friends all the time, but once I started to develop acne my self esteem was shattered and I sort of hid at home, avoiding everyone. My lifestyle changed, and I become obsessed with heath and my diet for acne. My friends always stay out all night, drink, smoke, ect.. But I honestly hate that lifestyle, and it screws up my routine for healing my acne. So anyways I sort of secluded myself from everyone and did my own thing. However now my skin is doing better and my friends are REALLY trying to get me to come party. I always make up excuses, in fact I start to have panic attacks when thinking about going out :| I don't know why, I just always like to stay at home with family, go on the computer, study ( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am? I just feel like no one relates to me, or has the same interests, so I sort of stick to myself. My friends are nagging me soo much to come out, and i'm running out of excuses.. I can only fake sick for so long haha. Whenever I meet new people and they ask what I do for fun, they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

Ahhhh I can totally relate to you except I DO want to go out sometimes... I like staying at home too because I'm just so concerned about my skin getting worse and it is nice to just chill at home and go for coffee occasionally. but I also want to go out without ever thinking about how my skin will turn out the next day...

This morning I was getting ready for school and all of a sudden I realized how my acne looks and how after going out on halloween it seemed to have gotten a lot worse, it made me scared to go out... I'm so paranoid it's not even funny. yeah but to answer your question, I think you're perfectly fine. Just don't overthink like I do.

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Wow I feel exactly the same way. I have been staying in a lot so that I cannot be seen. Sleeping early on the weekends(since sleep is good for acne). I am avoiding so many people including the GF. All of my friends are partying and drinking while I choose not to so that it can heal my acne...

That's life.

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I feel for you I really do! everyone I hang with like to party and get messed up on the weekends. For me I like to stay home...listen to music, read a book, or talk with my parents before they leave for work. Seriously, I'll go to school and run straight home. I'm obsessed with hydrating myself and drinking green tea hoping my skin will heal faster. I have sooo much time to myself and I love to sketch...we can completely relate.

but since it's my last year @ highschool I'm attempting to go out more..I did for Halloween and it was an absolute thrill to see everyone :cool: haha but with the whole drinking and smoking weed thing, my friends make bets that I'll give in someday so as of right now (most likely forever I honestly strongly dislike that lifestyle as well) I'm the only girl in my crew AND the one with a clean system.

Ahhh I know im exactly the same way.. I stay at home just trying to heal my skin ( also drinking green tea haha ) I go to school and come straight home too! And yeah it makes me so mad how everyone is so obsessed with partying and drinking. I just can't relate to that lifestyle.

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So I used to go out with my friends all the time, but once I started to develop acne my self esteem was shattered and I sort of hid at home, avoiding everyone. My lifestyle changed, and I become obsessed with heath and my diet for acne. My friends always stay out all night, drink, smoke, ect.. But I honestly hate that lifestyle, and it screws up my routine for healing my acne. So anyways I sort of secluded myself from everyone and did my own thing. However now my skin is doing better and my friends are REALLY trying to get me to come party. I always make up excuses, in fact I start to have panic attacks when thinking about going out :| I don't know why, I just always like to stay at home with family, go on the computer, study ( boring stuff, but it makes me happy). Anyways I guess what i'm trying to say is should I be worried about how anti social I am? I just feel like no one relates to me, or has the same interests, so I sort of stick to myself. My friends are nagging me soo much to come out, and i'm running out of excuses.. I can only fake sick for so long haha. Whenever I meet new people and they ask what I do for fun, they think its extremely strange i'm not into drinking or partying. Is there something wrong with me?

I used to stay in at home all the time and hide away, i did this for years.. but eventually you'll have to force yourself out.. well thats what i did, i have abit more confidences then i used too but am still some what losing the battle at times and still stay in quite abit.. i think its important to just take it slowly and not to rush going out.. im rubbish talking to someone new or who i don't know, so it usually only happens if a friend introduces them to me..

Yeah I feel I should be forcing myself to go out. I am shy, and staying in by myself doesn't help. I feel the longer I isolate myself from people the more shy I become! At school I am fine, I act like everything is okay, but when people ask me to go out clubbing or whatever I just get soo stressed.

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