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I want 9 years of my life back =(

9 years now... 9 fuckin years of acne and still going... when the fuck is it ever gonna go away? I was 14 when it started and now I'm 23... WTF. I know I would've been a good looking guy if it wasn't due to acne... Not to mention the ugly deep scars and red spots all over.. I'm sensitive to light, heat, and cold where my skin always feels irritated. I had a lot of self confidence before acne and girls use to always look at me. now no girls r ever interested in me and I haven't moved on with my life.. still stuck in my parents basement because of the lack of confidence.. I feel inferior to everybody.. I can never stand up for myself because of my face.. I feel so ugly.. It's turned me into a highly sensitive person who can't take critisizm easily.. But I know that if I never had acne I would've been a cocky bastard... but I also know I would've been a better person and I would've gained some self development. I'm now just a kid stuck in a 23 year old's body.. I can't help it.. but I am who I am because of this terrible disease. missed out on so many opportunities and so much of life because of my confidence level.. just needed to vent.. I know I shouldn't feel sorry for myself and yadayadayada... but It's made me do some terrible things to myself... this deep void of depression feels so bad...

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9 years now... 9 fuckin years of acne and still going... when the fuck is it ever gonna go away? I was 14 when it started and now I'm 23... WTF. I know I would've been a good looking guy if it wasn't due to acne... Not to mention the ugly deep scars and red spots all over.. I'm sensitive to light, heat, and cold where my skin always feels irritated. I had a lot of self confidence before acne and girls use to always look at me. now no girls r ever interested in me and I haven't moved on with my life.. still stuck in my parents basement because of the lack of confidence.. I feel inferior to everybody.. I can never stand up for myself because of my face.. I feel so ugly.. It's turned me into a highly sensitive person who can't take critisizm easily.. But I know that if I never had acne I would've been a cocky bastard... but I also know I would've been a better person and I would've gained some self development. I'm now just a kid stuck in a 23 year old's body.. I can't help it.. but I am who I am because of this terrible disease. missed out on so many opportunities and so much of life because of my confidence level.. just needed to vent.. I know I shouldn't feel sorry for myself and yadayadayada... but It's made me do some terrible things to myself... this deep void of depression feels so bad...

What have been some of the ways you've gone about treating your acne in these 9 years?

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I'm in the exact same situation also, I'm 23, still living at home, had severe acne since I was 15, got rid of that long ago and left with severe scars. It killed my confidence too, and I've been isolated ever since then. I have been going out and trying to rebuild my social life back up for the past year or two though. I got a job (which wasn't easy at all for me to do) and I've got back in touch with some old friends and a couple of girls from my childhood. I thought they would be like wtf is wrong with your face (my scars are really bad), but none of them have actually said too much about it and we hang out sometimes now. They all say that I'm completely different from who I used to be (more shy now and not as outspoken), but they don't care and we still have a good time together. My life has improved a lot since I have done these things, a lot better than it was 2-3 years ago because all I used to do is hide in my room alone because I was afraid to face the world. Honestly, I don't think you will be able to move on until you take matters into your own hands and do something about it, like getting a job if you don't have one, get out and socialize with people ect. even if you have scars/red marks and low self-esteem.

I agree though, I feel like my entire young adulthood (15-22 ish) was completely stolen from me, but I don't guess there's much we can do besides try to make up for it in the future.

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i know. my confidence is completely shot. i honestly feel i would be very pretty without acne...but with it i'm friggin' gross. So upsetting. I have to much of me that I want to show people. I do have a sense of humor, I DO have thoughtful opinions, I do have a good mind. But I would rather not call attention to myself. :(

UGHHHHH. I hate acne.

And on that note, I just popped a big all zit on my cheek that sprouted last night. And it hadn't come to head yet so I had to really squeeze it. And now it's like....all big and inflamed and swollen. And I have things to do today. WHY??? WHY ME???? :boohoo:

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it started like this for me, -

i first got a couple of spots when i was 17, which i wasn really bothered with because i thought they wud go away by them selves, i have a nice girl friend, then i started to get loads and loads of spots, then i got boils and cystic acne, i went to the docs and they gave me som shite antibiotics, and differen cream, it never worked, they wouldnt send me to a skin specialist, i was so depressed, i lost my girl friend , i then broke out in infammed acne everywhere on my face, there wasnt a clear part of my face i could see, i then everntually got apointment to the dermatologist after been reffered, become paranoid, lost a few good friends. i was prescribed with roaccutane, wich worked great, until my acen came back a year later, then i was on it again and again, i had lots of tiny little scars, i went on differin cream for over 7 months which stopped me breaking out becasue i was reffered on the nhs for ablative co2 laser, i tooke 2 weeks off work, they only done the right hand side first, it looked great , altough i was completely red and swollen for 2 weeks i couldnt see and scars, then my skin began to grow back and i could see scars that werent there before appearing, i am now waiting to go back in 5 months time to check up as they said collagen with hep fill in the scars, i think its bull shit, iam due to have the other side done , i have a a wedding coming up next august i thought i would be ok by then but now, my scars are worse i dnt kno what to do, i cant concentrate in work or at home, and i cnt go out anywhere, i dnt want people to think iam ugly all the time,

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I can see your a wise person.

I don't think your a kid in a grownup body. Acne is a bitch, there are no words for it, its that fucking bad.

Sorry that you have to go through al of this. I see your a person who thinks a lot. Just remember, ones your clear, you will be more happy then ANY person with clear skin right now (with or without scars).

You will not get your years back, but you will know more about life then most guys, because instead of just living you life without thinking about it, you and i had to go though this bullshit, an we will know how important some things are, like your skin, and being a good person.

I know it's hard, keep it up

Good luck man, i'm praying for you.

grtz

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Acne stolen now 1 years from me.

I am 16.

And i will not let to happen this like you guys.

Going to take accutane or other sh*t to kill that acne.

And really thanks all of this forum, you guys give me strenght to not give up.

I want normal life. lol. :rolleyes:

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I've been suffering forever... 11 years and I'm 22 years old now. Breakout after breakout. Scars from nearly every zit I get. To make matters worse, I got a speech on Tuesday and my face is a mess. I feel your pain, trust me... God wont give me a break

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Let me first off say I can relate to you. I'm 22 years old, suffered from acne for 7 years and I also live with my parents. It's like almost desha vu reading through these posts because it's like my life's story with acne being told over and over again, only it's someone elses. I can relate to feeling ugly, having no confidence, feeling like your not the age you are currently, repulsed by the look of your skin, breaking down to utter sorrow and ruin, crying out but feeling like noone understands etc..

Acne has been such a big part of my life so far, it's like I don't even remember my life before. My mind is stuck back to when I was in highschool and it has stayed in the mindset for the past 3 or 4 years. Anyone who has experience depression knows the hardest thing to do, is to live for today. Your mind is stuck back in yesturday and wishes things would of been different; Than, theirs the fear of the unknown. WHich, all this makes it almost impossible to live in the present. your stuck in a deep, dark pit and it ffeels like any progress that has been made only ends up as failure and slide back down that greasy, oily pit. Your mind just lays their in the pit and life just passes you by. Your aware of the information you learn but it never sinks in, because your stuck in a different time period and your body is kind of like on "auto-pilot" where your not really conscious of going through life, your just kind of going through the motions. It's like this parasite that never leaves you, it just feeeds on you; drawling all your strength, time, money etc away.

Acne has influence me into missing many events that I'll never get to relive. Whether it was prom, missing my friends deployment, failure to keep consistent work, college classes, friend get-to-gethers etc.. I feel like acne stole this from me, but reality is: I stole it from myself!! Everything in life is a "CHOICE"!! We choose to be depressed, we choose have self-pity, we choose to avoid life events, we choose to be miserable, we choose to not talk to others etc. Life is one of "Choices" and no matter what situation comes; you'll always have a choice. It may not be the most socially popular choice, it may not be the most convient choice, it may not be the most comfortable choice, it may not make the most sense kind of choice but It's a CHoice.. The times we feel like we don't have a choice, is the time where we are prideful and care what others think. Instead of doing the right thing, we do the convient, most excepted choice.

As I write this, I realize acne is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I thank the lord for allowing this affliction in my life because it's going to make me stronger. EVerything I go through and experience with acne, I can use it to impact the people around me for christ. Suffering or pain, is just the weakness being bleeded out of you and the more you persevere through it; the more character you grow. Does a championship college football team get to win a cchampionship, without going through all the: Weighlifting, conditioning, Skill drills, Team meetings, etc at the beginning of the season? IT may be hard, painful, trying, boring, tirering etc but its a must to where they want to be. THis life was never meant to be easy, this life was never meant for people to be complacent, this life was never meant to be peaches and cream.. There will always be hardships in this life. I remember my chaplin said this to me and I"ll never forget it "On this side of eternity, their is no happily ever after". You can have all the money, fame, friends, accomplishments etc but you will always have hardships and pain.

I encourage you all to keep fighting and don't give up. Everytime you look in the mirror say to yourself : Someone is going to benefit through my pain, Someones life will change for the better because of this!"

Having acne has:

1. allow me to focus better on what I eat (diet)

2. See my ugly character flaws

3. Kept me from doing some really stupid stuff or avoid situations that would prove later toxic

4. allowed me to develop better relationship with my family.

5.to remind me everyday of the growth I have done through and what came from.

and so much more..

I don't even want to take care of my scars now, because I want to reminded everyday of my past life and how far i've come and just how much I weathered through. I want people to realize by looking at my face: Wow, look what he came from and he persevered through it (made it).

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I'm in same boat, although my face is a lot better than before. Still, I feel embarrassed about my face.

I'm 25 now, near 26. I'm 1/2 Asian...

I almost took my life 2 times(trying to jump out the window, good thing I was slow) and had many thoughts about it during the time. It wasn't mostly acne though. It might have been influenced by it though.

My confidence is dead. I don't like speaking either. I don't like getting attention. Although I'm not living with my parent, I'm living with my brother and his family. I'm still paying my dues though, they cant live here with out me. :D

And I'm back in college. First time around in college was the worst. My "pizza face" was horrible and disgusting to people. I'm back again, I look at lot better. But still, after all them years of misery, my confidence is no longer around, so I still feel like shit. It influenced my S.A (social anxiety).

Just know dude, you're not alone. If ya want someone to talk to, I can talk :P

I don't have anyone to talk to... :(

Peace man, I really feel for you. I hope it gets better for you.

I actually find females with scares and blemishes attractive. Makes me feel more human and not alone. At least, not as alone.

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fuck my life. goddam, fuck u acne! FUCK U!!!!! There were times I tired committing suicide, but just couldn't go through with it. Now I live in constant fear.. this fear never ever escapes me.. I can never get rid of it! I hate it... I use to not give a fuck about anything before acne.. now I'm so goddam self conscious. It's turned my brain into complete moosh. I constantly worry about everything and think about the past... it's so aggravating, especially when you grow up in a small town where u have no friends.

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I didnt loose 9 years I've losted 3 but in these 3 years I've closed off all my friends I don't see them I don't contact them the other years they alway wanted to come round and visit I would make excuses so they can't come over. I used to be around alot of people and if I stepped out my front door I would bump into someone around the corner seriously.

I don't live at my parents, I have a boyfriend and my son which is proberly the only reason thats making my day go by since I don't leave the house unless I have no choice which means calling the cab to the place and then getting the cab straight back home. I walk out the house just at the step of the door and I panic I cry and try wear lots of make up, hat and a scruf just to cover my face (this is only used when I HAVE to go out important matters only). In a year I proberly leave my house the most is 30 days or less. I don't have to go out my much my bf is really good to me he does all the outside stuff because he knows how depress I am. I'm basicly in my comfort zone most of the time.

Only time I feel safe is at my parents and my own house. I can't even visit my aunties and uncles I went to a family gathering once and my aunts and uncles all i kept hearing all day from each family "wow what happen to your face, it's so bad!" over and over again. Leaving me speechless each time. I hate my skin so much I felt like just cutting the dam thing off! This was also one reason why I closed off all my friends.

There are sometimes I really want to go out. Like bring my son to the park or take a walk with him. See my friends again without fear, go to the shops just to buy milk without getting scared that someones going to laugh or say something mean or bumping into a friend. It makes me so sad that I can't do any of those.

But overall I do know I'm not the only one and acne.org is a good place to type your emotions down. Where people will understand your feelings and you won't have to be ashamed to share.

:dance:

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I've had acne since I was about 10, and I'm 17 now. It's gotten progressively worse throughout the years. I've tried countless over the counter products as well as some prescription. Some may have helped a bit, but I still have the worst acne of anyone I know. There is not one spot of clear skin on my face; all makeup does is make the acne the same color as my skin. I've also got huge pores. Then there's the body acne..my entire back, my chest, my arms, etc. Everywhere, it's moderate to severe, nothing mild. Thing is, I feel like I could be pretty if I had clear skin. Sure, I have other flaws, but they could work for me. As it is, I hate the thought of leaving the house because then I have to put on makeup, and makeup makes me look at my face. I look at all the other girls at school and wonder why I can't have skin like that, and at some of the girls who don't wear makeup and looks much better than me with my makeup. I've never had a boyfriend, and I feel that acne is a major contributor to this. It's kept me from doing things like swimming because I don't want my makeup to come off and people to see my body acne. Finally, there's no guarantee that I'll grow out of it, either. My dad did when he was a sophomore in college, and my mom never has.

So, basically, I know how you feel.

And that's my vent.

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wow, exact same situation. 14-23. i go through monthly cycles where i'm fairly clear, then acne all over - with scars to boot. and yeah, i think i woulda been goodlookin too - but dudes don't shun yourselves from the world. express yourselves in anyways you can - cuz if you're stuck with acne, you might as well make the best of it. I'm doing pretty well for myself in terms of career and friends - and although i'm a little too insecure to jump into a romantic relationship at the moment - i will.

you're all awesome in your own ways - don't let this get you down. having lived w/ acne can build some major character - if you don't let it destroy you =)

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wow this thread is truly sad, with the exception of beautifulperserverence every poster in this thread has terrible perspective of acne/life

and if you think acne caused all your problems you are wrong

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9 years now... 9 fuckin years of acne and still going... when the fuck is it ever gonna go away? I was 14 when it started and now I'm 23... WTF. I know I would've been a good looking guy if it wasn't due to acne... Not to mention the ugly deep scars and red spots all over.. I'm sensitive to light, heat, and cold where my skin always feels irritated. I had a lot of self confidence before acne and girls use to always look at me. now no girls r ever interested in me and I haven't moved on with my life.. still stuck in my parents basement because of the lack of confidence.. I feel inferior to everybody.. I can never stand up for myself because of my face.. I feel so ugly.. It's turned me into a highly sensitive person who can't take critisizm easily.. But I know that if I never had acne I would've been a cocky bastard... but I also know I would've been a better person and I would've gained some self development. I'm now just a kid stuck in a 23 year old's body.. I can't help it.. but I am who I am because of this terrible disease. missed out on so many opportunities and so much of life because of my confidence level.. just needed to vent.. I know I shouldn't feel sorry for myself and yadayadayada... but It's made me do some terrible things to myself... this deep void of depression feels so bad...

What have been some of the ways you've gone about treating your acne in these 9 years?

yea. I've been to the dermatologist like millions of times. went on accutane. used many many different topicals. And now currently using dan's regimen, but my skin always needs maintenance and it always feels dry and irritated... i hate this feeling so much. my skin just always feels like complete crap..

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wow this thread is truly sad, with the exception of beautifulperserverence every poster in this thread has terrible perspective of acne/life

and if you think acne caused all your problems you are wrong

It didn't cause all their problems but I can relate to them completely and say acne is the major reason for them feeling that way. My skin is finally under control for the first time since I was probably 13. The last 5-6 months I've been clear, my life feels very promising and I've become three times as social as I once was.

That doesn't mean I think that everyone on here should go lock themselves in a closet until they get clear. You have to keep pushing yourself to not care what others think but it's easier to say that when you don't suffer from cystic acne. I personally had worse acne then anyone I knew back in school.

How high was your accutane dosage Tst3r? My course is 80mg a day and has worked great for me but my course isn't over until the first of November so I can't say whether my clear skin will hold up long term.

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OK I had to post on this one because as so many of you have said these stories are just like mine. 23 had it since I was 15 (check out my post 'Hi i'm new..' if you want from two days ago). I'm not gonna go into it because everyone else has written it already. I am mainly left with scars and red marks, but do frequently break out which sucks balls, because it always seems to happen at the worst times. I do have some confidence but have lost soooo much, on the days when I look bad I have none, seriously none, lay me down and wipe your feet on me. If it makes any of you feel better though I'll quickly tell you a story. Firstly I've only had sex with two girls (I feel like acne was God's way of telling me I'm not meant to have sex) second girl I ended up getting Staphyloccus aureus (infection) which resulted in me getting large painful boils all over my behind, for nearly a year and a half I SUFFEREDwith this. I had to go to the hospital several times to get them lanced and drained, some days I couldn't actually sit down or walk properly I couldn't go into work, was on antibiotics for it for over a year. Anyway now I'm left with the scars and I mean friggin loads of big scars all over my butt. Moral of the story is this: we shouldn't let acne do this to us, imprison us, because when you really think about it, my arse looks worse than my face.

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OK I had to post on this one because as so many of you have said these stories are just like mine. 23 had it since I was 15 (check out my post 'Hi i'm new..' if you want from two days ago). I'm not gonna go into it because everyone else has written it already. I am mainly left with scars and red marks, but do frequently break out which sucks balls, because it always seems to happen at the worst times. I do have some confidence but have lost soooo much, on the days when I look bad I have none, seriously none, lay me down and wipe your feet on me. If it makes any of you feel better though I'll quickly tell you a story. Firstly I've only had sex with two girls (I feel like acne was God's way of telling me I'm not meant to have sex) second girl I ended up getting Staphyloccus aureus (infection) which resulted in me getting large painful boils all over my behind, for nearly a year and a half I SUFFEREDwith this. I had to go to the hospital several times to get them lanced and drained, some days I couldn't actually sit down or walk properly I couldn't go into work, was on antibiotics for it for over a year. Anyway now I'm left with the scars and I mean friggin loads of big scars all over my butt. Moral of the story is this: we shouldn't let acne do this to us, imprison us, because when you really think about it, my arse looks worse than my face.

Sorry to hear it Penisface.

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