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These are possibly some of the most emotionally charging things that happen to me as an acne sufferer.

Seriously.

The other day, this person (let's call her "Jane") I know looked at me (it was a good face day, by the way) and was like: "Do you take care of your skin? You should try Differin, it worked for me."

In response I said "If Jane says Differin works, it MUST be true. I can finally have clear skin!"

Absolute fail.

On another day, my brother put on his doctor hat and joined a conversation I was having about acne. He decided to say that I had given myself acne by using too many products (good tried-and-true cleansers, toners and moisturizers in contrast with his mere use of water). Excellent thesis, except not really.

What is it with people who don't have acne, acting like dermatologists, skincare specialists and know-it-alls? Like they can cure you without a smidge of acne/skincare insight or background. Why?!

Rant over, replies very much welcome :)

P.S. Do you guys have any similar stories to share?

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YES. God, so few things set me off like having to listen to a clear-skinned advice giver, my eye twitching the whole time.

I react the exact same way you do, except I do it in my head. Ha, "...So THAT is the answer! Thank you! I can finally have skin like yours." I mean come on. Fail sandwich.

It seems a bit odd, doesn't it? I don't tell people with...I don't know, dry hair, that they should try conditioner (gasp)! XD

Edit: Forgot to add what is probably my favorite example. Sigh.

I had a friend who had probably one little zit every few months, you know the type. She got proactiv, cleared up (shocker), and proceeded to praise it for days. She insisted I try it; I mean "come on, it worked for me!"

Sheesh.

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OMG I know it is so annoying! I want to slap the person who told me I should try vinegar!!! UGGHHHH Anyone got any good responses to make them feel stupid???

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I have yet to encounter people like that (besides my mom, who had good intentions), but from my limited experience, it is very frustrating! I always feel as if they have no right to speak to me or any person with acne in that manner. That's like going up to an overweight person and demanding why they don't just use a treadmill. It's both rude and unfeeling.

Honestly, a small of themselves can't relate and while they SHOULD take the higher road, some do not. It's the same with all of us. We judge, whether we wish to or not, but we also make the choice to vocalize our feelings or not.

:comfort: The best thing to do is to just brush it off and consider that one way in which not to act.

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They want to help, but can't offer more than a suggestion to a product. They're unfamiliar with your condition, and don't know how long you've been trying to treat acne. Yes, it can be annoying.

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YES. God, so few things set me off like having to listen to a clear-skinned advice giver, my eye twitching the whole time.

I react the exact same way you do, except I do it in my head. Ha, "...So THAT is the answer! Thank you! I can finally have skin like yours." I mean come on. Fail sandwich.

It seems a bit odd, doesn't it? I don't tell people with...I don't know, dry hair, that they should try conditioner (gasp)! XD

Edit: Forgot to add what is probably my favorite example. Sigh.

I had a friend who had probably one little zit every few months, you know the type. She got proactiv, cleared up (shocker), and proceeded to praise it for days. She insisted I try it; I mean "come on, it worked for me!"

Sheesh.

XD Totally! I liked your last story. People I know who have clear skin get one pimple sometimes (as in one every 3 months) and decide to act like it's severe cystic/nodular acne that is destroying their soul, to my face. Yes, severe acne in the form of ONE harmless pimple =/ Then they celebrate when it's all gone and preach about how to avoid it. :rolleyes:

Good comparison with the conditioner =)

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ILOVETHISTHREAD! I've had moderate acne for years and because I've givin up on trying to hide it as much. i've gotton a lot of "advice" from people who have like never even had a freakin zit. a girl in my class mentioned that i "just shouldn't touch my face that much" and wash it a lot, then it'll all clear. wow, thanks hun!!!!! i'd never would have thought of that brilliant idea! lol my mom, who has had perfect skin her whole life and doesn't even get wrinkles now in her forties, thinks that I should just use rubbing alcohol and stop "thinking about it" as much. definitely mom, i'll ignore the giant painful cyst at the end of my nose. what i hate the most is how people act like its such an easy thing to get rid of, how minor it is. thats cuz its not their skin.

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"He decided to say that I had given myself acne by using too many products (good tried-and-true cleansers, toners and moisturizers in contrast with his mere use of water"

this is basically my mother.

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ILOVETHISTHREAD! I've had moderate acne for years and because I've givin up on trying to hide it as much. i've gotton a lot of "advice" from people who have like never even had a freakin zit. a girl in my class mentioned that i "just shouldn't touch my face that much" and wash it a lot, then it'll all clear. wow, thanks hun!!!!! i'd never would have thought of that brilliant idea! lol my mom, who has had perfect skin her whole life and doesn't even get wrinkles now in her forties, thinks that I should just use rubbing alcohol and stop "thinking about it" as much. definitely mom, i'll ignore the giant painful cyst at the end of my nose. what i hate the most is how people act like its such an easy thing to get rid of, how minor it is. thats cuz its not their skin.

Tell me about it :)

It's like, if have you acne, logically you know nothing about it and don't even attempt to treat it.

Thanks, but no thanks :hand:

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This thread is so great to read!!!!! I thought I was the only one faced with people like this! Fortunately (or maybe unfortunately) it's only my mother.

Mother: "I had acne in eighth and ninth grade, but tenth grade I got all clear. So this year I think you will be all clear. Oh, by the way, I used Noxzema as a cleanser and moisturizer and it worked wonders!"

Me: "Mama, thanks for the tip, but remember when I got my first acne and I used Noxzema the way you did? My face exploded in pimples after a few nights?"

Mother: "That wasn't Noxzema, it worked for me, that was just puberty"

Me thinking: Sure.......

Another day

Me: Mom do you think I can do a low dose of accutane?

Mother: No way! That has way too many side effects! Not for my baby!

(Literally a week later)

Mother: I talked to cousin Caroline. Did you know she went on accutane and cleared up?

Me: Hmm.

Mother: Maybe you should try it.

Me: What about all the side effects?

Mother: Nonsense! It worked for Caroline!

I never got around to accutane since things have been looking up... but still. My mom needs to get her facts straight about skin care.

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I know!

My dad is convinced that I have late-night binging sessions in which I consume great amounts of pizza and chocolate, and THAT is what gives me acne. He forgets that I've seen his high school pictures and his face looked terrible, much worse than mine has ever been. Thanks for the awesome genes, Dad... :lol:

I got my bad acne when I was like 10, and I had an insane health teacher. "Soap and water on a wash cloth is all that kids your age should use, you know. You're probably making it worse," she said. I wanted to slap her. Soap? NO. Wash cloth? NO NO.

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Ugh. Such is the life of an acne sufferer. Some people offer perfection via Accutane. Others offer perfection via lasers, or by cutting out refined sugar, or by exercise, or by Dan's regimen, or by Differin, or by or by or by...

It's so frustrating and I wish there was one simple method to combat this skin disease, but there's not. I hope you find the method that works for you though.

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i was talking to someone about acne once and they were like "if it bothers you so much, why don't you just wash your face more often?"

:|

but yeh i've come to realise most people don't mean harm by these comments, half the time they're actually trying to help.

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This thread is so great to read!!!!! I thought I was the only one faced with people like this! Fortunately (or maybe unfortunately) it's only my mother.

Mother: "I had acne in eighth and ninth grade, but tenth grade I got all clear. So this year I think you will be all clear. Oh, by the way, I used Noxzema as a cleanser and moisturizer and it worked wonders!"

Me: "Mama, thanks for the tip, but remember when I got my first acne and I used Noxzema the way you did? My face exploded in pimples after a few nights?"

Mother: "That wasn't Noxzema, it worked for me, that was just puberty"

Me thinking: Sure.......

Another day

Me: Mom do you think I can do a low dose of accutane?

Mother: No way! That has way too many side effects! Not for my baby!

(Literally a week later)

Mother: I talked to cousin Caroline. Did you know she went on accutane and cleared up?

Me: Hmm.

Mother: Maybe you should try it.

Me: What about all the side effects?

Mother: Nonsense! It worked for Caroline!

I never got around to accutane since things have been looking up... but still. My mom needs to get her facts straight about skin care.

OMG, I loved your stories =) It's awesome to not feel alone!

I know!

My dad is convinced that I have late-night binging sessions in which I consume great amouts of pizza and chocolate, and THAT is what gives me acne. He forgets that I've seen his high school pictures and his face looked terrible, much worse than mine has ever been. Thanks for the awesome genes, Dad... :lol:

I got my bad acne when I was like 10, and I had an insane health teacher. "Soap and water on a wash cloth is all that kids your age should use, you know. You're probably making it worse," she said. I wanted to slap her. Soap? NO. Wash cloth? NO NO.

Thanks for sharing, PuppyLove09. Lol, it's even funnier when they give wrong advice on treating acne! It's like, yeah... no, I don't think I'll do that? Thanks for your "help".

Ugh. Such is the life of an acne sufferer. Some people offer perfection via Accutane. Others offer perfection via lasers, or by cutting out refined sugar, or by exercise, or by Dan's regimen, or by Differin, or by or by or by...

It's so frustrating and I wish there was one simple method to combat this skin disease, but there's not. I hope you find the method that works for you though.

Thank you! Things are finally looking up after 4+ months on low-dose Accutane =)

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What you should do is wait till the next time that happens and then throw a curve ball at them, fire off a quick question like "Okay then, can you tell me the difference between a milia and a whitehead Mr. Dermatologist? Do you know what a milia is? Explain to me in detail all the different types of acne."

They will probably just stare at you with a confused face, but that should set them off their know-it-all game.

Best of luck.

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What you should do is wait till the next time that happens and then throw a curve ball at them, fire off a quick question like "Okay then, can you tell me the difference between a milia and a whitehead Mr. Dermatologist? Do you know what a milia is? Explain to me in detail all the different types of acne."

They will probably just stare at you with a confused face, but that should set them off their know-it-all game.

Best of luck.

That's actually kind of a genius comeback, thanks gda_11 :D

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I wish I could go there, gda_11. I'd be embarrassed to hit them with my knowledge, I always try to be really nonchalant about my acne. You know, like I'm one of those cool, above-it-all people who doesn't even care.

Oh this? I didn't notice. Hey did you go the show last night?

XD

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I wish I could go there, gda_11. I'd be embarrassed to hit them with my knowledge, I always try to be really nonchalant about my acne. You know, like I'm one of those cool, above-it-all people who doesn't even care.

Oh this? I didn't notice. Hey did you go the show last night?

XD

Oh me too, it's kind of like everyone ignores it, you know. You don't mention it, your friends don't, and if it comes up somehow you kind of brush it off as nothing. I would never actually say to someone "EXPLAIN TO ME THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF ACNE, FOOL!" Cause that would be awkward, but it was just kind of a funny mental image.

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I had someone at work randomly approach me to give me a thing of Proactive refining mask....which is worthless and smelly btw! They said it was the best thing in the world and then persisted on lecturing me about how to take care of my skin. I was so embarrassed and pissed! They had good intentions, but it still made me mad.

I am 24 years old. I had the occasional break out in highschool, but nothing serious. Then for some reason, during the end of my sophomore/ beginning junior year of college, by face just blew up with zits. I thought that maybe it was stress from college, but I've been out of college for over a year and a half and my face is still bad. So for the last 5 years, I've been in a constant battle with my face!

I've tried everything and then some. So why does a person who's never had an acne problem think they can tell me something I don't know already? They act like people with acne have never tried to make their skin better.

:wall:

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I think it's OK to offer suggestions if you feel the person is open to them. I just started a new class in college and I made friends with the student that sits next to me. He has moderate/severe acne and we got to talking about photoshop and celebrities, how their pictures are always altered. Anyway, I told him about my battle with acne, but I felt like he didn't believe I ever had acne because my makeup does a good job at covering it. I showed him a picture of me when my acne was at its worst, and he believed me then! LOL

I want to offer him suggestions, when I told him about this site he said he had never heard of it. So some people with acne actually have not already heard of every possible treatment out there like some of us like to assume. He's very nice, and I think I would like to help him out. Maybe I can make a difference. :)

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A few years ago someone that I was in school with noticed that my skin was heading a bit downhill. He decided to ask me if I ate a lot of oily fish. I said no (because I didnt) and he said he thought that was maybe the reason my skin was so bad. Cheers. Now go away!

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