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hey guys... the scabs from the excision came off and left a hole in my face... i feel that i wasted my money on this...

i talked to my mom.. i told her what happened and she started talking like we just wasted money... she told me that we could have used that money for my tuition and why cant i accept the fact that my face has turned out to be like this...

i am guilty for the fact that we are wasting money and we arent that rich... that pains me... i feel like im the burden in my family.. im the loser one.... the ugly one

i've been crying like crazy.... why does this thing happened to me... i believe in God but i dont know why he let this thing happened to me.. i've been praying that he'll help me with my surgery.. been praying a lot. but it just made my scars to look worst...

and i have this event to attend to by the end of the month.. i will be escorting this girl.. i want to back out but i cant anymore.....

i feel like im a total loser... a burden to my family.. a burden to everyone... i just hate myself so much.... just hate myself a lot.....

i ask God why is he letting us suffer like this.....

i want to believe in him...

but somehow im losing my faith.. i dont know what to do anymore...

i know others would think that this is vanity talk... but it isnt for me.. it's my life at stake...

the way i will live it.....

i am only 19 and im afraid that i'd be like the other people here who havent achieved anything or wasnt able to have a family because of their scars... im afraid to be like them but im turning out to be one...

im a dork.. loser.....................

how can i live life..

how?

how?

God have mercy on your people..

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I came to the conclusion that there is NO god, it's a fake belief and if there was a god then fuck him for being such an ass to the people who really DONT deserve it. What kind of god does this?Absolutely none, because there is NO SUCH THING as a higher power. And I feel ya buddy I know the pain of being ashamed to go out, the embarrassment, it's enough to want to kill yourself. I hope everything turns out for the best bro, we're all in this together.

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I'm in the same boat as you. I know how it feels to be a burden to your family. I haven't done anything for my family. I've recently dropped out of school because I couldn't take it anymore. I've always told myself that wasn't going to happen. Since your a strong believer you know that God has a plan for you. I suggest you go back to the surgeon who did your procedure and demand your money back because you didn't see any results that you were promised. You didn't go blindly there and get the procedure, sure you were convinced and promised a great deal of improvement weren't you?

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I came to the conclusion that there is NO god, it's a fake belief and if there was a god then fuck him for being such an ass to the people who really DONT deserve it. What kind of god does this?Absolutely none, because there is NO SUCH THING as a higher power. And I feel ya buddy I know the pain of being ashamed to go out, the embarrassment, it's enough to want to kill yourself. I hope everything turns out for the best bro, we're all in this together.

Ok, I've had cystic acne, and I have to still say the "God didn't help me, there is no God" argument is flawed.

If God helped you, would God also help people missing an arm? A leg? People in wheelchairs? The blind, the deaf? Where does it end? Should God just remove all pain and suffering from the world and fix everybody's problems?

You have to look beyond your own problems and consider the bigger picture.

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I came to the conclusion that there is NO god, it's a fake belief and if there was a god then fuck him for being such an ass to the people who really DONT deserve it. What kind of god does this?Absolutely none, because there is NO SUCH THING as a higher power. And I feel ya buddy I know the pain of being ashamed to go out, the embarrassment, it's enough to want to kill yourself. I hope everything turns out for the best bro, we're all in this together.

Ok, I've had cystic acne, and I have to still say the "God didn't help me, there is no God" argument is flawed.

If God helped you, would God also help people missing an arm? A leg? People in wheelchairs? The blind, the deaf? Where does it end? Should God just remove all pain and suffering from the world and fix everybody's problems?

You have to look beyond your own problems and consider the bigger picture.

For one i don't have acne more and in the case god happened to be real, WHAT MADE HIM? Answer me that and i swear i'll give you 20 thousand dollars. Believing in god shows how primal and naive you are,shows the ignorance. Yeah I know you're going to message back because your pride is hurt but hey....it's the truth. Consider this, there's over 100 billion galaxies and within those galaxies there's billions and trillions of stars, and around those stars are solar systems......imagine how many civilizations there must be. Do you honestly think god made them? Why not include that in the bible? Did he make dinosaurs too? Why make the Devil? Religion leaves too many questions unanswered, and even god shows human like emotions and qualities.....why?BECAUSE HE'S JUST A MAN MADE STORY. But it's ok, i understand if your brain cant process this information. Only the wise realize there is no such thing. It's only a delusion. Go ahead curse back at me, because you know i'm right.

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Get therapy.

I'm scarred. Guess what, I'm happy. I have a nice income and career, a home, a husband, all the things I need and many I simply want. I don't even think of my scarring when I look in a mirror; I see my hairstyle, my pretty facial features, the lack of wrinkles at 41. :P

Your scars will affect you only if you let them, and you're wallowing in them. DO something productive, creative, fun. Stop just thinking about one physical feature, think about what you're proud of in yourself.

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The big picture is that you are disapointed with your results...which sounds like you have a reason to be.

Now,I dont know what surgery you had,but most surgerys take time to heal and stuff before you really see the results.

Your mom doesnt understand because she probably never had acne.And people who havent had it just think we should just,"get over it".

I'm a mom,but I have had acne,and I know what it feels like,so if my kid had acne I would do whatever I could to ease her pain.

All I can really say to comfort you,is that...suffering is the only true path to enlightenment.

That scars DO eventually get better with time,usually without surgery.

(when I was pregnant,I had way worse then acne,but nasty red purple stretch marks all over

my body.I hated my body for years and always covered up.Now they have faded so you

can hardly tell they are there! And most scars fade over time)

That scars,are not really so bad,and there are ways of covering them up.

Have you tried getting a fake tan? If nothing else it will make the skin tone look

a little more evenly toned.Or how about a touch of make up? So what if your a guy,no one

has to know.

It will be ok.You are not a failure or a loser or a dork.

One day you will grow out of this,

your scars will have faded

and you will be a better person.

One who maybe isnt so superfical.

Who doesnt objectify women or concentrate only on looks.

Because you were there and you know that inside is what matters most.

And the real people in your life,do not see your scars.

They love you no matter what.

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I came to the conclusion that there is NO god, it's a fake belief and if there was a god then fuck him for being such an ass to the people who really DONT deserve it. What kind of god does this?Absolutely none, because there is NO SUCH THING as a higher power. And I feel ya buddy I know the pain of being ashamed to go out, the embarrassment, it's enough to want to kill yourself. I hope everything turns out for the best bro, we're all in this together.

Ok, I've had cystic acne, and I have to still say the "God didn't help me, there is no God" argument is flawed.

If God helped you, would God also help people missing an arm? A leg? People in wheelchairs? The blind, the deaf? Where does it end? Should God just remove all pain and suffering from the world and fix everybody's problems?

You have to look beyond your own problems and consider the bigger picture.

For one i don't have acne more and in the case god happened to be real, WHAT MADE HIM? Answer me that and i swear i'll give you 20 thousand dollars. Believing in god shows how primal and naive you are,shows the ignorance. Yeah I know you're going to message back because your pride is hurt but hey....it's the truth. Consider this, there's over 100 billion galaxies and within those galaxies there's billions and trillions of stars, and around those stars are solar systems......imagine how many civilizations there must be. Do you honestly think god made them? Why not include that in the bible? Did he make dinosaurs too? Why make the Devil? Religion leaves too many questions unanswered, and even god shows human like emotions and qualities.....why?BECAUSE HE'S JUST A MAN MADE STORY. But it's ok, i understand if your brain cant process this information. Only the wise realize there is no such thing. It's only a delusion. Go ahead curse back at me, because you know i'm right.

I never said if I believed in God or not. I merely posed a philosophical question for you. Why insult me over it? Is there a need to get that defensive over a simple question?

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This is the emotional and psychological effects of acne forum, not the "Is there a God or not" forum. Stop going off-topic and arguing about religion. Do that in PMs. Final warning. Some posts are invisible and unofficial warnings issued.

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This is the emotional and psychological effects of acne forum, not the "Is there a God or not" forum. Stop going off-topic and arguing about religion. Do that in PMs. Final warning. Some posts are invisible and unofficial warnings issued.

coz u might not have a severe scarring like we all do...

i didnt make this thread to debate whether there is god or not.... if you will look on my post i didnt even question his existence.... i hope i made this clear with you :)

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This is the emotional and psychological effects of acne forum, not the "Is there a God or not" forum. Stop going off-topic and arguing about religion. Do that in PMs. Final warning. Some posts are invisible and unofficial warnings issued.

coz u might not have a severe scarring like we all do...

i didnt make this thread to debate whether there is god or not.... if you will look on my post i didnt even question his existence.... i hope i made this clear with you :)

If you did not get a warning this was not directed to you.

Do not make assumptions about my scarring.

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maybe your scars dont look that bad to others. I know that mine drive me insane but to others, they dont see it, they dont get it.

but i still decided to have laser treatments done. i wanted to feel better about myself, how anyone else feels isn't my concern.

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Ive got scars from acne aswell , and believe me ive cried and broken down so many times because of the impact they were having in my life. But ive reached the point now were i cant cry anymore and ive accepted it. All we can do is just get on with life and try make it as productive as possible, whilst contintuing the search for treatments. I keep telling meself theres always hope.

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I'm not religious, but I understand how important it is to some people. Did you ever consider the purpose of God isn't to save you or make things better, the purpose of God is for you to make yourself better? Best of luck.

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I think we should respect the fact that people have different perspectives on religion, and shouldn't be debated on to respect their values.

But going on anyways, I've been in your shoes. I felt like a burden to my family, not only with acne, but with everything I want to "fix".

Not only is my skin bad, but my eyes are horrible. I felt bad everytime I bugged my parents to get me new glasses (they're NOT cheap!). I felt bad everytime I asked my mother to take me to my skincare place to treat my skin. My teeth are horribly crooked--It'll cost my parents from five to six thousand dollars.

But the point is--you can't give up on life now.

Think of everything your parents have ever done for you. True, in fusteration your mother told you that you should just accept your skin... that the money could have been put to better use.

I've spent probably nearly $3,000 into my skin, and it's still very flawed. That money could have gone into my studies, or saved up for college. But would that education really be worth how I felt for the rest of my life? The scars and acne would have arguably ruined my pre-teen and teen years to a greater extent if I just let it "grow". If not that, I know for sure it would have destroyed my self confidence even more. There's things more valuable than higher education sometimes (and education IS important!) sacrifices have to be made.

You might believe that you are a "loser" and you can't do it anymore but you have to keep on living. Thing's change in life, there's going to be changes in your future. If you give up now, you'll never know what's hidden in store for you in the future.

Just know that there's other people who have been in your situation. You'll get through it, just hold on! ;]

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I'm not religious but wouldn't god help people worse off than acne? No offfense, but god would be helping disablitied people or the poor. You probably have a nice house and family, when others do not.

On a better note, stay strong. Soon acne will go away. And don't be negative, I'm sure life will turn towards the better very soon. go out, have fun.

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i hope everything works out for you in the end, I bet your parents are helping you because they care about you alot, not because they are embarrased, they've known you forever so having acne over a couple of years wont change all the years before when they loved you for you then

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I'm gonna tell you a little bit about myself.

I haven't had the easiest life ever. I won't go into detail, but it's never been a cakewalk for me. And that's fine. There was a time I was bitter about my past, my present. Even about acne. But I cam to this conclusion:

Out of every bad thing, comes something good.

Every little bit of shit and hardship we go through makes us stronger, makes us more compassionate to others who go through hard times as well.

God hasn't abandoned you, me, or anyone else in the world. God doesn't deliberately make you suffer. Acne is hard to deal with, and it can affect you in serious, terrible ways. But in the end, it makes you STRONGER. And think about how you are blessed! Acne is horrible to have, I would know. But there are worse things out there. You have a home, and a family. Food to eat. You aren't dying, and you have people supporting you. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to believe it's there.

I'm not giving you the "life is dandy and Jesus loves you!" talk, because I'm not like that. God DOES love you, but life isn't always dandy. I know. But you gotta get through it, because it does get better.

Even if it doesn't seem that way right now.

:)

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