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I know I am ugly and it doesn't help that I have acne. All my friends are the hot guys at school and I feel like an outcast or tag-a-long when I'm around them. They get the attention from girls as I stand back and get nothing or only pity. Part of me wants to think that it will be better when my skin clears but the other part of me thinks it will never get better. I am about to turn 17 and have never had a serious relationship or really any relationship at all. I feel like I am missing out on life. I don't know what I should do.

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I know I am ugly and it doesn't help that I have acne. All my friends are the hot guys at school and I feel like an outcast or tag-a-long when I'm around them. They get the attention from girls as I stand back and get nothing or only pity. Part of me wants to think that it will be better when my skin clears but the other part of me thinks it will never get better. I am about to turn 17 and have never had a serious relationship or really any relationship at all. I feel like I am missing out on life. I don't know what I should do.

dude im not going to lie to you..if you think your that ugly then your just goin to have to live with it and get used to it..ur only 17 ur face is still changing year after year so by the time ur like 20 u would look a little diffrent but if thats not the case then your goin to have to learn to live with ur "uglyness"..u cant be that bad though...listen buddy im just telling u the truth im sure u dont want people lying to u

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Don't let acne get in the way of your social life. If you are friendly to others they will want to hang out with you. Despite what you may think, there are plenty of people with acne who are "popular". Next time when you're hanging out with your friends, throw out your idea of being "the tag-a-long" and just be confident. I know this may sound cheesy, but If you believe that you are ugly than you will be ugly. If you think of yourself as one of the "hot guys at school" than you'll be one. Trying out a new style can always help boost confidence. Get a new shirt, haircut, don't go overboard but just something little can help. Ignore your acne, and let yourself be who you really are around others.

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Lol. Do something about it.. Get a better hairstyle, change your wordrobe, join a gym, get more contacts by socialising. I bet you do none of the stuff I mentioned.

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Yeah no fun to feel ugly. But, take a deep breath, feel the courage you don't have, and plunge in. You might be a disaster, but then again, you might be in for the time of your life. You'll never know till you try!

Good luck man! I'm cheering for you! :clap:

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Oh man i know how you feel, i always used to feel left out of my group of good looking people. However i used my acne as a motivation to become better at basketball and swimming and it worked!! it worked really well! Now everyone wants to talk to me because im the king on the courts lol when you dunk people get a new found respect for you! Its always nice to get oooo's and ahhhh's from hot girls on the sideline lol

So my advice is become really good at something; and it will add more depth and appeal to you than good looks could ever do. Also you are only as ugly as you think you are; i know that im ugly but i always say to myself that im hotttttttt makes me feel good hehe! So get out there and strut your stuff!! :dance:

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Oh man i know how you feel, i always used to feel left out of my group of good looking people. However i used my acne as a motivation to become better at basketball and swimming and it worked!! it worked really well! Now everyone wants to talk to me because im the king on the courts lol when you dunk people get a new found respect for you! Its always nice to get oooo's and ahhhh's from hot girls on the sideline lol

So my advice is become really good at something; and it will add more depth and appeal to you than good looks could ever do. Also you are only as ugly as you think you are; i know that im ugly but i always say to myself that im hotttttttt makes me feel good hehe! So get out there and strut your stuff!! :dance:

Good advice!

Having only good looks won't get you anything, Mr. Blonde. You have to have depth, something more to offer. Plastic surgery is a bad solution. Work on your mind and other skills instead. It's the talented people that win. My classmates respect and like me for my personality, sometimes because of my brains, not my looks. Also, don't get caught up thinking about everything that other people have. You can get what you want by putting your mind and soul into it.

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people who dont have confidence in their face will never stop feeling envy in people who look good. if ure born with a face you dislike a lot, try fixing other areas that will catch womens attention such as working out and your socializing skills. i know ppl who are not attractive but have pretty gf. its not all about the looks although ppl tend judge other ppl by the appearance first. its just natural.

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I agree with MG.23 on many accounts.

Take your lack of 'good' looks and maybe your current acne to really find your niche in life. If you're not really that good looking to impress girls at first sight doesn't mean you lose. Like MG said, go for sports. Or music. Or whatever. Search yourself and do something you're good at, or something you like doing and become good at it. Play to your strengths. People are not necessarily successful in life with looks.

Take Michael Phelps from the Olympics. He's not the best hottie out there, is he? But he's a hell of a swimmer.

Take Bill Gates. Take French Pres. Sarkozi (or however its written lol). They look quite like nerds. But they've got big brains.

Take Amy Whinehouse. She's not oh-so-sexy. But she can sing.

But all these people have found a niche in life, and succeeded.

Also, (as MG said) if you 're with friends, be confident. If you're going to feel like the tag-a-long, you will probably look like one. You'll walk behind them, shoulders probably drooping and an anxious look on your face. If you're going to be with them, feel like you're worth them.

Hope that helps you. Good luck ;)

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Hey i feel just like you :( All the average or better than average looking boys at school will have a gf or at least have girls flirting with them. I never had a gf and no girls ever flirted with me before. This makes me feel ugly.

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People change by getting older.

One of my teachers (who I must admit is QUITE good looking and I have a teensy crush on) said he asked a girl to homecoming while he was at high school and was laughed at.

I look at him now and I think... honestly? WHO would laugh at that?

High school sucks to begin with. At least you have friends that could help you boost your confidence. Just remind yourself to 'act like them.'

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My only advice is to not define your self-worth based on your looks. Focus on yourself internally because really, looks aren't the only thing that matter in life. Having substance as a human being is far more important.

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You are still young. You still have time. Don't waste it by feeling sorry for yourself. Time goes real fast. Ask that to anyone who are over 21. They'll tell you they wish they were 17 again.

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i honestly think it was middle school....

that is where the fine line between the good looking people and the have-nots split...

if you had not you were CRUSHED by society and that happened to me...

still... no serious relationships lol, working on that and yes it does sometimes feel like i am missing out on life for sure

but then again most of the relationships that people go through at our age im (19) arent completely serious anyway so you shouldnt feel totally left out

i might need some girls to back me up on this because im not sure but people like us (who have acne) are VERY self-conscious and especially being men eventually grow up to become extremely insecure and unapproachable... this in and of itself is VERY unattractive to women

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I am going to take a wild guess here and say that you feel you are ugly, but do not want to change your looks. Do you dye your hair or anything like that?? I am guessing not. Has your haircut been relatively the same since.. forever?? I am guessing.

If this is true, well, just know that the chance for you to do something is right there and up to you. I can't describe it to you if this is not your case, but I went through a stage where I refused to get a different hair style and do this and do that.. basically because I didn't want to grow up or something.. I wanted everything to be the same and I was afraid of change.

Don't be afraid of change, get out there, and just do what you can. A photo of ya would really help m8 :)

(i might be completely wrong, again, this is just guess guess guess)

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I know I am ugly and it doesn't help that I have acne. All my friends are the hot guys at school and I feel like an outcast or tag-a-long when I'm around them. They get the attention from girls as I stand back and get nothing or only pity. Part of me wants to think that it will be better when my skin clears but the other part of me thinks it will never get better. I am about to turn 17 and have never had a serious relationship or really any relationship at all. I feel like I am missing out on life. I don't know what I should do.

I suspect that your hang-up isn't ugliness, but introversion and sensitivity. Either way, remember that even if you looked like a movie star, inside you would still be the same man, with the same inadequacies. My advice is to work on your soul, not your wardrobe. Become stronger.

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lots of good advice here ....

I will just add that people who think they are ugly often present themselves as such. They feel like crap, so they dress sloppily, let their hair go, don't take care of themselves ... because they think it doesn't matter. But it does.

Hit the gym hard. Get (and maintain) a good, flattering haircut. Dress nicely, always. (This doesn't mean you have to dress up, just that whatever you wear should always look neat, clean and flattering to you.) Present yourself as best you can, and it will almost certainly help your confidence.

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Lol. Do something about it.. Get a better hairstyle, change your wordrobe, join a gym, get more contacts by socialising. I bet you do none of the stuff I mentioned.

lots of good advice here ....

I will just add that people who think they are ugly often present themselves as such. They feel like crap, so they dress sloppily, let their hair go, don't take care of themselves ... because they think it doesn't matter. But it does.

Hit the gym hard. Get (and maintain) a good, flattering haircut. Dress nicely, always. (This doesn't mean you have to dress up, just that whatever you wear should always look neat, clean and flattering to you.) Present yourself as best you can, and it will almost certainly help your confidence.

what they said. as a girl, when i'm feeling down about myself because of my face, i'll spend extra time pimping out my hair and picking out a nice outfit. i guess this is the dude vrsion of that.

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Go into the gym , GAIN MASS MUSCLES. There are plenty of girls who loves guys with muscles and they could careless about acne.

they will want their hands on ur muscles.

Get a gaming computer and play games , you can meet people there. Even females plays game.

Play world of warcraft if you want to flirt. :P

I have no friends. I have a job , I go to the gym and I am in college ( learning english )

When I am at home I go play games a bit , then study and rest.

That's all I do. I am a happy guy =\

When I didn't had scars girls should look at me. Since I got scars ( not too much )

no girls looks at me anymore. I could careless... I am happy being my self. I have a gaming computer and that's my life. At least I am college and hopefully I could meet some people.

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ok. Guys have less pressure to be good-looking, mostly because the female race tends to be more forgiving about looks and tends to value personality over looks the majority of the time. To me an insecure guy is not attractive, but if you're confident, that counts the most... I don't look at a guys acne when I meet him, I look at smile, how he smells, how he talks to me...that's what's important, not looks.

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ok. Guys have less pressure to be good-looking, mostly because the female race tends to be more forgiving about looks and tends to value personality over looks the majority of the time. To me an insecure guy is not attractive, but if you're confident, that counts the most... I don't look at a guys acne when I meet him, I look at smile, how he smells, how he talks to me...that's what's important, not looks.

I am that kind of guy. Lol . I am always smiling , I have a nice spray , I never swear , never.

I talk nice. ^^

hehe

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beauty is in the eye of the beholder. to someone, you are their image of perfection.

you've just got to find that person.

Yeah man, this is true. I got my first girlfriend at the age of 20 and she is beautiful. For years people would tease me for the way I looked and I still think I'm butt ugly, but she obviously likes something about me.

Fuck it, I'm ugly and I know it, but I don't care anymore.

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Everyone has said what I would...I agree that confidence is a big part of attractiveness. Not even just confidence....just being happy with who you are. Have you ever been attracted to a girl because of her attitude, her personality? Yes, you probably found her physically attractive, but I have found that for me (I'm a girl), I might find a ton of guys attractive initially...but the personality and everything else is what enhances or diminishes attractiveness.

Beauty is all about perception.

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