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Although Accutane has been working well for me and I actually have very little problems with dryness, my face definitely gets red, especially if I'm working out.

Today I practically ran to class because I was late, plus it was windy so i guess my face was really red, and as I passed a Professor that I know in the hall and said "hi", he said "What happened to your face?"

WTF? How inappropriate. I couldn't even answer, I just hurried off to my class.

Ugh.

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:doubt: I'm sorry that happened to you. Some people just seem to have a complete lack of tact, never taking the time to consider how rude and hurtful their comments may come across as. I've had the same happen to me before, even when the person has otherwise been of high intelligence.

I have an intense dislike for people who don't think before opening their mouths. Even if genuinely feeling concern or curiosity regarding someone's face, I've always thought that surely it can't be that difficult to realise how unwanted tactless comments like the one you received can be. I guess, unfortunately, that idea just doesn't click with some people.

"What happened to your manners?" or "Thanks for reminding me..." is probably what I would respond with these days, although I know at the time you can feel so shocked that someone could be so inconsiderately blunt that it's hard to think of an appropriate response.

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Well i wouldn't really take it offensive because he was probaly worried like you got beat up or something thats why your face was all red and because he WASN'T like 'EWWWWW WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR FACE!!!'

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It will happen with great regularity. Inconsiderate people are everywhere. In some cases, you even live with them. You can respond back with a witty comment, or you can ignore the rude ones. It's all up to you.

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Wow a teacher never asked about my face even though I get asked about my face like all the time. I understand it must be really embaressing.

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Just today someone asked me if I was sunburned. Ha.

I also frequently get comments like, "You look exhausted/OH MY GOSH!! You look SO tired! Are you okay?!"

Or "Maybe you should try some face powder."

But yeah, I get "What happened to your face?" quite frequently. Especially from children who don't understand why my face is so rough, flushed and greasy all the time.

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Yeah, normally I might say something like that, but this is a person of authority that I have to kind of suck up to, so I couldn't have said anything too snarky. I think ignoring was the best option.

Yeah, i dislike people like that too, people who have no self-awareness for how they affect others.

:doubt: I'm sorry that happened to you. Some people just seem to have a complete lack of tact, never taking the time to consider how rude and hurtful their comments may come across as. I've had the same happen to me before, even when the person has otherwise been of high intelligence.

I have an intense dislike for people who don't think before opening their mouths. Even if genuinely feeling concern or curiosity regarding someone's face, I've always thought that surely it can't be that difficult to realise how unwanted tactless comments like the one you received can be. I guess, unfortunately, that idea just doesn't click with some people.

"What happened to your manners?" or "Thanks for reminding me..." is probably what I would respond with these days, although I know at the time you can feel so shocked that someone could be so inconsiderately blunt that it's hard to think of an appropriate response.

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Obviously that professor doesn't think before he says anything. That's really rude man, I know how you feel. Just ignore it, life goes on. Be polite to anyone even if they are rude to you, you know what's right. No need to do the eye for an eye thing, stay polite and sincere. I believe that's a good thing to do and not overreact over such small things.

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Yes that is rude.

You should have thrown a snappy answer back at him though.

Next time someone tells you something like that, answer "I got a case of red freckles"

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I can totally relate. ugh. I have very fair and pale skin so not only do my scars stand out more vividly, but my face is extremely sensitive.

The other day I stopped in the bathroom to fix my hair before class and my face was completely red all over from being outside in the cold winter air. And then it occured to me... is this what I look like EVERYTIME i come indoors after being outside in the winter?

Also, anytime i get hot people ALWAYS tell me how red I am. Even when it's just something like wearing my winter jacket inside my face turns bright red

and I now refer to myself as Rudolph because I have a red nose year round from the cold in the winter and the sun in the summer. and red is not a good colour for me :(

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A good old "Your mum" joke usually works surprisingly well against such ridicule.

"Dude! What happened to your face?"

"Your mum!"

Win!

"OMG why don't you just wash your face?"

"Your mum likes me to be dirty when I have sex with her!"

Win

"Son, I have noticed recently your grades are slipping and that you're becoming more and more recluse. Additionally, you seem to be spending a lot of time in your room with the door locked, the curtains drawn, and watching extremely graphic pornographic videos on the Internet. I think it is about time that we....uhh what happened to your face?"

"Your mum!"

"Go to your room..."

Fail.

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i had the exact same thing - walking along in school, and this woman (she wasn't even a teacher) came up to me and said "what happened to your face???". however, she soon realised it was acne, and it was far more embarrassing for her. sometimes you just gotta laugh...

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A professor said that to you? Geez. How rude. :snooty:

I had a teacher who did something like that, except it wasn't about my acne. I was just sitting in the back of the class, when he asked me, "Why are you alone? Do you not have any friends?"

It wouldn't have been that bad had not the ENTIRE class heard him. I just kind of blushed and whimpered something incoherently.

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I too have had this experience... more than once. I had that exact question posed to me, as well as " You look like a burn victim". I have also had a complete stranger walk up to me to try and give me advice, such as what creams to use on my face. Very frustrating and rude. I'd like to know of someone out there who is perfect enough to pass any judgment like that on anyone else. EVERYONE has crap about them that they wish they could change. It's just more public when it's right on your face for the world to see all the time.

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Heh. Just goes to show the ignorance of even the most educated elites. Goddamn people make me sick. It's unfortunate that we have to rely on these fucks to get anywhere.

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I hated those comments! I used to get them from my friends when I would break out. They'd be like "wow what happened to your face"? I would get so pissed, like how the F are my supposed to answer that.

Hold your head up though, don't let those people get you down.

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I don't understand why everyone finds this rude and offensive. It does not appear to be an insult to me, but rather you were asked out of concern.

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Yeah, it's concern, but it's just not very aware concern. I mean, I wasn't bleeding or anything, I think its obvious that I wasn't in trouble. I think it was one of those things that just slipped out as soon as he saw me, but if he had thought about it he would realize that it's probably not something I want attention brought to.

It's like if someone was like, wow, you're putting on weight. Yeah, it's out of concern, but we just don't say things like that!

I don't understand why everyone finds this rude and offensive. It does not appear to be an insult to me, but rather you were asked out of concern.

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I know what you mean! I work in customer service and on really bad skin days I get asked..."what happened to your face"... not something you want to hear when you're already embarrassed about it. What am I supposed to say to that? "Acne happened!!!!" lol

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