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i am so fed up with my face, ever sence my face started breaking out bad i haven't been myself (i know looks arent everything but my face is just killing me!) the only time ill go out of my house is to go to work or school.. everytime my friends ask me to hang out i have to lie.. i always have a 'bad opinion' about everything.. i totally feel like someone else.. and look like someone else.. i hate this so much! i dont even know what to do with myself.. never look into a mirror again? i remember when i had confidence.. i feel like im never going to have it again.. my confidence is totally shot! and now im trying to think of ways to get out of work :( i dont know what to do

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First off, how old are you, how's your acne now, and what are you doing for it? Times are always tough, and acne doesn't make you any better off. However, it's really up to you to make the best of it. Whatever you portray, being confidence, personality, smile, is what creates impressions on people. Your friends want you to hang out so do it. Maybe in little doses. Anything to take your mind off it can help. But you have to face the reality and live your life. It's much easier said than done and I can relate. I don't like going out with acne, but when you are out you make the best of it. CONFIDENCE! but its something you have to work at. Small steps

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im 19, my acne is HORRIABLE(filled with lots of hard acne that itches) because i have PCOS and it's a symptom of it (hormonal acne), i went to the derm. last week and he put me on sprio, doxy, and atralin (topical), im also on YAZ for my hormonal problems and acne.. i know i need to just go out with my friends and forget about it but it's hard i've never had acne this bad and i dont want people to make fun of me.. my friends are already planning spring break(which is 3 months away) but they need the money for everything now.. and i dont think im going to do it.. cause i don't know what my face is going to look like and if i go with my face like this i will be absolutly misserable.. thats the last thing a guy wants to do on spring break- hang out with some chick with acne all over her face!

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I understand you. Our face is the first thing we see in the mirror, so of course our first thought is to be repulsed at a face that looks different than the others. Where do your friends invite you to? If you can go to work and school, how come you find it difficult to go out in other social settings? Going to school and work already tells me that you have the power to overcome. You're acne will go away someday. I remember seeing some of your posts and the inspirational words you wrote have helped other members. The problem is the acne on your face that constrains you from showing others the true beauty that you possess. How can others see it if you don't? It's under a shell that you're having trouble coming out of. Perhaps it's time to reveal that beauty to the others that can't see it.

it's easy to tell people words of encourgement, the trick is taking your own advice.. it's just really hard and i can't do it i feel so horriable (and i know things could be way worse.. i could have cancer/death in the family/no mom or dad/etc.) i try to think like that.. that things could always be wrose but then i walk by a mirror and it the cycle happens all over again.. i go to school and work because i have to .. im a waitress so im good at 'faking it' around my tables and acting like its not there.. but i know it is.. i can't go out with my friends because i have no confidence and without confidence im no fun ill just sit there.. depressed.. and i dont want my friends to see me like that i know it will go away one day.. but it looks so bad now and i haven't seen any improvement i feel like it will never go away

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First off, that's just not true. Guys are not going to be repulsed by you, I'm sure. Granted, some people are just assholes and may make comments to their group about some imperfection like weight, acne, or something else. But I think that the majority of people definitely don't act that way. People are much more self-conscious than you think and the only reason people would act out and say anything is beacuse they are self-consious themselves. It's a self defensive mechanism. Do not let the acne stop you from having fun with your friends. You will meet plenty of enjoyable people that will enjoy hanging out with you. Besides, you will be with your friends who do appreciate you. I know from experience that it is difficult to face the world sometimes with acne and I'm sure others agree. When I was a senior in high school I had horrible acne and found it hard to be social at first. But slowly I made steps to be more outgoing and confident. Sometimes it felt like I was just putting an act on so noone would make fun of me, but people react to your behaviors and confidfence. Slowly I realised that people will appreiate you despite looks, but that's not to say you aren't attractive. You just have to try and portray yourself in that way. I know it's a struggle, but it's the only way to feel better. If people are put off by you than fuck them. Do what you want and know that there are much worse things than this and that this isn't going to stop you. Your behaviors will soon change your attitudes about yourself and perceptions people have of you. Obviously you are liked beacuse you have friends that want you around, so go out and be you. Be more than your average self if possible and exute strength. I don't really know why I am writing this, but I feel that this site is great for spreading hope and experience. I just recently started going back to this site because I myself am breaking out again. With enough support you can start to be yourself again and people will respond. Change your behaviors, change your attitudes and you will feel much better. This is your reality, so make it however you want. I hope this helps a little bit. I know it won't change things immediately, but know that people do want you to be around

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Thanks :) im going to try to start doing what you said being outgoing and all that.. it's going to be hard.. but i know one day it will just happen because ill be so fed up with this stupid feeling of depression because of my face.. thank you soo much

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i feel you on the hormonal front... i don't have pcos, but i have persistent ovarian cysts that are sometimes so painful, i wont get out of bed for 2 days. i know we don't really have the same problem, but the pill that has helped me is zovia. i don't get cysts as often, and when i do, they arent as painful.

the acne just makes it that much worse.....

i hope you start feeling better soon. just know we'll always be here at the org for support when you need it.

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Bah, I'm sure a lot of guys are going to want to talk to you. There are probably guys who have experienced feelings similar to your own or currently are. To be honest you have nothing to worry about, it's spring break and guys will talk to anything with two legs and a heartbeat.

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The people in high school and their younger years who are geeks and stay in doing nothing, never experiencing anything turn out to be losers for the rest of their life. The people going through hardship, something like acne tht knocks confidence a lot, BUT still goes out and faces the world, still talks to guys/girls, always turn out to be the charismatic person that everyone wants to be around, someone who truly understands people. so what is todays curse, is 2moro's blessing. Still go out and try your best not to worry or think about your skin, dont let it stop u from doing what u want. These guys are all right, be positive. good luck!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hi, I just started posting on here today....

www.acne.org/messageboard/Girls-acne-t219406.html&p=2474727#entry2474727

(I figured I'd send the link rather than retype the info.) I too have PCOS and I live just outside Indianapolis...noticed it says you are from there. Has your doctor tried you on Metformin for your PCOS? Metformin (for the high insulin levels sometimes associated with PCOS) along with Spironolactone "cured" my cystic acne. Are you seeing a regular doctor or a reproductive endocrinologist? I know of reproductive endocrinologists in Indy & Carmel, if you are interested. Anyways, I would love to be able to help you out. Let me know if you've got any questions.

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im just seeing a derm. right now.. i did see a endo. and she did a test on me and figured out i have PCOS.. my insulin levels are not high my testostorone is the thing thats through the roof. my derm put me on spiro and doxy i just started it last week..

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I never have had any luck with dermatologists....Even the "basic" endocrinologists I've been to seemed pretty ignorant about PCOS. I would definitely recommend seeing a Reproductive Endocrinologist. They tend to be fertility specialists, but PCOS is their speciality as well. I had one reproductive endo who had me on just one pill of metformin, but got another opinion from another reproductive endo and said my insulin levels were sky high to her even though they were within range from the lab. She tripled my dose of metformin!

Spiro and doxy may very well work, though. I seriously had no effect with the Spiro/Metformin until like 3 months and then just one day I noticed a difference. Some people seem to notice less oilness before then etc., but I saw no results what so ever until 3 months. So it takes time.

Best of luck.

im just seeing a derm. right now.. i did see a endo. and she did a test on me and figured out i have PCOS.. my insulin levels are not high my testostorone is the thing thats through the roof. my derm put me on spiro and doxy i just started it last week..

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thanks for all the help! nice to know im not alone with PCOS.. keep in touch.. ill think about seeing a reproductive endo. sounds like something i need :)

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im 19, my acne is HORRIABLE(filled with lots of hard acne that itches) because i have PCOS and it's a symptom of it (hormonal acne), i went to the derm. last week and he put me on sprio, doxy, and atralin (topical), im also on YAZ for my hormonal problems and acne.. i know i need to just go out with my friends and forget about it but it's hard i've never had acne this bad and i dont want people to make fun of me.. my friends are already planning spring break(which is 3 months away) but they need the money for everything now.. and i dont think im going to do it.. cause i don't know what my face is going to look like and if i go with my face like this i will be absolutly misserable.. thats the last thing a guy wants to do on spring break- hang out with some chick with acne all over her face!

if you're on YAZ you will have perfect beautiful skin for sure, so just be positive.

i wishh i was on YAZ! my best friend took this when she had acne, and now she has a perfect skin

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Did they ever do a two hour insulin test with you? It's where they draw blood then give you a "sugar" drink and then you come back a couple of hours later and retest again. My fasting insulin was "within" range, but my level 2 hours later is what was elevated. Anyways...If I think of anything else, I'll send you a message.

thanks for all the help! nice to know im not alone with PCOS.. keep in touch.. ill think about seeing a reproductive endo. sounds like something i need :)

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thanks everyone for all the postive messages back!! :)

i actually WENT OUT TONIGHT! WOOT WOOT.. haha and gave my number to a guy, he prolly wont call/text me cause of my face.. but hey im starting to feel a lil' like my old self again :dance:

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thanks :) i really appreciate it.. i just hate how whats on your face controls how you feel

Most True Thing Ever Said.

If God Exists, Why Does Acne....

*sigh*

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I've been in the same position as you.. I still am a lot of times. However I guess I can say this is mild compare to other health problems I have now. Yes my face is still not perfect but I'd rather be healthy overall more than anything now.

But I definitely know what you're going through. I went through the same thing for the whole bulk of high school and middle school. Now I just feel better even if I do have acne. However I guess it depends on what other things your going through if it's just the acne it'll probably not be hard to get over but still easier than if you have a ton of things piling up.

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