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19 and still a virgin, havnt even really had any offers..havent even kissed a girl since i was 15. i wouldnt have a clue how to go about getting sex and i dont have much confidence.

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Well i'm 21 and still a virgin and never had a girlfriend but I don't really care anymore I am more focus on my career now. I don't know if this is a bad thing but I don't think I ever will want a relationship.

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not to be rude by have u been living under a rock.

i live in a rural, conservative town in michigan, go to a conservative school, and yet society around me is liberal. I mean people now a days (including my self) have no morals, and only are concerned with please. sex, smoke weed, every1 does it, every 1.

america has no morals. and i am in a racist, god fearing town of whites. your out in liberal cali, i can only imagine how f'd up society is there.

out next president is a socialist and supported killing babies after failed aboritons. we live in a sick country. is it shocking? maybee it should be, but what do you expect. never cornform to the norm, keep your values, cause once you loose em, there lost forever

Ok...WHOA.

Is anyone else going to say something about the large amounts of stupidity in this post?

First of all, Timothy, you use words like "racist" and "god fearing" almost like you think these are actually good qualities to have in a town.

That, in and of itself, scares me.

Second, Obama = not a socialist.

You're probably one of those people that also thinks he's a secret Muslim, aren't you? Haha.

Also, what exactly is so horribly wrong with socialism, anyway?

I have never understood why Americans are so afraid of it.

I mean, really, has consumer capitalism really ever been doing anything good for this country?

Do you not realize that certain parts of our society are already socialized and that a lot of other parts should be? Do you have a problem with public schooling and public libraries? Do you actually think that privatization has been working thus far for health care in this country?

THIRD, being pro-choice and not wanting to overturn Roe v. Wade is NOT EVEN REMOTELY the same thing as "supporting the killing of babies." No one is really "pro-abortion." Being pro-choice just means that you realize that abortion is too sensitive and polarizing of a subject to leave up to the government. It has to be a personal choice. The people who want/need abortions are going to get them even if they're illegal. We're just going to have a lot of deformed babies and dead women if abortions are outlawed. If you don't like abortion and it's legal, all you have to do is not get one. It's not that hard. Hell, I've managed to go all of my twenty years without getting an abortion. It's not like they're offered on every street corner like drugs or hot dogs.

We do live in a sick country, but not for the reasons you mentioned.

It's because we, as a society, promote intolerance, ignorance, fear, and hatred.

Okay, I'm done now. Sorry about the off-topic rant, OP.

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I'm a virgin, and it's more of an emotional thing for me. I want to be in a kind, caring relationship with someone I love, married or not. And whether that comes when I'm 16 or 30, it really doesn't matter to me. Besides, I heard that while for guys it's really pleasurable and stuff, for girls it really hurts and you bleed like crazy. At least that's what my best friend told me (she had it for the first time, like, a week ago.)

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Besides, I heard that while for guys it's really pleasurable and stuff, for girls it really hurts and you bleed like crazy. At least that's what my best friend told me (she had it for the first time, like, a week ago.)

It shouldn't have to be that way, and it doesn't have to be. This is where sex education fails women, and their partners really. Sex should never be painful or traumatic, and if it is, someone is doing something wrong. The hymen doesn't have to be burst through like it's a door to be beat down with a battering ram :rolleyes:. If there's any blood or pain, it should be a slight discomfort at worst. Too many teenage girls and boys think your friend's experience is "normal" and accept that. That's quite traumatic and frightening for a woman, IMO....

One more good reason to wait until you have a partner who is emotionally mature enough to be concerned with your needs ;)

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I'm 18, male, a freshman in college, and still a virgin. It is so easy to get laid these day and there are so many whores, the only thing you have to do is basically ask. NO but really, I'm just waiting for the right girl and when I find her I hope it goes and feels as I hope.

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Hmm, well, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21, so no, it's not unheard of, nor even as unusual as some may lead you to believe. Unlike a lot of the higher-minded guys/gals in this thread though, I wasn't intentionally waiting on the basis of religion or an obscured emotional concept, I literally never had the opportunity (excepting one incident where I was too stupid to realize until later that I was getting the green light. And dont' think that didn't keep me up at night later). Never even got past first base, as a matter of fact. Not only was I not proud of being a virgin, I was ashamed, insecure, and felt genuinely unwanted and unwantable.

And, as a point of fact, in the four years since that relationship ended, I haven't had sex again, which has engendered that same insecurity and desperation again (a few opportunities have presented themselves, but both involved girls who were far too intoxicated to have any idea what they were doing, so I couldn't in good conscience go ahead with it). I envy the people around here who are so mature and positive about it.

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sex is good stuff, increases blood flow which increases healing. Less acne. Thing about sex its a lot less special than you think it is, dont be disappointed if you wait till your married and the sex is bad, and doesnt mean much.

Well...I certainly don't think that way! It's going to be very special, and mean a whole heck of lot to me and the husband. I'm not sure about the "good" part. I'm sure that comes with practice, but still, I think that when you are in a relationship where you wholeheartedly love and respect one another, and it's then solidified by marriage...the sex is just amazing.

I understand that a lot of people don't feel that way, and that's fine. But I do, and I can wait until I find that person.

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The reason I asked this is because in my human sexuality class my professor asked us to write down on a piece of paper if we are a virgin or not. She then collected the papers and did a poll and to my amazement I found that I am the only virgin in the class.

You will find a lot of people bullshit this.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. It will happen when u least expect it and hopefully with someone really special you.

All the best.

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Personally I'm not a virgin but there seems to be a lot of people who are waiting till they're married. How are you guys finding it? I only ask because one of my flatmates (22) recently lost his virginity. He had been waiting until he was married but had to reduce it to a loving relationship because girls simply weren't interested in him.

To be honest I understand, whilst I'd be happy to wait a few months until we're certain we're in love (or at least think we are) I couldn't wait until marriage. The reason for this is that I don't plan on getting married for a while and sex certainly is a big priority in a relationship.

So how are the no-sex till marriage guys finding relationships? Because nearly all of the guys who I know that share that belief have never had a serious, meaningful long-term adult relationship.

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It doesnt matter whether you're a virgin anot, its overrated. Usually virgin thinks that sex is heavenly and all and the pussy feels like soooo goood you get a euphoric high or something. truth is, it does feel good but I was dissapointed the first time i put it in. Its more of a mind game. Sometimes, masturbation gets u feeling higher. serious.

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yikes, i lost my virginity on my 16th birthday. personally, i dont think waiting for sex makes it any more special. me and my fiance have a bomb ass sex life, and it wouldn't be that way if we hadn't both done our fair share of experimenting, hahah. i'm 21, btw.

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Well i'm 21 and still a virgin and never had a girlfriend but I don't really care anymore I am more focus on my career now. I don't know if this is a bad thing but I don't think I ever will want a relationship.

Same here. I've been in one relationship and that was two years ago. I don't foresee my relationship status changing any time soon.

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Besides, I heard that while for guys it's really pleasurable and stuff, for girls it really hurts and you bleed like crazy. At least that's what my best friend told me (she had it for the first time, like, a week ago.)

It shouldn't have to be that way, and it doesn't have to be. This is where sex education fails women, and their partners really. Sex should never be painful or traumatic, and if it is, someone is doing something wrong. The hymen doesn't have to be burst through like it's a door to be beat down with a battering ram :rolleyes:. If there's any blood or pain, it should be a slight discomfort at worst. Too many teenage girls and boys think your friend's experience is "normal" and accept that. That's quite traumatic and frightening for a woman, IMO....

One more good reason to wait until you have a partner who is emotionally mature enough to be concerned with your needs ;)

I hear you should expect a moderate amount of soreness the first few times, but not . . . death. I asked for an upper number of how many times it would hurt and was given "10". Most women I've talked to have said it's pretty disappointing, though, until you've been practicing for awhile.

Edit: What pisses me off is when I tell people I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years, but we're not having sex. Without fail, they immediately assume he's cheating. :angry:

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I'm a virgin as well, and plan on being one until my boyfriend and I get married! My boyfriend and I are Christians so that plays a big role in our choice to not become sexually active. Honestly though, I'm proud of my choice. I believe having sex with my future husband will be very special because we have waited for one another.

Yay for waiting till marriage!

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not to be rude by have u been living under a rock.

i live in a rural, conservative town in michigan, go to a conservative school, and yet society around me is liberal. I mean people now a days (including my self) have no morals, and only are concerned with please. sex, smoke weed, every1 does it, every 1.

america has no morals. and i am in a racist, god fearing town of whites. your out in liberal cali, i can only imagine how f'd up society is there.

out next president is a socialist and supported killing babies after failed aboritons. we live in a sick country. is it shocking? maybee it should be, but what do you expect. never cornform to the norm, keep your values, cause once you loose em, there lost forever

Ok...WHOA.

Is anyone else going to say something about the large amounts of stupidity in this post?

First of all, Timothy, you use words like "racist" and "god fearing" almost like you think these are actually good qualities to have in a town.

That, in and of itself, scares me.

Second, Obama = not a socialist.

You're probably one of those people that also thinks he's a secret Muslim, aren't you? Haha.

Also, what exactly is so horribly wrong with socialism, anyway?

I have never understood why Americans are so afraid of it.

I mean, really, has consumer capitalism really ever been doing anything good for this country?

Do you not realize that certain parts of our society are already socialized and that a lot of other parts should be? Do you have a problem with public schooling and public libraries? Do you actually think that privatization has been working thus far for health care in this country?

THIRD, being pro-choice and not wanting to overturn Roe v. Wade is NOT EVEN REMOTELY the same thing as "supporting the killing of babies." No one is really "pro-abortion." Being pro-choice just means that you realize that abortion is too sensitive and polarizing of a subject to leave up to the government. It has to be a personal choice. The people who want/need abortions are going to get them even if they're illegal. We're just going to have a lot of deformed babies and dead women if abortions are outlawed. If you don't like abortion and it's legal, all you have to do is not get one. It's not that hard. Hell, I've managed to go all of my twenty years without getting an abortion. It's not like they're offered on every street corner like drugs or hot dogs.

We do live in a sick country, but not for the reasons you mentioned.

It's because we, as a society, promote intolerance, ignorance, fear, and hatred.

Okay, I'm done now. Sorry about the off-topic rant, OP.

I think I love you.

sex is good stuff, increases blood flow which increases healing. Less acne. Thing about sex its a lot less special than you think it is, dont be disappointed if you wait till your married and the sex is bad, and doesnt mean much.

I think the thing is, if you have a foundation of love, respect, good communication, and commitment, then you're more likely to be able to work out problems in the bedroom...

On the other hand, a relationship based on sex & physical aspects in general is going to find it a lot harder to overcome hurdles concerning love, respect, communication, and commitment.

As far as "less acne" goes, I'm pretty sure that is not a fact....

But I do agree on not having super high expectations for the first time....even if you're in a great relationship.

Exactly. :) Considering you're not married, Siouxsie (nor I think in a long-term relationship), you certainly have an exceptionally common-sense approach to just about everything. Your lack of real-life experience (you are rather young!) does not show at all in your reasoned and logical responses. The man who earns you will be lucky indeed.

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not to be rude by have u been living under a rock.

i live in a rural, conservative town in michigan, go to a conservative school, and yet society around me is liberal. I mean people now a days (including my self) have no morals, and only are concerned with please. sex, smoke weed, every1 does it, every 1.

america has no morals. and i am in a racist, god fearing town of whites. your out in liberal cali, i can only imagine how f'd up society is there.

out next president is a socialist and supported killing babies after failed aboritons. we live in a sick country. is it shocking? maybee it should be, but what do you expect. never cornform to the norm, keep your values, cause once you loose em, there lost forever

Ok...WHOA.

Is anyone else going to say something about the large amounts of stupidity in this post?

First of all, Timothy, you use words like "racist" and "god fearing" almost like you think these are actually good qualities to have in a town.

That, in and of itself, scares me.

Second, Obama = not a socialist.

You're probably one of those people that also thinks he's a secret Muslim, aren't you? Haha.

Also, what exactly is so horribly wrong with socialism, anyway?

I have never understood why Americans are so afraid of it.

I mean, really, has consumer capitalism really ever been doing anything good for this country?

Do you not realize that certain parts of our society are already socialized and that a lot of other parts should be? Do you have a problem with public schooling and public libraries? Do you actually think that privatization has been working thus far for health care in this country?

THIRD, being pro-choice and not wanting to overturn Roe v. Wade is NOT EVEN REMOTELY the same thing as "supporting the killing of babies." No one is really "pro-abortion." Being pro-choice just means that you realize that abortion is too sensitive and polarizing of a subject to leave up to the government. It has to be a personal choice. The people who want/need abortions are going to get them even if they're illegal. We're just going to have a lot of deformed babies and dead women if abortions are outlawed. If you don't like abortion and it's legal, all you have to do is not get one. It's not that hard. Hell, I've managed to go all of my twenty years without getting an abortion. It's not like they're offered on every street corner like drugs or hot dogs.

We do live in a sick country, but not for the reasons you mentioned.

It's because we, as a society, promote intolerance, ignorance, fear, and hatred.

Okay, I'm done now. Sorry about the off-topic rant, OP.

i obviously wasn't using "racist" or "god fearing" as complements, i was pretty blantantly making fun of my town . . .

im not an ignorant person who calls obama muslim, that has nothing to do with socalism so i would kike to know why you mentioned that ? its the universal health care, against free trade, the bailout plan, redistribuation of wealth (making every1 equal), thats makes his doctrine socalist. whats bad about socialism? threw out history, it has been the transistion stage to communism, EX. wwII . . . communism sucks

if you have a problem with capitalism, get out of america. go to china or russia or cuba. it seems like thats what you want, and I have nothing agaisnt you if thats what you want. I believe in the American dream, that we all have an equal opportunity. However, who ever is successful should have better lives than the poor and lazy people. We shouldn;t take away from the rich and give to the poor, thats not American, thats communism.

my claiming of supporting the killing of babies had nothing to do with abortion in general, it is a necessary evil. i personally am against abortion, but have no right to tell a woman what to do. However, sometimes aboritons dont work, it called a failed abortion. the baby would come out born alive after a failed abortion, and Obama voted against protecting their rights. He said kill them. There was a clinic in inner city Chicago, after failed abortion nurses would put the babies in a room and let them die. They wouldnt kill the baby, just leave it for dead. This issue came to the senate, luckily they voted to stop it. Obama was one of the few to vote against it. http://www.nrlc.org/obamaBAIPA/ObamaCoverup.html

thank you thank you for reading, i look foward to your rebuttal, although i think you just misunderstood my points

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sex is a very beautiful and wonderful thing.... to be experienced by two people deeply committed by marriage to one another. i see sex as a very sacrificial thing, giving my body to the one i love to enjoy and cherish. and he in turn respects my body, loves my body, and wants to give me as much pleasure as i give him. it's not about the instant gratification of one another's needs, or even a way we prove our love, but a highly intensified emotional connection that signifies our commitment to one another, as our two bodies become one. (okay, that kind of sounded like a cheesy romance novel, but that's really how i feel about sex.)

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If you're not having sex for religious reasons, well, fine, I guess I can understand that, there's no sense in arguing with you.

But if religion isn't your reason, you are crazy to avoid sex. Yeah sex isn't a big deal in many ways, yeah it's overhyped by music and the media but it's an important part of being a human. At it's best it can be a beautiful and fun experience. Plus, like others said, sex is more enjoyable after you've done it a few times and get better at it. Moreover, if you have sex with a few partners, you won't feel like you missed out on anything once you settle into a long-term relationship.

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If you're not having sex for religious reasons, well, fine, I guess I can understand that, there's no sense in arguing with you.

But if religion isn't your reason, you are crazy to avoid sex. Yeah sex isn't a big deal in many ways, yeah it's overhyped by music and the media but it's an important part of being a human. At it's best it can be a beautiful and fun experience. Plus, like others said, sex is more enjoyable after you've done it a few times and get better at it. Moreover, if you have sex with a few partners, you won't feel like you missed out on anything once you settle into a long-term relationship.

Ah yes...all that you'll miss out on....possible disease, unwanted pregnancy, causing and/or receiving emotional pain... You've got to be crazy to take sex seriously and reserve it for a loving, committed relationship :rolleyes:

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If you're not having sex for religious reasons, well, fine, I guess I can understand that, there's no sense in arguing with you.

But if religion isn't your reason, you are crazy to avoid sex. Yeah sex isn't a big deal in many ways, yeah it's overhyped by music and the media but it's an important part of being a human. At it's best it can be a beautiful and fun experience. Plus, like others said, sex is more enjoyable after you've done it a few times and get better at it. Moreover, if you have sex with a few partners, you won't feel like you missed out on anything once you settle into a long-term relationship.

Ah yes...all that you'll miss out on....possible disease, unwanted pregnancy, causing and/or receiving emotional pain... You've got to be crazy to take sex seriously and reserve it for a loving, committed relationship :rolleyes:

:clap::clap:

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