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MellowFellow

27 years old never had a girlfriend

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oh no, not this again....

look man, if your life sucks so bad why don't you try and change it? I know its hard, but you can do it. i used to be a social recluse but i suddenly decided to change. im not perfect but i'm certianly better then i was 3 years ago...

if you love that girl, you should fight for her man, try to gain some self esteem, if she can't make you change, then it ain't love

I did try to make something of my life,I went to college,graduated...I tried to find something I can cling to and would bring enjoyment and so I studied the stock market.After all that time and effort,I broke out with new indented scars several weeks ago and i'm down and out again.It's like the powers that be have no mercy for me even after I tried to overcome the obstacles they put in front of me.Can you see why i'm so p1ssed? I tried to make my life better but God takes another dump on me anyways.It's like WTF???Why God?Why are you beating me while i'm already down?

Selfish fuck. I find it extremly hard to believe that you're 27. Almost everyone on this page experiences outbreaks from time to time, and I bet my left testicle that there are hundreds, if not thousands of users just on this forum who have more severe acne than you. Getting a college degree doesn't change anything internally, you're still the same person although you're able to make money which doesn't mean SHIT for happiness. God? Are you fucking kidding me? Read up on self-improvement, not how to earn more money. Change your life by changing yourself, don't change your life by getting a bigger house, a more expensive car, a new vase in your living room and a new kitchen table. If it's not clear to you already, you'll eat all of your meals alone around that kitchen table for the rest of your life unless you fix yourself.

Now go feel even more sorry for yourself because even people on the internet don't like you. Or you can choose to take the advice people are giving you, stop being pathetic and change your life for the better.

lol. i hope hell falls down on top of you. :D

MellowFellow: i feel the same way. believe me, you don't need anyone. they'll only cause you more pain...trust me on this. they'll perceive your feelings as weakness and they won't want any part of it. they'll feel drug down after a while, and then they'll leave you. you're in a really fragile state and you're too easily broken.

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Dream as if you'll live forever, and live as if you'll die today -James Dean

great quote.You know,you put me in the mood to watch an old movie.I'm gonna see if there's anything on the tube.

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Dream as if you'll live forever, and live as if you'll die today -James Dean

great quote.You know,you put me in the mood to watch an old movie.I'm gonna see if there's anything on the tube.

good idea! find something with Marlon Brando in it, and think of me! HA! :cool:

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Considered accutane? If it's ruined your life like this then I don't see why not to try it. People are scared of dieing and such if they take it, but think of it this way, you'll either kill acne, or die trying.

Or, if you can't get it, look in my sig for my vitamin A log. It's got the same results as accutane, just more dangers.

You tell people to try accutane a lot. Not complaining, just an observation.

It seems to be very true though..accutane is like one of those miracle medications that saves your self esteem. It's got a failure rate but it's extremely low to my knowing.

it's something you should def consider if your sad like this :(

I hope all works out for you

I tell people to try it a lot because it's the only real cure, and I've talked to people who's lives have been changed for the better by it.

Only reason people are scared of it is because the side effects are over-hyped. "Oh, someone once killed themselves whilst on tane so it's evil." Maybe the fact they had severe acne and needed the tane meant they couldn't cope with all the crap the world gives them, or no support from parents, or bullying etc. The side effects are way over-hyped, and if it were up to me, accutane would be the first line of treatment for acne.

We have two of the worlds most strongest hospitals and that is Harvard/MGH, and they do NOT prescribe Accutane unless it's been approved by more than one opinion from Dermatologist. Even then, you have to sign waivers. They stop prescribing it because of the side effects.

I'm in Boston too, but ANY doctor is able to prescribe Accutane, they just need to register for that process, which is really just to protect girls from getting pregnant on it. I got it from my family doctor. I don't know about side-effects, but except some elevated Triglycerides and the usual chapped lips, I had no side effects.

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im not going to be harsh as some people on here mate. if dont go out or socialise then your never going to get a girlfriend. there not going to come knocking on your door.

So true.

Get the fuck out and meet some girls!

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Dream as if you'll live forever, and live as if you'll die today -James Dean

great quote.You know,you put me in the mood to watch an old movie.I'm gonna see if there's anything on the tube.

And Mellow, why have I never seen you post in the Scar treatments section of the forum? Put up some pictures because you say "really bad" but in reality, it may not be.

And though now my scars are becoming less and less of a thought on my mind because I've been pretty successful in my scar revision, they used to be very very bad. And I dated people who didn't see them at all, while I had to turn down several advances in college (when they were at their worst).

Now I'm more worried about my stocks lol. What have you been playing?

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Dream as if you'll live forever, and live as if you'll die today -James Dean

great quote.You know,you put me in the mood to watch an old movie.I'm gonna see if there's anything on the tube.

And Mellow, why have I never seen you post in the Scar treatments section of the forum? Put up some pictures because you say "really bad" but in reality, it may not be.

And though now my scars are becoming less and less of a thought on my mind because I've been pretty successful in my scar revision, they used to be very very bad. And I dated people who didn't see them at all, while I had to turn down several advances in college (when they were at their worst).

Now I'm more worried about my stocks lol. What have you been playing?

I'm too self conscious to post pictures of myself up.I'm a weanie I know.But's hard for me to do that. I used to go to the board alot but I got discouraged after reading about tca cross on the board and then going out and getting the procedure done only to back fire.I'm really skeptical about any procedure unless it's a valid permanent filler without a real threat of negative consequences.That seems to be a long time away.

What procedures did you get done for your scars?Like I said,i'm just too weary of getting anything invasive done because of my prior experience.

As for stocks I know everybody talks about diversification but all i have right now is visa.I believe it will be a solid stock for the next few years.Economy is not good but people still have to purchase gas and food.what do they use?Their visa cards. They don't issue debt so they're not under siege and exposed like the true financial stocks and they got great growth potential in China and India.It's not going to sky rocket like Mastercard did but it will be solid.

Now because it's the busy time of season at work I can't trade as much anymore.But if I was I'd be shorting the airlines and retailers like crazy.I'd also be shorting the stocks that went up greatly since March since I believe this is a double bottom.But that's just my opnion.

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You know, people on this board have posted tons of pictures of scars..and I'm sure your degree of scarring is nothing we havn't seen before already on this board. No reason to be embarrassed or anything.trust me.

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I think it's all over-hyped, most people on here never have a problem with it, it's just the minorities who have a bad reaction that they watch out for, and then comes the red tape.

The most ridiculous post ever.

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I think it's all over-hyped, most people on here never have a problem with it, it's just the minorities who have a bad reaction that they watch out for, and then comes the red tape.

The most ridiculous post ever.

I agree. Think Before You Speak.

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You know, people on this board have posted tons of pictures of scars..and I'm sure your degree of scarring is nothing we havn't seen before already on this board. No reason to be embarrassed or anything.trust me.

It's the fact I got to look at myself when I post the picture.I hate looking at myself.LOL.

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IF

If you think you are beaten, you are.

If you think you dare not, you don't.

If you'd like to win, but think you can't,

It's almost certain you won't.

If you think you'll lose, you've lost.

For out of the world we find

Success begins with a fellows will.

It's all in the state of mind.

If you think you're outclassed, you are.

You've got to think high to rise.

You've got to be sure of yourself before

You can ever win a prize.

Life's battles don't always go

To the stronger or faster person.

But sooner or later the person who wins

Is the one who thinks they can.

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A few months ago I was really down about not ever having a girlfiriend, but after thinking about it alot, its not the fix all in life. It feels kind of good to just have friends and time to hang out without having to worry about a relationship.

But if you really want a girlfriend, you got to make an effort, its not going to be handed to you.

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Dream as if you'll live forever, and live as if you'll die today -James Dean

great quote.You know,you put me in the mood to watch an old movie.I'm gonna see if there's anything on the tube.

And Mellow, why have I never seen you post in the Scar treatments section of the forum? Put up some pictures because you say "really bad" but in reality, it may not be.

And though now my scars are becoming less and less of a thought on my mind because I've been pretty successful in my scar revision, they used to be very very bad. And I dated people who didn't see them at all, while I had to turn down several advances in college (when they were at their worst).

Now I'm more worried about my stocks lol. What have you been playing?

I'm too self conscious to post pictures of myself up.I'm a weanie I know.But's hard for me to do that. I used to go to the board alot but I got discouraged after reading about tca cross on the board and then going out and getting the procedure done only to back fire.I'm really skeptical about any procedure unless it's a valid permanent filler without a real threat of negative consequences.That seems to be a long time away.

What procedures did you get done for your scars?Like I said,i'm just too weary of getting anything invasive done because of my prior experience.

As for stocks I know everybody talks about diversification but all i have right now is visa.I believe it will be a solid stock for the next few years.Economy is not good but people still have to purchase gas and food.what do they use?Their visa cards. They don't issue debt so they're not under siege and exposed like the true financial stocks and they got great growth potential in China and India.It's not going to sky rocket like Mastercard did but it will be solid.

Now because it's the busy time of season at work I can't trade as much anymore.But if I was I'd be shorting the airlines and retailers like crazy.I'd also be shorting the stocks that went up greatly since March since I believe this is a double bottom.But that's just my opnion.

V sounds good, I sold bought it at IPO and sold it when it popped to 70. I'm heavily invested in ETFC, I use it to trade and I'm positive of a turn-around (and a subsequent 2-3x bagger)

Look, I never post in this section of the forum. I think I clicked on it from the left subsection of the main messageboard link.

I think you need to atleast *try*, which is what it sounds like you haven't done. What happened with your TCA Cross treatment?

For me, so far I've done Needling (with a pro), Fraxel, and topicals. And I can tell you from just topicals alone (Retin-A, Vitamin-C creams etc) I've gotten significant improvement. The needling has elevated my most atrophic scars while Fraxel has been good for at-least the smaller and rolling scars and evening tone and texture.

The thing is, people treat scar treatment like a "Oh I'll fraxel once a month and then just cross my fingers while doing nothing else for my skin". That's completely the wrong approach. It's holistic, like most things in life, you need to get the proper sleep, nutrition, and even supplements (I take 4 grams of V-C a day). Like working out at the gym, you can lift as hard as you want, but at the end of the day if you don't get enough protein, sleep, or even just calories, you're not going to grow.

Treat scar revision the same way, start by assessing what type of scars you have and what would be a good starting treatment. Go with topicals that work (Vitamin-C, Retinoids, Copper Peptides) while making a conscious decision to eat and sleep better. Join a gym if you haven't already, a body is sometimes just as important as your face.

Keep at it for a year and you'll be seeing amazing progress. You're young and the collagen will build back.

I can't give you specific advice without pictures, but frankly just topicals will do you alot of good.

And like all things, when your 50 or 60 years old, everyone's appearances will fade. You don't want to be that old and realize well, I guess it wasn't *that* important after-all, though I realize for our age group, it is very important to our psyche and self-confidence. Just realize that older people have relationships and everything as well!

Ultimately you have to go out and make it happen for yourself.

And... my cereal has become soggy so I hope you'll take some of my advice and I don't have to eat my soggy cereal for nothing! :)

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Post a picture. We all have acne here, and we all have scars. If we can look at ourselves, then you can look at yourself. Who knows, maybe with the combined advice of all of us (rather than working on it alone like you have been) we'll be able to help you look, and more importantly feel, much better.

I'll tell you right now that I'll be your friend. I haven't been through what you have, but reading about how you feel like you've missed out on the things that everyone takes for granted was like reading my own biography. I think you and I have had very similar experiences in high school. When I was a little kid I was actually pretty outgoing, and I had some friends. Then over the summer between middle school and high school my family moved and my skin started breaking out. I didn't know anyone at this new school, and I was honestly to embarrassed to talk to anyone because I felt like a walking game of connect the dots. It only took about two months of eating lunch alone and having family members ask "what happened to my face" or tell me "I needed to take better care of my skin" (when I was killing myself trying product after product after product...) for me to go from confident and happy to alone, insecure, and outright desolate. The acne got worse, and I shied away from people more and more until eventually I realized that I was graduating high school a person who had never laughed with friends, who didn't go to the prom, who didn't have his first date... hell, I never even learned to ride a bike because I had nowhere to go and no one to see. I've always been a great student, high grades on everything, but I failed out of 3 schools before graduating via GED because I got to a point that I just felt too weak to even show up. It was like living in a glass box, watching all these people around me enjoying life and all I could do was watch in isolation. Long and agonizing story short, I understand a little bit about how you feel.

Then, thank god, in College I met a girl. Looking back, she's actually not the first person who tried to talk to me - she is however, the first person that I responded to. I felt like I was a waste of her time, but for some reason I figured I'd let her suffer my presence for a little while. I don't know what's wrong with her, or how someone like her even exists, but she actually found my social ineptness charming. She asked me out, because she knew I didn't have the courage to ask her out, and she took me to the beach. The entire time, I was practically paralyzed with anxiety. I was actually trying to keep the sun behind me so my acne would be in shadow and harder to see like I was worried that maybe she just hadn't noticed it yet or something. She kept taking me places, and I got paranoid that she had some other reason for liking me, that she just felt sorry for me or something, and eventually I snapped and asked her if she loved me - and she said yes. I almost cried, because at that moment I actually felt connected to another human - something I hadn't felt before, ever. I stopped fighting my relationship with her - I stopped fighting myself. As soon as I was able to let her in, I also started letting other people in.

Three years later she and I are still dating. I've had acne the whole time, though I've recently gotten it under control. She, has never had acne. It really didn't matter to her because she knew that I would love her more than any other person in the world - and everyday I make sure she knows how right she is to believe that!

Breaking out of that glass box was as simple as muting my internal dialogue. I thought so damn much to myself that I didn't have room for anyone else! I had to learn to stop criticizing myself long enough to realize that no one else was. I had to learn that all the trauma I went through in high school was over, and that even though I still have acne and I still freeze up in social situations it doesn't matter. My life will be as good as I let it be.

Now I'm obviously not the person that you're going to spend your life with, but maybe I can be the person who'll help you find her, and who'll help you let her love you. In other words, I'll be your friend. If you'll let me.

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dude i know its sucks, i was there, but like my first gf only came when i was 20 but like i was like you never think i can get a girl but i read something called 'the secret' and somehow it helped me, i think it taught me to learn to love myself, every time i go out i see girls checking me out and now im seeing like three girls (i know its bad but that's what you can achieve if you love yourself and set your mind to something). you should really try checking it out.

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Well punching, needling, microderms,chemical peels, laser treatments,emu oil ( or vitamin e),getting some retin-a...can all help scars.

That's all I could think of at the moment...

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I didn't get my first girlfriend til I was 18 and that was only because my acne cleared up. I was very lucky that my acne disappeared at such an important time. Mind you, it came back about 15 months later and stayed for another 3.5 years. This fucked up my early 20's big time. I spilit up with my girlfriend and a month later bad acne came back. I was then single (AKA didn't have sex) for over 2 years.

If I'd have never had any clear spells then I reckon I would be sat here 25 years old having never even kissed a girl.

It's a sad life that acne bestows on us.

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im not going to be harsh as some people on here mate. if dont go out or socialise then your never going to get a girlfriend. there not going to come knocking on your door.

So true.

Get the fuck out and meet some girls!

go clubbing its dark and the women are drunk which makes it alot easier.

you might not find the women of dreams but you will get sexy action

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Yes listen to shawnW, he practically describe me in high school too. My advice is to heal your emotional scars and your self-image first, that acne caused before you go spending money. I read many stories, that even when they get there scars corrected physically, they continued to act and behave inferior regardless of the changes of physically appearance. Why? Its as if personality has a face and if that remains scarred the person will continue to act out this role as a inferior person.

As for not having a girlfriend, this requires you going to places where girls are, and not being a recluse. First you need to realize women are social creatures, and if your not social and don't display certain social characteristics, attracting women becomes null. So what are they? What makes you stand out in a crowd and makes women think your interesting. Well the big 5 are:

1. Be A Leader Of MEN: Think of your self as the chief of your group, if your not the chief of your group then you need to start your own, because the MAN who makes decisions, who leads and teaches others, and makes decisions for himself and his group, is getting laid period. And start taking on the responsibilities of playing this role projecting a image of a strong person. Join a gym, take vocal lessons project your voice, be loud. Above all be confident. Never supplicate by being a follower, or cower to others or hide, or be a macho toughguy bully people of low status behave like this.

2.Pre-Selected by others especially women: For one this suggests competition, and women secretly hate each other :) j/k especially if there is man involved. But seriously this conveys that you only date women of great beauty and status. Act like a man of high status.

3.Protector of loved ones: Able to look after her, yourself and potential offspring.

4.A willing to emote: The ability to sher her the range of your emotions. You have to demonstrate to her very clearly that you are someone who is willing to act on their emotions. It just so happens that your emotions lead you towards being pre-selected by women, a leader of men, and a protector of loved ones. But don't act like a wussy, like crying over kittens, blue skies and rainbows. Show some humor, anger, vulnerability ect. when appropriate.

5.Willingness to walk away: Theres a point where you will have to show her that you want her, but that youre willing to walk away if she doesnt adhere to the standards youve set for her. Conveys that your a prize, something of value, and your fading from her. Don't get caught in the friend zone, nothing escapes not even light! :dance:

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