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I know in my school i'd consider alot of these fake gang members retarded.

Have you told them how you feel?

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My skin has changed, but my character and personality, which is not associated with acne, hasn't changed. I was still outgoing, even though i hated my skin (not anymore, finally cleard up), i still managed to be social, or at least, have some sort of interaction with people.

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Have I told them how I feel? No. It ain't like i'm scared of them though, most of them are either really scrawny or fat. I actually hope one day they start something with me. It'd be the best chapter in my pathetic life already.

Ah, its good to have muscles and martial arts knowledge. Even if I do abuse it.

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I'm the same.

I've spent a long time isolating myself (all my fault, I let my confidence issues completely take over) that it becomes very difficult when I do have to be social and circumstances force me to be around other people.

It's not even so much that I'm nervous (though I still am, but on a much lesser scale than I have been in the past... ) but I just don't know how to socialise anymore, you know? Standing around a bunch of people, someone might attempt to talk to me, and I'll just stand there like a lemon. I'm so un-used to being around human company that I don't know how to act or what I should stay. It all feels very artificial and I always end up feeling like a twerp.

Not to mention the fact that I should be going to college in September, so I have no idea how I'll cope when I'm thrusted into a new social setting... a little apprehensive about that.

Really, I think the only way to overcome this is to get out there as much as you can, and to force yourself into situations you'd rather avoid. Then, hopefully it will start to become easier and you'll build up confidence slowly... but that all sounds too easy doesn't it? :confused:

Erpatter has a good point too- if you enter into (or attempt) a conversation thinking that you're going to come across badly, then you probably will... but if you learn to approach people with no expectations of what the outcome will be, or even better... believe that you'll be ok and are capable of having a decent conversation then perhaps things will turn out more positively. I think it also helps to view situations as being useful for your own good, rather than solely for making a good impression on somebody else. For instance, next time you're with someone... think of it more as an opportunity for you to improve your social skills instead of worrying so much about what the other person thinks, and being fully occupied with how you're coming across to them. Be a little selfish in that respect, and remember you're trying to help yourself out not provide them with the most entertaining conversation they've ever had.

Sorry I can't give much useful advice, but I do I hope you start to find things a bit easier, well... you & I! :angel:

Mark my words... we'll be social butterflies this time next year (perhaps...)

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I'm the same.

I've spent a long time isolating myself (all my fault, I let my confidence issues completely take over) that it becomes very difficult when I do have to be social and circumstances force me to be around other people.

It's not even so much that I'm nervous (though I still am, but on a much lesser scale than I have been in the past... ) but I just don't know how to socialise anymore, you know? Standing around a bunch of people, someone might attempt to talk to me, and I'll just stand there like a lemon. I'm so un-used to being around human company that I don't know how to act or what I should stay. It all feels very artificial and I always end up feeling like a twerp.

Not to mention the fact that I should be going to college in September, so I have no idea how I'll cope when I'm thrusted into a new social setting... a little apprehensive about that.

Really, I think the only way to overcome this is to get out there as much as you can, and to force yourself into situations you'd rather avoid. Then, hopefully it will start to become easier and you'll build up confidence slowly... but that all sounds too easy doesn't it? :confused:

Erpatter has a good point too- if you enter into (or attempt) a conversation thinking that you're going to come across badly, then you probably will... but if you learn to approach people with no expectations of what the outcome will be, or even better... believe that you'll be ok and are capable of having a decent conversation then perhaps things will turn out more positively. I think it also helps to view situations as being useful for your own good, rather than solely for making a good impression on somebody else. For instance, next time you're with someone... think of it more as an opportunity for you to improve your social skills instead of worrying so much about what the other person thinks, and being fully occupied with how you're coming across to them. Be a little selfish in that respect, and remember you're trying to help yourself out not provide them with the most entertaining conversation they've ever had.

Sorry I can't give much useful advice, but I do I hope you start to find things a bit easier, well... you & I! :angel:

Mark my words... we'll be social butterflies this time next year (perhaps...)

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Exactly, that's how I feel... it's horrible isn't it?

I don't think that my true self ever quite comes across to people, it's always hidden due to my awkwardness at being in a conversation. It's depressing when people end up with a vastly different perception of you than how you'd like to come across simply because you can't find the means to express what you're really like underneath. And like you, I don't seem to share much in common with the people I chance to meet, especially regarding life-experience, I feel I'm way behind in that so it just seems as though there is a huge gulf between me & other people my age. I mean... most people my age are concerned with getting out and partying, and all of that... (which I have no problem with, but it's just not me) whereas I have spent most of my life so far being a hermit... so I can completely understand what you said about having a lack of things to talk about. I just don't have a clue how, or what to say to someone. It's just so hard to strike up a topic of conversation, and if we're lucky enough to find one I soon end up remembering I'm actually talking to another human *shock* and end up saying something odd and making myself all self-conscious and feeling like an idiot for trying to keep the conversation flowing and by trying to prevent any awkward silences. I'm terrible for avoiding people and situations as well, any chances I have of making some new friends I ruin by not returning calls, arranging to meet up etc.

I hate making all these excuses for myself, because I know I only made things harder by isolating from things, but it's just so hard... to actively put yourself out there when you've gotten yourself into such a mess.

Sigh indeed :doubt:

Another night where everyone else is out enjoying themselves & I'm huddled away in my room reading books and playing video games. :geek: Ho hum

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Exactly, that's how I feel... it's horrible isn't it?

I don't think that my true self ever quite comes across to people, it's always hidden due to my awkwardness at being in a conversation. It's depressing when people end up with a vastly different perception of you than how you'd like to come across simply because you can't find the means to express what you're really like underneath. And like you, I don't seem to share much in common with the people I chance to meet, especially regarding life-experience, I feel I'm way behind in that so it just seems as though there is a huge gulf between me & other people my age. I mean... most people my age are concerned with getting out and partying, and all of that... (which I have no problem with, but it's just not me) whereas I have spent most of my life so far being a hermit... so I can completely understand what you said about having a lack of things to talk about. I just don't have a clue how, or what to say to someone. It's just so hard to strike up a topic of conversation, and if we're lucky enough to find one I soon end up remembering I'm actually talking to another human *shock* and end up saying something odd and making myself all self-conscious and feeling like an idiot for trying to keep the conversation flowing and by trying to prevent any awkward silences. I'm terrible for avoiding people and situations as well, any chances I have of making some new friends I ruin by not returning calls, arranging to meet up etc.

I hate making all these excuses for myself, because I know I only made things harder by isolating from things, but it's just so hard... to actively put yourself out there when you've gotten yourself into such a mess.

Sigh indeed :doubt:

Another night where everyone else is out enjoying themselves & I'm huddled away in my room reading books and playing video games. :geek: Ho hum

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Seriously, I think I've forgotten how to initiate a conversation with people, male or female, friend or complete stranger. I've always been quiet but it's getting ridiculous. I have absolutely no idea what to talk about anymore or how to carry a convo and it's probably driving away what few friends I have left. I should just move up north and become a lumberjack/hermit. Not much different from what I'm doing right now but at least I'll have little contact with other humans which is probably for the best, considering my social ineptness and.... other things.

Anyone else feel similar?

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