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i sleep constantly

i dont go out

i dont go to school

i cant be bothered doing school work

i eat constantly

i cant be bothered socialising

i keep getting nightmares

these are all the same as when i had depression last year but the thing is, i dont feel down :S

the possibility that all these might be depression never occured to me until this morning when my mum came in my room to wake me up for school (for like the 5th time) and she was like "are u okay? i seem as if your getting depressed again"... i was just confused like "no im fine".

but my friend just text me saying she was near my house, did i wanna catch up... so i lied and said that i couldnt cause i was in school. im not, im in bed... i just cant be bothered to make conversation. i dont know how long ive been like this for, i didnt even notice. that scares me, i promised i would know if it happened again.

urg. whats happning to me???!!! i dont even feel upset or anything... im very confused.

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I used to spend a lot of time helping people on an "Agony Aunt" type website where people listed their problems & people offered help to solve them.

Most of the time depression was caused by a cyclical way of thinking and "being".

Most people tend to get into a routine. Get up, go to work/school, come home, [Do something], come home, sleep, etc.

Its just that some people get into a routine that's really bad for them. They get stuck in a life cycle that is depressing them and the culmulative effect of this can change their vision of life and the worthiness of certain parts of life. Often they'll know whats causing the problems.. "I just need to do [this] a bit more" or "I could do with doing a bit more of [that]"

Unfortunately, a lot of the time something prevents them from breaking the cycle and actually doing what they need to do. If you get into depression, your whole midset can change so that it doesn't seem like its worth doing anything & its very difficult to get out of.

All that can be suggested on an internet forum is to CHANGE. You have to CHANGE.

Spend some time and write down some things that you think you need to change to make yourself happier. I'm sure one will be your acne (since you're on these forums), but there will be a lot of other things - maybe most are linked with your acne. Write them down anyway.

Now you need to do something to fix them. You need to change your routine. A routine is COMFORTABLE, but not necessarily for the best.

The more you do something, the more comfortable with it you get. The less you do something, the less comfortable with it you get. You might be a superstar that had so much attention, broke your leg and couldn't go out for 2 months. At that point you get nervous about going out and getting the attention again. Its human nature.

What you have to do is realise the importance of training yourself to force yourself into doing things that are positive for you. Its ALWAYS hard at the beginning (but never as hard as you expect), but as you do it more and more you'll become comfortable with that.

So maybe you have to go out with acne that you feel embarrassed about, so maybe it doesn't get you the attention you want or are used to.. after a [usually short] while you get used to the changes and sometimes grow and strengthen as a person.

The CHANGE will ALWAYS force a change in your mindset. If things aren't working you should always change them.

Suddenly you'll get that moment where you just smile at how things are going. When that happens you know things are going well :)

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thanks for your advice : )

before this year, my thinking was very rational; if something was wrong, id think of a number of possible solutions and then try to put one into action. this was when i was a mentally healthy person lol.

so the last 2 days ive but the biggest effort in to try and do that again last night i went to my friends b'day meal despite the temptation to text and cancel on several occasions and tonight ive been out (which incidentally was a big mistake and i now feel like crying) which was very scary (having not been out for 4 months) turns out they were both futile attempts at being normal. after both, i felt worse than when i went. whats the point. i hte everything

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so the last 2 days ive but the biggest effort in to try and do that again last night i went to my friends b'day meal despite the temptation to text and cancel on several occasions and tonight ive been out (which incidentally was a big mistake and i now feel like crying) which was very scary (having not been out for 4 months) turns out they were both futile attempts at being normal. after both, i felt worse than when i went. whats the point. i hte everything

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It looks like we are both feeling depressed droplette :( I havent felt like going anywhere either. I have been going to work because I need the money but I dont really want to go anywhere. Im feeling down about my face and I feel like my life is going nowhere. I just want to curl up in a ball and sleep most of the day

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so the last 2 days ive but the biggest effort in to try and do that again last night i went to my friends b'day meal despite the temptation to text and cancel on several occasions and tonight ive been out (which incidentally was a big mistake and i now feel like crying) which was very scary (having not been out for 4 months) turns out they were both futile attempts at being normal. after both, i felt worse than when i went. whats the point. i hte everything

Thats good, at least you're trying! Wanna talk about what happend when you went out?

Is the negativity in any way related to feeling that you had to perform or act in a certain way when you were out, like you felt under pressure to be good company?

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I think i know how your feeling, im sure everyone here does. However at least youve got some good friends who mean well even if they dont understand and can be unsensitive. Im a bloke and therfore obviously dont tell my mates how much this can get me down, the one thing i dont want them to think is that a care about this shit.

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