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Ok, so im 18 years old and back acne has ruined my life.

Ive had it since roughly 16 and since ive had it its shattered my self esteem, i've lost SO many friends over it and been beaten up twice, one time being quite badly.

The story starts here.. please read. Ill try make it short.

I was 16 and went swimming with 1 friend. he saw. everything was fine then cause the word never leaked, i never took my top off in the summer etc, i went out with a girl for 6 months with acne on my back (she never knew) i slept with her, had oral sex with her etc but she didnt know etc.. anyway, so once we broke up word was going around that i was 'dirty' and she found out, its been a year since we've broke up and i havnt got with any other girl, but in my time of having it ive got with roughly 20 girls! only kissing and oral though, i never knew it was wrong until i got beaten up by a few of the girls boy mates (its not like im hard, im a bit of a pussy, they thought i was purposly doing it) anyway, i now dont have many friends, i find it hard to make new 1's cause i have a really low self esteem, its coming summer and knowone has seen my back for years but fink it has gone (which it has but im left with scars) scars wont go by summer. dermabrasion and laser treatment could be done as i have the money, but how long does it take?

Someone please help me, one of the times i got beaten up was with baseball bats and i was in a comer, i never snitched or grassed but if these scars arnt gone by summer then i am going to get beaten up badly again, everybody is watching me and i really dont know what to do. think of what it is doing to my mum aswell, she cares about me alot but understand y i dont grass or snitch because of the street rules. i nearly died, my mum will do anything possible to help me clear it.. but what is there.. its not BAD scarring but its scarring which proves i had quite big acne spots. they are flat scars and im mixed race so the scars have gone darker.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!! thanks

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I think part of what you need to sort out is why your hanging round with. For a start, these people cannot be regarded as your friends, surely? They're the ones who are beating you up because you have bacne. Big deal. They're immature and childish and you should not let them affect your life and the way you live it. As for girls, you need to find someone who will accept you for who you are, not someone who demands you are perfect. Nobody is perfect, and if she thinks she's going to find someone who is, she'll be the lonely one in the end.

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most ridiulous thing i've read on here. why not just read threads or search or simply post your back condition. why all the attention getting drama?

half the (likely bs) stuff u posted has nothing to do with your skin condition.

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i wanted to get across its serious, i need to find a cure for the scarring fast !! is what im getting at.. its not even that bad, its just what its done to me phychologically... its basically ruined the last 2 years of my life, its been sunny the last couple of days but no bricks through my window so far, it just means i cant go out... but i would like to go out and socialise, who doesnt? i grew up in a fairly rough area, i dont hang around with the kind of people you lot hang around with (probably) im not saying im a big/bad man, but where im from it aint like if you have a problem with someone youll talk shit about them behind there back, its you'll get a leg shot or your head kicked in, think im playing/attention seeking then your wrong! im a sensitive person, grew up around the wrong people i suppose, dont have many 'real' friends and the girls round here aint NOT SHALLOW. if you have sex with a girl around here with back acne, the BYE FLIPPIN BYE, luckily im ok right now, i was trying to get the point across i need some help from the public fast, for scarring! i told the board so it would show its effects on everyone! it aint like im from the bronx or harlem! i live in brixton.. im 18.. its not easy!

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Listen thoughts, its the actions that count so start becoming proactive. I'll give you some possible takes on your situation. You seem really young to be acting like your life is over. I don't know you or where you live but you need to start thinking happy thoughts and get on the right path. If you have extensive scarring then I suggest a alphahydroxy lotion which can be picked up at rite aid or online. Apple cider vinegar is supposed to be good for scarring just splash some on before you go to bed. If your trying to make new friends then maybe if you go to college than you'll meet new people or get a membership at a local gym. Good luck man :whistle:

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im not replying to the above post, surely you can read.

Its hard as half of you will know, being from the ages of 16 to 18 (and probably another 2 years 2 go) not being able to do what other kids do, i cant commit in a relationship and have a girlfriend, i cant go swimming with friends, i cant take my top of in the summer unless im with family on holiday, the list goes on... my self esteem was fine up until age 17 is when it went REALLY LOW to the point i couldnt talk to people, i cant look people in the eye, i locked off friends, i became miserable 24/7, i have forgotton what its like to be 100% happy and it really hurts me, im not a strong person... im 18 i just want a normal 18 year olds life is that too much to ask? i guess it is, but im really ashamed of it, i have gone through severe depression were i was on prescription drugs and street drugs ie cannabis, but they both made me worse, i was at a point of being mental/insane, lifes just became really hard for me the past 2 years and i thought i might share it with people who might understand? looks like half of you dont. i'll give some examples ... people call me 'man' when they talk to me ('friends') because if it was them they would kill themself (i know they wouldnt but thats what they say behind my back) none of my friends actually are real with me, they just look down on me because of it and think that it makes them better then me... and does it? answer that please, i dont get treated equally and its tearing me apart.

PLEASE NOTE IM GUNNA SHUT UP... I COULD WRITE AN ESSAY ON HOW I FEEL ETC BUT SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME HEEEELLP EVEN IF ITS WORDS OF ADVICE!

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I'm confused...so did they beat you up because you have acne or because you were messing around with a bunch of girls? You're kind of rambling in your post. What kind of neighborhood do you live in that they would put you in a coma for bacne??? :blink:

Go see a dermatologist, they might be able to suggest some peels you could do, or Fraxel or whatever. Other than that, sea salt baths, head and shoulders shampoo, and apple cider vinegar seem to have helped some people on here with pimples and scarring. There's a few long threads you can look through.

Also, go see a counselor. You sound like you are looking for instant gratification and are self-destructive. A counselor is nice to just talk to and vent, and to know someone will listen to you without being judgemental. I know in my city there are low-cost counsellors, and if money is an issue they will do it for free.

Also...move far away. Or change schools. Or do homeschooling. I would try to stay away form those people as much as possible.

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Wtf lol you must live in hell? Wow beat up because of acne yea...I think it has something to do with 20 girlfriends... WoW I mean wth I am only 17 and have 1 girlfreind jeez .

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i make no sense? cant you read!!!!!!!!! i make perfect sense.

also, i never said i had 20 girlfriends, ive got with 20 people! roughly! i dont just wife every girl i meet you idiot! you make no sense, its not right to have sex with someone when you have back acne = fact!

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No, it really doesn't make sense. First you're talking about acne, then your talking about getting blowjobs from 20 girls, then you're talking about a coma, then your talking about summer vacation... You're all over the place. In addition, your replies to other people comes off defensive and rude. Do you think maybe you don't have 1 girlfriend because you're getting blowjobs from multiple girls, and that rep might be following you around?

Anyways, I already gave you some suggestions on what you could do about your skin, there's a bunch of long threads on here about what has worked for people. Also, go check out the diet/holistic health forum, a change of diet has drastically reduced some people's acne. There are various ways to try to help your skin that are discussed on this site - you can try Dan's regimen, go on some kind of antibiotics, there are lasers and such. Results aren't gonna be the same for all people, you pretty much have to keep experimenting to find what works best for you. Last ditch resort, go on Accutane.

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