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wanting a gf/relationships etc

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well im also one of the ones who want to find a gf blah blah blah. weve all noticed on here that there are so many people that are in the same boat. ive noticed none of my single freinds (that are guys) are looking for a girlfriend. not only are most of them not looking for one but they seem alsmot turned of by the idea of having a serious relationship. and the others are prety easy going, if they happen to get one or meet a chic than theyll take it but are the by no means longing for a girlfreind. most are prety much only interested in casual relationships. (now i know most chics are another story and most arent like this)

so it got me thinking. has the fact that we think that we cant get a gf etc have any bearing on why we want one so much. i mean if we were all just sexy biatches do you think wed feel the same way.

maybe im just thinking to much but im on holidays and really bored

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There is a deep desire to feel wanted and needed and loved by someone that doesn't HAVE to love you. The fact that they do is astounding. It's confusing and wonderful and scary and comforting.

And, although I've been hurt many, many times...there is one TINY sliver of hope left that I get to hang on to.

If all the good people in the world didn't have to weed through the bad ones...well....I suppose we then wouldn't know how good 'good' really is.

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There is a deep desire to feel wanted and needed and loved by someone that doesn't HAVE to love you. The fact that they do is astounding. It's confusing and wonderful and scary and comforting.

And, although I've been hurt many, many times...there is one TINY sliver of hope left that I get to hang on to.

If all the good people in the world didn't have to weed through the bad ones...well....I suppose we then wouldn't know how good 'good' really is.

yea thats human nature. im saying that we want it more than the average joe so it seems. basically im asking if this is a case of wanting most what we cant have (evan though we could have it its just we tell ourselves we cant cause of this fuckin acne)

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it's nto called emo forums for nothing

mmm yea seems your not really catching the drift here. i thought i was prety clear, no worries maybe im wrong.

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I'd rather feel wanted and loved over having pointless sex.

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I'd rather feel wanted and loved over having pointless sex.

i want sex lol

second that

Id rather have both. Right now all I get is heated passionate drunken one nighters. I'm charming and confident and girls love me but im just too damn unattractive for a relationship. Im only attractive when the lights are out, the candles are lit, the incense is burning, the music is soft and oh yeah the fucking bottle of rum is being passed around. Fuckin sucks, I get lonely as hell. I almost landed a relationship with a real sweet cute girl (great kisser, our lips match) but I find out she has an ex but they still are sleeping together when he comes into town. No way, screw that..If she wants me, she can call, im not getting my heart spliced. So lonely and winters coming......I have a feeling ill be getting drunk a lot

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I'd rather feel wanted and loved over having pointless sex.

i want sex lol

second that

Id rather have both. Right now all I get is heated passionate drunken one nighters. I'm charming and confident and girls love me but im just too damn unattractive for a relationship. Im only attractive when the lights are out, the candles are lit, the incense is burning, the music is soft and oh yeah the fucking bottle of rum is being passed around. Fuckin sucks, I get lonely as hell. I almost landed a relationship with a real sweet cute girl (great kisser, our lips match) but I find out she has an ex but they still are sleeping together when he comes into town. No way, screw that..If she wants me, she can call, im not getting my heart spliced. So lonely and winters coming......I have a feeling ill be getting drunk a lot

I agree, one without the other wouldn't be good at all. You have to have both, if you have a relationship but no sex, then it's kidna pointless, you're not showing your true affection for eachother (and no sex sux), and if you don't have a relationship, what's the point of sex? You feel good, but the next morning you feel lonely and horrible.

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I'd rather feel wanted and loved over having pointless sex.

i want sex lol

so buy it if u want it that bad. i feel sorry for your future gf. are you teh type that dumbs a girl because she sais shes not ready for sex?

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I'd rather feel wanted and loved over having pointless sex.

i want sex lol

so buy it if u want it that bad. i feel sorry for your future gf. are you teh type that dumbs a girl because she sais shes not ready for sex?

no

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Yeah, it seems more prevalant with acne sufferers because they feel almost automatically rejected. Before they even meet anyone. Just by society even, because everywhere you look there's perfection advertised. That's how it is for me. And so they want love and to feel accepted for themselves more than ever.

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when you have acne your feeling of loneliness just increases in my opinion

Yeah, it seems more prevalant with acne sufferers because they feel almost automatically rejected. Before they even meet anyone. Just by society even, because everywhere you look there's perfection advertised. That's how it is for me. And so they want love and to feel accepted for themselves more than ever.

true and true

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Evolutionary psychology is my specialty so I'll just explain it using that model. There is alot of theory as to why these strategies are adaptive, but I won't get into that.

Everyone self evaluates themselves and knows how attractive they are. Males who feel they are high on the attractiveness scale (looks, money, fame) are generally VERY picky with who they commit to (think Donald Trump). Sometimes they won't commit to anyone and just have s-x with many willing women. Some very attractive males will be commited to a good looking woman and still have plenty of females on the side.

Men who think of themselves as less attractive (like acne sufferers) will be more willing to commit to a woman- this is a different strategy. THEY subconsciously know that most women want a commitment so they feel if they offer that then they will be able to get her in bed. They use the commitment to make-up for their lack of appeal.

Females are different. Usually they want a commitment, but they are willing to have casual s-x if the male is very attractive in terms of success/looks/etc. Women who have lots of casual s-x usually have low self regard relative to the male. They feel like if they demand commitment the guys won't stick around.

Women who believe they are very attractive make men commit to them and treat them well before having s-x.

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Evolutionary psychology is my specialty so I'll just explain it using that model. There is alot of theory as to why these strategies are adaptive, but I won't get into that.

Everyone self evaluates themselves and knows how attractive they are. Males who feel they are high on the attractiveness scale (looks, money, fame) are generally VERY picky with who they commit to (think Donald Trump). Sometimes they won't commit to anyone and just have s-x with many willing women. Some very attractive males will be commited to a good looking woman and still have plenty of females on the side.

Men who think of themselves as less attractive (like acne sufferers) will be more willing to commit to a woman- this is a different strategy. THEY subconsciously know that most women want a commitment so they feel if they offer that then they will be able to get her in bed. They use the commitment to make-up for their lack of appeal.

Females are different. Usually they want a commitment, but they are willing to have casual s-x if the male is very attractive in terms of success/looks/etc. Women who have lots of casual s-x usually have low self regard relative to the male. They feel like if they demand commitment the guys won't stick around.

Women who believe they are very attractive make men commit to them and treat them well before having s-x.

I find it funny how you sensor the word 'sex'.

I have self-ambivalance and a general distrust and loathing for 90% of things with a penis. I am disgusted with the way people treat each other.

hm, most penises are evil in their own little way. Good thing for me that my ego isn't located there.

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