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im so insecure, How do you fix that!?

you got to do what you hate. simple. and if you are too insecure to be in a relationship, you have to be in one to help overcome it. there is no easy way, insecurityyou should treat like any other phobia

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you got to do what you hate. simple. and if you are too insecure to be in a relationship, you have to be in one to help overcome it. there is no easy way, insecurityyou should treat like any other phobia

becuase im insecure i dont speak incrowds confidently making myself an easy target for coments.. my insecurity makes me nerous and makes me say the wrong things and aaaaaarhhhhhhhhhhhh

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you got to do what you hate. simple. and if you are too insecure to be in a relationship, you have to be in one to help overcome it. there is no easy way, insecurityyou should treat like any other phobia

becuase im insecure i dont speak incrowds confidently making myself an easy target for coments.. my insecurity makes me nerous and makes me say the wrong things and aaaaaarhhhhhhhhhhhh

heres the solution then don't go places where there are large crowds. you are not gonna wake up tomorrow and be able to speak in large crowds. the best thing to do is start out in smaller settings till you get comfortable and then gradually go into settings with bigger crowds until you are comfortable with that.

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I dont know how to fix it. Im so insecure im a big fat walking target for people to just kick around. Only thing I can think of is just walk into things that normally scare you. Sometimes now if Im ever embarrased or scared to talk, I think about why im so insecure and I get so mad that I just dont give a fuck what people think of me, and then I speak up and im heard when I talk. You gotta just pull it out of you. But dont take my advice too seriosuly til I start following it more.

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you got to do what you hate. simple. and if you are too insecure to be in a relationship, you have to be in one to help overcome it. there is no easy way, insecurityyou should treat like any other phobia

becuase im insecure i dont speak incrowds confidently making myself an easy target for coments.. my insecurity makes me nerous and makes me say the wrong things and aaaaaarhhhhhhhhhhhh

heres the solution then don't go places where there are large crowds. you are not gonna wake up tomorrow and be able to speak in large crowds. the best thing to do is start out in smaller settings till you get comfortable and then gradually go into settings with bigger crowds until you are comfortable with that.

This is good advice, start small places/crowds. It sounds like you might have agoraphobia ? maybe.

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Go see a shrink a rare ammount of people can cure themselves.

I dont beleive in shrinks. I mena c'mon what would a shrink do for you? Tell you positive things and bullshit you? No, if a shrink actually fixed somethings with me, I'd go to a shrink tomorrow, otherwise im not paying someone to bullshit me and try and make me happy for something im not. I dont beleive in shrinks. And you can fix insecurities, its only a matter of time.

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Go see a shrink a rare ammount of people can cure themselves.

If you feel your insecurity is taking over, see a doctor. There might be an imbalance somewhere. Sometimes anxiety is medical and can be treated with different things. I have social anxiety disorder, which means I have lower seratonin levels. Seratonin= the chemicals in your brain that make you feel good. I use to hate to go out because I feared people would look at me and judge me, but now that it is being treated I don't feel like that as much. People in crowds probably don't give two shits about me. If someone DOES look at me, I am sure they don;t think twice about me. I look at people when I go out, but I never remember who I looked at or if they were flawed. And actually, shrinks can do a LOT. I needed one after my father passed. Got me through a lot.

If you don't think it's that severe, start out small. Go to a restauraunt with some people, friends or family

. Do things that you enjoy, just take it slower.

-Sarah

Go see a shrink a rare ammount of people can cure themselves.

I dont beleive in shrinks. I mena c'mon what would a shrink do for you? Tell you positive things and bullshit you? No, if a shrink actually fixed somethings with me, I'd go to a shrink tomorrow, otherwise im not paying someone to bullshit me and try and make me happy for something im not. I dont beleive in shrinks. And you can fix insecurities, its only a matter of time.

That's really not what a shrink does. =/

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My acne gives me lower Seratonin levels :)

I bet that's another thing.

To the original poster, get on Accutane, clear your acne, that will clear you insecurity.

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My acne gives me lower Seratonin levels :)

I bet that's another thing.

To the original poster, get on Accutane, clear your acne, that will clear you insecurity.

I bet it does lower them. They say gambling helps to raise them temporarily, so sometimes I go to the casino. ...I don't reccomend this as a fix though, as it requires money. Just thought i'd share. ;)

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you don't need a shrink to tell yourself how to help yourself,. like someone said, go be social, join a club.

if you anxiety attacks when talking to a group, you can get meds that help. i had a presentation and i bimbed it because i could barely speak

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you don't need a shrink to tell yourself how to help yourself,. like someone said, go be social, join a club.

if you anxiety attacks when talking to a group, you can get meds that help. i had a presentation and i bimbed it because i could barely speak

You need a shrink (or for better terms, a psychiatrist) to get you the meds that help, though. =P

My regular doctor was not qualified to give me medicine that helped with illnesses just as anxiety or things related to that, I HAD to see a psychiatrist to get them. At least my pyschiatrist is funny, so it's not all a drag going to the appointments. ;)

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Its tough ,if only there were a city where only people with acne were put,we would have no insecurities, loads of confidence,more sex,more friends,more social life ,a good normal life without worrying about acne instead of looking at beautiful people everywhere -even at home watching tv,doesnt help at all.

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Its tough ,if only there were a city where only people with acne were put,we would have no insecurities, loads of confidence,more sex,more friends,more social life ,a good normal life without worrying about acne instead of looking at beautiful people everywhere -even at home watching tv,doesnt help at all.

I can't even turn on the TV anymore. It's full of perfect airbrushed celebs with these perfect bodies..ugh. No, I prefer to walk around chicago, where everyone is fat and homely. Hehe. (i'm exxaggerating of course. Or am I? :think::) )

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Life can be tough my friend. especially when you throw on this most awful burden. Sometimes I think some of us just weren't cut out to live here amongst all these beautiful people. Stii i somehow go on, I somehow wake up every morning, I somehow make it to work, and then back home and then too bed, and then I repeat it the next day. Thats my life sleep eat work smoke cigs and repeat. Thats my life. It sux but im hoping for the best.

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you got to do what you hate. simple. and if you are too insecure to be in a relationship, you have to be in one to help overcome it. there is no easy way, insecurityyou should treat like any other phobia

becuase im insecure i dont speak incrowds confidently making myself an easy target for coments.. my insecurity makes me nerous and makes me say the wrong things and aaaaaarhhhhhhhhhhhh

heres the solution then don't go places where there are large crowds. you are not gonna wake up tomorrow and be able to speak in large crowds. the best thing to do is start out in smaller settings till you get comfortable and then gradually go into settings with bigger crowds until you are comfortable with that.

I don't need a shrink my anxiety comes from my acne,it makes me withdraw because of selfconsciounessif i didn;t have effin knowing the inner person i am i waould be mcuh more social and outward having this hell changes how you ineteract with life,people,outtings,dating everything

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i'm really insecure as well. i cant help it! What makes me feel bad is that everyoen from the younger generations are made to feel ugly coz we see all the beautiful perfect celebs in the magazines and everything. It doesn't make people like us feel that great! So when im having a bad day, i tell everyone not to look at my face because i dont like it and dont want others to see it. It upsets me really. I remember when my mum took me to the doctors, she was saying how self conscious and insecure i am and i just started crying. Its a horrible feeling. I have a younger cousin who always says im spotty when i go to see him. Its hurtful and makes me feel more insecure. oohh-i hate acne, wish noone had it! But, i can definately relate to what yor goig through. you're not alone! x

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