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I don't know what to do anymore.

I’m 22 and I have had Acne since I was 11. I have been through a lot; I was made fun of at school. I have had only one girlfriend in my whole life. She told me she would never touch me because she was afraid of catching my acne. I am a virgin and I have never been kissed. I have spent a lot of time alone because most of the time I don’t like to go out a lot or meet new people because I am so ashamed of myself. I don’t have many friends. I cut myself and I see a psychiatrist and take medication for the extreme depression my acne causes me. I have only talked to one person about how much I have been bothered by this. This person was my best friend but she broke my trust about something and told a bunch of people something I said. I was so embarrassed I wanted to kill myself. I refuse to answer her calls or ever talk to her again. After that I lost all my ability to trust anyone. I would give anything in the world to have a girlfriend who loves me but in my heart of hearts I feel I will always be alone. I have a lot of trouble talking to girls because I feel they are better than me. The times I have showed interest in girls they often say something mean to me. I cry all the time because of how bad I feel. I feel just about everyone in the world is better than me. I talked to my mom about this and she says I should move to a new town and get a fresh start. I don’t want to run away but I feel if I stay here I’m going to end up killing myself. I once tried to ask out this girl with acne that was like mine but she told me I was ugly and gross. I would love to meet someone who has acne like me and would understand me but I never have been able to. I really don’t know what to do with my life anymore. The people on this board are the only people I can relate to in the world. I wish things were better but I just don't see any improvement ahead.

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youve come to the right place man. dont worry about girls youll find someone who

will love you. it sounds rough for you and i feel bad for you but dont lose hope and

do something like kill yourself.

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Your post resonates with me so powerfully because I used to be able to identify with it for about eight years.

I used to feel like I didnt have a place in this world. That I would never have a girlfriend, never be popular, and that I'm extremely disgusting to look at. :(

Now, Im twenty years old. With a lot of effort, Im the most confident I have ever been in my life and I still have acne all over my face. Hmm. You say you want a girlfriend, the ability to talk to girls, and for your life to be better..

Let me ask you something. Do you really believe acne is the reason you cant get a gf? I'll tell you why : You cant get a girlfriend because you have acne. It's because of your attitude, beliefs and lack of how attraction works. There's no reason to not be able to pull girls. Zero.

"in my heart of hearts I feel I will always be alone"

"I feel they are better than me."

"They say something mean to me!"

Listen to yourself. I'm going to give you some tough love, dude. You sound like a grade A wuss. And women arent attracted to guys who they feel have lower value than them or cry when they dont show interest.

You're twenty fricken two. Get some balls. Take action. What are you currently doing for your situations? Have you considered getting accutane for your acne? Have you tried regimens on this board? Proactiv? Changing your diet? Tried all of that? Nothing works? Accept yourself, Accept your acne. I know tons of guys with acne who have become extremely successful not only with women, but with life. It is possible.

I also recommend you work on what goes on through you head. Pick up some self help books. I've read about five of them, and they are really helpful in beating acne emotionally. I also checked out some self improvement audio programs. They are all over my ipod for quick mindset boosts.

Never ever ever ever ever feel inferior to ANYONE. Dont listen to your mom. Dont run away to "start over". That's bullshit. Dont kill yourself. Dont give up. Work towards your goals, and never succumb to failure.

Hey, I want to see you succeed, man. ;) I really do. Good luck.

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Your post resonates with me so powerfully because I used to be able to identify with it for about eight years.

I used to feel like I didnt have a place in this world. That I would never have a girlfriend, never be popular, and that I'm extremely disgusting to look at. :(

Now, Im twenty years old. With a lot of effort, Im the most confident I have ever been in my life and I still have acne all over my face. Hmm. You say you want a girlfriend, the ability to talk to girls, and for your life to be better..

Let me ask you something. Do you really believe acne is the reason you cant get a gf? I'll tell you why : You cant get a girlfriend because you have acne. It's because of your attitude, beliefs and lack of how attraction works. There's no reason to not be able to pull girls. Zero.

"in my heart of hearts I feel I will always be alone"

"I feel they are better than me."

"They say something mean to me!"

Listen to yourself. I'm going to give you some tough love, dude. You sound like a grade A wuss. And women arent attracted to guys who they feel have lower value than them or cry when they dont show interest.

You're twenty fricken two. Get some balls. Take action. What are you currently doing for your situations? Have you considered getting accutane for your acne? Have you tried regimens on this board? Proactiv? Changing your diet? Tried all of that? Nothing works? Accept yourself, Accept your acne. I know tons of guys with acne who have become extremely successful not only with women, but with life. It is possible.

I also recommend you work on what goes on through you head. Pick up some self help books. I've read about five of them, and they are really helpful in beating acne emotionally. I also checked out some self improvement audio programs. They are all over my ipod for quick mindset boosts.

Never ever ever ever ever feel inferior to ANYONE. Dont listen to your mom. Dont run away to "start over". That's bullshit. Dont kill yourself. Dont give up. Work towards your goals, and never succumb to failure.

Hey, I want to see you succeed, man. ;) I really do. Good luck.

Yeah, what this bloke says.

Also, you don't mention anything about visiting a dermatologist. THERE ARE MEDICINES WHICH CAN *CURE* your acne - that is: accutane, if not, one of the many regimens on this site might help.

Oh and one last thing, http://www.fastseduction.com/youarenew

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Your post resonates with me so powerfully because I used to be able to identify with it for about eight years.

I used to feel like I didnt have a place in this world. That I would never have a girlfriend, never be popular, and that I'm extremely disgusting to look at. :(

Now, Im twenty years old. With a lot of effort, Im the most confident I have ever been in my life and I still have acne all over my face. Hmm. You say you want a girlfriend, the ability to talk to girls, and for your life to be better..

Let me ask you something. Do you really believe acne is the reason you cant get a gf? I'll tell you why : You cant get a girlfriend because you have acne. It's because of your attitude, beliefs and lack of how attraction works. There's no reason to not be able to pull girls. Zero.

"in my heart of hearts I feel I will always be alone"

"I feel they are better than me."

"They say something mean to me!"

Listen to yourself. I'm going to give you some tough love, dude. You sound like a grade A wuss. And women arent attracted to guys who they feel have lower value than them or cry when they dont show interest.

You're twenty fricken two. Get some balls. Take action. What are you currently doing for your situations? Have you considered getting accutane for your acne? Have you tried regimens on this board? Proactiv? Changing your diet? Tried all of that? Nothing works? Accept yourself, Accept your acne. I know tons of guys with acne who have become extremely successful not only with women, but with life. It is possible.

I also recommend you work on what goes on through you head. Pick up some self help books. I've read about five of them, and they are really helpful in beating acne emotionally. I also checked out some self improvement audio programs. They are all over my ipod for quick mindset boosts.

Never ever ever ever ever feel inferior to ANYONE. Dont listen to your mom. Dont run away to "start over". That's bullshit. Dont kill yourself. Dont give up. Work towards your goals, and never succumb to failure.

Hey, I want to see you succeed, man. ;) I really do. Good luck.

Yeah, what this bloke says.

Also, you don't mention anything about visiting a dermatologist. THERE ARE MEDICINES WHICH CAN *CURE* your acne - that is: accutane, if not, one of the many regimens on this site might help.

Oh and one last thing, http://www.fastseduction.com/youarenew

Ahhh, good ol fast sedution. Nice! :clap:

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She told me she would never touch me because she was afraid of catching my acne.

WTF MAN. since she isnt your girl friend anymore and u shouldnt have feelings for her.

WHAT A PATHETIC BITCH. u feel sad for a bitch like this? cmon man...go lift some weights and cheer up lol.

i totally understand ur feelings man.

everyone says their acne is bad , some ppl really do , some ppl's acne are like nothing... hows yrs?

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you sound like me, and you are like me, because we both take antidepressants, both in our early 20's, never been kissed, stuck in this same old town and want to just break free.

i feel the same, about the 'i'm not good enough', and well, you got to build your esteem and to do that involves putting yourself out there doing social activities.

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What kind of stuck up bitches live in your town? Yeah I have acne now but afew years ago when I didn't I had a huge crush on this guy and he had acne. There are girls around that would like you even though you have acne. My man has acne on his back and some on his face it's gotten mild as he's gotten older but anyway even with acne he's the hottest man I've ever seen. So don't feel sad cause you haven't found someone, you will, I believe there is somebody for everyone. Really though try acnefree or proactiv, in a way I resent them cause I rely on them, but I've gotten good results from both. I don't like using chemicals but I'd rather use face wash and have clear skin than not and be terribly depressed and obsessing over my skin all the time. Good luck and I hope you find some happiness!

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you sound like me, and you are like me, because we both take antidepressants, both in our early 20's, never been kissed, stuck in this same old town and want to just break free.

i feel the same, about the 'i'm not good enough', and well, you got to build your esteem and to do that involves putting yourself out there doing social activities.

Like many in here have said, you have to make a real effort to get a girlfriend. You have to change your attitude, the way you walk, the way you talk to one that doesnt fear guys or girls, one that is confident and in control in any situation. You cant play the victim around women, it doesnt work. My whole head is fucked up so what did I do in the past to help myself get some? Work out. Fix and make better what you can. Come up with good comebacks to guys and girls that make fun of you. Women will see that you are trying, and trying even with harsh obstacles is really attractive to women. Ive had women like me because they caught on to that. I dont have attractive genetics, im put down a lot, im pretty ugly...but there is a high value in perseverence, trying, confidence and not letting people fuck with you.

If you are real desperate you could always just start talking to a less then attractive chick. They need loving too, ya know. Not everyone can have an attractive girlfriend. Personally, im attracted to women who had it rough when they were young. Who take care of their bodies but arent stuck up little princesses (they annoy me). They like to work, smoke and drink and party. But thats me..find out what type of chick you like and go for it. You're going to want to define what type of woman you want. Women dont like you just searching around to get laid.

G'luck m8 and remember, confident and undestroyable. Hopefully you can keep it up unlike me. Im stuck in a rut right now with a self loathing attitude. God I need to get out.

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I’m 22 and I have had Acne since I was 11. I have been through a lot; I was made fun of at school. I have had only one girlfriend in my whole life. She told me she would never touch me because she was afraid of catching my acne. I am a virgin and I have never been kissed. I have spent a lot of time alone because most of the time I don’t like to go out a lot or meet new people because I am so ashamed of myself. I don’t have many friends. I cut myself and I see a psychiatrist and take medication for the extreme depression my acne causes me. I have only talked to one person about how much I have been bothered by this. This person was my best friend but she broke my trust about something and told a bunch of people something I said. I was so embarrassed I wanted to kill myself. I refuse to answer her calls or ever talk to her again. After that I lost all my ability to trust anyone. I would give anything in the world to have a girlfriend who loves me but in my heart of hearts I feel I will always be alone. I have a lot of trouble talking to girls because I feel they are better than me. The times I have showed interest in girls they often say something mean to me. I cry all the time because of how bad I feel. I feel just about everyone in the world is better than me. I talked to my mom about this and she says I should move to a new town and get a fresh start. I don’t want to run away but I feel if I stay here I’m going to end up killing myself. I once tried to ask out this girl with acne that was like mine but she told me I was ugly and gross. I would love to meet someone who has acne like me and would understand me but I never have been able to. I really don’t know what to do with my life anymore. The people on this board are the only people I can relate to in the world. I wish things were better but I just don't see any improvement ahead.

Move away. seriously. Get a fresh start. Even if it is like running away from your problems. You need this. You seem to insecure with yourself to function where you are right now, and you'll probably only get dragged down even further if you stay.

I don't really have a lot of respect for people who cut themselves, it's not going to get you anywhere. I'm sure you know this, and it's good that you are going to a psychiatrist for help. Hopefully, you can get over this, I'm sure you will if you are able to talk about this openly (even if it is on the internet). It shows that you are taking a stand in recovering.

Your life will get better, you just need some confidence. Realize that not ever girl is as shallow and mean as the ones you said you had encountered.

Good luck with everything

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Thank you all for your support. I am now on my third dermotoligist and I have also seen a skin specialist at UM. I've taken alot of antibiotics and used numerous creams and cleansers including proactiv. I can't take accutane because I have a blood problem that accutane would end up making alot worse. My acne is the best its ever been but it isn't great. My face is just more red than anything. My nose gets really red sometimes which really embarasses me. Theres a girl that works in my office that I really like but I just don't have the confidence to talk to her. Do any of you guys of any tips on how to work on your confidence?

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Forgive me for my novel, but I feel it's important to get as much out as you can. So read it! :P

Basically what was said here is good advice. I'm exactly like you, except I'm 20, have kissed a few girls, and I've only had one girlfriend, except she wasn't a bitch who said she wouldn't want to touch me for fear of catching acne. Still, I'm shy around new people, but I warm up quickly.

Right now, my acne is the best it's ever been. I only have 2, maybe 3, pimples at a time, no nodules/cysts, and everything else is just a red mark left over from years of picking (which no matter what people say, don't do it). I have sensitive skin, so if it gets irritated (specifically under my nostrils/upper lip, and my chin area), it gets quite red.

I wore concealer throughout high school, and although it made me fear doing things like playing hockey, going swimming, or becoming intimate with a girl, it did help my general self esteem during the day. Nobody could tell at all, so I was able to make friends.

Thank you all for your support. I am now on my third dermotoligist and I have also seen a skin specialist at UM. I've taken alot of antibiotics and used numerous creams and cleansers including proactiv. I can't take accutane because I have a blood problem that accutane would end up making alot worse. My acne is the best its ever been but it isn't great. My face is just more red than anything. My nose gets really red sometimes which really embarasses me. Theres a girl that works in my office that I really like but I just don't have the confidence to talk to her. Do any of you guys of any tips on how to work on your confidence?

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EDIT: I removed the link to the Ladder Theory article. I read over it again and realized you don't need that messing with your head right now. I sometimes think it's meant to be satire more than anything, but the actual idea of it is intriguing, and I've always wanted to find out if females think that way. If you're a female, and want to give me your opinion on it, PM me and I'll send the link to the article to you in a PM. Read over it and let me know if it's true for you or not.

From what I have read of the ladder theory, there is some sense to it in that everyone ranks potential partners on a scale, and you try to have relationships with those who are as high as possible on your ladder. It is also true that women have a separate scale for guys who don't have a snowball's chance in hell, in that the guys closest to the top of the friends ladder are the ones you enjoy conversing with the most, or you have common hobbies that you enjoy doing together, but for whatever reason you would never want to sleep with (either you are not physically attracted to them or they have some unacceptable personality trait such as a tendacy toward mysogynism).

What I don't agree with is the way in which the authors feel that every woman is looking for a guy who is either rich or shows no interest in her. This is wrong on both counts. These may be important to some women, but to others, they rank very low, and in the case of the guy who purposely shows little interest, this amounts to little more than a head game, which most women with a bit of experience can spot a mile away. And most women would choose a guy who treats her well over a guy with money.... if the guy who treats her well happens to have money, so be it. I'm sure if a woman had money, this could also put her potentially higher up on some guys' ladders, but not so on others. It all depends on what you like, and not everyone's tastes can be summed up in such a simple way.

Personally, I really have no interest in a guy's money. In fact, I even find men wearing business suits a turn-off, whether or not the guy in them has a good job or some kind of power that he thinks is important. I have had three serious relationships in my life, and in all three I have made more money than the guy, and have been in a higher position career-wise. Obviously, the fact that a guy has money and power is not important to me, I am more interested in whether or not we share common hobbies, whether or not he is a nice person, and that he isn't into playing the kind of games that the theory authors claim make women interested.

In summary, not everyone is intersted in the same things, not every woman wants a rich jerk. If you are interested in getting to know someone, talk to them, pay attention to them, and show a genuine interest in what makes them tick. Unless the woman finds you completely unattractive, this is the easiest way not to end up on the friends ladder.

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