I'm due to give birth to twins any day now. The biggest fear I have about it? My skin. Being in the delivery room with terrible skin. How messed up is that? If you have been reading my blog over the past few years, you already know that my acne has been only temporarily helped, never cured. It has gotten so much worse since my third trimester, I can't even believe it.
Right now I can physically feel where all my pimples are. They hurt so much, they itch so much. It's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to bed. Not the babies I'm about to bring into the world, but my face...and all the makeup I have to use to even begin to feel like myself. How messed up is that?
I have scars, old pimples, new pimples, redness, PIH...everything. I haven't been able to be on oral antibiotics at all during the pregnancy, which I'm sure is what has set me back. I may go for a third course of Accutane later this year once I stop breastfeeding.
I had great skin last year at this time, and literally EVERY DAY I appreciated it. I thought about it and thanked the stars knowing it was only a matter of time before things got worse again. And lo and behold, here we are. Today alone I woke up with four new nodules. It's always something between pustules and cysts, and being fair skinned every single zit leaves behind a mark that lasts six months or more.
I'm almost 31 and going on more than half my life with acne. If I pass this onto my children, I will be so sad. Here's to going into the delivery room caked with makeup. It's the only way I can function with this bad of a breakout. So be it, I guess.
I have been on Accutane twice, and my severe acne has returned, yet again.
Severe acne. It sounds awful to say aloud. Right now, my face burnsâ€”Iâ€™m on Day 2, only Day 2, of yet another eight-week period of â€œtrying something new.â€ Only this isnâ€™t new to me; none of it is. Itâ€™s been this wayâ€”chronicâ€”since I was 16. I remember my first dermatologist, in Dallas: He was an old man even then, with a kind, bloodhound face. His eyes turned down, something that always makes a person look kind. He went to Harvard, I just read today as I popped online to see if he was still practicing. He is.
I wonder what heâ€™d say if he knew the same girl he treated as a teen was still suffering to this degree.
Thankfully, my skin has been perfectâ€”even for several months at a timeâ€”in between breakouts. I donâ€™t understand it; Iâ€™m all good for a year or so, then poof, I look like I did pre-Accutane (Iâ€™ve been on it twice already, which is virtually unheard of). Unlike a broken bone or deviated septum, I can fix my acne for a time, but it justâ€¦breaks again. There is so much I could write about what itâ€™s like to ache like this at 29. And frankly, I donâ€™t give a shit that â€œIt doesnâ€™t matter to the people who love youâ€ and â€œItâ€™s not as bad as you think it is.â€
Would you say that to someone with chronic depression?
Iâ€™ve kept many â€œskin diariesâ€ over the years; I still have one online that no one sees but the other people on the forum, and no one knows that broken out jawline is mine. Thing is, Iâ€™m a pretty girlâ€”I know that like anyone whoâ€™s pretty knows that. My husband thinks Iâ€™m hot and sexy and so on, and I wish I could say that matters as much as what I think about myself, but it doesnâ€™t.
To this day, I cannot understand how my family/friends, past boyfriends and work colleagues have looked at my face at its worst, and not thought it was absolutely off-putting. Thatâ€™s what I think when I see myself, and when I see others with acne. Why would they be different?
Am I a terrible, shallow person? I certainly donâ€™t feel that way. Iâ€™m not ashamed to be ashamed of how I look.
The trouble with acne is that, for people with only mild conditions, you canâ€™t help them see what itâ€™s like to be severe. And fuck all when it comes to people with clear skinâ€”itâ€™s not something youâ€™d ever discuss with them, ever. That would be like moaning to my best friend (a size 0) about my flabby belly. It would just make her feel bad for me, self-conscious in the same way I did when a girl next to me on a flight to Omaha said, â€œCan you not put that armrest down, please? Sorry. Itâ€™s just that Iâ€™m kind of fat.â€
So yeah, â€œLook at my disgusting breakoutâ€ isnâ€™t cocktail conversation. Even among my caring, sweet family, thereâ€™s always the pushbackâ€”the overtones of, â€œWhy is this affecting you SO much?â€
Iâ€™ve tried describing it to them. It feels like a mask you canâ€™t take off. You canâ€™t swim or else your makeup will run; you canâ€™t camp because, when you have acne, thereâ€™s no such thing as rolling out of bed. You have to stay out of the sun or everything, including old acne scars that take a year to fade, will get even worse. Naps are tough; your makeup comes off on the pillow. Working out is difficultâ€”it takes 20 minutes of concealer application to feel comfortable leaving the house, not to mention it feels terrible to work out with foundation caked on.
And then thereâ€™s lighting and seating to think about. Which side of my face is least broken out? Thatâ€™s the side of you Iâ€™ll be sitting on, thank you. And it goes without saying that whichever room of your house party has the lowest lighting, thatâ€™s the one Iâ€™ll be drinking in.
I DONâ€™T KNOW HOW TO NOT CARE. I donâ€™t even WANT to not care. Do obese people just â€œnot careâ€? Do people with body odor just â€œnot careâ€? My face is marred. Scars are everywhere, and nothing will cover it.
Further, acne hurts physically: The best I can come up with is ant bites. Ant bites all over your face, a stingy tingle that only subsides if you pop said pimple, a temporary solution we all know only creates a bigger breakout.
Itâ€™s disgusting, I know. And this is just a glimpse into how I feel when I wash off my makeup at night, and look into the mirror seeing that whichâ€”yes, the world doesnâ€™t noticeâ€”when Iâ€™m covered up. Thatâ€™s why no one thinks you have bad skin when you do. Thatâ€™s why my hair is long, thatâ€™s why I never wear ponytails.
I never, ever feel sorry for myself about it; I just loathe myself for it, and I loathe even more the idea of paying a shrink to try and get me not to care about how I look.
There is no cure for acne, and I am proof. My face is marred.
Posted some new photos. This is the face of someone who has been on Accutane twice?
I am highly suspicious that I was PCOS. My husband just got a new job so I can go to the doctor now and get some blood work to test for it. Why else would I STILL have acne at almost 29, after all I've been through?
It's been more than a year since I've posted on here...since fall of 2009 up to now, things had been pretty good.
Now it's back again. I am broken out all over my chin and jawline, just like always. A third whack of Accutane isn't possible right now because my husband and I (yes, I got married in October!) don't have the best insurance. I can't even really go see a doctor because I they will just prescribe an expensive medication. And I think I have PCOS.
Winter has always been the worst for my skin. I am back to having about a dozen red marks on each side of my face in addition to active pimples, and I have to wear loads of foundation, which I hate.
I know my husband loves me no matter what, but it is SO hard to feel pretty, be up for sex, and be spontaneous when I look like this. Everything I do requires 20 minutes of makeup application first.
So, I'm feeling pretty down.