I don’t visit this section that often, as I feel it’s loaded with negative emotions that I can’t relate to at all (being a happy flower myself, usually). Apart from skimming posts, to see if they’re within the board rules (part of the job, unfortunately). I’ve had to close topics, send messages to members, or ask people to tone it down a bit, knowing how bad they must feel. It doesn’t please me at all, and I wish that I (or anyone) would be able to make them feel better. Sometimes, however, people have such a low self-esteem, that the only thing that will help them, is to seek professional guidance. Those posts really break my heart, and make me feel pretty helpless (I’m sure the feeling sounds familiar to many of you).
Like many of you, I have been (and still am) talking to several members via PM, trying to cheer them up, offering suggestions, sending them silly stuff, knowing that it probably won’t help much, but every smile we can put on their face is a smile, right? It’s why I value so many of you for trying to put things in perspective, and cheering others up. Makes me realize how awesome this community is, everytime. Thank you for that!
Alright, enough with the nonsense. Since I’ve been researching the brain for a long time (and it’s still a mystery for the biggest part), lately I’ve been focusing on ways to make people feel better, if even a little bit, in the hope that it may help some of you cope with your issues. Long introduction, just to say this:
SMILE! Force yourself, if you have to.
Sounds stupid, right? Why would you even want to smile, knowing that your face is covered in acne? The last thing you want to do is smile. Let me try to explain.
Common sense will tell you that behavior follows an emotion: you feel bad, and that causes you to behave accordingly, more or less. What if I told you it’s not that simple? There have been several studies about how emotions are influenced by behavior, it’s a two-way street! When you smile, whether you’re happy or not, it will activate the same parts in your brain, having the same effect on your body. You will be happier because you smile! It creates a real emotion in most people.
Can’t do it? Put a pencil between your teeth (horizontally), and lift up the corners of your mouth. Make your fake smile as big as you can. Looks stupid, but hey…another reason to have a good laugh at yourself.
Obviously, this won’t get rid of your acne. I just hope that it will help some of you feel a little bit better, as that’s just as important.
Good luck everybody! And don’t forget to smile






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