My first wife was amazing and took over a room when she walked in, and she married me twice. I am not rich and I don't look like George Clooney. I date girls who are much too young for me, but that just seems to be the way things work out. I was at a bar with a friend from work who always kidded me about being old. The sexiest girl I have ever dated walked by, then stopped and said she liked the way I was laughing and having a good time, and asked for my number. We dated for a year and even lived together. She is in Florida and still calls me all the time. My friend from work now asks me for advice.
If I can do this after the acne scars I had, it is time for some of you to get off your "PITY POT".
"Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right."
I think you are underestimating yourself. You have to believe in yourself or no girl ever will. I am nothing special looks wise, but I do have a good positive personality. By your comment you are already knocking yourself. Most of communication is through body language. Body language was around long before we even uttered our first word. Even if you have to fake it in the beginning you have to be confident.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”
― Henry Ford
Re:pair, and a hair transplant did most of the work, but I am very comfortable around beautiful women. A lot of it has to do with attitude. My first wife, who I married twice was a total beauty. Hang around places with hot women like Hooters and Twin Peaks, and talk to the girls. You will get used to being around them and find out that they are just like everybody else. You have to be kind of indifferent. Nice guys do finish last. You have to be a confident man or girls pick up on it right away. Treat your scars and check out the Tao of Badass http://www.thetaoofbadass.com/ What you have been taught throughout your life growing up is all wrong!
Lol, you are probably attractive (great bone structure, attractive eyes, tall/broad, there's much more to physical attractiveness than skin) even with not so great skin, that's your secret. Either that or you are overestimating the phyical attractiveness of your GFs.
Just saying lasers means nothing. I specifically named two lasers - Fraxel Re:pair and DeepFX. Treatment at too low a level is responsible for most dissatisfaction. Re:pair changed my life for the better, and if I had listened to the naysayers I would be in the same boat I was in 5 years ago. Counting regular CO2 I have been through 6 laser treatments, and I am standing here telling you that Re:pair at high settings is what you are looking for. Pick your doctor wisely, for if you go to a doctor who does not offer Re:pair or DeepFX he will sell you what he has on the shelf, treat you at a low level, and you won't be happy. These lasers are expensive and the doctor is trying to recoup his expenses. I am tired of people lumping all lasers together. They do a huge disservice to people like you who will be helped by Re:pair or DeepFX.
Since when are lasers temporary? There is no question that you will need multiple treatments. Re:pair is a cumulative process and there is no such thing as "One & Done". I thought that lie was buried 5 years ago. You can listen to heresay and or talk to people who have actually done the Gold Standard.
Jenny, I don't think the Dermabrasion did any good, and neither did the regular CO2. DeepFX 12 times and Re:pair 4 times is unheard of. My 5 Re:pairs alone were about $10,000. What were your treatment levels with Re:pair and DeepFX?
I normally suggest an aggressive approach to scar treatment, but in your case I can't conceive that you have allowed your skin any opportunity to heal or collagen growth to begin. My 5 Re:pairs were done over 3.5 years with ample time for recovery between each. I fear what you are doing to your skin with the constant trauma. Please for your sake and the sake of your skin take a step back. Take at least a year off and let the process work. The healing process takes time and cannot be rushed. Be good to yourself and stop this for a while, and see where you stand. There is such a thing as an obsession with surgery, this is seen often with plastic surgery, and the results are not good. YOU NEED A BREAK!
Dr. Dudley hereby prescribes at least a year of you pampering your skin with moisturizers and sunscreen. A year of meditation and reflection, exercise, good diet. Read some of the posts just about pampering your skin. Who is it QuirkyFox that has a regimen posted? Please do not even think about any procedures for at least a year.
World of difference, texture is great, and suffered none of your mentioned complications. I was treated at the highest level 70mj-60%. Many of the people on RealSelf are not even talking about Re:pair. They don't have a clue. I called several of them out on false information. I was in on the earliest discussions as Dazed1. I am much older than most on this forum, so after a facelift I will continue Re:pair if necessary. I am fine with myself now, but I am aging - get ready it will happen to you too. LOL Something must be working because I am dating women much younger than myself and I am not rich by any means. It is seldom talked about here, but attracting the opposite sex is something we all want. Feeling better about yourself is vitally important, but you can't dismiss or downplay the role sexual desire plays. It is a motivation so use it.
The OP is obviously concerned about his condition and telling him to blow it off does nothing to address his questions. I would seriously question the effectiveness of any form of Fraxel laser on your condition. While I advocate Fraxel Re:pair for most depressed scars, I know of no studies of its effectiveness on raised scars. There may well be studies, but my area of concern has always been on depressed scars.
Take a deep breath and accept the fact that you will not be able to asses the extent of your scars until the redness is gone. AquaSea makes a good point of establishing a healthy natural diet, this is something everyone should do whether they have acne or not. I would kill to be 17 again and know what I know now. You will beat the redness, the acne and yes even the scars. Your problems today seem enormous to you, but with dedication when you are 30 with that good paying job, this period can be part of what forms your future and makes you the man you can be. Your problems do not appear to be insurmountable by any means.
Reevaluating your pictures indicates you may be a candidate for dermabrasion, regular CO2 or a fractional ablative CO2 done at lower than max settings. Because your scarring is not deep you should achieve excellent results.