LacyDecay

Hi Secret. Yep, you're certainly not alone with the hiding away thing. I haven't been out AT ALL in three years. I refuse to even go out into the garden incase the neighbours happen to get an eye-full of my horrible skin. I even close the curtains in the lounge (or whatever room I'm in) so that no one can see me properly. I realise it must get really depressing and annoying for my family to constantly have to sit in darkness because of my insecurities. It's really sad that we feel the need to have to hide ourselves away we're worth more than this, it's just finding that inner confidence to realise it. So I really can relate to you on this.

3 years ?
Damm

 

Yup. F**king sucks balls. I'll get a life one day, I swear I will, lol.

Hello LacyDecay!

I too suffer with Body Dysmorphic Disorder

after a bout of abuse during my childhood,

so I totally get where you're coming from.

I started to obsess over my appearance at the age of 13,

smothering my face with cosmetics and treatments I didn't need,

further injuring my relatively flawless face.

I couldn't look at myself in the mirror or look anyone in the eye

or even reach out for help, cause I was in such denial.

It wasn't until three years ago that I recognized this about myself

and began to seek answers for my disease.

But not before I had ravaged my skin with scars

and triggered rosacea (semi-permanant redness).

The thing about chemical and natural irritant abuse is that they

sensitize your skin after prolonged usage so that you can no longer

even use gentle products without pain or breakouts,

thus depressing the hell out of someone with now evident injury.

I feel for you and to tell someone with this disorder to just buck up and deal with it

is as ridiculous as telling an anorexic to put some meat on their bones.

BDD is the sister of OCD and there are treatments for it,

but I've found that counseling can be very effective;

just knowing that somebody knows your pain can drive you forward.

I hope you can find help for the damage done!

~Bone't

Hi veiled.

Glad someone here understands my pain !

My BDD started the same way yours did. From childhood abuse. It's not normal for a small child to hate the way they look. It gets so annoying when people tell me to 'just grow up' when they know nothing about WHY I'm like this. My father spent 8 years in prison for the abuse that he did. I was beaten so bad that I had to kept off school all the time because of my bruises , I was raped at the age of 5 and so much other stuff that I won't go into. It is more than just what's on the surface.  But the surface damage certainly hasn't helped ! If that got better then I think I could work on bettering my life but that's not an option given that my skin issue is permanent. That only leaves me with the option to do things the other way round and get mental help first, maybe that will help me see my skin in a different way and help me learn to accept it as it is.

 

I'm so glad you've found something that has helped you   That gives me hope too.

Hi Secret. Yep, you're certainly not alone with the hiding away thing. I haven't been out AT ALL in three years. I refuse to even go out into the garden incase the neighbours happen to get an eye-full of my horrible skin. I even close the curtains in the lounge (or whatever room I'm in) so that no one can see me properly. I realise it must get really depressing and annoying for my family to constantly have to sit in darkness because of my insecurities. It's really sad that we feel the need to have to hide ourselves away we're worth more than this, it's just finding that inner confidence to realise it. So I really can relate to you on this.

Hey Folks,
I have just registered to this site which seems amazing. I hope to encounter my very bad acne, oily/greasy skin & acne scaring.

My name is Dan, Male, 18 from the UK.
I was wondering what moisturiser I should use on a daily basis. I get greasy/oily skin after 2-3 hours after washing my face. I have to wash my face frequently because of this.

Right now I am using Skinfood Moistureiser - http://www.amazon.co...58083008&sr=8-2
I don't think this is helping me with my acne/greasy skin.

Is there any recommendations on what I could use instead?
And hopefully the product is available in the UK.

Also any tips would be appreciated.

Cheers,
Dan

 

Hi Dan Well I can recommend you a good natural moisturiser which is really good for oily skin because it contains peppermint oils. My sister uses it and it keeps her oily skin looking a lot less shiny and reduces break-outs.

It's not in the UK at the mo though. It should be, and they normally are, but they're out of stock right now. You can still get them from the USA though (surprisingly for cheaper that you could in the UK - even with the shipping cost included). It's still not the cheapest moisturiser around though (over £20 each). But it really does seem to work.

It's called Mint White Tea Moisturizer by 100% Pure. Here's a link ... http://www.thegreenk...r-white-tea.htm

Hmm, that's a lot of unpronounceable chemicals there ! I'm not sure on all the ingredients but there's a few that's on the list of things to avoid/harmful chemicals.
Sodium Hydroxide is classed as a strong skin irritant, so I'd consider that before you buy it It should be ok if you don't have sensitive skin though.
personally I think natural products are best but if that's not your thing then I'd go ahead and give that moisturiser a try.

My sanity. Lol. Really.
Suffering awful with BDD. I havent left my house in over 2 years. Not even brave enough to step out in the garden. Which has lost me the majority of my friends -  except one.  I had to quit my job. Ive lost my enthusiam to do anything now.
A massive middle finger to bad skin.  

I suffer from Bdd too laceydecay !! I was diagnosed last year , had cbt therapy but it didn't seem to make a difference , I suffer from it because of my skin not any other part of my body , is it the same for you ?

Hi Billz Yes Im the same as you. My BDD is purely based on my skin. I think ive suffered with it for many years but its gradually got worse with time. I used to spend hours staring at my skin in the mirror when I was around 10-11. Picking at it. Covering any tiny blemish with make up. Trying to bleach any redness away by applying household bleach to my face !! (pure madness).  And now after years of being stupid and screwing round with my skin, treating it badly, it looks so bad now. Its gone from a few odd pimples to severe self inflicted eczema over my cheeks :'(
Things have got so bad that I was sent to a mental hospital by my Dr due to a suicide attempt.

I really hope that youre coping ok as possible with it and that you find a treatment that works for you. You can always message if you want a chat x

My sanity. Lol. Really.
Suffering awful with BDD. I havent left my house in over 2 years. Not even brave enough to step out in the garden. Which has lost me the majority of my friends -  except one.  I had to quit my job. Ive lost my enthusiam to do anything now.
A massive middle finger to bad skin.  

The only time my skin improved was when I reaslised that it was actually down to the products I was using.  My skin only started clearing up when I switched to organic products and binned anything chemical.
Im saying its a solution. I still get acne. But nothing like I did when I was around 17. (Im 22 now)
x