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#3309879 It Been So Long....

Posted by Kairasa on 10 December 2012 - 08:47 PM

I know it's difficult, and as a teen I used to be INCREDIBLY frustrated when my mom would say "oh you'll grow out of it!" and...I never did. Even now I have to 'maintain' my acne, meaning I use Dan's Regimen and it keeps it under control, but I cannot just use nothing, or the acne will persist.

Instead of throwing a pillow across the room and stomping my foot, I learned to accept it as a part of me. Not a good or a bad part, but just one element. Just like my straight hair, my eye color, my body shape...it's one part of me. But what it brought me, or forced me to learn, was so much more important. And that's what acne reminds me of now, personal growth. Try to work towards that...because you'll be a much happier and satisifed person, trust me. It's difficult and yet so worth it!

#3302811 Here Come The Dreaded Holidays..

Posted by Kairasa on 15 November 2012 - 04:56 PM

I agree with the above poster. Don't let your insecurities or perceptions ruin an otherwise fun time! I guarantee you won't remember how you felt that day about your skin if you just embrace yourself, flaws and all, and enjoy the holidays!

#3298898 Being A Virgin...

Posted by Kairasa on 30 October 2012 - 04:51 PM

Your concerns are normal but they are unfounded, and lemme tell you why! =)

I am a woman, 23, and I choose to remain a virgin until married. I made the decision a few years ago, when I was single, and yes, i was completely honest with guys in not only have I not had sex, but I am not going to with you at this moment. Let's just say that made for some interesting/amusing reactions over the years. Even before I had made that decision, I was never okay personally with casual sex.

A bit of a background about me...as I said I'm 23, I'm engaged, and I've been in a relationship with a guy who is a virgin at almost age 24, for over 2 years...and we aren't getting married for another year and a half. Now, to some people that could be crazy and I'm not pushing my beliefs on you or anyone, the choice about who to share your sexuality with is your choice, not anyone elses. It's not a race or a competition, even though I think boys (and some men) see it as one. I refused to play that game, and to counter what you say about being undesirable, I think I became very desirable at times because I was a challenge. Which isn't a good thing, but you know how men are, since you are one. =P Kidding aside, making a choice about yourself on this level and sticking to it really shows a positive portion of your character, and THAT is very desirable and beautiful.

I know very few people who are still virgins, and even less who are as strict about boundaries as my fiancé and I. Those boundaries are determined by you, the other person in the relationship, and what your moral beliefs dictate. It makes no sense to compare yourself to other people or to feel like you are less of a man because of it. And it surely makes no sense to worry about a potential girl coming into your life and abruptly leaving because you aren't experienced enough for her. If that happens, there clearly isn't a deep enough connection (in my opinion) to even contemplate having sex with her.

Bottom line: Your virignity is solely your own, and you can choose who to give it to. That choice shouldn't be influenced by other people outside of your relationship.

PS: I don't find my virgin fiancé lame at all...in fact he's pretty much the coolest guy out there! ^_^

#3238192 Relationship Issues

Posted by Kairasa on 25 April 2012 - 10:33 AM

I know it can be difficult, but it's emotionally freeing and good for the relationship in the long run to bring up issues such as these. Not only are they personal, but perhaps the person will end up supporting you and ultimately building you up, as you do the same for them.

My situation is a little difference because my boyfriend of almost two years is from this website and he had some of the worst acne I've ever seen in pictures. He used Accutane and it cleared him up but he has scars, and he isn't ashamed of them. And neither am I! They are part of what makes him...him. They are beautiful in that respect.

I guarantee she'll be supportive of you if she cares about you. =)

#3174431 Worst Acne On Acne.org

Posted by Kairasa on 30 October 2011 - 11:27 AM

Starness, have you browsed the Accutane threads yet? Dan also has compiled a lot of great information on Accutane here on the org for you to read. Just remember that while all side effects are possible, it is up to chance what you receive. It is good that you aren't taking them lightly, but also do not become paranoid. =)

If you have the time, I strongly recommend this person's log: http://www.acne.org/...sionnew-pic-530

He had severe acne as well and his log is really wonderful. I may be a bit biased because he is the love of my life but...it's a great read. And very helpful if you are going through the Accutane journey!

#3174424 Let's Get Real.

Posted by Kairasa on 30 October 2011 - 11:14 AM

I haven't watched that, but it's a dangerous road to travel down...between trivializing problems and finding perspective. Be careful, people need more compassion in the world no matter what they are dealing with. That does not mean pity though, or sympathy. But understanding.

#3037578 the feeling your being watched

Posted by Kairasa on 19 February 2011 - 11:30 PM

I understand what you are saying, and honestly, if it's getting to the point where you are having panic attacks I recommend potentially talking to someone about it. A trusted friend or even a counselor. It doesn't make you weak, but you shouldn't have ot live in fear of being paranoid to the point of panic attacks.

It may be hard to seek help, but it will wholeheartedly be worth it. And we are all here for you if you need to vent, no worries. =)

#2759244 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Kairasa on 01 December 2009 - 12:43 AM

I feel completely fine about my acne. I almost always do. I've accepted it as a part of me, whether I have clear skin or some pimples. I am me regardless and that is simply the best feeling in the world. =)