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#3368615 Clear Skin Or 100 Million Dollars?

Posted by wheatfree on 23 July 2013 - 06:57 PM

Money--if my skin was flawless I would find something else I didn't like about myself to fixate on. Beauty is fleeting, but good investments can last forever. . .

#3367129 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by wheatfree on 17 July 2013 - 02:35 PM

Getting more anxious as next week draws closer. I'm starting back at uni on Monday and on the Tuesday I start my placement work for uni with an organisation that works with children with autism. I'm excited and nervous. Mostly nervous and anxious really... because my skin is SO red and flaky looking on top of still being broken out in places... I'm worried that I'll look untidy and not professional for such a workplace...I can't do makeup well on top of my skin while it's like this... I'm not sure how much of what I'll be doing will be with the children directly, but I'm sure that will be involved at some point at least, so I'm worried about being around young kids and how they'll react to how I look or how red my face is etc. Kids say what they want tongue.png


I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...


any ideas of what I could say or do for this??


or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them smile.png

I would just tell them that I have very sensitive skin. They don't need or want details, but you could tell them that most products don't work for you or you are dealing with it with help from a doctor. You might be pleasantly surprised by how many people don't ask. I think you will feel very rewarded and comfortable with the autistic kids, but they can be a challenge! For Anxiety, keep repeating a phrase until it becomes true. I had terrible anxiety when I started a job in fast food of all things. I was shaking and panicking as I was driving to work one day, wasn't sure I'd be able to function. I took some deep breaths and starting repeating out loud "I can do this". It has worked remarkably well for me in many situations since. Making phone calls to parents, going in to ask forgiveness from the boss, etc. I usually just say it under my breath, though. Smile frequently on the job, it eases tension. Keep breathing. Ask questions anytime you are not sure about something. Learn from those around you. Hold your head up and have good posture--it makes you look confident and in control even if you are questioning your skills. If you are having a particularly tough time at work, briefly confide in someone that you feel very nervous and are afraid of doing something wrong. Sometimes just voicing a concern makes it feel less threatening and if that person has any people skills at all, she will be reassuring and watch out for you the rest of the day! Good Luck!

#3366311 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by wheatfree on 14 July 2013 - 11:46 AM

I'm feeling really optimistic today because I got a call from one of my old supervisors to schedule an interview at my old job next week. I filled out a rehire form awhile ago in hopes that I could get back on with the company...and after I long wait this is the news I was really hoping to hear. The supervisor I'll be interviewing with is a really good guy and he's seen me multiple times in person so he knows I don't have perfect skin so that takes away a TON of the nervousness I would feel if it was someone completely new...I'm crossing my fingers that I get this job because it would be a major positive influence in my life right now.


I finally have my acne under control via The Regimen and this is big step to try and get myself back into the working world after almost a full year of unemployment and struggling with isolation/depression because of skin issues. In many ways I feel like this is my second chance. In the last few months I've found a treatment that actually works for my skin, I've found a girlfriend who I can openly confide in about my skin issues...and if I can get this job it will feel like one of the final steps to get my life back on track and out from under the dark cloud that acne and the emotional baggage that comes with it has caused me.


For a long time I feel that I kind of gave up...I let myself become detached from the world and I lived too deeply in my own head and let what I saw in the mirror drag me down and make me feel low. Even though I'm almost 99% clear right now I'll never be 100% happy with what I see when I look at myself in the mirror and I've reached a point where I can accept that. For too long I've chased after perfection when it comes to my face and the truth of the matter is perfection is not something anyone can really attain and it's a waste of time to keep seeking it out...so I'm at a point in my life now where I can accept that I'm flawed and move forward despite it.  A part of me will always be reluctant to get back out there and face the world and another part of me is excited by the prospect of it...but regardless...I owe it to myself to at least try.

Congrats! I'm really happy for you! Best of luck to you!

#3366116 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by wheatfree on 13 July 2013 - 03:21 PM

For everyone with those recent posts about hair concerns, a little information that may or may not be helpful. It is within the normal range to lose about 100 strands per day. For people with long hair--that looks like an awful lot of hair! In fact, I have heard of people with super long hair becoming so obsessed with how much of their hair collects in the shower in the shower drain everyday that they decide to go short. It looks like a lot less hair. Hair growth and hair loss are influenced heavily by hormones as most women who have been pregnant have noticed. Every hair follicle goes through periods of growth and dormancy. The growth cycle is around 2-5 years. The length of this cycle is genetically determined. If you would let your hair grow without ever getting it cut (or experiencing breakage) you would find that it would reach a maximum length. People with longer growth cycles have a longer maximum length than someone with a shorter growth cycle. At the end of the 2-5 year growth cycle, the hair follicle temporarily stops producing new cells and hair growth stops for that strand of hair. Luckily not all of our hairs are on the same cycle. At the end of the dormant period the strand of hair is shed (these are called club hairs) when a new strand grows enough to eject the old hair from the follicle. What happens during pregnancy is that the cycles of a lot of hair syncronize due to the hormones. Many pregnant women notice thicker hair. After the pregnancy, those hormones, in the process of returning to normal, cause many hairs to end their dormancy period simultaneously. It is significant enough that women notice the visible change in the thickness of their hair and an increase in the number of club hairs in their brushes and drains, but it is completely normal. I imagine that depending on the birth control pill, you could experience the same effect.