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Frank*L

Member Since 29 Mar 2013
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#3392319 "i Have Acne, But I Went Outside And It Went Great!" - Topic

Posted by Frank*L on 03 November 2013 - 06:38 PM

hey man i have been reading your recent posts and have noticed you are much more positive now in days and im very happy for you! you probably dont remember me or know me, matter of fact we never corresponded on this message board but i remember you and it seems you are in a better place now in days which is awesome.

 

sorry i dont have much to add to this topic but this is a great thread idea. 




#3363651 I Saw A Girl With Scars And I Felt Sad

Posted by Frank*L on 03 July 2013 - 05:50 PM

There is only one person I have ever seen with acne scars who I felt "sorry" for because his scars were more severe than mine. His entire face was cratered up but guess what that dude was happy. He smiled, laughed, had friends and volunteered with after school programs with kids. I never saw him with a girl (figures) but he seemed happy and I felt good around him. He was a good dude.

 

Usually when I see others with scars I see how handsome/pretty they are despite it. Even besides scars if someone is fat or anything else that is considered unattractive I seriously dont give a fuck.

 

However when I see myself in the mirror I feel hatred, anger, sorrow, despair and its eating at my brain every fucking day. I scrutinize myself too but for good reason. 

 

Stella compared to me you are perfect. This might sound weird but I wish I was you. I dont even go to book stores because I hate myself.




#3363358 I Have Few Bumps But Pih !will It Even Matter To Him?

Posted by Frank*L on 02 July 2013 - 12:44 PM

Most guys dont care about stupid flaws I have seen plenty of girls with acne get married, have kids go on dates and live normal happy lives. Men are attracted to women naturally and its not that complicated on our end. Most of us are dying for the attention of a female and that dude you like should feel lucky you are into him. 

 

Approach him first if you haven't already. Not all guys have the "confidence" to approach a girl.




#3361808 What Do You Think Of This?

Posted by Frank*L on 26 June 2013 - 07:18 PM

the responses are actually pretty nice. were you expecting people to say that acne makes people beautiful? if acne wasn't a big deal this website wouldn't exist and we wouldn't bother posting here because our lives would be awesome.

 

i still say people with good facial aesthetics shouldn't worry too much about acne like most people on that website were saying. op is a pretty girl and every person i see on here posting their pics are good looking even with acne. you guys are so lucky.




#3359486 My Story

Posted by Frank*L on 19 June 2013 - 03:33 PM

@CVD you are right about the PTSD thing. I have become so overly sensitive and defensive throughout the years. Whenever I feel really down I do think of others that have it worse. At least I can walk and talk and am not bound to a wheelchair etc. When I see others less fortunate than me it is definitely a reality check. Although I do admit it doesn't make me feel better about myself. I feel so selfish sometimes ya know? like this person is on a wheel chair and I'm over here worrying about these scars on my face. my brain is a mess.

 

 

  Who knows why God gives us certain challenges in life?  I heard once that we choose our lives in heaven before we're born, knowing full well what our lives will be like. 

 

if thats true then I'm a bigger idiot than I thought i was. 




#3359485 Let's Please Post Whatever We Feel About Our Acne And Mood No Matter How...

Posted by Frank*L on 19 June 2013 - 03:24 PM

100% agree. don't get discouraged by anyone on this forum from posting whatever you feel inside. gotta keep it real!




#3359483 Why Do People Stare?

Posted by Frank*L on 19 June 2013 - 03:21 PM

 

Interesting, I have a different situation than you guys. When I appear in public places, people don't stare at me, but instead, they don't look at me, they ignore me, they avoid eye contact, they look away when I move past them, because I'm so ugly. This has done me a lot of damage on my self esteem. I feel less worthy, not accepted, lonely.

I think there is nothing wrong if someone is staring at your son. If they're staring at him, let them stare, let them mind their own business, just move past those people that are not worthy of your/his attention. If a girl is staring at your son, perhaps she even likes him. wink.png

What you should be aware of is that if you son is being ignored by his friends at school because the ignorance ruins people relationship easily. wink.png

You're worried because you don't get attention by others? My problem is that i get too much attention by others but because of all the wrong reasons! And believe me,getting no attention is far better than getting "wrong" attention. wink.png

 

Yes, I get like zero attention and I mean it really ZERO. I don't agree with you. I'll give you an example. You see a hot girl across the street. She is staring at you, because she wants you to notice her and because you like her. In my case, when she notices and sees me, she'll look away all the way until I'm past her when I'm crossing the street. I guess you look somehow cool and other people feel this. wink.png

 

with me its one of the two extremes either someone is staring at me (usually a dude) or I get completely ignored (usually females)

 

the worst for me is like passing someone by in an empty hallway and when I come withing 10 feet of the person they look away, look down or pretend they are reading something on their cell phone. Or if I say "hello" and I get ignored. I feel like raging. 

 

and like today at a mcdonalds drive thru some fat chick at the window (not to be mean but whatever) asked me what kind of sauce I want with my nuggets and when I looked at her she quickly looks away with this expressionless face and when she gave me my order she didnt even say shit or look at me. i have developed such a complex that I don't know how to take things anymore. did she see my scars? am I that f*cking repulsive? shes no prize either! i felt like throwing my nuggets in her face stupid b*tch. heh

 

/rant




#3359077 Overwhelming Negativity In This Section

Posted by Frank*L on 18 June 2013 - 01:12 PM

well, from the looks of your pictures,  you don't have it as worse as other members here so that might be a reason.
I still think that we should spread a positive vibe though but others are just going through much harder time.
Just my 2 cents biggrin.png

Please please give motivation and spread positive vibes because WE NEED IT!

 

yea he obviously is a good looking dude with the confidence to post shirtless pics of himself but has the nerve to tell others who are going through much tougher times than him to stop being so negative. some of us are suffering beyond belief. acne is much physical as it is mental.

 

sure this board doesnt have to be all negative, hell this post is very negative but I also try to support others and be positive as well. its give and take. we are all trying to support each other, some of us just choose to be negative at all times which is also cool. who are you to tell them not to be? you dont know what they are going through!




#3359074 Meanest thing that someone has said about your acne

Posted by Frank*L on 18 June 2013 - 01:07 PM

being told to kill yourself because you are so ugly isn't just my twisted perception of the world. it actually physically happened to me. a person actually felt like they had the right to tell me that for whatever reason. as if i wasn't human or worthy of anything but death. many other  people have said similar things like that in different variations and again it wasn't me having a negative perception of the world. it actually happened. i have also had to get into physical confrontations with people just to keep some sort of self worth and pride. it is all very tiring.

 

reading other peoples posts and stories here I would have to only assume things aren't better in other peoples neighborhoods. i guess it is basically human nature. it is unfair to some of us. some of you can still skate by in life and be positive which is awesome. good for you! but please excuse us if  some of us get angry.




#3358796 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Frank*L on 17 June 2013 - 03:23 PM

its whatever I'm used to being ugly. Actually I haven't broke out too bad for a while (just small stuff that goes away after a couple of days) I think because I cut out milk like 3 months ago. I love milk tho neutral.gif




#3358795 Its Been A While Since I've Cried Over My Acne :|

Posted by Frank*L on 17 June 2013 - 03:21 PM

 Working is the only thing that makes me feel worthy of life. Its the  one thing that keeps me from being a hermit in my room. 

 

That really hit home for me. If it wasn't for work I'd lose my mind in my apartment. 

 

I saw you tried Murad before that stuff sucks! That one thing totally f*cked up my face beyond belief. I even stuck with it for like 6 weeks even when it was breaking me out hardcore, stupid me. I think the majority of my scars were caused by that sh*t after making my face go from bad to worse.

 

and for what its worth I'm a dude and I think you're attractive. dat smile! I'd probably get all nervous if you looked my way and smiled.




#3356399 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Frank*L on 09 June 2013 - 11:21 AM

My fucking hate is so deep I can feel it aching in my bones. I have become dead inside, a heartless bastard with no empathy for anything unless I put my fucking mask on and pretend like every thing is nice and fucking dandy. It amazes me how looking in the god damn mirror can light the fire of my anger to the point where it feels like my gut is getting stabbed and my blood Is boiling. I can't stand all the hypocritical people who are full of fucking bullshit, my throat tigtens up as I write this shit fuck everything and everybody.

 

100% understand. i pretty much hate every moment of my existence. i have to fake it when i have to go out and do shit and i hate that i cant be normal. and these scars on my face are going to be with me until i rot away alone in my apartment one day. i think all these negative things all day but for whatever reason im still around. something inside tells me to keep going. im sure you know what i mean. you're comments on here don't go unnoticed. im here for you as much as some anonymous person online can be. much love.




#3355979 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Frank*L on 07 June 2013 - 06:44 PM

face still looks like sh*t. some gay guy working the jack in the box drive thru was being all flirty with me, feels good i guess.




#3355215 Why Do People Stare?

Posted by Frank*L on 05 June 2013 - 03:23 PM

some people are just ignorant and weren't raised correctly. people would stare at me too or call me dirty and these people were in their 30's, 40's, 50's its a shame and they probably have kids and don't teach them any manners so they just breed stupidity. 




#3354944 At What Age Range Is Having Acne The Worst?

Posted by Frank*L on 04 June 2013 - 05:20 PM

 

 


You can't get in a relationship because of acne 18+?

What kind of bull is that? So totally NOT true.

Sorry for the double post. But I think you're bound to find a keeper when you have acne because then you see the real side of people.

A person who can look past your skin and still find you beautiful and attractive is worth way more than someone who is superficial and refuses to date you or give you a chance because of your skin.

Those persons do not exist in my neighbourhood.

Well then get out of your neighborhood. You're bound to find somebody.

I can't get out of my neighbourhood due to obligations. There is no rule or law which states that I will find somebody. When I find somebody it will always be a bonus to my life.

Life is in general unfair. Fairy tales do not exist in real life.

 

yea I have that same outlook on life. I see the world as just a bunch of random events and nothing is given. But hey look man I'm ugly as hell despite my acne and scars. Even if I had a baby smooth complexion I'm still ugly. that being said I've still gotten laid and been in a couple of relationships. I messed those up because I'm also an idiot and one was a psycho bi-polar chick but thats a long ass story.

 

anyway my point is I'm sure you can get a girl. but i also understand how hard it is I'm full of self hate and that attitude is like a female repellent. we probably gotta work on that.