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AlexanderJ86

Member Since 21 Feb 2013
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"i Have Acne, But I Went Outside And It Went Great!" - Topic

03 November 2013 - 06:55 AM

I really hate the negative topics in this section. I even hate the "how do you feel about your acne today" - topic. It insinuates that you have to feel something about your acne every damn day and it "motivates" the active users here to keep focused on their acne.

 

So, hereby I introduce something else. I introduce this thread to share positive experiences. If this doesn't become a success, then it says something more about the users here than this thread.

 

I'll begin. I have acne on my face (around my mouth), scarring, acne in my neck and on my back. I went to eat with a bunch of people and I sport with another bunch of people last week. Actually, I do this every week and every week it is a success, because people treat me nicely and I felt great :)

 

Please share your positive experiences in this thread.


You Are All Extremely Beautiful!

25 August 2013 - 01:56 AM

I feel like I want to tell you all this:

 

I see the pictures of some posters here all the time next to the posts (just like you can see a picture of me) and I have to say that when I see you and read your posts, that you are all beautiful people with warm, social, huggable personalities :)

 

There is in my eyes no reason why you should obsess about your skin. You see, I see acne more as a feature of a person or a property that in no way influences how attractive that person is in my mind. I find the famous acne girl on Youtube very attractive whether she wears makeup or not. (I am not exactly sure how to say that in English, but I hope you understand what I mean :) )


[Warning: This Topic Might Upset You] The Unspoken Behaviours: What Acne Sufferers Real...

08 July 2013 - 12:51 PM

Acne sufferers are normal people and I have acne as well, but some of their behaviours really tick me off.

 

1) Stop staring at the skin of other acne sufferers. My thoughts when I caught other acne sufferers staring at me: "Yes, I know that I have acne and I know that you have acne. Yes, I know my acne riddled skin reminds you of your own skin. Stop looking at my skin and stop comparing my skin with your skin."

 

2) Stop looking away when talking to other acne sufferers. This has actually to do with point 1, especially the part "The acne of someone else reminds you of your own acne". My thoughts about this: "I want you to look me in the eyes when we speak to each other. Yes, I know that you hate acne and that you find it ugly. Yes, I know it is difficult for you to do that because you are obsessed with your skin and my skin. But please try to look me in the eyes so that we can have a normal and nice conversation."

 

3) Stop "excluding" other acne sufferers in a group. This has also to do with point 2. It usually happens when there is a mixed group with clear skin people and acne people. When a acne person is talking, then that person is looking exclusively at the clear skin people. That person is avoiding looking at other acne sufferers, because the acne of other sufferers are "reminding" them about their own "terrible" state of their skin and they might "hate" other acne sufferers because of the acne.

 

Now, I know that these behaviours may be done unconsciously, but I find these behaviours to be very rude, maybe even downright asocial and discriminating. I have the tendency to behave like that as well, but I know that other people may not like it when I, for example, look at their skin (and I don't like that as well) so I make a conscious effort to look them in the eyes when I am talking to them.

 

I have that tendency and I know that (a lot of) you have that tendency as well. We are obsessed with "flawed" skin and we are constantly looking at our own skin and that of others. It is "ingrained" in our brain that we have to look at the skin.

 

I talk to clear skin people and I talk to acne sufferers, but I notice a difference at how I am being treated. Clear skin people are always looking at me in the eyes when I am talking to them and acne sufferers don't do that.

 

We should all stop with the obsession (including myself), because some really nasty behaviours are coming forth from that.

 

What are your thoughts on this?


Has It "derailed" Your Life Socially And Mentally?

21 February 2013 - 05:41 PM

Hi,

 

I'm 27, I've been bullied about it in the past and society deemed that I had to be put into social isolation because of my bad looks. I was the worst looking guy, so I had to be bullied and I had to be put in isolation. Don't bother saying that it wasn't because of the acne, because my experiences say otherwise.

I have never been able to make real friends and I haven't been going out from the age of 16 until 6 months ago when I decided that had to see a doctor about my problems, because I see people of my age getting children and I would like to have children as well within 10 years or so. It didn't really bother me before, but last year I realised that I actually had a depression when I talked to people about this. I never realised that I had a depression, because it was my normal state of mind. (and it still kinda is, but I'm "fighting" it with positive experiences these days).

I am finally meeting new people now and things are going better for me. It seems that people are now accepting me finally, but I have to pay money in order to see them and I would rather keep the money myself, but it is either this or back to hell again. The thing is that I have lived my entire life in the area I live in currently, but I have zero friends and I had otherwise no good contact with other people of my age. The doctor said that my acne was becoming less severe, but it was still severe enough that I have to at least get started with a Roaccutane treatment, because that was the bottom line for "realistic solutions".

 

Do any of you experienced something that I have experienced? (or rather have the severe lack of social experiences "normal looking" people have?)