Its quite pointless to argue, some people will try to push people so that way they can't get hurt. They will constantly say no one will love them, and blame everyone else. They don't want to take chances. I've seen plenty of pretty women dating conventionally ugly guys. I knew a guy back in high school who had severe acne and acne scars yet ladies were still all over him most likely because he was a musician. I've seen conventionally ugly couples who still found love. I know people who met via video games, forums, dating sites, and even tumblr. I do agree women may generally be a little bit more picky, because of an instinct to try to pick the best mate for survival. However there are almost just as many guys who are incredibly shallow even if they aren't good looking. I put a lot of the blame on the media constantly showing us what a perfect woman looks like which is incredibly unrealistic. This goes for guys too, but to a lesser degree. Both genders are guilty of being shallow, just like there's unshallow people of both genders.
That sounds good but the stats are not in favor of this post.
from Business Insider
"But men and women are the same!!! You're being biased and sexist and a jerk!!! by telling the truth that I don't want to hear!!!"
“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people. Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender… Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.”
"top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.”
This is the double-edged sword of online dating. You have far more access to singles than ever before. But so does everyone else. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women. For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months:
• The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.
• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.
• The two most attractive women probably would have received several thousand more if their inboxes hadn’t have reached maximum capacity.
• It took 2 months, 13 days for the most popular woman’s inbox to fill up. At the current rate it would take the most popular man 2.3 years to fill up his."
"You're biased!!! I'm going to make up a fake statement against you online now because you hurt my feelings with real data!!!!1111"
You're doing the math of how likely it is someone will mate with you on a dating app. Beyonce had an endless amount of options. She was famous and could have anyone? from sexy poor people to sexy rich people. ANYONE in the world. But she's with Jay Z, whom I hear is very ugly. To the point where he was made fun of in school, and made fun of even more by Nas. She didn't settle for Jay Z. She loves him.
If you put yourself in situations where you can interact with people, you may find love. If you use video dating apps where they put you with people for you, you will interact and find love. Even people on this website ended up marrying each other. I don't know how bad you look, but if you look horrendously bad then you will just have to tweak some things around.
Your argument doesn't hold. Ugliness does not exist. Jay Z was not bullied because of his appearance. He was bullied, because the bullies are antisocial. You are blaming the victim.