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AlexanderJ86

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In Topic: Anyone Have No Sexual Or Dating Experience Because Of Acne?

Yesterday, 05:36 AM

 

Its quite pointless to argue, some people will try to push people so that way they can't get hurt. They will constantly say no one will love them, and blame everyone else. They don't want to take chances. I've seen plenty of pretty women dating conventionally ugly guys. I knew a guy back in high school who had severe acne and acne scars yet ladies were still all over him most likely because he was a musician. I've seen conventionally ugly couples who still found love. I know people who met via video games, forums, dating sites, and even tumblr. I do agree women may generally be a little bit more picky, because of an instinct to try to pick the best mate for survival. However there are almost just as many guys who are incredibly shallow even if they aren't good looking. I put a lot of the blame on the media constantly showing us what a perfect woman looks like which is incredibly unrealistic. This goes for guys too, but to a lesser degree. Both genders are guilty of being shallow, just like there's unshallow people of both genders.

That sounds good but the stats are not in favor of this post.

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from Business Insider

"But men and women are the same!!! You're being biased and sexist and a jerk!!! by telling the truth that I don't want to hear!!!"

“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people. Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender… Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.”

"top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.”

This is the double-edged sword of online dating. You have far more access to singles than ever before. But so does everyone else. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.

Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women. For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months:

• The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.

• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.

• The two most attractive women probably would have received several thousand more if their inboxes hadn’t have reached maximum capacity.

• It took 2 months, 13 days for the most popular woman’s inbox to fill up. At the current rate it would take the most popular man 2.3 years to fill up his."

http://www.evanmarckatz.com

"You're biased!!! I'm going to make up a fake statement against you online now because you hurt my feelings with real data!!!!1111"


 


You're doing the math of how likely it is someone will mate with you on a dating app.  Beyonce had an endless amount of options.  She was famous and could have anyone? from sexy poor people to sexy rich people.  ANYONE in the world.  But she's with Jay Z, whom I hear is very ugly.  To the point where he was made fun of in school, and made fun of even more by Nas.  She didn't settle for Jay Z.  She loves him. 

If you put yourself in situations where you can interact with people, you may find love.  If you use video dating apps where they put you with people for you, you will interact and find love.  Even people on this website ended up marrying each other.  I don't know how bad you look, but if you look horrendously bad then you will just have to tweak some things around.

Your argument doesn't hold. Ugliness does not exist. Jay Z was not bullied because of his appearance. He was bullied, because the bullies are antisocial. You are blaming the victim.


In Topic: Anyone Have No Sexual Or Dating Experience Because Of Acne?

28 August 2015 - 07:45 PM

 

 

I don't think there are people attracted to personality over appearance. I have never met them. From my experience I can tell you that it is seemingly impossible to draw people in with a good personality. I am not allowed to hang out with people. No one wants to do that with me, regardless of how my personality is. I am not a shitty person. I am surrounded by shitty people and the psychologists of the social skills training confirmed that.

There ARE, but it's much more uncommon. I can tell you from my experience that it is not impossible to draw people in with a good personality.
I don't know what you mean by you're not allowed to hang out with people though.

 

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Without sugar coating anything, it's true that the majority of people care about looks. With such a sexually charged society it's no wonder the first thing people look for in a partner is attractiveness or sexual appeal. However that doesn't make it right to lump everyone together, especially by something like gender (I'm looking at you, AlexanderJ86). There ARE woman and men out there who don't care much about appearance, just as there are woman and men who are obsessed with it. It will be harder to find a partner if you have acne or acne scars, but it's not impossible. Good luck out there.

From experience I can tell you that it is seemingly impossible. That is the reason I wrote the post the way I did. Also, I did talk about exceptions in that post.

Well there is always exceptions to things, so it's not saying much. You seem to be categorizing everyone as the way you see them, while the truth is people aren't *this way* or *that way* just because you've seen some who are. People have complex opinions, and thoughts on things that falls into a spectrum. You're argument of "never worked for me" doesn't hold much vindication seeming as you're pretty bitter, and there are even less people in the world who would be interested in someone who is not conventionally attractive, nor has a positive personality. So yes, you're chances are very low. There are always ways to increase them though.


In general women are more pickier than men. It's been proven with studies with online dating that show that women only gravitate towards the 10-20% of men that are best looking and avoid the other 80% entirely.

I would never listen to women regarding dating advice because what they say is never reality. They just want to look good by saying what is socially acceptable.

"As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh."

- Okcupid study
 

...So you think I'm lying just because I have a uterus? If I wanted to look good by saying what is socially acceptable I would say I think everyone is beautiful/handsome and that I was one of those people who don't care at all about appearances at all. Well, I'm not.

Can you guys stop acting like men are the victim to the horrible, vain women? Guess what, a lot of guys judge women on how they look too. Its society, not gender. Could you tell me without bullshiting that you'd be interested in a "hideous" woman if you were attractive looking yourself?

 

Oh, so there are people like that out there. Can you point them out for me in my neighbourhood, please? People (and girls) don't want to hang out with me. They are not allowing me to do that.
No, we think you are lying because of the immensely discriminating behaviour generally displayed by women. It's true that men can display that behaviour as well, but in far, far less capacity. "Hideous" people don't exist. I have sex with skinny A cup women, I have sex with fat D cup women, white, black...  I don't really care.

 

Obviously, I don't know you neighborhood so it may very well be completely full of vain women. You have the internet though, and can meet potential partners through it. If people don't want to hang out with you, the most likely reason is because of your personality. Most people don't care how attractive a friend looks at all.
What do you mean "hideous" doesn't exist? I put it in quotes since beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all, but a woman totally covered in severe acne is considered "ugly" by the public. You still didn't answer my question. If you were attractive, would you still give your attention to conventionally ugly woman or would you give it to conventionally pretty women?

Link me to some REAL studies if you want to prove that women judge appearance more.
http://meinnaturwiss...cations-of.html
http://www.brainpick...kenrick-beauty/

 

I can't meet potential partners through it. Trust me, I have tried that a couple of times.
Your "most likely reason" is completely wrong. The psychologists said the exact opposite about my personality and social skills. I've got the psychiatrists on my side.
The OKCupid study is in line with my personal experience and observations. The second study you link to says that men are calibrated by porn. Their "beauty radar" is not realistic and should be far more flexible. Why are men attracted to porn and why is porn made for men? It's because some men can't have sex the normal way.
Hideousness and beauty objectively don't exist. If I see a woman with severe acne, then I think that I see a women with severe acne. I think literally what I see. I don't use words as "ugly", "hideous" and "pretty". They are subject to interpretation and therefore they are empty words. If she has a heartbeat and presents her hole to me, then I take her. It is as simple as that. There are more men like me out there.
 


In Topic: Anyone Have No Sexual Or Dating Experience Because Of Acne?

28 August 2015 - 12:02 PM

I don't think there are people attracted to personality over appearance. I have never met them. From my experience I can tell you that it is seemingly impossible to draw people in with a good personality. I am not allowed to hang out with people. No one wants to do that with me, regardless of how my personality is. I am not a shitty person. I am surrounded by shitty people and the psychologists of the social skills training confirmed that.

There ARE, but it's much more uncommon. I can tell you from my experience that it is not impossible to draw people in with a good personality.
I don't know what you mean by you're not allowed to hang out with people though.

 

 

 

Without sugar coating anything, it's true that the majority of people care about looks. With such a sexually charged society it's no wonder the first thing people look for in a partner is attractiveness or sexual appeal. However that doesn't make it right to lump everyone together, especially by something like gender (I'm looking at you, AlexanderJ86). There ARE woman and men out there who don't care much about appearance, just as there are woman and men who are obsessed with it. It will be harder to find a partner if you have acne or acne scars, but it's not impossible. Good luck out there.

From experience I can tell you that it is seemingly impossible. That is the reason I wrote the post the way I did. Also, I did talk about exceptions in that post.

Well there is always exceptions to things, so it's not saying much. You seem to be categorizing everyone as the way you see them, while the truth is people aren't *this way* or *that way* just because you've seen some who are. People have complex opinions, and thoughts on things that falls into a spectrum. You're argument of "never worked for me" doesn't hold much vindication seeming as you're pretty bitter, and there are even less people in the world who would be interested in someone who is not conventionally attractive, nor has a positive personality. So yes, you're chances are very low. There are always ways to increase them though.


In general women are more pickier than men. It's been proven with studies with online dating that show that women only gravitate towards the 10-20% of men that are best looking and avoid the other 80% entirely.

I would never listen to women regarding dating advice because what they say is never reality. They just want to look good by saying what is socially acceptable.

"As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh."

- Okcupid study
 

...So you think I'm lying just because I have a uterus? If I wanted to look good by saying what is socially acceptable I would say I think everyone is beautiful/handsome and that I was one of those people who don't care at all about appearances at all. Well, I'm not.

Can you guys stop acting like men are the victim to the horrible, vain women? Guess what, a lot of guys judge women on how they look too. Its society, not gender. Could you tell me without bullshiting that you'd be interested in a "hideous" woman if you were attractive looking yourself?

 

Oh, so there are people like that out there. Can you point them out for me in my neighbourhood, please? People (and girls) don't want to hang out with me. They are not allowing me to do that.
No, we think you are lying because of the immensely discriminating behaviour generally displayed by women. It's true that men can display that behaviour as well, but in far, far less capacity. "Hideous" people don't exist. I have sex with skinny A cup women, I have sex with fat D cup women, white, black...  I don't really care.


In Topic: Anyone Have No Sexual Or Dating Experience Because Of Acne?

26 August 2015 - 04:02 AM

 

 

 

Without sugar coating anything, it's true that the majority of people care about looks. With such a sexually charged society it's no wonder the first thing people look for in a partner is attractiveness or sexual appeal. However that doesn't make it right to lump everyone together, especially by something like gender (I'm looking at you, AlexanderJ86). There ARE woman and men out there who don't care much about appearance, just as there are woman and men who are obsessed with it. It will be harder to find a partner if you have acne or acne scars, but it's not impossible. Good luck out there.

From experience I can tell you that it is seemingly impossible. That is the reason I wrote the post the way I did. Also, I did talk about exceptions in that post.

Well there is always exceptions to things, so it's not saying much. You seem to be categorizing everyone as the way you see them, while the truth is people aren't *this way* or *that way* just because you've seen some who are. People have complex opinions, and thoughts on things that falls into a spectrum. You're argument of "never worked for me" doesn't hold much vindication seeming as you're pretty bitter, and there are even less people in the world who would be interested in someone who is not conventionally attractive, nor has a positive personality. So yes, you're chances are very low. There are always ways to increase them though.

Do you think that I have the time and money to meet every single person on the planet? Of course I have to base my conclusions on some people. I have problems, but I am not really crazy. Most people are very simple minded.
I am not deemed conventionally attractive *already*, regardless of my personality and regardless whether people know me or not. Do you think that I am talking like this for fun???
You are saying that there are ways to increase my chances and then you don't proceed to explain those ways. Why stop there? Do you think I can read your mind or something?

I never said that, but you have the internet don't you? Not to mention it's still unfair to group people together. Like for example, the only lesbians I personally know happen to be pretty geeky (not saying there's anything wrong with that), but I don't assume that all lesbians are that way just because the ones I know are.

I don't think you are talking like this for fun, and I'm genuinely sorry that you've been dealt a bad hand. My point with the personality thing was that the people who are honestly attracted to personality over appearance are going to be driven away, and you don't want to do that because they're not common to come across. I had thought I implied your way to increase your chances in my previous post but I probably wasn't clear enough so I'll reiterate.

First of all putting yourself out there always increases your chances because of the simple fact that you will meet more people. More importantly though is having a welcoming demeanor, and being generally pleasant. Even though people may not be physically attracted to you, its possible to draw them in with a good personality. This doesn't mean you have to be bubbly and optimistic or anything, but being caring, tolerant, and trustworthy is important and well received by everyone but bigots. 

I don't think there are people attracted to personality over appearance. I have never met them. From my experience I can tell you that it is seemingly impossible to draw people in with a good personality. I am not allowed to hang out with people. No one wants to do that with me, regardless of how my personality is. I am not a shitty person. I am surrounded by shitty people and the psychologists of the social skills training confirmed that.


In Topic: The Reason Why You Are Ashamed Of Your Acne

25 August 2015 - 05:52 AM

I am ashamed of my acne, because people think I'm ugly and they bully me.