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AlexanderJ86

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In Topic: Becoming More Confident And Self-Loving?

15 November 2014 - 09:02 AM

I have never recovered. I suffer from cluster A personality disorders these days.

 

we dont know what it means and will never have luck to find out...

You don't need luck to find out. You only need Google.


In Topic: Acne Prank

08 November 2014 - 07:24 AM

That Act is not real, because it is associated with money. Money is unnatural and therefore nothing. People don't really want money or jobs. They want access to goods. If you're stuck on an island with nothing to eat and you only have your wallet with you, then you'll die. Money causes disordered behaviour, such as people wanting to control other people with bargaining and shop rules. That is what happens when people think that money and shop rules are real.

This is my point: money and shop rules don't have a physical reference to nature. There is nothing real and natural backing it up. Work is being done on a superior economic system, where money is not involved.

 

I'm Still not convinced of that logic looks like I'm never gonna be able persuade you into thinking otherwise then let's leave everyone with his personal beliefs, It is all a matter of opinions though nothing is absolute but death.

 

Just one question : If you're convinced that Ideas/Beauty/Ugliness in their essence aren't reality why did you join this forum then? If you don't even take into account the very conception of prettiness/ugliness why are you annoyed to the point that made you join this forum to vent out or to share your experiences with others whom experiences were similar to yours ? Practically you shouldn't be concerned about Acne and mental disorders !!! People with acne posses a face like everybody else after all just with little deformations.

 

Don't you think that's a bit contradictory of you ? I don't mean to sound judgmental .... Just having an adult conversation with you and if you took it offensively I didn't mean to and I'm sorry again.

I am not forcing you to adopt my logic ;)

 

I joined, because all other people around me believe that they do exist and they have been / are hurting me. I do not have mental disorders for fun. I am not concerned about acne, but other people do. There is no contradiction.


In Topic: Becoming More Confident And Self-Loving?

07 November 2014 - 08:46 PM

I have never recovered. I suffer from cluster A personality disorders these days.


In Topic: Acne Prank

07 November 2014 - 08:43 PM

 

We all are bound by our own perceptions.  That being said its common sense that some women/men will find you attractive and others will not.  I applaud @marbleartist for iterating what I wanted to say in the first place, women are not objects.  They do not owe us men anything, it is your duty to put yourself out there, "ugly" or not.  If you never make an effort how will you know if you wouldve been successful or not?  As for all this existentialism, sure we could talk about this all day, as I see AlexanderJ86 is want to do.  I feel this is a cop-out, by not living in the real/present you're just lying to yourself.  "They are ideas in the head, and what is in the head is not real", well neurotransmitters are very real chemicals and they provide the basis for love, affection, attraction.  Oxytocin is a very powerful NT and it can make "beauty" unnecessary if a strong enough connection is made between two people.  Yes we all know that our world is narcissitic and superficial, but only if you keep propogating those qualities, and although I've met some pretty superficial women, I can assure you most women are much more accepting of guys with scars/acne than men are of women with the same afflictions.  Just some food for thought. 

 


You're making some assumptions in this post and are also saying things that I have a different experience with. Women used to find me attractive until I got acne. No one said that women were "objects" or "owe us anything" (though we apparently owe single mothers money via taxes f they keep getting pregnant by different men... funny how that works). I also make an effort and continue to do so, but it seems to make no difference. Also, where is your evidence that women are more accepting of guys with acne and scars than men are? I find that highly doubtful. Just go on Facebook and see all of the below average women with imperfections and all the attention they get from men and compare it to the attention ugly men get (none).

I understand your differences may differ, and I wasn't saying that YOU directly objectify women, I was just saying that men as a whole generally expect some sort of reciprocation from women.  My evidence for women being more accepting is strictly anecdotal, numerous women on this site have said that men with scars are sexy, or that blemishes dont matter that much.  Women are generally more prone to acne, due to hormones, body chemistry etc, therefore I feel like they can sympathize/empathize more than most men.  Also I have scars and acne yet am with a gorgeous girl, and there have been more than a few times when someones been like, "You're with him?", but instead of hurting my feelings it makes me feel better and more confident.  I'm not trying to put you or anyone else down on this forum, I'm just trying to push the message that a lot of this self-pity is only making things worse.  If you are trying, and are trying to better yourself outside and in then itll only be a matter of time before you find a girl that will love you and find you attractive. Facebook is not a good barometer of attractiveness, and I think you know that guys are a lot more aggresive and overbearing than women when it comes to hitting on them.  Just because you have acne/scars doesn't mean you shouldn't continue to make moves on girls, and ask them out, etc.  You might be suprised that many of them will respond positvely, and those that don't, who cares. 



No that specific instance is called hyper-sensitivity and victimhood.  I don't discount real bullying, but walking up to a group of people and having one of them not acknowledge you would not be bullying in my opinon.  Or if you keep going up to the same person and they don't want to talk to you, why don't you just stop?  If they're not actively going out of their way to hurt your feelings then why are you bringing it upon yourself?

Victimhood does not exist. That is not a word that you would encounter in the DSM. There are several names for their behaviour that you can encounter in the DSM though.

 

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You are confusing ideas with behaviour.

 

It's inseparable... If you don't take Ideas into account those actions won't actually get to the stage of being a behavior. Humanity will be another stereotypic organism with just hunger/sleep/coitus instincts, I don't think that's a valid or legitimate conception to think of the human race in such a superficial manner.

 

Humans as we must have logically agreed on are distinctively unique in every sense of the word from other entities ... Shape/nature/inward wise that's no-brainer.

 

I don't think you actually believe what you stated, You're just enforcing that belief to degrade from the significance of your mental disorders and how acne causes somewhat disfiguration that will never be considered normal and not judged shallowly by society "p.s. I've mental disorders as well", However If you truly believe it down inside I'm sorry and I respect your perspective  .... Just utterly disagree with you.

 

Note : This controversy is solely for intellectual purposes so I didn't mean to sound aggressive or offensive whatsoever and I assume the same goes for you and everyone else taking a part in this discussion.

I will give examples to clarify myself.

 

Behaviour: Looking for food, driven by the sensation of hunger.

Idea: Jews are not allowed in shops. (There is no direct behaviour associated with that)

 

Ideas have no base in the physical reality.

 

 

I wasn't saying that "victimhood" was in the DSM or that what I was saying had anything to do with psychological disorders.  I was just trying to express that there will always be people who are disinterested in your or that do not want to engage you in conversation.  That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with them or you.  Some people are superficial, that's just how life is, but there are many who can see past imperfections.   And I still don't get any of the "jew" references or comparisons, but I digress. 

 

The jew thing is just an extreme example that I took for maximum clarification. The thing is, if all people don't show an interest in you, then you can become very mentally disordered. That is exactly what happened to me.

 

I will give examples to clarify myself.

 

Behaviour: Looking for food, driven by the sensation of hunger.

Idea: Jews are not allowed in shops. (There is no direct behaviour associated with that)

 

Ideas have no base in the physical reality.

 


 

I'm not sure if you mean "jews" as the act of bargaining or something else, However I suppose it is what you meant ....so what exactly makes "The prohibition of the haggling act" Non-existent or not associated to reality ?

 

A guy enters the shop then he starts to bargain but the owner denies him and he has two options : Leave or abide by the rules of the shop ...  At that moment this Idea translates itself and gets connected to reality because the rule he put led to an event in the real world once it happened but even if it never happens and no one enters the shop while this rule stands it still exists simply because it's only logical that there are two rational possibilities than can happen during the execution of this Idea/rule which I've just mentioned  >>>> It's all linked to one entity ! Personally that's how I picture it.

That Act is not real, because it is associated with money. Money is unnatural and therefore nothing. People don't really want money or jobs. They want access to goods. If you're stuck on an island with nothing to eat and you only have your wallet with you, then you'll die. Money causes disordered behaviour, such as people wanting to control other people with bargaining and shop rules. That is what happens when people think that money and shop rules are real.

This is my point: money and shop rules don't have a physical reference to nature. There is nothing real and natural backing it up. Work is being done on a superior economic system, where money is not involved.


In Topic: Acne Prank

06 November 2014 - 04:03 PM

No that specific instance is called hyper-sensitivity and victimhood.  I don't discount real bullying, but walking up to a group of people and having one of them not acknowledge you would not be bullying in my opinon.  Or if you keep going up to the same person and they don't want to talk to you, why don't you just stop?  If they're not actively going out of their way to hurt your feelings then why are you bringing it upon yourself?

Victimhood does not exist. That is not a word that you would encounter in the DSM. There are several names for their behaviour that you can encounter in the DSM though.

 

You are confusing ideas with behaviour.

 

It's inseparable... If you don't take Ideas into account those actions won't actually get to the stage of being a behavior. Humanity will be another stereotypic organism with just hunger/sleep/coitus instincts, I don't think that's a valid or legitimate conception to think of the human race in such a superficial manner.

 

Humans as we must have logically agreed on are distinctively unique in every sense of the word from other entities ... Shape/nature/inward wise that's no-brainer.

 

I don't think you actually believe what you stated, You're just enforcing that belief to degrade from the significance of your mental disorders and how acne causes somewhat disfiguration that will never be considered normal and not judged shallowly by society "p.s. I've mental disorders as well", However If you truly believe it down inside I'm sorry and I respect your perspective  .... Just utterly disagree with you.

 

Note : This controversy is solely for intellectual purposes so I didn't mean to sound aggressive or offensive whatsoever and I assume the same goes for you and everyone else taking a part in this discussion.

I will give examples to clarify myself.

 

Behaviour: Looking for food, driven by the sensation of hunger.

Idea: Jews are not allowed in shops. (There is no direct behaviour associated with that)

 

Ideas have no base in the physical reality.