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Pianina

Member Since 11 Jan 2013
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In Topic: Ever Feel Suicidal?

14 September 2014 - 06:30 AM


"I was battling borderline personality disorder, depression and self-harming at the age of 17-21, along with cystic acne until age 24. But as dark as the world can look at that moment, somewhere in my mind I kept a voice telling me that there is light in a tunnel and it's really not worth taking more serious measures like ending my life. That is what I would tell other people nurturing some suicidal thoughts - however bad is it right now, there are no reasons important enough to commit suicide, just like you seek for support in a forum (which means you're conscious about the problem), look for ways to help yourself. It can really get better, at least the depression part! "

 

 

Ohhh. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh, and I'm sorry you've suffered. Didn't mean to have a go, but I just thought you were coming from a different place with things you'd said. But for what it's worth, next week I'm having my blood taken by my GP, then finally getting my referral to a dermatologist. I'm trying to stay positive as much as possible, and keep away from mirror checking all day every day
 


That's great! I really hope you will find a way out and not checking mirrors is good to keep yourself from obsessing with the scars. Myself I always avoid the mirrors in the public bathrooms or my reflection on a smartphone screen, when the sun shines directly to it. That's when it looks really bad, so I just put the phone away, hehe. My friend always laughs at me, cause I have a very weak light on while I'm in the bathroom or sometimes I don't take it on at all. Just choose to not see my flaw! 



u might not believe in destiny but things will happen every day that you have no control over ...if u don't believe me look at your past


Destiny is just a justification to make yourself feel better about the outcomes of some things...Nothing more, but a coincidence though... 


In Topic: Ever Feel Suicidal?

13 September 2014 - 05:34 PM

Pianina

Just gotta echo missamua's thoughts on this. If it doesn't affect you that's great. Really. But for a lot of people it does, and being so condescending doesn't really help anyone does it? From the title of the thread it should be obvious that maybe I just wanted support or some type of connection with someone who'd been through similar experiences.

 

Facial scarring is something that can take over your life, whether you have a strong character or not. Combine depression into that, and it's a struggle for a lot of people. Maybe you don't understand it, and that's fine, but to just dismiss the fact that people's lives are in ruins and put it down to being 'weak' is something I thought we'd left in the past as a society 50 years ago.

 

Your thoughts on depression are clearly the thoughts of someone who's never suffered from it, nor understands it, so to say someone suffering depression or any mental illness is just a weak link is just silly. Look at Robin Williams for instance. Rich, famous, loved the world over, achieved things most can only dream of, yet still took his own life. There were millions of people far worse off in the world. Would you consider him a 'weak link'?

I've steered from the topic, and I don't mean to have a go, but people who stigmatize mental illness the way you do are a massive part of the problem, and it's the people suffering who bear the brunt of your ignorance.


I was battling borderline personality disorder, depression and self-harming at the age of 17-21, along with cystic acne until age 24. But as dark as the world can look at that moment, somewhere in my mind I kept a voice telling me that there is light in a tunnel and it's really not worth taking more serious measures like ending my life. That is what I would tell other people nurturing some suicidal thoughts - however bad is it right now, there are no reasons important enough to commit suicide, just like you seek for support in a forum (which means you're conscious about the problem), look for ways to help yourself. It can really get better, at least the depression part! 

 


In Topic: Ever Feel Suicidal?

13 September 2014 - 10:16 AM

I agree with most of what you said...but nobody "chooses" to have severe depression which is a serious mental illness that needs treatment. Telling someone it's all in their head isn't all that helpful. It's great that you can live with your scarring and aren't severely depressed over it, but many people are and it's important not to negate the feelings someone has over their scarring even if it differs from how you feel about yours. Most people on here aren't vain or shallow...they just want to look the way they used to.  On another note, if you are having suicidal thoughts, i'd definitely recommend seeing someone for it and getting help. 

Everybody knows someone who has whether acne or scars. Most people find scars even less visually disturbing than acne, frankly, since it's not something actively growing on your face. But even acne is such a normality nowadays that nobody cares. I see people with really bad skin issues everyday, it struck me recently how many people actually have whether acne or scars. Literally masses! Myself I have a nasty scarring myself, which i definitely dislike a lot and gonna soon try to treat with laser, but never thought of it as something that could put me down as much as my cystic acne used to. When the outside world doesn't care, it's all in your head and you should work with yourself instead of letting suicidal thoughts grow and nurture them. We can't give into destructive thoughts just because of an aesthetic flaw, it's just so unfair to all those people who die everyday for different reasons they couldn't choose, while all they wanted was to live. I know, you (talking in general), who is preoccupied with yourself and your image, couldn't care less about those people, but just think if it's really worth losing your life for not having a perfect complexion? Talk to a professional, get some treatments done, work with your inner critic, just stop caring about shallow things -  fight it. 

                  Well yea, if youre depressed already, only professional help will matter, but most people allow themselves to sink deeper and deeper into depression by acting like they have no control over their lives. It's always easiest to find a reason why you shouldn't get up and fight against what's making you unhappy, cause it actually takes a huge effort to do that. It's easy to just succumb and let the life chew and spit you out. But do you really want to be someone who everyone considers "just the weak link of the natural selection"? The truth is that there is always a way out, but usually that way demands more, than people are willing to give... We hear about people, who achieved something against all odds, who did the impossible and fixing your scars with the technology we have nowadays isnt even an impossibility. So whats there to sweat about? Having severe burn scars on your face might be troubling, but acne scars doesnt change who you are what are your facial features. Scars aren't disgusting. Scars are treatable. So be stubborn, dont look for reasons to not  put effort and just let yourself get depressed. You beat acne, youll beat this too.

In Topic: Acne Scar 70% Success So Far

13 September 2014 - 05:40 AM

Great that it's working for you! Myself, I don't dare to do any harsh lasers like co2, so I'm gonna get Fraxel restore, which is not ablative. Probably gonna need at least 4 procedures, since my scarring is quite bad. 
Would be really nice if you could put some before and after pictures! smile.png

Also, I agree with Meagan that people with negative results or no results at all are more likely to come back here and complain while the ones who had success just moves on real quick. 


In Topic: Ever Feel Suicidal?

12 September 2014 - 05:04 PM

Everybody knows someone who has whether acne or scars. Most people find scars even less visually disturbing than acne, frankly, since it's not something actively growing on your face. But even acne is such a normality nowadays that nobody cares. I see people with really bad skin issues everyday, it struck me recently how many people actually have whether acne or scars. Literally masses! Myself I have a nasty scarring myself, which i definitely dislike a lot and gonna soon try to treat with laser, but never thought of it as something that could put me down as much as my cystic acne used to. When the outside world doesn't care, it's all in your head and you should work with yourself instead of letting suicidal thoughts grow and nurture them. We can't give into destructive thoughts just because of an aesthetic flaw, it's just so unfair to all those people who die everyday for different reasons they couldn't choose, while all they wanted was to live. I know, you (talking in general), who is preoccupied with yourself and your image, couldn't care less about those people, but just think if it's really worth losing your life for not having a perfect complexion? Talk to a professional, get some treatments done, work with your inner critic, just stop caring about shallow things -  fight it.