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MissSac17

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In Topic: Acne Is Ugly

Yesterday, 01:07 PM



Fair enough. It's my logic though, in fact its not logic to me, its obvious. I literally can and do see beautiful people with acne. It's only a universal definition of we believe it to be, yeah a lot of people do find"acne" unattractive but why should we care about them? Why should we feel we need to fit in by having clear skin or a slimmer figure. For ourselves yes, but no-one else.
If someone doesn't accept me for my skin issues out other issues then that their problem.
Having a "fat acceptance" movement is far different from finding the beauty in acne, come on.
I have grew up with acne since 11 years old, so in a way my "beauty" grew on me with it and I was never regarded less for it by anyone, I have amazing friends and have had many relationships. I was never regarded as ugly out unattractive, ever. I think personality plays a huge part in an overall person but if you don't see my logic then that's just fine.

 
I think we all care what others think about us, otherwise we wouldn't be on this website. I'm not saying that having acne automatically makes someone unattractive. I agree that people can be beautiful in spite of their acne. But acne itself is unattractive and can only hurt your overall appearance.
Oh definitely, I believe there's a large proportion of us that really do care what others think, I wish were so easy to not let thoughts like that enter your brain. Sometimes I think about everyone in the world having acne, like say it was a 'normal' human thing to have on everyone, I wonder if people with clear skin would feel the way we do right now. A bit of a twisted logic but I find it an entertaining thought.

It's just I know, we all know how hard it can be. My skin still is no way near perfect but I'm done with letting it control me, which it can do and does sadly do to people. Its shit that we believe so much that its unattractive and we feel less of a person for it need cause we shouldn't, there's more to a person than their skin and the more I look at people's skin in real life the more I see that acne is pretty common these days even the dreaded clogged pore skin look that I friggin' HATE on myself.

I just personally think we can all be pretty and beautiful in our own way with it, people that think your not as really shallow

In Topic: Acne Is Ugly

18 August 2014 - 01:35 AM

Nah I totally disagree I tell you some of the most beautiful people I have met have had acne and not just mild acne. Albeit severe acne like really bad acne may not be deemed attractive by close minded people or people that have never had skin issues but the majority of people that have had acne to SOME degree can, I'm sure, relate and change judgments quickly.
I always find it refreshing to see people with acne it makes me feel more comfortable for some reason.
But no, to me Acne is not ugly, its more of a...lesson of some sort or a challenge.

 
I don't agree with this logic. Aren't you just changing your definition of beautiful to include acne just because you happen to have it? And then calling others close minded or ignorant because they don't conform to your personal definition, but instead keep the real, universal definition? It's the same way of thinking that makes people start a fat acceptance movement instead of just losing some weight. Society as a whole does not view acne or obesity as attractive and if you want others to think you're beautiful, which we all do or else we wouldn't be here, you should just get rid of it.

Fair enough. It's my logic though, in fact its not logic to me, its obvious. I literally can and do see beautiful people with acne. It's only a universal definition of we believe it to be, yeah a lot of people do find"acne" unattractive but why should we care about them? Why should we feel we need to fit in by having clear skin or a slimmer figure. For ourselves yes, but no-one else.

If someone doesn't accept me for my skin issues out other issues then that their problem.

Having a "fat acceptance" movement is far different from finding the beauty in acne, come on.

I have grew up with acne since 11 years old, so in a way my "beauty" grew on me with it and I was never regarded less for it by anyone, I have amazing friends and have had many relationships. I was never regarded as ugly out unattractive, ever. I think personality plays a huge part in an overall person but if you don't see my logic then that's just fine.

Ance is not beautiful. Telling someone they're beautiful with acne is a lie and will make it even worse when someone else says it isn't. So please just be honest instead of being too nice.


So what you'd tell them they were ugly? No I'm being too nice and I am being honest, there are tons of folks on here that have acne and are really attractive. Even in every day life I see beautiful people with skin issues. I am being HONEST.

In Topic: Hollow Unfulfilling Effect

17 August 2014 - 12:04 PM


Ive been feeling really depressed lately, more so than in the past. The sort of feeling where I feel like the only thing that has held me back all these years career and relationship-wise is my acne. The lack of self confidence and self esteem I exude is painfully obvious to others. Ive had acne since I was 14 and I'm almost 30 now and I feel like I've been held back in life and haven't gotten to experience any happiness through these years. I'm pretty much a recluse and a social hermit. Part of me want to be social and engaging but pyschologically I feel inferior to other because of the way I look. It's a frustrating feeling knowing what my obstacles are but have no control on how to conquer it. I know I will never be confident enough to be 'normal' as long as I have acne no matter how hard I try. I think it's because I'm approaching 30 that I had time to self reflect and take a look at where I'm at and feel a pointless hollow existence in my life.

I feel ya man, I am 20 and have avoided all of my friends over the past year. Classes start again next week and I am dreading it. But what can we do? I'm not going to tell you that people don't care about how you look, because some people do. But I know that most people will be your friend regardless of how you look. If you are a good, caring person,they will see you for who you are.
 
You're right, but alas I am my own worst critic. What you say is true, but you will have to have a helluvah personality people for people to look past the exterior. You will have to work 10x harder than say a person who is a attractive and can make a good first impression by the grace of their looks.

Not necessarily 10x harder. No way. I really think personality goes a long way no matter what, I believe a person would be more attracted to a woman or man who had an amazing personality with acne other than a complete bitch or ass**** with no acne.

Don't be so hard on yourself.  Wheb my acne was at its WORST and my confidence was soo shattered the last thing I ever thought to happen was to make someone fall in love with me. It happens and it will happen with you..you just need some self confidence and belief that YOU are WORTHY person worthy of love and happiness regardless of acne. ]

In Topic: Will It Ever Get Better..or Have I Messed Myself Up For Good

17 August 2014 - 11:48 AM

Hi Sankofa. I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, do you have any friends you can talk to? Sometimes talking these things through with people who really care for us and love us just helps, since, for at a time when we can't love and appreciate ourselves sometimes seeing others feel that way about us can spark some awareness in ourselves.

What do you think made you break out in cysts before taking Accutane?

I know if I am constantly stressing about my skin it makes it worse :/ literally in days. Stress has alot to answer for specifically lack of sleep which makes stress worse and stress can cause loss of sleep...so its a double edged sword. Perhaps working on your stress levels may help, meditation/yoga/write your thoughts down. Maybe medication?

I'm not good with Accutane but from the snippets I have read doesn't it make your skin break out ffirst

In Topic: Depression

17 August 2014 - 10:22 AM

Friends have been a real life saver for me and finding things to keep me busy too like exercising.