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Randall Flagg

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#3451561 What Did You Let Acne Take Away From You?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 11 September 2014 - 01:24 AM

My confidence, my ability to go out and be social with friends like any other young guy...but most importantly it took away my ability to find a relationship (that's probably what hurt the most) 




#3451560 "acne Is The Mark Of The Devil"?!

Posted by Randall Flagg on 11 September 2014 - 01:22 AM

Idiotic. Acne is stigmatized by ignorance from a lot of people in the world. Just like one of the most unhelpful pieces of advice people like to give acne sufferers..."wash your face more!" smh 




#3451559 People Point Out My Makeup

Posted by Randall Flagg on 11 September 2014 - 01:17 AM

I'm sorry to hear that you've had to deal with this. People can be very insensitive and rude without even realizing it sometimes. Other times they just try to project their own insecurities on you. They don't realize how strong you are for dealing with acne on a day to day basis...and they probably never will.




#3447091 Guys With Acne Can Be Very Sexy!

Posted by Randall Flagg on 13 August 2014 - 12:19 PM

lol Well this is definitely an inspiring post...just the idea that a beautiful girl like yourself would be interested in a guy that suffers from acne/scars is really awesome.

 

Still tho, acne/scars make me feel very unattractive at times. I think that's how it is with most other guys too 




#3446815 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 12 August 2014 - 02:48 AM

It's been too long since I last checked in! Skin is doing really good, still using the Regimen only nightly...I still get a pimple or two but they heal quickly and it's incredibly easy to manage compared to how my skin used to be. Otherwise life is good, work is steady, have made lots of new friends, looking to get a new phone here pretty soon. Still no girlfriend but that's a work in progress...it's mostly due to my shyness because of old emotional scars from acne, but I'm not too worried about it.

 

Wishing everyone here good days to come skin-wise and in life too! 




#3433729 Blunt Dating Advice For People With Acne

Posted by Randall Flagg on 28 May 2014 - 05:49 PM

I think confidence is a misused, perhaps overused, word. I agree with the sentiment that confidence is key, but, despite people constantly repeating the mantra that 'confidence is not the same as arrogance/cockiness', in reality few can actually tell the difference - especially when it comes to dating. Arrogant men (and to a lesser extent women) do very well indeed when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

 

In my view, it is better to aim for inner peace. I haven't found 'inner peace' as such but in those fleeting moments when I feel peaceful and content with myself and the world it is far easier to feel positivity, creativity, warmth and kindness. When I strive for 'confidence' it too often feels like an act, an act that conforms to society's ideal of an 'alpha' male: selfishness, dominance, control, promiscuity, etc. are not qualities I admire and wish to ape.

 

I agree 100% with Jamie's post here. Based purely on life experience (my own personal life experience) this rings especially true. It's so easy to tell someone "be confident" like it's a switch you're capable of toggling in your head whenever you desire. It's not. You'll notice in this modern day society that an arrogant male who is rude as hell has no problem at all getting a girlfriend. I will never be that person. I don't WANT to be that person. I'm not willing to change myself and betray my personality just because that's what some girls find attractive. Do I want a relationship? Absolutely. Am I going to put on an act and be an asshole to obtain that relationship? Nah. I'll pass.

 

I'll be honest when I say that I hate modern dating. Everything about it seems flawed to me. We live in an image obsessed world where some of the most negative personality traits are considered "hot" or "sexy."

 

I have no desire to be a douche bag "alpha male" no matter how sexy or attractive that persona is. It's not me...and even if it means I'll be single for eternity, I really don't give a shit.




#3428447 How Do My Fellow Ugly Guys Cope With Being Undesired?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 24 April 2014 - 09:18 PM

Focus on other aspects of your life that you're passionate about. Rather that be education, hobbies, working out, entertainment...whatever you're into. Build a life for yourself that you really enjoy even without female companionship. I'll admit that even though I don't get much more active acne since being on the Regimen, I still have scarring and consider myself unattractive as a result of that. 

 

I'll be 100% honest too and say that I hate the way modern dating is set up. Guys are expected to initiate with girls, run the risk of getting rejected, do all the chasing and putting yourself out there, etc etc. Having had experience with most dating sites I think they're pretty much a joke, barely ever get any kind of responses on there if you're a male. Real life is a better option, but even then almost all cute/interesting girls that I meet have boyfriends already and the only girls that find me attractive are the ones that I don't find attractive.

 

The whole thing is just frustrating as hell so I tend to just not even worry about it much these days...just focus on bettering myself and enjoying my life for me.




#3423820 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 01 April 2014 - 11:55 PM

Seems like it's been ages since I've checked in...hope all my friends here are doing well! Little update on me: I'm still on the Regimen (only nightly) and it does a great job of controlling my acne. I'm never 100% acne free but I can pretty much bank on not getting huge cysts or clusters of pimples anymore like I used to. As I type this I only have a fairly small pimple on my chin. We're finally starting see some warm weather in my part of the world and I'm SO happy about that...winter is depressing as hell around here and it just makes me feel like a hermit.(I live in WV, mountains everywhere and makes you feel isolated during colder months, lol) 

 

Things are going well at my job. Have a new social circle of friends and we go out on a pretty consistent basis so that's fun, definitely better than hiding away in the house all the time when I'm feeling down. My confidence is up to a level I feel comfortable with, I still have lots of work to do, but I'm getting there.

 

Been doing a lot of writing lately, catching up on my Walking Dead addiction, and working out as often as I can. Joined a new gym recently (super cheap and great place, very chill environment....I've done weight training at home for years but this expands my horizons even more because there's so much equipment that I don't have access to at home)

 

Still single unfortunately...I get the occasional flirty smile from girls at work but I'm still a little too shy to capitalize on it and start up conversations with them, and in the dating game we all know the guy is supposed to chase the girl otherwise nothing ever happens...so I'm trying to work on that too, but it takes time. I'm at a point where I'm not terribly concerned about it, if I meet a girl and we hit it off then that's awesome...but I'm not gonna stress about it because other aspects of my life are going well and I've got a lot to be thankful for.

 

That about covers it :P




#3413560 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 11 February 2014 - 05:40 PM

Skin is doing pretty well right now. Have one large spot on my chin that is starting to diminish. I realized what my Regimen issue was...I was using expired BP! I just got so into the routine of the Regimen that I didn't even think about BP having an expiration date, but after noticing that I was getting more breakouts than usual I checked and I think that's the reason. Got some fresh BP now and seems my skin is starting to get back to a calmer state.

 

I'm getting so tired of winter though, it's just fuel for depression...I'll be so glad when spring and summer gets here so that I can get out and do things.

 

Also I've implemented a new body bar into my routine to combat some shoulder acne, it's the Basis body bar and it's super cheap and seems to be doing the trick.




#3413548 Let's Be Real Guy's

Posted by Randall Flagg on 11 February 2014 - 04:08 PM

If I'm being 100% honest about what bothers me the MOST about having acne/scarring as a young 20 something male...then yes, that's exactly it.

 

The one thing I want the most at this point in my life is female companionship. I want to date, I want to have fun while I'm young, I want to experience a healthy relationship with a girl and just enjoy life with her. As a male with acne/scarring, my ability to do that is pretty much crippled. If it's not my physical appearance that will turn girls off, it's my insecurity/emotional damage due to years of struggling with acne and trying to come to terms with it.

 

In this society guys are expected to chase girls, make the first moves, put in the work of romancing and showing interest...and let's face facts, if you're a guy who struggles with acne it's damn near impossible to do that. Take that NORMAL fear of rejection that most people have and amplify it by a million or so decimals and then you've got the fear of rejection level that people with acne have, because we're hyper aware of it because we spend so much time obsessing about our looks.

 

I'm at a point where I've pretty much given up on the dating scene for the time being. Admitting that makes me bitter, but it's the truth...right now I'm focusing on just bettering myself. Getting my skin to a level I'm comfortable with, working out to vent frustration and build a better body, doing well at my job and pursuing schooling, etc.

 

And @Bubble55, that's an interesting point...but I can't completely agree with it. Men want to look attractive just like women want to look attractive. Having acne/scarred skin does not make us feel rugged or manly, it makes us feel monstrous and out of place.




#3412741 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 07 February 2014 - 02:56 AM

Quiet Jamie, I'm sorry as hell you had to deal with that. I've experienced moments like that too when getting my hair cut. It seems most hair cuttery places have attractive girls working at them all the time too and I feel like that makes it so much worse because half the time I imagine these girls are thinking to themselves "ew, why do I have to cut this freakish looking guy's hair" whenever I go there. It's why I often let my hair grow long because getting my hair cut is such a huge shot to the ego, I can't stop staring at my scars and I usually can't even make eye contact with the girl cutting my hair so I just stare at the floor in silence hoping it'll be over soon. Just remember the lighting in most of those salons/shops is very harsh and it's not an accurate representation of what your skin looks like on a day to day basis.

 

I'm wishing you lots of success with the new job and keep on meeting new people and striving to make new friends, don't let this momentary rough patch hold you back.




#3403099 Flagg's Regimen Log [Pics]

Posted by Randall Flagg on 23 December 2013 - 10:48 PM

Random Update:

 

Wow, hard to believe it's been over three months since I updated this log! Figured I'd just chime in for a minute here on the state of my face because these past few weeks have been rough. I dunno if it's the cold weather that's exasperating my acne or what, but I've been breaking out a little more than usual. Nothing too terrible, but the occasional big pimple along with little whiteheads here and there. Currently I have this big, awkward pimple on the side of my nose where my glasses slide up against my skin...and my chin has this little nest of whiteheads that just won't die, they seem to just keep replicating each time one of them heals. So that's pretty annoying. I also had this really strange little patch of red skin appear near my hairline on my forehead, not a pimple but I have no idea what it could be...I've read that sometimes hyper-pigmentation can just randomly occur on skin that has had been damaged by acne in the past so I'm assuming maybe that's what it is. Luckily it's starting to fade, whatever it is. 

 

How's everyone else doing? Noticing any changes in your skin on the Regimen during the winter months? 




#3395641 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 18 November 2013 - 09:29 PM

I can feel a cyst coming, but luckily it won't be a big one. I have a cluster of breakouts on my cheek, it's like they have mutated to a colony, just cultivated that part of my skin. LOL. 

 

I've had this tribe for two weeks now, they are stubborn suckers! THEY ARE FINALLY dried up, but sometimes I find them still white, thus infecting the others. VICIOUS CYCLE. I think they are fighting against me. 

 

I just got the Regimen tonight so I'm hoping it works well for me! rolleyes.gif

 

 

Best of luck on the Regimen! It's worked wonders for me and literally changed the way I live my life.

 

Anyways random update, I was watching The Walking Dead last night and I'm literally in love with the music in that show, this song in particular got me thinking back to some of my really dark periods when I felt "broken" because of acne...love tv shows like this that are so full of rich storytelling, definitely a nice escape when you're going through tough and isolated periods of time trying to get your skin and confidence back to a level you're comfortable with.

 

 




#3394810 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 14 November 2013 - 07:16 PM

Hope everyone is doing well, I like to check back in this thread from time to time to see how everyone is doing. This thread gave me a place to vent during some of my worst moments & struggles so I'm really glad to see it's still going strong.

 

Update on me: Skin is still doing great thanks to my time on The Regimen. I still get the occasional pimple, but my acne is so manageable now and it's not the the horrible burden it once was that kept me staring into a mirror at myself for sometimes 30 minutes straight just obsessing. So glad to be free of that worry where I think to myself "so what kind of pimple will I get this week, will it be a cyst, where will it show up, etc etc."

 

Right now I have a small pimple near the top of my nose but the AHA is doing a great job of killing it and otherwise my skin is in good shape. I've been busy with work and I'm considering switching from full-time to part-time soon so that I can go back to school. Been getting lots of compliments on my skin at work and what really makes me feel good is hearing that some girls at my work find me attractive...that's such a good feeling because I spent so much time isolating myself during some of my worst depressions and became convinced that I was the ugliest thing that has ever walked this earth.

 

Overall just glad to be back into the world again and interacting with people on a daily basis...it's still a struggle at times and there are occasionally uncomfortable moments where I long to just chill in my safe little room...but I become more and more comfortable being out in public & social with each passing day. Glad I made the decision to actually live life again and stop isolating myself from the world.




#3385780 How ya feelin' about your acne today?

Posted by Randall Flagg on 01 October 2013 - 12:14 AM

Well I think I can finally say I have found my path to clear skin. It really feels like I have risen from the fucking dead.

 

That's fantastic, man! I've read your posts in the past and I'm glad you're seeing improvements. What's your secret?

 

Also quick update on me: Thanks everyone for those comments a few pages back, I was just having a rare bad day and feeling down about stuff. Happens sometimes. I'm feeling 100% better the past week or so and my skin is doing well. And to be perfectly honest...I've been getting compliments about my appearance from random customers at work.

 

One lady walked by my post the other day and said "you have beautiful skin" and that literally floored me because I was like..."HUH?? why would she say that to me?" but after looking in the mirror and taking a GOOD long look at my skin I see how far I've come and how much things have improved for me...I realized that my skin does look really good right now. It's such a complete turnaround because years ago I remember getting negative comments about my skin...one that still haunts me to this day is from some random person that said to me "you're a good looking guy...don't let that skin get out of hand!"

 

so it's kinda a big adjustment to just accept a compliment like that and realize that it's completely genuine...but I'm working on that and as I become more comfortable in my own skin I think it will get easier and easier.

 

Hope everyone is doing well!