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Randall Flagg

Member Since 23 May 2012
Offline Last Active Jul 07 2014 02:33 AM

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In Topic: Blunt Dating Advice For People With Acne

28 May 2014 - 05:49 PM

I think confidence is a misused, perhaps overused, word. I agree with the sentiment that confidence is key, but, despite people constantly repeating the mantra that 'confidence is not the same as arrogance/cockiness', in reality few can actually tell the difference - especially when it comes to dating. Arrogant men (and to a lesser extent women) do very well indeed when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

 

In my view, it is better to aim for inner peace. I haven't found 'inner peace' as such but in those fleeting moments when I feel peaceful and content with myself and the world it is far easier to feel positivity, creativity, warmth and kindness. When I strive for 'confidence' it too often feels like an act, an act that conforms to society's ideal of an 'alpha' male: selfishness, dominance, control, promiscuity, etc. are not qualities I admire and wish to ape.

 

I agree 100% with Jamie's post here. Based purely on life experience (my own personal life experience) this rings especially true. It's so easy to tell someone "be confident" like it's a switch you're capable of toggling in your head whenever you desire. It's not. You'll notice in this modern day society that an arrogant male who is rude as hell has no problem at all getting a girlfriend. I will never be that person. I don't WANT to be that person. I'm not willing to change myself and betray my personality just because that's what some girls find attractive. Do I want a relationship? Absolutely. Am I going to put on an act and be an asshole to obtain that relationship? Nah. I'll pass.

 

I'll be honest when I say that I hate modern dating. Everything about it seems flawed to me. We live in an image obsessed world where some of the most negative personality traits are considered "hot" or "sexy."

 

I have no desire to be a douche bag "alpha male" no matter how sexy or attractive that persona is. It's not me...and even if it means I'll be single for eternity, I really don't give a shit.


In Topic: How Do My Fellow Ugly Guys Cope With Being Undesired?

24 April 2014 - 09:18 PM

Focus on other aspects of your life that you're passionate about. Rather that be education, hobbies, working out, entertainment...whatever you're into. Build a life for yourself that you really enjoy even without female companionship. I'll admit that even though I don't get much more active acne since being on the Regimen, I still have scarring and consider myself unattractive as a result of that. 

 

I'll be 100% honest too and say that I hate the way modern dating is set up. Guys are expected to initiate with girls, run the risk of getting rejected, do all the chasing and putting yourself out there, etc etc. Having had experience with most dating sites I think they're pretty much a joke, barely ever get any kind of responses on there if you're a male. Real life is a better option, but even then almost all cute/interesting girls that I meet have boyfriends already and the only girls that find me attractive are the ones that I don't find attractive.

 

The whole thing is just frustrating as hell so I tend to just not even worry about it much these days...just focus on bettering myself and enjoying my life for me.


In Topic: Flagg's Regimen Log [Pics]

02 April 2014 - 12:04 AM

Hey nice to read an update smile.png I am going to do that as soon as I am done writing this lol. I have no clue how long it has been since I have updated let alone been on this site. School has completely controlled my life this last semester, but thankfully that is passed me!

 

And regards to your question about that winter months ~ My skin does better in the winter than the summer. The humidity is not nice to my skin. I have to use so so much BP to stay 90 percent clear but it get better in the winter for me. My skin is weird ~

 

So how much BP are you currently utilizing for your skin? How has it changed since you first began the regimen?

 

I'm so late getting back to you on this, sorry!! Life has been so wild lately...seems like I never have enough time to jump online anymore. I'm still using BP only nightly and I use a full finger's worth....I've found this is enough to keep my skin under control. I think if anything the only change I've seen is my skin has slowly but surely adjusted to the BP....not much redness or flakiness anymore. My skin does have a slight tanning effect though, but I like how it looks honestly...kinda just seems like I have a decent tan, lol.

 

Figured I'd give you guys a quick picture update...got a new webcam recently.

 

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I hope everyone is doing well...and if anyone ever needs to talk about The Regimen and has any questions about my experience, my inbox is always open...or feel free to hit me up in this thread! It's been one hell of a ride for me...but definitely a positive one on the long run.


In Topic: How ya feelin' about your acne today?

01 April 2014 - 11:55 PM

Seems like it's been ages since I've checked in...hope all my friends here are doing well! Little update on me: I'm still on the Regimen (only nightly) and it does a great job of controlling my acne. I'm never 100% acne free but I can pretty much bank on not getting huge cysts or clusters of pimples anymore like I used to. As I type this I only have a fairly small pimple on my chin. We're finally starting see some warm weather in my part of the world and I'm SO happy about that...winter is depressing as hell around here and it just makes me feel like a hermit.(I live in WV, mountains everywhere and makes you feel isolated during colder months, lol) 

 

Things are going well at my job. Have a new social circle of friends and we go out on a pretty consistent basis so that's fun, definitely better than hiding away in the house all the time when I'm feeling down. My confidence is up to a level I feel comfortable with, I still have lots of work to do, but I'm getting there.

 

Been doing a lot of writing lately, catching up on my Walking Dead addiction, and working out as often as I can. Joined a new gym recently (super cheap and great place, very chill environment....I've done weight training at home for years but this expands my horizons even more because there's so much equipment that I don't have access to at home)

 

Still single unfortunately...I get the occasional flirty smile from girls at work but I'm still a little too shy to capitalize on it and start up conversations with them, and in the dating game we all know the guy is supposed to chase the girl otherwise nothing ever happens...so I'm trying to work on that too, but it takes time. I'm at a point where I'm not terribly concerned about it, if I meet a girl and we hit it off then that's awesome...but I'm not gonna stress about it because other aspects of my life are going well and I've got a lot to be thankful for.

 

That about covers it :P


In Topic: Let's Be Real Guy's

28 February 2014 - 08:04 PM

Hey you guys!! Let's pick up some girls lmao

 

Let's have a meet up this Saturday (3/1/14)@ Lehigh Valley Mall (Address: 250 Lehigh Valley Mall, Whitehall, PA 18052)

                                                         2:00pm

Anyone who lives around the area come thru and let's all have an attempt to pick up some girls.

 

 

Lmao idk where you guys are from but probably nobody would show up but hey it's worth a try.

 

Anyone down???lol 

 

If I lived closer I'd be down for this...simply because I think it would be fun and it would be like an adventure just to get out there and make the effort (especially if you have friends supporting you who know exactly how annoying and frustrating life with acne can be)

 

I'm about 3 hours away from you in WV, lol