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TheSavyBanana

Member Since 06 Feb 2012
Offline Last Active Sep 15 2014 12:29 AM

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In Topic: Being A Virgin...

08 June 2014 - 10:34 PM

Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. I was a virgin until I was 18. It's honestly not even a sliver of the deal everyone makes it out to be. I didn't feel any different; it didn't change me at all. I know you are feeling badly about this, but you are not weird, and it's a lot more common to be a virgin at 19 than you think! Any girl who would care you are a virgin is honestly not a very good person, and she is not worthy of being with you. I know no matter how old a man was, it would not bother me one bit if he was a virgin. Anyway, virginity is an awful social construct created to instill shame around sexuality. I really hope you will find peace with yourself. You will experience your first sexual encounters when the time is right. What it all comes down to is chance and timing. In the mean time, you have everything you need to experience the wonderful pleasure your body can provide. Enjoy. You will find someone to share this pleasure with before you know it.

In Topic: Vegan Diet For Acne?

12 May 2014 - 06:49 PM

Go for it! Seriously! After being vegan for 3 or so months (I've been vegan for over a year now), I never had acne again. smile.png This after taking Accutane, and then Spironolactone! I don't take any meds anymore; I just use retin-a for my pores, which look a million times better now. I think most arguments against veganism are plain silly. I don't have to eat all day, I eat as often and as fast as my family, and they eat meat and dairy and eggs. I eat 2000+ calories a day. My labs are perfect. My weight is perfect. It's super easy. The only thing I supplement is B12; from what I understand, humans of the past were able to get a substantial amount of B12 from the soil, but with current food production practices we need to supplement. All I do is add 2 tbsp. total throughout the day of nutritional yeast to my foods. I'm of the opinion that meat and animal products are downright just not good for us, particularly with how they are produced in our modern day. Plus, the vegan diet is cruelty free. smile.png Good luck, and if you have any questions feel free to pm me!

I'm glad to hear that veganism is working out so well for your acne! Would you mind sharing what you eat on a typical day? I also like the nutritional yeast idea!
 

I don't think I'm disciplined enough to try veganism long term, but if it's working for you then that's great plus it saves a few animals. I was vegetarian for over 10 years, then I added fish, and now I also eat meat to see if it would make a difference. Eating meat has actually made my anemia symptoms almost disappear, so I guess I may have had an iron deficiency from being vegetarian all those years. I wish I didn't have to eat meat because I don't like the thought of eating animals, but for me it seems to be a better diet than being vegetarian. What do you eat as part of a vegan diet? Some people avoid soy and tofu, which makes it hard to get protein. 

 
I'm actually surprised I'm disciplined enough to do this. A year ago I was feeling sorry for myself because I couldn't eat like everyone else, but now as I see improvements it becomes easier. I still have clogged pores and a bit of oily skin, and I'm willing to manipulate my diet as much as possible to see if I can get rid of those things. Right now this is still just an experiment, though, and I'm not sure if I'll continue eating this way long term. For breakfast I usually eat oatmeal with a green smoothie; lunch is usually carrots, celery, corn, beans, and peas; Dinner is peas, green beans, celery, beans, carrots, and potatoes; Snacks are fruits and veggies, and in the late evening I usually have another bowl of oatmeal. I feel like my diet could use a lot of improvements. It contains a lot of foods which I think have a high glycemic impact, but several of those food are high in calories and I feel like I need that because I am very thin and it's very easy for me to lose weight. I'm also trying to keep my diet low fat which makes it more difficult. In the future I'd like to cut out the huge quantity of peas and corn, start eating sweet potatoes instead of russet, add quinoa into my diet, and maybe find a replacement for my oatmeal, though, I'm not sure what that would be.
 

Biological evidence that we should eat a great deal of greens:
 
"researchers have now detected 3,751 magnesium-binding sites on human proteins, reflecting how important this mineral is to a great many biological processes."
http://articles.merc...t_rid=516458224
 
As a major component of chlorophyll, green leaves are one of the biggest sources.  The other is seeds.  (for the plant to sprout it's first leaves.)

 
This is very interesting! Thanks for sharing. I already drink green smoothies, but I'll have to try to add more greens into my diet.

Of course! For breakfast I almost always have a GIANT green smoothie. It's just easier to get down early in the mornings than something heartier, and it tastes sooo good! If not that I'll have rolled oats prepared with almond milk, cinnamon, and fresh fruit like blueberries and bananas, or raisins. Sometimes I'll add walnuts or flax seeds. For lunch I typically have a big quinoa bowl with nutritional yeast, steamed broccoli, kale, carrots... Lots of different kinds of veggies! To some it seems bland, but I like it that way (you can always add a sauce). My dinners vary a lot, but my staples are lentils, black beans, (actually lots of different beans) and steamed veggies. There are a lot of creative dinners I've made with beans and veggies. I also tend to like something fattier, like avocado, at night as well. For snacks I have fruits and veggies, hummus, nuts, or peanut butter, depending on how hungry I'm feeling feeling/ what I've eaten so far in the day.

I hope that was helpful. I too have to keep my weight up, so I tend to eat large servings, but I'm used to eat. I guess my only advice really is to listen to your body, and you'll know if this lifestyle will work for you. You can always add back in animal products if that's what you need. Good luck!!

In Topic: Vegan Diet For Acne?

08 May 2014 - 10:45 PM

Go for it! Seriously! After being vegan for 3 or so months (I've been vegan for over a year now), I never had acne again. :) This after taking Accutane, and then Spironolactone! I don't take any meds anymore; I just use retin-a for my pores, which look a million times better now. I think most arguments against veganism are plain silly. I don't have to eat all day, I eat as often and as fast as my family, and they eat meat and dairy and eggs. I eat 2000+ calories a day. My labs are perfect. My weight is perfect. It's super easy. The only thing I supplement is B12; from what I understand, humans of the past were able to get a substantial amount of B12 from the soil, but with current food production practices we need to supplement. All I do is add 2 tbsp. total throughout the day of nutritional yeast to my foods. I'm of the opinion that meat and animal products are downright just not good for us, particularly with how they are produced in our modern day. Plus, the vegan diet is cruelty free. :) Good luck, and if you have any questions feel free to pm me!

In Topic: Do People With Acne Commit Suicide Very Often?

11 April 2014 - 01:45 AM

I've read some studies done on acne and suicide. People with acne are more prone to depression, bdd, and suicidal ideation (surprise surprise). I'm not sure about the rate of suicides/ attempted suicides in acne sufferers, but I wouldn't be surprised if the rates were relatively high.

Wow, I just started reading through the replies on this thread. A lot of insensitivity. There's always more to the story than what appears when someone takes their life. No one just decides to kill themselves for no reason. The things some people commit suicide over might seem stupid to you, but there must be some deeper issues.

Have some compassion guys.

In Topic: Dating With This Face (Pics)

11 April 2014 - 01:33 AM

Hi everyone (a bit of a long story, read if you are interested),
I haven't posted on this forum for a few weeks due to a very busy schedule. I used to be on here every day, and it helped me get through the darkest time of my life. I took a break from acne discussions to focus on living and enjoying life now that my cystic acne is under control for the most part. I still have small pimples under the surface of my skin, but usually those go away with peels. My scarring and damaged tissue is what is mostly bothering me now, and I'm sick of my family and friends reassuring me that it's not noticeable. I know they mean well, but I want a reality check.  I'm really hoping you can tell me what you think, please be honest.
 
Ok, here's the story. I was starting to gain my confidence back after having severe acne for a year, and I thought I was ready to start dating again after being single for a long time.  I started talking to someone I met on an online dating site, and for a month we exchanged texts constantly. I felt an instant connection, and he did too.  Then the conversations moved to skype, and every time we videochatted he told me how pretty I look etc. We had intelligent conversations that lasted for hours, I hadn't felt this strong connection with someone in a long time and I didn't think I ever would again. So I finally agreed to meet him in person, and unfortunately we met in broad daylight, and we sat inside a coffeeshop with the sun shining right on my face. I tried not to let that affect my confidence, but he kept staring at me and I didn't like that. We had a good conversation, he asked me a lot of questions and seemed interested in my life, then we went to a movie as planned. However, I just felt that he wasn't that into me anymore. To make things worse, when he drove me back to my car after the movie (it was still early btw), he said "Should we have an awkward hug?" and that was it. The next day, he sent a text late in the afternoon (usually he would text me all day long) saying "had a lot of fun last night." I responded, made a funny comment, and asked him a question....no response until the next day, 12 hours later! Then nothing again until the day after. I even texted him but he just seemed uninterested and the texting didn't continue for long because he never bothered to ask me anything back. I feel so bad about myself right now....I hit an all time low, and I don't know if I can ever bring myself to go out on more dates. This confirmed all my insecurities and my worst fear of being rejected because of my looks. I didn't think this guy was superficial...actually, I was disappointed that he looked flawless (perfect body, cute face, good skin) because I couldn't compete with that. 
I just wanted to vent. On top of this rejection, I received a rejection from my dream job and then I also screwed up a very important job interview today because I was distracted. I feel like a failure in so many ways. 
I took 2 photos of my face on the same day, from a different angle. The third one I added on April 8th, with my face looking smoother. Is this a mindf*ck of what? How am I ever supposed to feel normal? In most photos and on skype, my face looks smooth, and then up close it's a disaster. What do you think, am I exaggerating or do I have  legitimate reasons to believe that I was rejected due to my face? I thought my personality would be enough to make up for some flaws, but apparently even intelligent guys who appreciate smart girls are superficial. :/
*sorry again for this pathetic rant, this is my ultimate low*
 


Oh my gosh darlin', you are so beautiful I could cry! And guess what? You don't have bad skin! You are like me- we feel badly about the smallest little marks on our skin! I know this is probably no consolation- but I know how this feels. I've felt it for years- sometimes I still do. I did absolute horrible things to myself because I felt so horrible about myself. I'm so sorry you are going through this. About the guy- I truly, honestly believe because you feel so down on yourself you are reading into the situation in a way any of us here would. I'd imagine things probably changed because it's AWKWARD always meeting someone in person for the first time! You know what I would do? I would ask him exactly what you're worried about! People always appreciate others being open and vulnerable with them. And chances are he gave no notice to your skin! And if he did- he is a worthless piece of shit who will NEVER EVER deserve such an amazing, beautiful girl as you!

Seriously though, you are so gorgeous. Please try to be easier on yourself. Feel free to message me anytime. I'm always here to talk.

-Savannah