So sorry smarie, I hope your skin gets better fast! I had one of my worst breakouts from some cover girl makeup that had myristate something or other in it and I remember how awful it was just all of a sudden and worse than I had ever seen my skin. I could not WAIT to get past that. I just threw out that makeup and continued with my current regimen and all went back to normal over a week or so. If I could pick a gentle cleanser now to calm skin like that it would have to be the Burt's bees line. I use the sensitive cleanser but if you read reviews a lot of their cleansers get great reviews from acne prone people just because it DOES allow your skin to stay at a normal pH. It has a lot of beneficial ingredients in it and nothing that should aggravate you more. It's super gentle and moisturizing. That's what I would try.
The oil cleansing method worked for me but the first and only oils I tried seem to work for more people than olive oil or coconut oil which seem to be the top oils mentioned on introductory how-to's and I don't know why. I used grapeseed oil and sunflower oil (very close to safflower oil) and while I decided not use OCM as a sole way to clean (time consuming, went through so many washcloths lol) I still use the mix of those oils as makeup remover, I add some to my toner, and I have used it as a moisturizer too. My skin was so healthy using OCM. I guess I got really lucky. I would not use oils from a grocery store unless it was whole foods and the oils were all organic and expeller pressed oils. I did a lot of research before choosing my oils.
You never know what makes the difference but in case someone looking to do OCM reads this, it did work for me and my skin loved it. I think you just have to find the right oils and for many acne sufferers it's not in olive or coconut oils. I used a small amount of castor oil too, not a lot at all.
You're right, it does take patience and it is the worst waiting game. You'll get through it though and leave this all behind. Crossing my fingers for you that your new regimen will solve it quickly!