Ella27

Hey folks! Long time no see~!

 

Something I've noticed is really starting to bother me and I'm curious if you noticed it as well. This epidemic- well its probably existed for quite a while- of people who ask the same question when your bad skin is brought up: "Do you wash your face?" but that isn't as bad as the "God just take care of your skin!" -.-

 

There seems to be this negative connotation that people with acne have not done anything to prevent or cure their acne. And nothing bites at me more than someone saying even a hint of the above phrases. I've tried multiple things since I was ten to get beautiful skin so this detached view that I'm lazy and don't take care of my skin is above bothersome. Yes of course I WASH my face! I haven't been searching for help for six years only to discover now that washing my face is the answer. 

 

Most of the time it comes from people who seemingly don't have that bad of skin problems. This of course is even worse. Or they are the girls/boys in the commercials who "break out" with a dot against pure ivory skin. ( Oh the joys of false advertisement )

 

Anyway, I'm becoming really sensitive to this kind of topic since its just so aggravating to have years of struggle doubted by someone who most likely hasn't had the same experience. 

 

Thanks for reading

 

 

Nighty night!~

 

 

You're 16 too?!  

I got acne at your age too, around 11 or 10.

First off if anyone you know harasses you about your skin confront them and let them know that they truly have to accept you in order to be close to you. Do not stand for abuse. I get walked all over sometimes. Luckily I have friends that don't let that happen but there are instances when I'm alone and must stand up for myself.

I suppose the best thing I can say is that we are still young. The depressing thing is that acne can effect our actions- whether we want to leave the house etc etc.- however we must combat that dictating feeling. Do not live your must vital years with out confidence. Walk with a- excuse me- f*ck it- attitude. Nothing is cooler then that Distracting yourself with activities and gaining a new social circle will build confidence.

Good luck!

Cats and dogs love you! Its true, pets don't see those kind of things. And we care for you here!

... I'm gonna shove it up their butt.

Seriously. I'm glad to hear it worked for them and all. Great! But that doesn't mean it will work for me. I tried it many years ago and it was too rough and scratched my skin up.

And while I don't mind the friendly advice, its the fact that people look at my face the moment acne is brought up and just start saying what I should do.

Maybe its just a nasty side of me, which I don't like being, but even the sweetest people that say that to me always end up making me kinda mad. I'll let it go of course but its just....there are so many people throwing around what they do left and right and they don't have the same skin as me. Hell no one does.

Of course here I feel like its different. Everyones gone through that experience where someone looks at their face and says, " Looks like you have acne. Hey try _____! It worked great for me! " and seem to be more sensitive to it.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who sometimes gets a little bit irritated. And even though I DO appreciate that they are just trying to help, it ends up making me feel really self conscious, because I try to forget that people notice.

I haven't been on for months. Usually I just kinda forget to go on for a long time then poke my head back in for a week or so. Apparently that is how I roll.

But man! I come back to this forum, a forum that I spent a lot of my time on because I am very emotional about my acne, and I see all these sad threads!

Please don't be so sad. It breaks my tiny heart.... Ok ok I know its easier said then done but I know dwelling on the sadness doesn't make you feel any better

If you ever need to talk, message me. I'll hopefully remember. Email is probably better....

Anyway, I spent this summer at my first job ( Dishwashing= Not the best thing for your skin. So. Much. Steam ) and I realized I didn't pay attention to my acne as much. Sure it wasn't perfect, it never really is. But since I was so busy, it just kinda slipped by.

And maybe it was as bad as always, but if it was, I didn't notice. And there were moments where I did notice. There always is, but for the most part I can't remember any part of the last three months were my skin looked awful, even though I am sure there were some.

I really do encourage you to get out. Thats the one thing I noticed while I am indoors for too long is I notice my acne more and more. I know its hard for people to get out with acne. I hate it too. I skipped school on some days because it looked so bad. But my friends kick my butt saying they don't really care about my skin. Hopefully you have good friends that don't care about your skin but about your company.

if you are uncomfortable going out, try finding a hobby that gravitates towards your house. Like learning piano or writing etc.

I kinda have Kpop addiction now..... but at least I spend more time on the computer doing that then picking Downside is that I burst out a song in a language I don't know.

Haha anyway, I really want to be of help to everyone. I know I have my days myself where no matter how hard I try, I am very very negative and those days suck.

But please try your best to smile


It could be worse. You could be my mother, sitting in the passenger side while I learn how to drive....

Hi Paul!


Haha first name basis! Heck yeah my real name isn't Ella I just use it in case of stalkers

Any who...

You know I found myself in the same situation in eighth grade. I never talked much. I just hid behind my jacket and hair because of my gross face. I was always nice to everyone and had a light personality and could be joking at times but I never had a circle of friends. Just a lot of small friends.

When high school rolled along there was a whole new set of people. At the start of the year I was lucky to go to a leaders conference that I went to previously and knowing that it would be awesome I came in with a s "screw it Im coming out of my shell attitude" For some reason my confidence and leader ship spiked when all I focused on was the present moment. When I told the girl in my group that my life goal was more confidence she says "Thats weird Elaina, to me you strike me as someone with a lot of confidence"


When I got back from school I had the same attitude. I really didn't care what others thought. I was never mean. Usually just witty. So I was well liked and I could associate with both popular nad unpopular kids. I still don't have a bf but I finally am having the social life I always wanted Even with bad skin. and do you know whats the best part? I have such great friends now that I can come to school with my yucky no cake face and my friends go "I dont care. I never see a difference." They don't see me for my skin. I think its the humor

Good luck!
Remember if you are always nice and carefree don't care what others think. They aren't as happy as you

Ella