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Lee1234

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#3395444 I Had Flawless Skin 6 Months Ago, What Happened?

Posted by Lee1234 on 17 November 2013 - 11:13 PM

Are you sure it's not due to a change in water?. That water you're currently using may be harder, or less 'agreeable' with you skin, than the water your previously washed with.




#3393087 "women Cannot Outgrow Acne"

Posted by Lee1234 on 07 November 2013 - 11:30 AM

My mum outgrew acne at 20..




#3392886 Severe Acne Ruined My Life

Posted by Lee1234 on 06 November 2013 - 01:12 PM

I'm genuinely sorry you had your dreams crushed like that, especially with such a promising start. If you don't mind sharing, I would also like to hear the rest of your story.




#3389596 I Quit My Job.

Posted by Lee1234 on 19 October 2013 - 05:13 PM

I left/got kicked out of three colleges because of my acne. If I could go back in time, I'd slap the fuck out of myself and say "The hell's wrong with you?!". I know having visible acne when you have to interact with people is a constant torment, but you need to develop the inner strength to overcome that barrier that's holding you back. Finding a job these days feels like your searching for dat Unicorn and I would think that being jobless, alone with your thoughts would be counter-productive to your progression.

 

I, not too long ago, was afraid of getting a job. Why?, because I couldn't stand the thought of having to see new judgemental faces every single day. Whilst I let those fears prevent me in succeeding in higher education, I wasn't willing to let it hinder my ability to earn my own income and pursue my passions in life. I've had a few jobs now, some where I had to constantly interact with people, some where I could for the most part, just get on with it by myself. I can honestly say that the job where I was constantly on the front line, was the job that forced me to develop my character the most. I gained confidence and went home everyday with silent contentment, because I knew that I did a good day's work, without acne poisoning my thoughts. I looked customers in the eyes and did what I could, with what I was in control of. A place that acne can never reach. Your skills, techniques and knowledge.

 

A job gives you purpose and acne is trying to take that away from you. At the very least, if you earn your own income, you can accumulate the funds necessary to treat your acne.

 

I know it seems like I'm preaching the sermon (lol) but I am just trying to help. Pretend you're you in 3 years time, progressing from the mentality you posses now. What do you think you would say to your "now" self?. No doubt, "Don't let another 3 years slip through your grasp".

 

As for treatments, I can't make a suggestion without knowing the type of acne you have, but I don't believe that antibiotics are ever a long-term solution. they set you up for failure and allows acne sufferers to become complacent. Which is dangerous for emotionally unstable people (A fair few of those with acne).




#3382658 I'm Not Worthy Of Being In A Relationship?

Posted by Lee1234 on 15 September 2013 - 04:14 AM

I understand this problem very well. It's an issue that stems from poor self-esteem, in this case, induced by acne. It's not that our acne bother others, but more that we're projecting our own disapproval and disgust (In a lot of cases) onto other people. The problem is when you actually find someone who responds negatively to your acne, because that in-turn will allow you to generalize and justify your notions about societies perspective on acne, which isn't entirely true.

 

To be honest, if I was met with that same scenario, I wouldn't pursue that relationship either (unless the person was relentless. Though highly unlikely) because "I don't accept myself the way I am, so how could anyone else?", is what I'd be thinking. Couple that with the unpredictable nature of acne and you have enough reason to say it's not worth it and reject the possibility that you could find happiness from this relationship.

 

The problem is, even when acne gives you a break, there's always that shadow of doubt in your mind "When will it return? when?". Which is sure to cause your mental distress in the long run. As opposed to your crush/potential partner, whom I assume would have consistently clear skin and wouldn't even factor skin problems into their thoughts. And when your faults are on your face, on display for the world to see, who can blame you for feeling the way you do. What I want to know is, why the fuck does acne have to be on your face?!?. There is no hiding it and the damage is so extensive in some cases, it takes half a decade to correct the problems it caused.

 

Let me tell you something though. As a person, you are no better or worse than anyone else on this planet. You need to find your redeeming qualities and play to your strengths. Even if you don't believe you have any, just having the courage and determination to decide to get up and learn something, is the first step to becoming a better person and increasing your self-esteem and confidence.

 

Of course, I'm just an entity responding to you based on information gathered from the vast internet. I don't really exist. (Notsrs). There's a person behind this screen, who's has been/is going through what you're going through and I promise that if you decide to walk the path of self-improvement, in time you'll look back and wonder why, or better how you could have been the way you were.




#3381753 I Don't Know How To Fix My Hyperpigmentation, Please Help

Posted by Lee1234 on 10 September 2013 - 11:23 AM

That looks deep. PIH is more difficult to treat in darker folks because we're excluded from a fair few of the treatment options. I'd say your best bet would be to see a derm and ask about a laser treatment. From the look of it, it appears to be too deep to treat with topicals. Frustrating I know.




#3361644 What Do You Think Of This?

Posted by Lee1234 on 26 June 2013 - 03:24 AM

This is what I've been saying. We frequent a board, saturated with sufferers with similar issues, there's an understanding between us. Great. NOW explore the internet (It's not even exploration, because it's pretty easy to find) and you'll find that people will very openly say "Acne makes you ugly" and that's me altering the words. If only you knew what people really thought of us... (search the internet if you're brave and thick skinned).

 

It's quite funny as there's a pattern though. If the question is asked by an acne suffer, people hide behind cliches "as long as you're confident", "Beauty is from within". But if the question is asked by a non acne-sufferer where there is no reason to take pity on the poster, or even try to empathize with those that do suffer, they speak their minds, often with a knee-jerk response. A knee-jerk response is a lot more valuable to me than a well planned out, deep, "I am enlightened" response, which is all too often bullshit. It almost reminds me of people who ask if they're ugly and people have the nerve to tell them that confidence will solve all their problems. This is the truth and though it may be a hard pill to swallow, it's a truth that I've come to accept.

 

Exhibit A "The vultures"- http://www.fluther.c...-unattractive/

 

"If a guy with acne walks up to me and asks me out on a date - no - I would not". Not even a chance.

 

Another one - "Acne.Is.Ugly.
I don’t like it.All you would have to do is just take care of your face or use some product that clears it off.I don’t like it but dating somebody with it won’t stop me from liking them because a lot of people get it.I have smooth skin which is good and I wash my face every day and night so I don’t usually get acne." It's dangerous to be this stupid.




#3359496 Picking Of The Skin

Posted by Lee1234 on 19 June 2013 - 04:14 PM

I have been picking my skin/acne for about a year and a half. I have tried to stop and I can-as long as there is somebody watching me or supporting me, but when I am alone I cannot. Perhaps, if there is another one of you who is also trying to stop, but find it difficult we could be Anti-Picking Partners. We could email, text, and/or message each other frequently and work together to stop this and if we fail we can support one another and get back on track. So..anyone want to be my buddy? smile.png

 

Also, anyone who has had any experience with this common problem feel free to post your experiences. I am also open to any suggestions on how to prevent and stop picking. 

 

I used to pick (and I still do at times) but what did it for me was, attaching a rubber band to my wrist. Every time I felt the compulsion to pick, I'd snap the band and the pain, albeit minor, helped me to remember why the band was there in the 1st place. Now I don't really need a band.

 

There was a point where my acne was so bad that my face was covered in scabs. I skipped college that day, sat on the bathroom floor and picked and scratched them all until they bled. Only after I was done did I realize that I lost control and that's when I decided to take action. 

 

Apparently it takes 21 days to make or break a habit. Find a method and be consistent.




#3358239 Why Is Acne A "trivial Disease" For Dermatologists?

Posted by Lee1234 on 15 June 2013 - 01:18 PM

Unfortunately, acne just doesn't cause any tangible threats to the afflicted or those whom they come into contact with (Actually, fortunate but you know what I mean). Unlike dancer, diabetes, venereal diseases etc, acne doesn't "do the damage", so to speak. I feel that almost every form of once "trivial" diseases, has now been given the relative importance they deserve and the ones that haven't, are at least not labelled a trivial disease. I don't understand it myself though, a disease is a disease PERIOD. How anyone can label ANY medically proven disease as trivial, is a mystery to me. In this age, we have a regular supply of food, we have good medical care and we're, for the most part, well-sheltered. We are raised in an age where our minds require more nurture than out bodies...acne prevents that nurture, or better, alters it. some develop complexes, some develop low self-esteem, some behave in a manner in which they wouldn't have otherwise behaved, had they never had acne. some people are afflicted for so long that they actually believe that that self-doubting, self-loathing character they posses is truly theirs. How sad.

 

I understand that in many ways, acne can make you a better person, but it's not fair, nor is it just to say that that's worth the tradeoff. Acne is NOT trivial and that's a term I expect to hear from someone who's never had acne. With that said, derms can go **** themselves sideways.




#3352181 Can Coffee Cause Hormonal Breakouts?

Posted by Lee1234 on 26 May 2013 - 05:05 PM

Caffeine is bad, yet green tea is loaded with it. What makes green tea different?, or is it just as bad?.




#3350657 Motivation

Posted by Lee1234 on 21 May 2013 - 03:05 PM

It may seem childish, but this one does it for me... gotta keep fighting sir.

 




#3350118 Notice How Almost All The Females Here Have Boyfriends, Yet The Guys Are Ince...

Posted by Lee1234 on 20 May 2013 - 10:06 AM

I was about to say something inspiring and insightful, but I don't think you're willing to hear it OP. You have an idea in your head and refuse to yield to the truth. Whilst I agree with the title, I don't agree that the reason you're being rejected is because of your acne. Your attitude and perception of women is bad.

 

I'm sure if you took a step back and analyzed each situation where you were rejected, I'm damn sure you'll find that the majority of the time, your acne had nothing to do with it. I'm a very in shape guy too but that can be a hindrance. They may find you intimidating (I've been told this), they may feel you're only out to use them for sex, they may feel that they'll be under pressure to look better (No one likes feeling insecure and having a partner who's in great shape, when you're not, screws with your head and self-image). There could have been a plethora of reasons and acne wouldn't be my best bet.

 

I should also mention that women smell desperation like a dog smells fear. Relax man, take it easy and get to know a woman. Find common ground and allow things to flow. If it works out it works out, if it doesn't, don't dwell on it. Your body language reflects your mood, kill the desperation. With fire.

 

AND for those few who really wouldn't give you a chance because of your acne, fuck 'em. You don't need them and when shit hits the fan, it's these types of people that are first to turn tail.




#3341377 On Being Ugly

Posted by Lee1234 on 17 April 2013 - 03:30 PM

Man, that was very hard to watch. This woman's been forced to believe she's ugly (not admit, because it'd have to be objectively true), by society when she's not (At least by my standards). The media throws images at everyday people, that force comparisons between their models and yourself. They tell you that this is how you should look and if you just happen to possess the opposite, your beauty, as a human being, is diminished. For all we know growing up, she could have felt that she was a very pretty girl, but as she grew, society got louder and she was no longer deaf to their critical voice. That seems to be the tale for the majority of people these days. It's only the select few who are a part of this elusive, elite circle...but what did they actually do?. Nothing. As she mentioned, looks aren't achieved but are an end product of genetics. Why is it so difficult to look at someone and think "Genetics" ??. If you're attracted to that person, fine, acknowledge that and express your interest, but if you're NOT, why feel the need to make the person feel bad because YOU don't find they fit your ideal of beauty?. Attractiveness is entirely subjective, though I'm not naive and I do understand that there's a universal consensus on conventional attractiveness, it still isn't a reason to mentally damage those who aren't (Viewed as universally attractive), the way we do. I'm pissed..




#3337746 Being A Virgin...

Posted by Lee1234 on 01 April 2013 - 10:17 AM

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From the reactions of the people on the bus, it seems as though it's just another day LMAO!.




#3336646 Why Do So Many People Use Sunscreen?.

Posted by Lee1234 on 27 March 2013 - 02:56 PM

Yeah, I know! Why is it that our skin looks sooo much better in the summer, when we're outside getting fresh air and light in the sunshine than in winter when we're cooped up and turn pale/pimply?

 

It can be harsh if you're at a high altitude like I am, but at the beach in Mexico or in the South...ah, it doesn't get better than that. I can't get enough sun! Until I get a sunburn. I guess you can limit the time spent in the sun or use natural sunscreen to avoid that. But I want to get all I can. biggrin.png

 

Lol we're in the age of the vampires. I'm glad you haven't turned the sun into your enemy. I couldn't imagine being on the beach, having to worry about sunscreen, scared to swim because I'd have to re-apply, constantly checking my watch for the next application. :s

 

 

 

Doesn't suncreen inhibit vitamin D?. Honest question. With the rise in sunscreen, also came a rise in cancer victims. It reminds me of milk. We were told how necessary it is for healthy bones and yet, America, the largest consumers of milk (That's pasteurized cow's milk) also have one of the highest rates of osteoporosis...something doesn't add up and I think these questions have to be asked.

 

Edit: Another question. Why is it that when one discovers a sunscreen using entirely natural ingredients, that's also very potent, the FDA refuses to acknowledge it and does everything in their power to prevent the product(s) hitting the shelves?, I don't understand.

Yes agree totally, I only wear it if I will be in the sun for many hours, or if I go to somewhere with very high UV such as the Caribbean. I totally believe sunshine is very beneficial to health, in fact sunscreens inhibit vitamin D absorption from the sun, one of the side effects of being low on this important vitamin is weak bones! Also going out in the sun seems to help my acne. When buying my sunscreens I always go for one with a low level of toxins, there's a website out there that gives you a toxicity rating of your cosmetic or beauty product on a scale of 1-10. I've heard the Banana Boat brand is one of the worst, and Hawaiian Tropic is one of the least toxic (which I buy). I am still looking into either making my own by mixing zinc oxide with body lotion, or buying one from a natural store, although like you said, natural sunscreen is hard to come by for the reason you stated.

 

Something I've often wondered too - have you noticed how in recent years, the sunscreen factor numbers are getting higher and higher? About 10 years ago we were told to use a factor 15 at the most, now they're telling us to wear factor 50 or factor 30 at the very least, and to wear it at all times, even in winter! It's madness. And people (sheeple) believe it.

 

Regarding milk, I avoid it wherever possible just in case those hormones are aggravating my acne, or otherwise upsetting my own hormone balance. I use coconut milk instead and it's delicious smile.png Apparently it has more calcium that 2% milk, also less calories too so it's obviously way better for you, and people shouldn't believe the myth that it's really fatty and calorific.

 

I hear you!. It's only recently, after some research, that I've come to realize just how essential vitamin D is for our bodies. I can't understand, intentionally avoiding it. I'm glad you're aware though, I hate it when I'm made to feel like a conspiracy theorist because I challenge what's accepted. You've got an upper hand at least, in that you're not caught up in a dangerous system, that could potentially cause you a lot of heart ache and even your life.

 

I have realized this. I've also realized that with the rise in spf, comes the rise in price. I once saw an spf, half the size of my hand, being sold for £25, I didn't understand it then either. It's these companies plant a seed that feeds on the fear of the public and then uses that fear to profit *shakes head*.

 

Coconut milk is great biggrin.png. I'd love to get my hands on some, but I have to wait till I go home (Carribean) to get it fresh.

 

>I personally don't buy the whole sunscreen thing either. When it first came out I didn't trust it...now that its been linked to certain forms of cancer I really don't trust it.

 

EDIT: But that reminds me of something! My derm gave me some "lotion samples" that were really SPF 30...Thinking it was just moisturizer, I used it. Realized after smearing it all over my face for a few days that it was actually sunscreen. I was kind of annoyed because I don't even want the stuff on my

skin.

 

I know what you mean man. I don't want that stuff anywhere near, or around my skin. The sun is the central point of all life on earth. It's what's allowed us to thrive on this planet, and now we're being told to reject it at ALL times? :/

Yeah it is so frustrating when most of the general public buy into something and cannot see that it's detrimental to health. Do people not question why the skin cancer rates have actually gone right up since we have been applying high SPF's religiously and avoiding going out in the sunshine with bare skin at all costs? I have this argument with my friends all the time, they think that I am a moron for tanning in this day and age 'when the dangers of the sun are well known' and when I have been on holiday with such people, I have put on low factor Hawaiian tropic oil, sometimes no oil at all and tanned to a deep mahogany colour; my friends would keep out of the sun as much as possible and plaster on thick white creams in high factors and stayed pasty all holiday, upon their return home they didn't even look as if they'd been to a hot climate. 

 

One thing I've realised over the years, and you can apply this to several situations in life, is that the truth is still the truth even if only one person believes it, and a lie is still a lie even if everyone believes it. I love that quote! smile.png

 

That sounds lovely, I just came back from the Caribbean but didn't manage to drink any coconut milk fresh from the coconut - I usually get the cartons of it from the shop!

 

 

Lol, I can understand how your friends feel though, it's that fear that gets to them. It's a "I'd rather be safe than sorry" mentality. It all reminds me of that experiment where they put a random guy in a white coat and told that man to instruct people to essentially, electrocute others to death. They did it, because of that white coat! and now they're doing the same thing.

 

Amen to that!, I've always been willing to stand on my own if necessary. It takes a strong and resilient character to oppose the majority, as you'll always face opposition *Bows in honour*.

 

Ah, there's no comparison to fresh coconut milk. It's like the difference between beef jerky and a sirloin steak :)