Lee1234

It may seem childish, but this one does it for me... gotta keep fighting sir.

I was about to say something inspiring and insightful, but I don't think you're willing to hear it OP. You have an idea in your head and refuse to yield to the truth. Whilst I agree with the title, I don't agree that the reason you're being rejected is because of your acne. Your attitude and perception of women is bad.

I'm sure if you took a step back and analyzed each situation where you were rejected, I'm damn sure you'll find that the majority of the time, your acne had nothing to do with it. I'm a very in shape guy too but that can be a hindrance. They may find you intimidating (I've been told this), they may feel you're only out to use them for sex, they may feel that they'll be under pressure to look better (No one likes feeling insecure and having a partner who's in great shape, when you're not, screws with your head and self-image). There could have been a plethora of reasons and acne wouldn't be my best bet.

I should also mention that women smell desperation like a dog smells fear. Relax man, take it easy and get to know a woman. Find common ground and allow things to flow. If it works out it works out, if it doesn't, don't dwell on it. Your body language reflects your mood, kill the desperation. With fire.

AND for those few who really wouldn't give you a chance because of your acne, fuck 'em. You don't need them and when shit hits the fan, it's these types of people that are first to turn tail.

Man, that was very hard to watch. This woman's been forced to believe she's ugly (not admit, because it'd have to be objectively true), by society when she's not (At least by my standards). The media throws images at everyday people, that force comparisons between their models and yourself. They tell you that this is how you should look and if you just happen to possess the opposite, your beauty, as a human being, is diminished. For all we know growing up, she could have felt that she was a very pretty girl, but as she grew, society got louder and she was no longer deaf to their critical voice. That seems to be the tale for the majority of people these days. It's only the select few who are a part of this elusive, elite circle...but what did they actually do?. Nothing. As she mentioned, looks aren't achieved but are an end product of genetics. Why is it so difficult to look at someone and think "Genetics" ??. If you're attracted to that person, fine, acknowledge that and express your interest, but if you're NOT, why feel the need to make the person feel bad because YOU don't find they fit your ideal of beauty?. Attractiveness is entirely subjective, though I'm not naive and I do understand that there's a universal consensus on conventional attractiveness, it still isn't a reason to mentally damage those who aren't (Viewed as universally attractive), the way we do. I'm pissed..

From the reactions of the people on the bus, it seems as though it's just another day LMAO!.

Yeah, I know! Why is it that our skin looks sooo much better in the summer, when we're outside getting fresh air and light in the sunshine than in winter when we're cooped up and turn pale/pimply?

 

It can be harsh if you're at a high altitude like I am, but at the beach in Mexico or in the South...ah, it doesn't get better than that. I can't get enough sun! Until I get a sunburn. I guess you can limit the time spent in the sun or use natural sunscreen to avoid that. But I want to get all I can.

Lol we're in the age of the vampires. I'm glad you haven't turned the sun into your enemy. I couldn't imagine being on the beach, having to worry about sunscreen, scared to swim because I'd have to re-apply, constantly checking my watch for the next application. :s

 

 

Doesn't suncreen inhibit vitamin D?. Honest question. With the rise in sunscreen, also came a rise in cancer victims. It reminds me of milk. We were told how necessary it is for healthy bones and yet, America, the largest consumers of milk (That's pasteurized cow's milk) also have one of the highest rates of osteoporosis...something doesn't add up and I think these questions have to be asked.

 

Edit: Another question. Why is it that when one discovers a sunscreen using entirely natural ingredients, that's also very potent, the FDA refuses to acknowledge it and does everything in their power to prevent the product(s) hitting the shelves?, I don't understand.

Yes agree totally, I only wear it if I will be in the sun for many hours, or if I go to somewhere with very high UV such as the Caribbean. I totally believe sunshine is very beneficial to health, in fact sunscreens inhibit vitamin D absorption from the sun, one of the side effects of being low on this important vitamin is weak bones! Also going out in the sun seems to help my acne. When buying my sunscreens I always go for one with a low level of toxins, there's a website out there that gives you a toxicity rating of your cosmetic or beauty product on a scale of 1-10. I've heard the Banana Boat brand is one of the worst, and Hawaiian Tropic is one of the least toxic (which I buy). I am still looking into either making my own by mixing zinc oxide with body lotion, or buying one from a natural store, although like you said, natural sunscreen is hard to come by for the reason you stated.

 

Something I've often wondered too - have you noticed how in recent years, the sunscreen factor numbers are getting higher and higher? About 10 years ago we were told to use a factor 15 at the most, now they're telling us to wear factor 50 or factor 30 at the very least, and to wear it at all times, even in winter! It's madness. And people (sheeple) believe it.

 

Regarding milk, I avoid it wherever possible just in case those hormones are aggravating my acne, or otherwise upsetting my own hormone balance. I use coconut milk instead and it's delicious Apparently it has more calcium that 2% milk, also less calories too so it's obviously way better for you, and people shouldn't believe the myth that it's really fatty and calorific.

 

I hear you!. It's only recently, after some research, that I've come to realize just how essential vitamin D is for our bodies. I can't understand, intentionally avoiding it. I'm glad you're aware though, I hate it when I'm made to feel like a conspiracy theorist because I challenge what's accepted. You've got an upper hand at least, in that you're not caught up in a dangerous system, that could potentially cause you a lot of heart ache and even your life.

 

I have realized this. I've also realized that with the rise in spf, comes the rise in price. I once saw an spf, half the size of my hand, being sold for £25, I didn't understand it then either. It's these companies plant a seed that feeds on the fear of the public and then uses that fear to profit *shakes head*.

 

Coconut milk is great . I'd love to get my hands on some, but I have to wait till I go home (Carribean) to get it fresh.

 

>I personally don't buy the whole sunscreen thing either. When it first came out I didn't trust it...now that its been linked to certain forms of cancer I really don't trust it.

 

EDIT: But that reminds me of something! My derm gave me some "lotion samples" that were really SPF 30...Thinking it was just moisturizer, I used it. Realized after smearing it all over my face for a few days that it was actually sunscreen. I was kind of annoyed because I don't even want the stuff on my

skin.

 

I know what you mean man. I don't want that stuff anywhere near, or around my skin. The sun is the central point of all life on earth. It's what's allowed us to thrive on this planet, and now we're being told to reject it at ALL times? :/

Yeah it is so frustrating when most of the general public buy into something and cannot see that it's detrimental to health. Do people not question why the skin cancer rates have actually gone right up since we have been applying high SPF's religiously and avoiding going out in the sunshine with bare skin at all costs? I have this argument with my friends all the time, they think that I am a moron for tanning in this day and age 'when the dangers of the sun are well known' and when I have been on holiday with such people, I have put on low factor Hawaiian tropic oil, sometimes no oil at all and tanned to a deep mahogany colour; my friends would keep out of the sun as much as possible and plaster on thick white creams in high factors and stayed pasty all holiday, upon their return home they didn't even look as if they'd been to a hot climate. 

 

One thing I've realised over the years, and you can apply this to several situations in life, is that the truth is still the truth even if only one person believes it, and a lie is still a lie even if everyone believes it. I love that quote!

 

That sounds lovely, I just came back from the Caribbean but didn't manage to drink any coconut milk fresh from the coconut - I usually get the cartons of it from the shop!

 

Lol, I can understand how your friends feel though, it's that fear that gets to them. It's a "I'd rather be safe than sorry" mentality. It all reminds me of that experiment where they put a random guy in a white coat and told that man to instruct people to essentially, electrocute others to death. They did it, because of that white coat! and now they're doing the same thing.

Amen to that!, I've always been willing to stand on my own if necessary. It takes a strong and resilient character to oppose the majority, as you'll always face opposition *Bows in honour*.

Ah, there's no comparison to fresh coconut milk. It's like the difference between beef jerky and a sirloin steak

Doesn't suncreen inhibit vitamin D?. Honest question. With the rise in sunscreen, also came a rise in cancer victims. It reminds me of milk. We were told how necessary it is for healthy bones and yet, America, the largest consumers of milk (That's pasteurized cow's milk) also have one of the highest rates of osteoporosis...something doesn't add up and I think these questions have to be asked.

 

Edit: Another question. Why is it that when one discovers a sunscreen using entirely natural ingredients, that's also very potent, the FDA refuses to acknowledge it and does everything in their power to prevent the product(s) hitting the shelves?, I don't understand.

Yes agree totally, I only wear it if I will be in the sun for many hours, or if I go to somewhere with very high UV such as the Caribbean. I totally believe sunshine is very beneficial to health, in fact sunscreens inhibit vitamin D absorption from the sun, one of the side effects of being low on this important vitamin is weak bones! Also going out in the sun seems to help my acne. When buying my sunscreens I always go for one with a low level of toxins, there's a website out there that gives you a toxicity rating of your cosmetic or beauty product on a scale of 1-10. I've heard the Banana Boat brand is one of the worst, and Hawaiian Tropic is one of the least toxic (which I buy). I am still looking into either making my own by mixing zinc oxide with body lotion, or buying one from a natural store, although like you said, natural sunscreen is hard to come by for the reason you stated.

 

Something I've often wondered too - have you noticed how in recent years, the sunscreen factor numbers are getting higher and higher? About 10 years ago we were told to use a factor 15 at the most, now they're telling us to wear factor 50 or factor 30 at the very least, and to wear it at all times, even in winter! It's madness. And people (sheeple) believe it.

 

Regarding milk, I avoid it wherever possible just in case those hormones are aggravating my acne, or otherwise upsetting my own hormone balance. I use coconut milk instead and it's delicious Apparently it has more calcium that 2% milk, also less calories too so it's obviously way better for you, and people shouldn't believe the myth that it's really fatty and calorific.

I hear you!. It's only recently, after some research, that I've come to realize just how essential vitamin D is for our bodies. I can't understand, intentionally avoiding it. I'm glad you're aware though, I hate it when I'm made to feel like a conspiracy theorist because I challenge what's accepted. You've got an upper hand at least, in that you're not caught up in a dangerous system, that could potentially cause you a lot of heart ache and even your life.

I have realized this. I've also realized that with the rise in spf, comes the rise in price. I once saw an spf, half the size of my hand, being sold for £25, I didn't understand it then either. It's these companies plant a seed that feeds on the fear of the public and then uses that fear to profit *shakes head*.

Coconut milk is great . I'd love to get my hands on some, but I have to wait till I go home (Carribean) to get it fresh.

I personally don't buy the whole sunscreen thing either. When it first came out I didn't trust it...now that its been linked to certain forms of cancer I really don't trust it.

 

EDIT: But that reminds me of something! My derm gave me some "lotion samples" that were really SPF 30...Thinking it was just moisturizer, I used it. Realized after smearing it all over my face for a few days that it was actually sunscreen. I was kind of annoyed because I don't even want the stuff on my skin.

I know what you mean man. I don't want that stuff anywhere near, or around my skin. The sun is the central point of all life on earth. It's what's allowed us to thrive on this planet, and now we're being told to reject it at ALL times? :/

Doesn't suncreen inhibit vitamin D?. Honest question. With the rise in sunscreen, also came a rise in cancer victims. It reminds me of milk. We were told how necessary it is for healthy bones and yet, America, the largest consumers of milk (That's pasteurized cow's milk) also have one of the highest rates of osteoporosis...something doesn't add up and I think these questions have to be asked.

Edit: Another question. Why is it that when one discovers a sunscreen using entirely natural ingredients, that's also very potent, the FDA refuses to acknowledge it and does everything in their power to prevent the product(s) hitting the shelves?, I don't understand.

I didn't, most likely because I got it aged 13 and acne before that age is rare. Though when someone insults you (A frequent occurrence in an all boy's school) you tend to use that person's most apparent "flaw" against them for a "witty" comeback, whether it's tactful or not, at the time it's irrelevant. I used to get insulted for my acne a lot, so in retaliation, I'd insult them for their weight, or something equally personal (There wasn't any malicious intent behind it, it's just the life in an all boy's school). If I didn't ever get acne, I'd probably have made fun of someone for it at least once, I'll be honest. There's a saying that seems appropriate here, "It's never a problem, until it's your problem".

Now to answer your question, no I haven't, but one of my brothers used to. Low and behold, he developed some pretty nasty acne that still plagues him today. At first I felt justice had been carried out appropriately, but now, knowing how damaging acne is, I still don't think that this is the way he should have learned his lesson. He never insulted my acne again after that...

 

 

Yes, I have. 6 year old marks went poof.

cool! how?!

I did 60% lactic acid peels, twice a week. Tbh, I wasn't even prepared for the results, so that was a pleasant surprise. I HIGHLY recommend it.

I was thinking about trying those! what exactly happens? does your skin peel off over a few days or something? where do you buy it from?

Well, your (I use this to refer to what happened to me) face will look shiny, the day after you do the peel. About 1-2 days in, you develop dark patches on your skin (more notably on the already pigmented areas). The dark patches on your skin harden over time and form a scab. In about 3 days, they fall off and your skin is slightly to moderately lighter than your original skin tone, but within a day, it reverts back to your original skin tone. That's it really. I put extra on the problem parts with HUGE areas of PIH and it worked extremely well. The whole area scabbed over and then fell off.

I bought it from ebay, from a company called mty_skincare and it costs £6.70.

Yeah, those figurines are awesome.

 

And yeah, I took these myself. They're snapshots I took while I was out there for five days. lol I once knew a guy who lived in a very high flat and he said his whole apartment wiggled sometimes too; it's indeed the construction. It has to do with it being resistant to heavy wind...I assume. lol I probably stated the obvious there.

 

My Sony Cybershot is really good so I can't take total credit. lol It has a 2.8 F-stop which is pretty "fast".

 

Be sure to go see it in real life if you can!

Lol no worries, I assume the architects knew what they were doing. You remind me, I need a good camera for my travels.

Anyway, will do man. Thanks again for sharing!.

 

The most interesting thing I've seen is a parting of two oceans in Dominica. They're separated by a thin strip of rocky land and is never consumed by the sea on either side, despite being at the same level. On one side, the ocean is fierce and restless, on the other, calm and serene. I've stood between the two and I swear for a moment you'd think you were on another planet. (Think of that new movie "After Earth").

 

That's an amazing story!

 

Anyway, I've been to Paris, France. The Eiffel tower was pretty impressive. It was amazing to see. And the Seine too although when I read that sewage is actually released into it on a regular basis it did make me look at it a bit differently. lol

 

 I liked the architecture. That was cool to see. I also liked seeing this:

 

 

 

I'll see if I have one other pic of the architecture. *looks on photobucket* Here's something:

 

 

 

It's not the best photo but ain't that just awesome?

 

I don't see myself returning to Paris that soon. It's real hard it seems to get a decent meal when you're a vegetarian. Plus just the whole vibe in Paris I thought was a tad...strange. I just thought it was odd. The people... The way they were... I didn't feel at home in Paris. Out of place. That's how I felt.

 

I don't really have that many places I'd like to visit. Maybe the Bahamas. Or something like that. Or maybe a trip to New York or something. See the tall buildings and so on. I don't really get out of travelling what many people get out of it.

 

Oh and I didn't see any exotic animals in Paris. Maybe they're out there in the Paris zoo waiting for people to come and see them but I didn't go there. lol

Well damn, thank you for sharing that!. Eiffel tower is definitely on my "to-visit" list, once I conquer my fear of falling. It's a very impressive and iconic structure. Lol those figurines are epic, though I'm not sure if they're edible or not?.

As for the photo, yes! no one can deny that's an awesome building! makes me question where I went when I visited France, because I never saw this building :/.

HAHA the French are often criticized for being strange folk, I'm pretty sure there's saying that goes "Never trust a Frenchman" lol. I know a few of their delicacies involve dairy and meat, so I understand how you'd struggle as a vegetarian to find a decent meal down there.

Cool! when I was in Paris, I saw a run away frog in the grocery store. The owner was chasing it with a net and I swear it looked like it was smiling.

Anyway, thanks for that

Well just the other day a guy assumed I was 17 (-_-) and was gobsmacked when I told him I was turning 22 soon. I can only assume it was because of my teenage skin, sort of a unintentional backhanded comment if you will lol. I don't mind though, it's certainly better than hearing "What's those things on your face?", compliments of mother of course :$

 The son of a tv presenter from my country recently commited suicide. Guess what? he was taking accutane.

I'm so pissed off guys! People respect so much doctors. They say the cure people. But, it seems as they make people more sick. Most of the drugs fix one thing and cause lots of other problems. This way, they sell more drugs right? Cool stuff!

Screw the doctors and the drugs man! I'm so sick of them.

If i'll put again drugs into my mouth then i must be out of my mind!

 

An advice for everybody:

 

If you have acne, try to accept it, and thank to God that acne is the only sickness you have! NEVER take Accutane, not even 1 pill!!!!

Damn it, never take Accutane, not even if you'll look like an acne freak, dont take it!!! This drug will distroy your life completely! Its not a joke. If i hear that someone is taking Accutane, i'll find him and kick his ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You sir, are a wise man. I could never disrespect my body to that degree. Great, your acne is out of sight (for the time being for most it seems), but your internal functions are severely hindered, your hair falls out at their roots and your body ages rapidly. You're only given one life, why risk so much for so little?. I don't tell people how to live their lives, but I do state my opinion only because I care (Believe me when I say, I'd stay silent if I didn't) and if this post can prevent people from taking this not-so-silent killer, I'll be content. Accutane is a lifesaver....as a chemotherapy drug, but ask yourself "Does acne endanger my life?" I assure you that will be a resounding no. It's just not worth the potential life-long sacrifices.

People entrust accutane to give them their life back. A sad irony for many. I do hope that boy rests in peace, that's another person acne has claimed..

I know this too well. I'm still bouncing back from a cookie dough, large pizza and ice-cream binge. Fortunately, I've always respected my maintenance calories, but I do generally feel like crap for at least a week after. Now though, I find that occupying my time with something that requires focus like running, or lifting weights, or even cooking/preparing a meal, really helps alleviate that sudden hunger brought about by emotional stress. Also, when summer comes around, you'll be kicking yourself for failing so often lol.

TCA peel. Look at the reviews, the feedback and the photographic evidence from real people and then decide whether it's right for you. I doubt you'll be disappointed though . Ps, I've had mine for 6 years and my TCA is in the post.

Lee please be careful with peels - it might be better to go to a professional to get this kind of treatment. If you are going to do it yourself make sure you test patch first.