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Lee1234

Member Since 21 Feb 2011
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In Topic: I Had Flawless Skin 6 Months Ago, What Happened?

17 November 2013 - 11:13 PM

Are you sure it's not due to a change in water?. That water you're currently using may be harder, or less 'agreeable' with you skin, than the water your previously washed with.


In Topic: "women Cannot Outgrow Acne"

07 November 2013 - 11:30 AM

My mum outgrew acne at 20..


In Topic: Severe Acne Ruined My Life

06 November 2013 - 01:12 PM

I'm genuinely sorry you had your dreams crushed like that, especially with such a promising start. If you don't mind sharing, I would also like to hear the rest of your story.


In Topic: Living With Acne Doesn't Have To Be Such A Bad Thing.

21 October 2013 - 02:35 PM

This section of the forum is absolutely sad. We need to start thinking differently.

 

I agree.

The argument "You could have only one leg!" doesn't seem to work. But let's start off with that. 

 

Living with acne isn't the worst thing in the world that could happen to you. Plenty of people out there suffer from real handicaps and things in their life that could stop them from living a full life, and yet they continue. They find a way around and they carry on, generally humbler, stronger, more empathetic and more caring than they ever would have been otherwise. 

 

If anything, acne can do this as well. It is a simple problem. It is not life-hindering, and it's a problem with a great deal of people. 

 

It isn't the worst thing in the world to deal with, objectively speaking. To go from clear-skin bliss, to acne nightmare is almost always a life altering event. If someone was to tell me that they suffer with eczema for example, I wouldn't think "Be happy, you could have cancer!", I think "That sucks, I wonder what that's like?". It's all relative and I don't think it's fair to tell someone (especially someone who's life is centred around an illness) that you could have something worse and that their condition isn't a real handicap. It only compounds their frustration, as they'd now feel bad, not only for having acne, but for ever thinking they have a right to feel negative about having acne (A right they do have).

 

Everything affects everyone differently. To some, acne is life-hindering, to some acne is merely another challenge, to some a nuisance, to some irrelevant (I knew someone like this). Despite acne affecting the majority of the population at one point or another, it still causes psychological consequences and in some cases, physical.

 

 

However, there's something else we're not all seeing. Every girl can attest to this. If you think your acne is a problem, have you ever had a friend you considered beautiful, complain about herself? Maybe she doesn't like her arms, thinks her nose is too big, or is insecure about her height. 

 

If you can think about this friend, in your mind do you say "poor girl, she does have a big nose," or do you say, "poor girl, I wish she could have more confidence." 

It is most definitely the latter. Insecurity is rampant in our society. I can especially argue that in American culture, there is a higher media-driven, social understanding that there is an ideal look. Maybe that "ideal look" cannot be defined on a piece of paper, but in our minds, we know what it is not. It is never us. I've never met a girl who thought she was ideal. There are always things about herself she can point out and say is not ideal. 

 

Every single person appears to have insecurity and the ability to pick out what is not ideal. We all have insecurity. Your beautiful friend could be just as insecure as you and have completely clear skin. You'll look at her dumbfounded, wondering why she is insecure when you have such a more devastating problem--but really, you have the same problem. You're suffering from insecurity. Insecurity is this parasite that rots your insides, and if you do not address it, you will always find non-ideal aspects of yourself and feel negatively about it. You will have insecurity forever.

 

This is not gender specific. Insecurities reside in the majority of people, as it's human nature to doubt yourself and to compare.

 

I agree with you about insecurity and society. I believe that due to societal conditioning and constant "Herd pressure", insecurity has unfortunately found a commonplace in our society. When I watch documentaries about the tribes the remain separate from society, I see confident, hard-working people with a very healthy self-esteem. The women are content, the men are content, there are no universal ideals, because everyone is unique in their own right and it's a concept they've grasped to the fullest.

 

As a notion, again, I agree with you. Insecurity is a parasite that latches onto any weakness you assume to have. Unfortunately, few people posses the willpower to simply ignore the pressures of society and live in the way that truly makes them the happiest.

 

So how do we deal with insecurity? It is not an easy thing to escape. You do not simply wake up one day without it.

 

 

So let's start here. How do we start thinking differently? I truly believe the body-acceptance movement--loving each person with their own flaws--to be a great start in our society. There are currently people out there fighting for us to accept our flaws and love imperfection. However, I don't think that's far enough. 

 

Loving imperfection is still letting the problem continue, as we're defining a new perspective in the context of the old one: that there is imperfection to begin with, and imperfection we have to learn to love. It's still saying there is a perfect out there that exists on some piece of paper, and we can map out the imperfections we have.

 

 

I want to begin a new discussion. First, that there is no perfect out there which some people have and lesser souls do not have. On the other side, there is also no imperfect that you have to hide indoors to prevent people from seeing. Beauty--this aesthetic aspect of our lives, needs to change. We need to stop trying to define what it is and what it is not. 

 

 

Can we start this conversation?

 

striving to achieve the ideal, endlessly tormenting yourself and your body with changes and promises of future changes and for what?. Let's say hypothetically that you achieve this ideal, what then?. You've essentially cursed yourself as you've gained a false happiness. One that is temporary and ever so troublesome to uphold. Internal happiness radiates externally. It resides in a place where no man can reach and I truly envy those that have already found that within themselves. Their lives are the ones worth living.

 

My $0.02


In Topic: I Quit My Job.

19 October 2013 - 05:13 PM

I left/got kicked out of three colleges because of my acne. If I could go back in time, I'd slap the fuck out of myself and say "The hell's wrong with you?!". I know having visible acne when you have to interact with people is a constant torment, but you need to develop the inner strength to overcome that barrier that's holding you back. Finding a job these days feels like your searching for dat Unicorn and I would think that being jobless, alone with your thoughts would be counter-productive to your progression.

 

I, not too long ago, was afraid of getting a job. Why?, because I couldn't stand the thought of having to see new judgemental faces every single day. Whilst I let those fears prevent me in succeeding in higher education, I wasn't willing to let it hinder my ability to earn my own income and pursue my passions in life. I've had a few jobs now, some where I had to constantly interact with people, some where I could for the most part, just get on with it by myself. I can honestly say that the job where I was constantly on the front line, was the job that forced me to develop my character the most. I gained confidence and went home everyday with silent contentment, because I knew that I did a good day's work, without acne poisoning my thoughts. I looked customers in the eyes and did what I could, with what I was in control of. A place that acne can never reach. Your skills, techniques and knowledge.

 

A job gives you purpose and acne is trying to take that away from you. At the very least, if you earn your own income, you can accumulate the funds necessary to treat your acne.

 

I know it seems like I'm preaching the sermon (lol) but I am just trying to help. Pretend you're you in 3 years time, progressing from the mentality you posses now. What do you think you would say to your "now" self?. No doubt, "Don't let another 3 years slip through your grasp".

 

As for treatments, I can't make a suggestion without knowing the type of acne you have, but I don't believe that antibiotics are ever a long-term solution. they set you up for failure and allows acne sufferers to become complacent. Which is dangerous for emotionally unstable people (A fair few of those with acne).