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Vanbelle

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In Topic: Review Bb Creams!

17 July 2014 - 10:57 AM

I really still have to put my vote for any Korean-brand BB creams. Koreans know their stuff. Trust!


In Topic: Nicest Thing That Someone Has Said About Your Acne

14 July 2014 - 10:43 AM

My boyfriend used to say my acne was cute. :) That always cheered me up.


In Topic: Review Bb Creams!

12 July 2014 - 07:57 PM

do CC creams count? I personally haven't tried many BB creams, but I like lumene's CC cream....light, easy to apply, SPF, relatively cheap, and decent ingredients.

 

Yes, CC creams do count. :) What have you used?


In Topic: It's Only Getting Worse (14 Progress Pictures)

06 July 2014 - 12:24 PM

I am not seeing much progress for 2 months of consistent, hard effort. If you would like some advice/help, you can PM me. 


In Topic: I Am In An Weird Situation

27 June 2014 - 12:44 PM

I was in a very similar situation just 4 years ago: my first time living on my own in a new city. Fairly low self-esteem, low confidence, and a pervading nonchalance that pretty much defined my interactions with people at the time. I wouldn't say it was caused entirely by acne, but my acne definitely added to the problem. I looked with extreme suspicion at anything that threatened to take me out of my well-established comfort zone.

 

I suppose you're only 17~18; you have plenty of time to decide on the kind of lifestyle and social circles that go best with your personality. Leaning toward the extroverted side of the spectrum confers no real long-term advantages; this is actually the present consensus among top researchers in organizational behavior. What this means is that the modern 'leader' is no longer the stereotypical extroverted, outspoken, overly-confident male character. The trend in modern organizations actually favors democratic and compassionate leaders who make decisions by consensus. This basically means that you can be a successful introvert. You don't need to change who you are in order to make it.

 

You'll still need to venture out of the nest and go out of your comfort zone occasionally, but I think this is likely to happen to you in college anyway. All you have to do is go with the flow for some of the time.

 

Enjoy your summer and don't worry about it too much

He wasn't talking about being introverted or extroverted, nor does he say he's afraid of leaving some comfort zone. He has what I have felt at times; a growing apathy towards life. 

@Sue7, I have gone through periods of apathy and periods of outright excitement. I think the biggest factor for this excitement can be who I surround myself by. But you say you have a friend who is excited for you, so this may not be the case. When thinking about it, what also gets me excited is the possibility for change and new opportunity. There is a greater sense of excitement for experiencing the unknown when the possibility of new opportunity awaits you. To explain, when I have felt down about my looks, I think "Sure, I can go out, but what will come of it?". There's nothing exciting about running around a new city when you feel like an acne-ridden mess. When I think I look like hot stuff, I'm excited to go out in the world because I believe the world will perceive me better, and good things may happen as a result (making a good first impression when meeting new girls, or boys, etc). Whether or not this is a proper philosophical constitution to live by is not what I'm arguing--just telling you what I think. It's really all about the looking-glass self.

You either have you change how you look or accept it. I have experimented with the latter, but now I tend to opt for the former, and I'm not claiming that's necessarily the right thing to do. You just have to make that decision for yourself.