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Member Since 20 Sep 2009
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In Topic: My Scars Are Ruining My Life!

12 October 2013 - 10:03 AM

I agree with Tokra. You and you alone are letting your scars ruin your life. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that the way you're feeling is your fault. What I mean is that you should try to adopt a different state of mind. I've felt horribly depressed about my skin, when I had acne it was the acne, then when I didn't get acne anymore it was the big pores on my nose that bothered me more than anything in the world. I would shun any interaction with people, I would stay inside all day and avoid bad lighting in social places that would highlight my flaws. I was not acceptive of myself, I didn't like myself at all, and my confidence was at an all time low. I slacked at academics, didn't go to work and was a total wreck. I was not suicidal but at that point in life, if by some odd chance a car would run me over in the street, I wouldn't have mind. Life sucked.

 

Then I stopped giving a f*ck.

 

Now, I'm still on the road to recovery but I feel like a completely different person. Where once my mind was infested with negative thoughts, I actually use it to solve real life problems, focus on the task I'm doing and shut it off when I'm relaxing. I've got so much more energy throughout the day, am exercising more than ever. I would've never thought that I could feel this way when I was at the bottom of the barrel.

 

Now, I realize there is no IKEA assembly instruction on how to stop giving a f*ck, I'm still not sure how I did it, but I will try to explain how I changed my outlook. Firstly, I realized that there will ALWAYS be people that think badly of me by how I look. Those are not people that you want to spend a dime of energy on. They just aren't worth it. There will ALWAYS be people that say mean things about other people, often because they're not happy themselves (I've noticed that often people I've heard making mean comments are people that I found not attractive at all). Or they could just be d*cks. Whatever motivated them to make mean comments, they're not worth your time and energy. Don't even try to please them somehow, just go about your life ignoring them. Secondly, I forced myself to do more social things, I really like singing and I joined a choir (turns out girls really like choirs and I'm the only guy there lol). I've joined a cross-fit community so I'm getting fitter every day. And I am attending my classes again, giving me the mental satifsaction that I need. I've stopped playing video games, now I rather go meet a friend. Thirdly, I've come to realize people are selfish. Sometimes people (even friends) can just be harsh. I've noticed that that's really a reflection of how they feel. They've probably had a shitty day and don't feel like being nice to anyone. That's their problem just like your problems are yours. Yes,  I'm selfish too. Don't waste your time on thinking what people think of you and make your own plans in life. Love the people that love you for who you are, and ignore the people that make you feel bad. If you have a passion, join a club that shares that passion, you'll feel like you're part of something and are able to connect on a beyond the depths of your skin.

 

Also, if you're not getting out much, you should look into taking vitamin D supplements. I don't now how much they attribute to my positive outlook but I sure as hell wasn't getting out much :).

 

I really hope you can manage to change your look on life. I've experienced that it CAN be changed, and that all the problems you thought you had, don't seem as important as they once did.

 

Good luck my friend!


In Topic: Impossible To Date With Bad Acne

16 September 2013 - 03:28 PM

Okay, it is a lot harder to find a someone when you have acne but it's definitely NOT impossible. Probably you'll encounter more girls that don't want to date you but occasionally, if you put yourself out there, there are girls that just don't care about your acne. Seriously, a guy I met last summer had BAAAD acne, cystic acne all over his face and neck and bad scars. He didn't seem to care one bit about it. When he introduced me to his girlfriend I was stunned. She was absolutely smoking hot, intelligent, had flawless skin, and really niced. It wasn't even that he was succesful, I believe he worked in retail. He was just really confident and all his friends seemed to love him and enjoy his company. And to be honest, he wasn't really attractive even if he didn't have acne, just confident and fun to be around

 

You've probably had it up to here with these stories of succes but I can't stand these absolute statements. I agree acne makes dating a lot harder for guys/girls, but it's definitely not impossible. If you play your cards right, be more confident, you might even find a really beautiful girl that loves you.


In Topic: Scarred Pores - Irritated And Clogging

27 January 2013 - 01:14 PM

Hi Notquiteme,

 

I have the exact same problem. I dont have much scarring that bothers me, just these pores on my nose. As for washing or not, I really don't know what's better. If i wash my skin it clears up my pores but gets really flaky and dry (so i have to moisturize) and after a while oily again. I'm not sure but I think I usually get those clogged pores (the ones when they get extracted they leave a hole in the skin) because my skin is overreacting to the soap or the moisturizer. It could also be that way because I don't wash my face often enough that when i do wash with soap the plugs just loosen up and i notice them and remove them, leaving a hole. However, When I dont wash my face with soap its less oily during the day but slowly gets plugged up again. So I have to wash some times i guess.

 

However, I prefer the matte look when I wash just with water over the oily open pores look I get whenever I wash my face with soap. My next step is to try to find a very gentle cleanser withouth SLS and I might try a different moisturizer. So if anyone has recommendations on that part I'd be glad to hear them.

 

So, not really much useful information here and maybe not applicable to your skin. I just wanted to share with you my 'findings' and the fact that you're not alone in this matter :).

 

Good luck, let us know when you find anything that helped you.


In Topic: Oily Skin: My Expierence

27 September 2012 - 07:01 AM

Thanks for the tips, i second the masturbation theory

In Topic: Started Getting Oily At 22 - What?! Also, Rate My New Regimen Please?

16 February 2012 - 10:18 AM

Ok bryan prepare to be testimonialized against.

I can definitely say that for me washing my face less frequently with soap/facewash has caused a dramatic decrease in sebum production. Whenever I wash my face with face wash my face will become shiny and really really greasy after a couple of hours, like little droplets forming inside pores and forming hard plugs. Last month I've tried not washing as frequently (from daily washing to once or twice a week). The same schedule holds for shampooing, from daily or every other to once/twice a week. I notice my skin is a lot softer and feels more hydrated. I don't feel greasy at the end of the day, only on days when I do wash with soap/face wash. I don't know if it's due to the moisturizer or not washing but if I don't moisturize after washing my face it gets too dry and flaky.

However, I did this for one month only, so I need to stick with it for a while longer. But if it continues like this I can definitely say that externally applied (OTC) products can influence the amount of sebum the skin produces in some people, including me.