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In Topic: My Scars Are Ruining My Life!

12 October 2013 - 10:03 AM

I agree with Tokra. You and you alone are letting your scars ruin your life. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that the way you're feeling is your fault. What I mean is that you should try to adopt a different state of mind. I've felt horribly depressed about my skin, when I had acne it was the acne, then when I didn't get acne anymore it was the big pores on my nose that bothered me more than anything in the world. I would shun any interaction with people, I would stay inside all day and avoid bad lighting in social places that would highlight my flaws. I was not acceptive of myself, I didn't like myself at all, and my confidence was at an all time low. I slacked at academics, didn't go to work and was a total wreck. I was not suicidal but at that point in life, if by some odd chance a car would run me over in the street, I wouldn't have mind. Life sucked.

 

Then I stopped giving a f*ck.

 

Now, I'm still on the road to recovery but I feel like a completely different person. Where once my mind was infested with negative thoughts, I actually use it to solve real life problems, focus on the task I'm doing and shut it off when I'm relaxing. I've got so much more energy throughout the day, am exercising more than ever. I would've never thought that I could feel this way when I was at the bottom of the barrel.

 

Now, I realize there is no IKEA assembly instruction on how to stop giving a f*ck, I'm still not sure how I did it, but I will try to explain how I changed my outlook. Firstly, I realized that there will ALWAYS be people that think badly of me by how I look. Those are not people that you want to spend a dime of energy on. They just aren't worth it. There will ALWAYS be people that say mean things about other people, often because they're not happy themselves (I've noticed that often people I've heard making mean comments are people that I found not attractive at all). Or they could just be d*cks. Whatever motivated them to make mean comments, they're not worth your time and energy. Don't even try to please them somehow, just go about your life ignoring them. Secondly, I forced myself to do more social things, I really like singing and I joined a choir (turns out girls really like choirs and I'm the only guy there lol). I've joined a cross-fit community so I'm getting fitter every day. And I am attending my classes again, giving me the mental satifsaction that I need. I've stopped playing video games, now I rather go meet a friend. Thirdly, I've come to realize people are selfish. Sometimes people (even friends) can just be harsh. I've noticed that that's really a reflection of how they feel. They've probably had a shitty day and don't feel like being nice to anyone. That's their problem just like your problems are yours. Yes,  I'm selfish too. Don't waste your time on thinking what people think of you and make your own plans in life. Love the people that love you for who you are, and ignore the people that make you feel bad. If you have a passion, join a club that shares that passion, you'll feel like you're part of something and are able to connect on a beyond the depths of your skin.

 

Also, if you're not getting out much, you should look into taking vitamin D supplements. I don't now how much they attribute to my positive outlook but I sure as hell wasn't getting out much :).

 

I really hope you can manage to change your look on life. I've experienced that it CAN be changed, and that all the problems you thought you had, don't seem as important as they once did.

 

Good luck my friend!


In Topic: I'm Not Worthy Of Being In A Relationship?

21 September 2013 - 03:59 AM

As mentioned above, this is all due to your self-esteem issues. There is no such thing as objectivity in human behaviour, but I know what you mean; people would scale her higher on the attractive chart than they would you. Okay, even so, the fact that she's into you suggests that you have some sort of attractiveness to her that outweighs your acne. She was able to look past your acne and look at your qualities. These are the kinds of people you want in your life.

 

If she's into you that's all that should matter, its between you and her; not you, her and the rest of the world.


In Topic: Impossible To Date With Bad Acne

16 September 2013 - 03:28 PM

Okay, it is a lot harder to find a someone when you have acne but it's definitely NOT impossible. Probably you'll encounter more girls that don't want to date you but occasionally, if you put yourself out there, there are girls that just don't care about your acne. Seriously, a guy I met last summer had BAAAD acne, cystic acne all over his face and neck and bad scars. He didn't seem to care one bit about it. When he introduced me to his girlfriend I was stunned. She was absolutely smoking hot, intelligent, had flawless skin, and really niced. It wasn't even that he was succesful, I believe he worked in retail. He was just really confident and all his friends seemed to love him and enjoy his company. And to be honest, he wasn't really attractive even if he didn't have acne, just confident and fun to be around

 

You've probably had it up to here with these stories of succes but I can't stand these absolute statements. I agree acne makes dating a lot harder for guys/girls, but it's definitely not impossible. If you play your cards right, be more confident, you might even find a really beautiful girl that loves you.


In Topic: Apples Give Me Cystic Acne

02 September 2013 - 12:20 PM

Sure it wasn't the crumble topping? Or the sugar?

 

Maybe you need to test your hypothesis with a pure apple. Apples are on of the healthiest things you could possibly eat, in moderation of course. 

 

I'm not saying that's the case, but based on an apple crumble, I'd say you need further testing! 

 

I'm absolutely sure these do not give me cysts. I can eat sugar, wheat, eggs and butter in any form of preparation out there. Actually, my diet right now is just to avoid eating anything that contains apples. I can eat junk food all I want, and I might get some pimples but as soon as I eat anything that contains an apple I get painful cysts. Enough evidence for me to never touch an apple again.

 

I DON'T have any reaction to topical ACV however, I can smear that stuff all over my face and nothing bad happens.

 

Very interesting.

 

Op do you know if it is just apples or any other fruits as well?

Do Apples and any other fruit affect your digestion at all?

Could be some kind of fructose intolerance leading to malabsorption etc but if this was the case you would think other fruits would be a problem as well. Might be something to do with pectin etc. Might just be a straight up immunological reaction type thingy.

 

I don't think i am particularly great with apples and some fruit either.


People need to understand that there is no 100% healthy food, our knowledge of nutrition just isn't strong enough yet.

There is no one fits all diet either.

The World's most "healthiest" food is probably fruit yes, as it is the one type of food that actually evolved to be eaten and yet it appears as if some humans may have developed sensitivity and intolerance to it as their ancestors moved to areas where there was less fruit so they ate less. Just in the same way that some humans have adapted to eating Dairy and grains.

 

 

I only noticed this strong effect with apples, however, I have a slight suspicion that my body doesn't really like olives either. I need to test this more elaborately though. If I find any correlations I'll let this forum know.

 

I haven't noticed any digestive issues when I eat apples.

 

I eat pretty healthy, and try to include at least 2 pieces of fruit a day but they don't seem to have these negative effects. What I notice is that the skin around my cyst is really swollen and irritated.


In Topic: Red Marks/ Scarring (Pics)

16 July 2013 - 05:03 PM

Your skin looks perfectly fine, probably better than 80% of the population, don't worry about it m8. Personally I wouldn't do anything beside SPF, eat healthy and exercise.