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New BF - should I tell him I have back acne?

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I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!

I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.

Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?

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the truth, that u have bacne, are u into any medication?

id rather liked my bf not to lie to me ;), if i had one :cry:


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I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!

I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.

Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?

It's what is on the inside that counts hon. Doesnt matter what you look like even if you have acne or not, he should love you for what you are regardless if you have spots.

If he makes a fuss about you having acne. Drop him

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I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!

I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.

Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?

I find a woman's back to be the sexiest part of her body. With that said, I wouldn't care if a girl I was seeing had back acne or scars. If it bothers you so much that you don't want him to touch your back, then just talk to him about it. If it's an issue for him, then he's obviously not the one for you (but I'll bet he'll understand).


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I think you should just let him find out. Why would you want to tell him? Well if you do want to tell him, then wait until you two are closer and have gotten to know each other.

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I agree with Terri, just let him notice it. It's not like you have to warn him that you have an extra arm back there or something. If he seems like the type that you have to worry about his reaction to something like that then seems like a few scars are the least of your problems. Unless of course it's more you not wanting him to touch them, then tell him. But if you don't care than why should he?


21 yr old male off of 'tane, now using tazorac cream once at night. would love tips and suggestions.


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Hi, I'm a guy. The last girl I really liked had bacne, bad teeth, weighed 90 lbs, and was 4'10", but I still liked her and a lot. She was real nice, but it was too bad she didn't like me back. :(. So it shouldn't matter, unless it's not a real relationship.

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Just let him notice it. He's not really going to care about it when he sees it. Everyone has something. My ex had chest acne didn't even notice it to busy focused on other parts.

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Curious to know how your new boyfriend reacted to your body acne. I think if your relationship isn't solid, then it could be a deal breaker. If he is the one, then your back acne wouldn't matter. So the answer really depends on who you are dating.

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I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!

I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.

Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?

A bunch of fornicators you guys are, shame on you all!!@!!!neutral.gif

jentie71, I understand you are 34 but that is no reason to have that so called "intimate time", not now at least. Sex will come soon or later but hold your horses jeez. You just started dating the guy. Get to know the guy before any sexual encounters, get to know his character and let him get to know you. Fall in love with this human being before "sexy time".

Love should be passionate folks. Two people united with shameless love. Two people who will love/care for each other no matter how bad the person is sick or dying in their death bed, but in this case love you no matter how bad your back acne is.

and when the time comes such as marriage or whatever you take accredit in, then you can pork each other. But believe me sister it can wait. Love isn't all about sex, sex isn't all about love.

So my advice is tell the guy,theirs a start to know what his character and personality is by his response and/or reaction.

If the idiot dumps you, he's a waste of sperm. Let him go.

For Pete's Sake is that really Christian Bale and Halle Berry, those two were born with perfect skin why are they here.

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Any more questions jentie71 feel free to call me at my toll free number (212) 555-5501

i really need a life lol

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