That's very nice to hear
I've only read the first post and the last one and you sound a lot happier, good luck with that guy
thank you! I need all the luck I can get!
I just read your first post and it broke my heart. I think we've all been there (not just people on this forum, but everyone) and had to face rejection. I've had the occasional guy think I'm cute, VERY RARE though. For 9/10 guys I've had to face rejection in some form, and it felt terrible. Overall it has really steered me away from dating. I only have one person on my mind, and if things somehow ended with him, I'm not sure where I'd go from there. I don't know if I'm one to offer advice because, when faced with rejection, I really am confronted with the same questions as you. You wonder WHAT is the problem. Might I suggest a bottle of wine and a viewing of "He's Just Not That Into You"? One of my favorites for dealing with dating woes.
I hope you enjoy your time with this person. This is such a struggle isn't it? Where do you think you'll be headed (romantically) once you both part ways?
I'm sorry you also went through rejection in the dating world. It really sucks, but hopefully we'll all find that ONE person who likes us for who we are. If they don't , then they are not worth it anyway.
Yeah, He's Just Not That Into You is the perfect reality check! I may have to rewatch it soon just to keep me grounded.
Well, the new guy I was seeing actually became my boyfriend. So far, he is a gentleman and does all the right things, but I have no idea what will happen when we part ways. We definitely want to keep in touch though. My professional life is in limbo right now, so I'm focusing on that at the moment...once that is figured out, I'll be able to figure out the rest hopefully.
But really, this guy came around at a time when I was perfectly satisfied being on my own, and I'm worried that all my insecurities from previous relationships and skin issues will resurface once again. I already told him everything just so he is prepared, but he thinks my face is fine and that my baggage is not bad at all. go figure!
You have a nice face, really, overall. Your pictures are without makeup! so what if you put a little make up on; you'd look like a model i think.
aww thanks for the compliments!
Of course you are pretty and as there are many superficial people in this world, there are also those who actually consider other things more important, like good traits in ones character and personality. Unfortunately, we cannot change other people's hierarchy of priorities in the dating game, but you shouldn't idealize someone just based on their looks. Don't you see what kind of a shallow person he is? Is that what you really want? Apparently, you didn't know him that well. Apparently, you didn't have strong enough of a connection that could endure a couple of tiny scars on your beautiful face. Is that the kind of person you want to be with? Even if you were perfect by the time you reach 40 he would have probably cheated on you with someone younger because she wouldn't have wrinkles! Why are you putting yourself beneath him? You have to realize your worth before you get back in the dating scene You should seriously stop caring (or try to appear like you don't care) so you don't look insecure...Later on your can tell whoever you're dating that you don't feel comfortable with this or that about yourself and if he truly loves you it wouldn't make a difference to him and he would even love you more for being so open. What men and women love is confidence... It doesn't matter if you have scars, if you're overweight or whatever your insecurity is... There is nothing more attractive than a happy and confident partner who has maturely accepted her own shortcomings, but nevertheless knows her strengths.
You are right...insecurity can be the biggest turn-off. My ex told me that many times. Thanks for all the advice, it makes a lot of sense
No, it is not schizophrenia. Although I suffer from the negative symptoms of schizophrenia, I do not have hallucinations and delusions. That is what schizoid is. I am now receiving the help I need.
How are you doing?
I hope you are doing well....what's your situation right now? Better I hope!
My life is in limbo at the moment so I neglected this site a little bit while I get back on track, but I am trying to remain hopeful and optimistic about the future. Next week will either make or break my career....trying not to get stressed out about it. Wish me luck please