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Update: For once, I am getting all positive vibes from someone.... wish me luck

Please update us on how your 'meeting' went! :D

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Hi everyone,

It's strange how much my dating life has improved since my first post here. Well, the guy I mentioned from online ended up being a true gentleman and exactly what I was looking for. He doesn't play games, he deleted his profile, and wants to date exclusively. But of course, as per usual in my life, there's a catch: we both have to move due to reasons we can't control (visa issues to be specific), and we will most likely end up in different parts of the world. So we basically have 1.5 months at most to spend together before we both have to leave Florida and start a new life. I'm very sad, but at the same time I want to give this a shot even though there doesn't seem to be any long term potential.

So, if my initial experiences with online dating scared you as much as they discouraged me from dating anyone else, know that there are some (very few) genuine people out there who will not judge you externally. This guy wanted to meet me before he even knew what I looked like, and we had an instant connection and 6-hour long phone conversations. I'm thankful to have met him and I think he will help me get over some of my trust issues, even though I'm sure it will be very sad when we will be forced to part ways very soon. Life is short, right?


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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That's very nice to hear :)

I've only read the first post and the last one and you sound a lot happier, good luck with that guy :)

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"It was my decision to get clean, I did it for me. Admittedly, I probably did it subliminally for you, so I could come back a brand new me you helped see me through, and don't even realize what you did, 'cause believe me you" - Eminem (funny how this whole thing can be linked to acne)


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I just read your first post and it broke my heart. I think we've all been there (not just people on this forum, but everyone) and had to face rejection. I've had the occasional guy think I'm cute, VERY RARE though. For 9/10 guys I've had to face rejection in some form, and it felt terrible. Overall it has really steered me away from dating. I only have one person on my mind, and if things somehow ended with him, I'm not sure where I'd go from there. I don't know if I'm one to offer advice because, when faced with rejection, I really am confronted with the same questions as you. You wonder WHAT is the problem. Might I suggest a bottle of wine and a viewing of "He's Just Not That Into You"? One of my favorites for dealing with dating woes.

I hope you enjoy your time with this person. This is such a struggle isn't it? Where do you think you'll be headed (romantically) once you both part ways?

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You have a nice face, really, overall. Your pictures are without makeup! so what if you put a little make up on; you'd look like a model i think.

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Of course you are pretty and as there are many superficial people in this world, there are also those who actually consider other things more important, like good traits in ones character and personality. Unfortunately, we cannot change other people's hierarchy of priorities in the dating game, but you shouldn't idealize someone just based on their looks. Don't you see what kind of a shallow person he is? Is that what you really want? Apparently, you didn't know him that well. Apparently, you didn't have strong enough of a connection that could endure a couple of tiny scars on your beautiful face. Is that the kind of person you want to be with? Even if you were perfect by the time you reach 40 he would have probably cheated on you with someone younger because she wouldn't have wrinkles! Why are you putting yourself beneath him? You have to realize your worth before you get back in the dating scene You should seriously stop caring (or try to appear like you don't care) so you don't look insecure...Later on your can tell whoever you're dating that you don't feel comfortable with this or that about yourself and if he truly loves you it wouldn't make a difference to him and he would even love you more for being so open. What men and women love is confidence... It doesn't matter if you have scars, if you're overweight or whatever your insecurity is... There is nothing more attractive than a happy and confident partner who has maturely accepted her own shortcomings, but nevertheless knows her strengths.

<3

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I have no idea if it is a good thing. Something extremely good has to happen in order to give me any positive feelings, as I am schizoid. Generally, nothing helps. My disorder falls in the category "You will have it for life and you have to learn to live with it". Learning to live with it is what I am doing right now.

You mean you have schizophrenia? Are you on medication ?

I don't believe in learning to live with something, I think you should do your research until you find some relief at least, or make it more manageable.

No, it is not schizophrenia. Although I suffer from the negative symptoms of schizophrenia, I do not have hallucinations and delusions. That is what schizoid is. I am now receiving the help I need.

How are you doing?

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That's very nice to hear

I've only read the first post and the last one and you sound a lot happier, good luck with that guy

thank you! I need all the luck I can get!

I just read your first post and it broke my heart. I think we've all been there (not just people on this forum, but everyone) and had to face rejection. I've had the occasional guy think I'm cute, VERY RARE though. For 9/10 guys I've had to face rejection in some form, and it felt terrible. Overall it has really steered me away from dating. I only have one person on my mind, and if things somehow ended with him, I'm not sure where I'd go from there. I don't know if I'm one to offer advice because, when faced with rejection, I really am confronted with the same questions as you. You wonder WHAT is the problem. Might I suggest a bottle of wine and a viewing of "He's Just Not That Into You"? One of my favorites for dealing with dating woes.

I hope you enjoy your time with this person. This is such a struggle isn't it? Where do you think you'll be headed (romantically) once you both part ways?

I'm sorry you also went through rejection in the dating world. It really sucks, but hopefully we'll all find that ONE person who likes us for who we are. If they don't , then they are not worth it anyway.

Yeah, He's Just Not That Into You is the perfect reality check! I may have to rewatch it soon just to keep me grounded.

Well, the new guy I was seeing actually became my boyfriend. So far, he is a gentleman and does all the right things, but I have no idea what will happen when we part ways. We definitely want to keep in touch though. My professional life is in limbo right now, so I'm focusing on that at the moment...once that is figured out, I'll be able to figure out the rest hopefully.

But really, this guy came around at a time when I was perfectly satisfied being on my own, and I'm worried that all my insecurities from previous relationships and skin issues will resurface once again. I already told him everything just so he is prepared, but he thinks my face is fine and that my baggage is not bad at all. go figure!

You have a nice face, really, overall. Your pictures are without makeup! so what if you put a little make up on; you'd look like a model i think.

aww thanks for the compliments!

Of course you are pretty and as there are many superficial people in this world, there are also those who actually consider other things more important, like good traits in ones character and personality. Unfortunately, we cannot change other people's hierarchy of priorities in the dating game, but you shouldn't idealize someone just based on their looks. Don't you see what kind of a shallow person he is? Is that what you really want? Apparently, you didn't know him that well. Apparently, you didn't have strong enough of a connection that could endure a couple of tiny scars on your beautiful face. Is that the kind of person you want to be with? Even if you were perfect by the time you reach 40 he would have probably cheated on you with someone younger because she wouldn't have wrinkles! Why are you putting yourself beneath him? You have to realize your worth before you get back in the dating scene You should seriously stop caring (or try to appear like you don't care) so you don't look insecure...Later on your can tell whoever you're dating that you don't feel comfortable with this or that about yourself and if he truly loves you it wouldn't make a difference to him and he would even love you more for being so open. What men and women love is confidence... It doesn't matter if you have scars, if you're overweight or whatever your insecurity is... There is nothing more attractive than a happy and confident partner who has maturely accepted her own shortcomings, but nevertheless knows her strengths.

<3

You are right...insecurity can be the biggest turn-off. My ex told me that many times. Thanks for all the advice, it makes a lot of sense :)

No, it is not schizophrenia. Although I suffer from the negative symptoms of schizophrenia, I do not have hallucinations and delusions. That is what schizoid is. I am now receiving the help I need.

How are you doing?

Hi Alexander,

I hope you are doing well....what's your situation right now? Better I hope!

My life is in limbo at the moment so I neglected this site a little bit while I get back on track, but I am trying to remain hopeful and optimistic about the future. Next week will either make or break my career....trying not to get stressed out about it. Wish me luck please :)


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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