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Dating With This Face (Pics)

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Update: For once, I am getting all positive vibes from someone.... wish me luck

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Hi everyone,

It's strange how much my dating life has improved since my first post here. Well, the guy I mentioned from online ended up being a true gentleman and exactly what I was looking for. He doesn't play games, he deleted his profile, and wants to date exclusively. But of course, as per usual in my life, there's a catch: we both have to move due to reasons we can't control (visa issues to be specific), and we will most likely end up in different parts of the world. So we basically have 1.5 months at most to spend together before we both have to leave Florida and start a new life. I'm very sad, but at the same time I want to give this a shot even though there doesn't seem to be any long term potential.

So, if my initial experiences with online dating scared you as much as they discouraged me from dating anyone else, know that there are some (very few) genuine people out there who will not judge you externally. This guy wanted to meet me before he even knew what I looked like, and we had an instant connection and 6-hour long phone conversations. I'm thankful to have met him and I think he will help me get over some of my trust issues, even though I'm sure it will be very sad when we will be forced to part ways very soon. Life is short, right?

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That's very nice to hear :)

I've only read the first post and the last one and you sound a lot happier, good luck with that guy :)

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I just read your first post and it broke my heart. I think we've all been there (not just people on this forum, but everyone) and had to face rejection. I've had the occasional guy think I'm cute, VERY RARE though. For 9/10 guys I've had to face rejection in some form, and it felt terrible. Overall it has really steered me away from dating. I only have one person on my mind, and if things somehow ended with him, I'm not sure where I'd go from there. I don't know if I'm one to offer advice because, when faced with rejection, I really am confronted with the same questions as you. You wonder WHAT is the problem. Might I suggest a bottle of wine and a viewing of "He's Just Not That Into You"? One of my favorites for dealing with dating woes.

I hope you enjoy your time with this person. This is such a struggle isn't it? Where do you think you'll be headed (romantically) once you both part ways?

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You have a nice face, really, overall. Your pictures are without makeup! so what if you put a little make up on; you'd look like a model i think.

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Of course you are pretty and as there are many superficial people in this world, there are also those who actually consider other things more important, like good traits in ones character and personality. Unfortunately, we cannot change other people's hierarchy of priorities in the dating game, but you shouldn't idealize someone just based on their looks. Don't you see what kind of a shallow person he is? Is that what you really want? Apparently, you didn't know him that well. Apparently, you didn't have strong enough of a connection that could endure a couple of tiny scars on your beautiful face. Is that the kind of person you want to be with? Even if you were perfect by the time you reach 40 he would have probably cheated on you with someone younger because she wouldn't have wrinkles! Why are you putting yourself beneath him? You have to realize your worth before you get back in the dating scene You should seriously stop caring (or try to appear like you don't care) so you don't look insecure...Later on your can tell whoever you're dating that you don't feel comfortable with this or that about yourself and if he truly loves you it wouldn't make a difference to him and he would even love you more for being so open. What men and women love is confidence... It doesn't matter if you have scars, if you're overweight or whatever your insecurity is... There is nothing more attractive than a happy and confident partner who has maturely accepted her own shortcomings, but nevertheless knows her strengths.

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I have no idea if it is a good thing. Something extremely good has to happen in order to give me any positive feelings, as I am schizoid. Generally, nothing helps. My disorder falls in the category "You will have it for life and you have to learn to live with it". Learning to live with it is what I am doing right now.

You mean you have schizophrenia? Are you on medication ?

I don't believe in learning to live with something, I think you should do your research until you find some relief at least, or make it more manageable.

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That's very nice to hear

I've only read the first post and the last one and you sound a lot happier, good luck with that guy

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