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Hi WishClean,

I think my scarring looks very much like yours (though I still have active acne and quite a bit of redness)

I was wondering what you have found that has helped your scarring? Treatments? Topicals? Anything you take internally that you believe has made a difference?

I'm very open to any advice you could give me regarding anything about scars.

Thankyou

Scars tend to get a bit better with time, so I'm just trying to be patient and not overload my skin. I basically take a lot of nutrients internally to help my body produce more collagen (vitamin C and antioxidants in particular) and I noticed that my skin looks healthier. If I don't sleep for 8 hours and do not eat well one day, my skin doesn't look as good. For a quick pick me up, I drink vitamin water zero, the no sugar kind, and that gives me some of those vitamins. And all the other things listed on my signature. Clear touch Light, which is like IPL but cheaper and less intense, has helped my scarring a bit, and so did red light therapy.

Topically, I use a good night cream (Image Cosmetics' Ormedic night creme) that keeps the area moisturized and plumps it up temporarily. When I wake up in the morning, my scars look less shallow, but only if I use the cream every night (it has sodium hyaluronate that helps hydrate and fill in lines).

I also used to use MSM cream, and that actually reduced a rolling scar I had on my cheek.

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Hi again WishClean,

What kind of scarring do you actually have?

How much improvement do you think can be expected overtime if you leave them on their own to heal (without using harsh products and lasers etc)?

I only noticed my indents about 1 month ago. I am not sure how long they've been there...

They're still red so I am hoping they're still healing and may get better if I do my most to help them.

I am asking this here because the 'scar' section scares me! I don't want to think about horrible lasers and such just yet. I really do believe I can do something nice and natural now that might mean I never have to do any invasive treatments.

Thanks again

The scarring that is in the photos I posted...I guess it's like icepick/ poke marks mostly and some under the skin bumps that never come to the surface.

I did post some photos a few months ago to ask people what they thought of my scars and they said they can't see them, so I posted photos here from a different angle in bright light to make them appear. Are yours similar?

I'm not ready for lasers or even dermaroller so I haven't looked at the scar forum carefully because I know what people will suggest and I'm not ready. Those treatments can actually trigger more acne, that's what a dermatologist told me, so I'd rather stick with the scars than the active acne.

Since your indents are still red, there's a good chance they will become less dense in a few months. Keep moisturizing because dryness makes them appear deeper.

Vitamin C internally can help, and some people on the scar forum use a topical vitamin C serum but I avoid it because my skin doesn't like anything topical with vitamin C.

Vitamin E can also help (topically and internally), and so can MSM cream. MSM cream actually helped make one of my rolling scars disappear over the course of a month or two, but it usually only works on fresh scars.

I don't know anything about your personality but just going on the photos alone, I would feel very lucky to go a date with a girl as pretty as you =)

Thanks for the compliment. I have a feeling I'll be single for a long time :/

My scars are more like shallow rolling scars, my skin looks a bit uneven in certain light. That's what I have classified them as anyway. I am considering posting photos and having others tell me what they think. I do believe we are harsher on ourselves.

I still have active acne. A fair bit on congestion and clogged pores (whiteheads I think they're called). And this makes my skin look even more uneven. I like to believe that if I had not a single active bump or whitehead that my scarring would hardly look noticeable-maybe that's not realistic but I hope it is.

I hope to get some vitamin C supplements when I next go shopping. What kind of dosage do you recommend?

I have also introduced MSM internally over the past couple of weeks.

What do you classify as 'fresh scars' exactly? Like how old? Or what would they look like?

I am looking into topical MSM creams and am wondering if maybe it could help my rolling scars as it helped yours.

Could you recommend a brand? I have found a good one that is natural and has 10% MSM, do you think that is enough?

I sort of feel like I'm at a critical point for healing the scars-I only noticed them about 1 month ago but they could have been there longer. I feel like if I get to it quickly I could heal them somewhat.

I also noticed you're on DIM. I am also looking into that and natural progesterone cream as I believe that my acne could very possibly be hormone-but aggravated by stress etc.

Also another question, what was your acne like at its worst? And what do you believe has helped you the most?

I have been quite healthy for at least the past 5 months or so (with small slip up every once in a while), but I don't believe this has made much of a difference. I believe stress is a major factor for me. And I did calm down with the crazy stressing about my skin for a month or so and I stopped getting the bigger breakouts but then I discovered the scarring and I cannot stop thinking/stressing about it!!

Oh gosh, sorry for such a long rant and all the questions, I just feel totally consumed by all this and I don't have anyone to talk to about it so it's all just in my head. Grrrr. And also I have no bloody idea what to actually do!!! I read all this different stuff everyday and get so overwhelmed by it that I end up not actually doing anything different because I don't know where to start!!!!!

This is how its been for months-and maybe if I actually had have made a proper start months ago I wouldn't have the added stress of scarring!

Obviously I want to clear the acne. I think I will do this my giving DIM a try and maybe NPC. Most people see results within 3 months I believe.

But I also want to tackle the scarring at the same time. So....I will continue the supplements I am on already: Liver support, Zinc, magnesium, calcium and d3 (combined) and MSM. I will add Vitamin c, and maybe look into some antioxidants and also maybe gelatin (have heard its good for building collagen) and some good strong fish oil.

I will continue to gently cleanse my skin at night time, not morning. I use a cream at night that is meant to prevent acne (natural). I will see about adding an MSM cream too-worried about overloading my skin though.

Maybe use aloe vera and manuka honey mask for scarring/acne.

And keep up with my good diet but try to include more anti-inflammatory foods.

I am terribly sorry for the post. I just do feel very much like I'm and battling this entirely on my own.

Anyway, I would really appreciate it if you could answer my questions. Grr, not I just need to be a bit more proactive and just make some decisions and do something....

Thanks again WishClean.

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I'd start with 500mg of vitamin C, then after 1-2 weeks up that to 500mg twice a day, ideally 12 hours apart.

Don't overdo it with the supplements. I used to take more than I needed, and then it was hard to tell what was working and what wasn't. Now I try to get most of my nutrients through food, and save my multivitamins for days where I don't have time to cook.

Stress is huge for me too. When I'm stressed, my skin shows it. For me, acupuncture, yoga, and exercise in general help.


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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First thing... you are incredibly good looking, seriously. Knowing what it's like to suffer from acne and having a bit of scarring as well... has almost made me attracted to girls who've gone through the same thing. Don't know if that sounds super weird, but I guess these days it's a minor turn on, and something that makes me feel like I can "relate" on an emotional level that maybe I couldn't do otherwise.

But no joke... you have amazing features and really attractive eyes. No way in hell is anyone is going to reject you for anything to do with acne or scarring. Nothing about your face looks like it's actively having trouble with acne... just some very minor scarring that's not noticeable unless you seriously take the time to look for it. I would kill to have a chance with any girl that looked as good as you. Good luck :)))

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Thank you so much for your thread!

I used to be a confident guy with a beautiful girlfriend, unfortunately acne took me.

It has been 2 years now and I never had a serious relation since then. This is why I decided to start dating online.

At first, I was like, the girl is going to be so disappointed, she is going to reject me. My god; I was just focused on my skin like you.

I don't really think any of them noticed something and I had a great time!

The thing is that you make me be aware that we all have a negative opinion of our skin! When I saw your skin, I was like: "Is she kidding??" and I am pretty sure that you would say the same thing if you saw mine. we are trapped in a vicious circle but we will manage to escape!

A last thing, you must date with this face and I would date you with this face because you are beautiful and because you seem to be a nice person.

Take your time to find the right person. Until then, all this community will love you.

I wish you the best!

ps: hope my english is not too bad, not my mother tongue

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First thing... you are incredibly good looking, seriously. Knowing what it's like to suffer from acne and having a bit of scarring as well... has almost made me attracted to girls who've gone through the same thing. Don't know if that sounds super weird, but I guess these days it's a minor turn on, and something that makes me feel like I can "relate" on an emotional level that maybe I couldn't do otherwise.

But no joke... you have amazing features and really attractive eyes. No way in hell is anyone is going to reject you for anything to do with acne or scarring. Nothing about your face looks like it's actively having trouble with acne... just some very minor scarring that's not noticeable unless you seriously take the time to look for it. I would kill to have a chance with any girl that looked as good as you. Good luck ))

Thanks! I know what you mean, I am more attracted to guys with facial flaws as well. I would feel more comfortable dating someone who has been through this and understands because people with clear skin take it for granted.

Thank you so much for your thread!

I used to be a confident guy with a beautiful girlfriend, unfortunately acne took me.

It has been 2 years now and I never had a serious relation since then. This is why I decided to start dating online.

At first, I was like, the girl is going to be so disappointed, she is going to reject me. My god; I was just focused on my skin like you.

I don't really think any of them noticed something and I had a great time!

The thing is that you make me be aware that we all have a negative opinion of our skin! When I saw your skin, I was like: "Is she kidding??" and I am pretty sure that you would say the same thing if you saw mine. we are trapped in a vicious circle but we will manage to escape!

A last thing, you must date with this face and I would date you with this face because you are beautiful and because you seem to be a nice person.

Take your time to find the right person. Until then, all this community will love you.

I wish you the best!

ps: hope my english is not too bad, not my mother tongue

Thanks! I would probably lose my mind if I didn't post here, you guys put things in perspective.

Nevertheless, the reality is that this guy disappeared and I wish I could know for sure if it was because of my face. Guys like him are very visual and superficial, so whatever he didn't like was on the surface. Oh well...I wish someone else will come along, but I haven't had the courage to even attempt to date anyone right now.

PS. How come there aren't any nice guys in real life? I never meet any where I live, only losers and superficial jerks.


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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First thing... you are incredibly good looking, seriously. Knowing what it's like to suffer from acne and having a bit of scarring as well... has almost made me attracted to girls who've gone through the same thing. Don't know if that sounds super weird, but I guess these days it's a minor turn on, and something that makes me feel like I can "relate" on an emotional level that maybe I couldn't do otherwise.

But no joke... you have amazing features and really attractive eyes. No way in hell is anyone is going to reject you for anything to do with acne or scarring. Nothing about your face looks like it's actively having trouble with acne... just some very minor scarring that's not noticeable unless you seriously take the time to look for it. I would kill to have a chance with any girl that looked as good as you. Good luck ))

Thanks! I know what you mean, I am more attracted to guys with facial flaws as well. I would feel more comfortable dating someone who has been through this and understands because people with clear skin take it for granted.

>>Thank you so much for your thread!

I used to be a confident guy with a beautiful girlfriend, unfortunately acne took me.

It has been 2 years now and I never had a serious relation since then. This is why I decided to start dating online.

At first, I was like, the girl is going to be so disappointed, she is going to reject me. My god; I was just focused on my skin like you.

I don't really think any of them noticed something and I had a great time!

The thing is that you make me be aware that we all have a negative opinion of our skin! When I saw your skin, I was like: "Is she kidding??" and I am pretty sure that you would say the same thing if you saw mine. we are trapped in a vicious circle but we will manage to escape!

A last thing, you must date with this face and I would date you with this face because you are beautiful and because you seem to be a nice person.

Take your time to find the right person. Until then, all this community will love you.

I wish you the best!

ps: hope my english is not too bad, not my mother tongue

Thanks! I would probably lose my mind if I didn't post here, you guys put things in perspective.

Nevertheless, the reality is that this guy disappeared and I wish I could know for sure if it was because of my face. Guys like him are very visual and superficial, so whatever he didn't like was on the surface. Oh well...I wish someone else will come along, but I haven't had the courage to even attempt to date anyone right now.

PS. How come there aren't any nice guys in real life? I never meet any where I live, only losers and superficial jerks.

It is the big deal with online dating. You "fall in love" with someone you never met, that's never a good thing. It is not like you met someone in a bar , completely drunk and sweatie (is it english??).

He first saw your beautiful pictures and then had a great time chating with you. His attempts were high and maybe he was disappointed. I am sure you are not the problem. The problem is this kind of dating!

If you are too much focused on your looks, why don't you go in a bar with some GAY friends? You will have fun and if you meet a guy, he will like you for what you are at this exact moment!

I decided to give up with online dating for this reason! I prefer to be single and not to feel sad each time one of my online conquest rejects me!

And yes! On what are you dating? Tinder??

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Being 100% honest, your skin looks amazing! I seriously cannot understand as to why he would reject you. You are such an attractive person :) A tiny bit of scarring shouldn't drag down your confidence AT ALL. You're beautiful, and I'm sure that guy has plenty of flaws as well. Nobody is perfect and as we all age, our looks will expire and we will all wither away and that's that. Plus, if you talk with him more, you may realize that you actually aren't that into him. Best of luck :)

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Wish Clean, all the better to get rid of this guy than to have him hang around and you find out that he isn't the right match later. All people are put in our lives for a reason so don't stress it - he served his purpose and its time to move on. Looking at your pics, your complexion is wonderful and your acne and scarring are minimal. I think ive come across of pictures when your acne was much worse and hun, your lifestyle has made a difference.

Take time off to enjoy life and when you feel ready, climb back on the horse and try again

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It's a rocky road but like everything else in life, there is always a beginning and an end. Here's to finding my end.

God is good to me..........more than I deserve.

James 1:2-4

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.


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It is the big deal with online dating. You "fall in love" with someone you never met, that's never a good thing. It is not like you met someone in a bar , completely drunk and sweatie (is it english??).

He first saw your beautiful pictures and then had a great time chating with you. His attempts were high and maybe he was disappointed. I am sure you are not the problem. The problem is this kind of dating!

If you are too much focused on your looks, why don't you go in a bar with some GAY friends? You will have fun and if you meet a guy, he will like you for what you are at this exact moment!

I decided to give up with online dating for this reason! I prefer to be single and not to feel sad each time one of my online conquest rejects me!

And yes! On what are you dating? Tinder??

I agree..online dating is not the "normal" way to date, but what is nowadays? I don't really go out that much since I moved to a new city because most people I know are older with kids. So it was really a chance to go out and meet people.

It was on okcupid....is tinder worse than okcupid?

Wish Clean, all the better to get rid of this guy than to have him hang around and you find out that he isn't the right match later. All people are put in our lives for a reason so don't stress it - he served his purpose and its time to move on. Looking at your pics, your complexion is wonderful and your acne and scarring are minimal. I think ive come across of pictures when your acne was much worse and hun, your lifestyle has made a difference.

Take time off to enjoy life and when you feel ready, climb back on the horse and try again

Yes, you are right. After this guy disappeared, I went though my "progress" photos to remind myself how much progress my skin has made. To a normal person with no skin issues, my skin still looks bad, but to someone who has gone through acne it doesn't look bad. It's strange and it messes with my head.

Btw, I thought I should update. It might seem funny to some of you, as it did to me. I googled his okcupid name (since his real name didn't really bring up anything strange) and it turns out a few years ago he actually uploaded a video of himself and a very drunk girl on some amateur porn sites. He was also on a bunch of casual sex sites, including a site for married women to have affairs. This was in 2011, but still....this guy's d**k was all over the Internet. Needless to say, that was all I needed to get over him.

Sadly, this is not the first time this has happened to me. Where are all the normal, mature men??? I'm definitely starting to lose hope.


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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^ Wow, Wishclean, that is quite the story. I'm sorry that you had to witness that, but kudos to you wanting to get the bottom of the whole situation. I think you can take a big sigh of relief about having things not go as planned. Whatever presence you gave on the date or through your texting must of given him the impression that you weren't 'Easy' and he obviously did not want to put any anymore effort into trying to 'woo' you. I'm so glad and relieved this story didn't have the worst ending as it could of had.

It's amazing often times are intuition about selecting a partner can be so 'off'. We're so convinced that this partner is for us, and than we discover things similarly to this. It just leaves us to think (or atleast me) than I need to really think things more and not be so easily influence my feelings of infatuation. Your story illustrates that for me.. Thanks, for sharing this story.

I also remind myself that even if we do happen to find that person and end up getting married.. That will be ready to strangle ourselves by the time we've been together so long that we lost count hahah.

I hope you find the person that is for you, Wish Clean. I really do.

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It is the big deal with online dating. You "fall in love" with someone you never met, that's never a good thing. It is not like you met someone in a bar , completely drunk and sweatie (is it english??).

He first saw your beautiful pictures and then had a great time chating with you. His attempts were high and maybe he was disappointed. I am sure you are not the problem. The problem is this kind of dating!

If you are too much focused on your looks, why don't you go in a bar with some GAY friends? You will have fun and if you meet a guy, he will like you for what you are at this exact moment!

I decided to give up with online dating for this reason! I prefer to be single and not to feel sad each time one of my online conquest rejects me!

And yes! On what are you dating? Tinder??

I agree..online dating is not the "normal" way to date, but what is nowadays? I don't really go out that much since I moved to a new city because most people I know are older with kids. So it was really a chance to go out and meet people.

It was on okcupid....is tinder worse than okcupid?

>>Wish Clean, all the better to get rid of this guy than to have him hang around and you find out that he isn't the right match later. All people are put in our lives for a reason so don't stress it - he served his purpose and its time to move on. Looking at your pics, your complexion is wonderful and your acne and scarring are minimal. I think ive come across of pictures when your acne was much worse and hun, your lifestyle has made a difference.

Take time off to enjoy life and when you feel ready, climb back on the horse and try again

Yes, you are right. After this guy disappeared, I went though my "progress" photos to remind myself how much progress my skin has made. To a normal person with no skin issues, my skin still looks bad, but to someone who has gone through acne it doesn't look bad. It's strange and it messes with my head.

Btw, I thought I should update. It might seem funny to some of you, as it did to me. I googled his okcupid name (since his real name didn't really bring up anything strange) and it turns out a few years ago he actually uploaded a video of himself and a very drunk girl on some amateur porn sites. He was also on a bunch of casual sex sites, including a site for married women to have affairs. This was in 2011, but still....this guy's d**k was all over the Internet. Needless to say, that was all I needed to get over him.

Sadly, this is not the first time this has happened to me. Where are all the normal, mature men??? I'm definitely starting to lose hope.

*Mature man putting hand up* We still exist!

You know, if you would live in my neighbourhood, I would just come and visite you

I mean it. I am willing to give everyone here at least a big hug.

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Wish clean, like Alexander said, good mature men are out there. We just have to dig through the trash to find them. I find that being authentic to myself attracts people that like me for me, acne or not. Most of those guys though turn out to be friend material but still. Keep at it girl. You're beautiful, educated, smart and you seem like a kind hearted person. You'll find Mr Right someday.

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It's a rocky road but like everything else in life, there is always a beginning and an end. Here's to finding my end.

God is good to me..........more than I deserve.

James 1:2-4

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.


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sorry to hear that, i know i wouldn't believe this advice if someone said it to me but i do genuinely think it's true... if someone is going to behave like that they are not worth being with. Someone could have flawless skin but if their personality rivals a wooden spoon it's pointless! Your skin looks great to me, i would love to be at that stage but obviously that's all relative to the individual

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This is absolute rubbish.............................u ask where all the nice guys are, then you said that u got a number of dates with nice men who STILLL wanted to date u but U didnt feel chemistry(which u attributed was their fault and NOT URS, sure only the men must provide chemistry while u just sit there and judge)..................

Girlfriend u say u want a nice, smart mature man, but the reality is that men like this are LOSERS to u..............and when goodlooking, cool men turn u down then they are superficial jerks.....................however if a hot babe turns down an average man with acne, u women say that she is not entitled to date him or he shud date in his own league or he is a creep or just becuz he is nice doesnt mean he is entitled to dates with goodlooking women,,,,,,,,,,,,,my gosh the double standards are horrendous

WHat u really want is a good looking, attractive and cool man who has status and has a sexy body and perfect face(maybe few flaws)....................and u urself admit u turned down a number of nice men who wanted to continue dating becuz they were NOT HOT ENOUGH (which u sugarcoated saying there was no chemistry)

So it is U my dear who is the shallow, superficial jerk all along,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,if that guy was on porn sites thats his business,I dont see u shaming women who do porn, and women still want him as he is cool and goodlooking, so deal with that Ms Self Righteous oh look at me, men are shallow pigs cuz they will date me even though I have acne but most are losers(not good looking enough) and the good looking ones wont commit to me cuz they have options!!! ohh boo hoo!!! Welcome to the real world!

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Thanks everyone. I read your comments every time I feel bad about myself and every time I'm tempted to reconsider this pathetic excuse of a man.

Well, I think the guys on this forum are far nicer but sadly none of you lives in my area! Perhaps Florida attracts a lot of crazies?? I never met so many disturbed people until I moved to Florida....but I don't want to stereotype or anything. Maybe it's just me. The longest relationship I had in Florida was with a guy who "forgot" to tell me he was still married. So yeah, I definitely attract the wrong people.

I would rather be single forever than keep wasting my time with losers....Unfortunately, in this society, if you are single many people think you are a loser, especially in my profession. I get less respect because I'm a single female. But I highly doubt the purpose of life (if there is one) is simply to get married and have kids...surely, there must be more to life than that goal, right? I'm sure most of you posting here share similar views. I try to get ahead in my career first, and then worry about the rest.

The only problem is that sometimes I get lonely, especially since I moved to a new city and my friends live far away. Oh well.


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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The problem with dating sites is there are a lot of opportunists on there. A lot of men (and some women) use these types of sites to search for people to have "fun" with, even if it doesn't appear this way at first. I have friends who have tried Cupid in the past and let's just say their dates were not what they were expecting to say the least - and this was with older, supposedly mature men.

I don't think he will have even noticed your skin. As others have said your scarring is minimal and you are such a pretty girl. My bet is that he sussed out quite quickly that you were not looking for the same as he was.

I wouldn't give another thought to this STD riddled fool. You will eventually make new friends and mingle in the real world and I bet you will have a queue of young men waiting to take you on a date :)

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Thanks everyone. I read your comments every time I feel bad about myself and every time I'm tempted to reconsider this pathetic excuse of a man.

Well, I think the guys on this forum are far nicer but sadly none of you lives in my area! Perhaps Florida attracts a lot of crazies?? I never met so many disturbed people until I moved to Florida....but I don't want to stereotype or anything. Maybe it's just me. The longest relationship I had in Florida was with a guy who "forgot" to tell me he was still married. So yeah, I definitely attract the wrong people.

I would rather be single forever than keep wasting my time with losers....Unfortunately, in this society, if you are single many people think you are a loser, especially in my profession. I get less respect because I'm a single female. But I highly doubt the purpose of life (if there is one) is simply to get married and have kids...surely, there must be more to life than that goal, right? I'm sure most of you posting here share similar views. I try to get ahead in my career first, and then worry about the rest.

The only problem is that sometimes I get lonely, especially since I moved to a new city and my friends live far away. Oh well.

It's not Florida. Most people are aberrant. If people say you are a loser, then they are uncivilized and aggressive. There is objectively nothing wrong with being single. Getting married is indeed not the purpose of life. Actually, life has no purpose or meaning whatsoever. I understand that that may bother you, but that's how it is. Life is not about having a career either. I am personally a huge fan of "Build your career around your life, not your life around your career". This entire society based on money and materialism is completely fake. It is a false society. That's the cause of the deviating behaviour of people. They are adjusted to a deeply sick culture.

Aren't there clubs that you can join and meet up with people? If you know new people, then the loneliness problem may be solved. Getting a relationship just so that someone fills a void in you is a bad reason to have a relationship.

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The problem with dating sites is there are a lot of opportunists on there. A lot of men (and some women) use these types of sites to search for people to have "fun" with, even if it doesn't appear this way at first. I have friends who have tried Cupid in the past and let's just say their dates were not what they were expecting to say the least - and this was with older, supposedly mature men.

I don't think he will have even noticed your skin. As others have said your scarring is minimal and you are such a pretty girl. My bet is that he sussed out quite quickly that you were not looking for the same as he was.

I wouldn't give another thought to this STD riddled fool. You will eventually make new friends and mingle in the real world and I bet you will have a queue of young men waiting to take you on a date

Wish Clean, you are not alone. I do have to disagree with you about all the crazies being in Florida...lol. You guys have your fair share but it has nothing on NY where you can't walk a city block without bumping into a nut....lol. I feel you on getting lonely. I date but i have not been in a solid relationship in forever and it sucks at times. I like the above posters comments about joining a group - maybe a meet up group. Don't let anyone make you feel as if being single is a reflection of who you are as a person. I have many beautiful, talented friends who are the same age as we are and are single, have been so for a long time. There is nothing wrong with having standards and holding out for what you deserve.

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Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.


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I find it hard to believe that people on this site are cuddling this girl...................theres nothing wrong with her face and she is pretty enough to attract nice men and also good looking man.....................tell that to the average dude with moderate acne who struggles to get a single date with even an average woman with acne, goodlooking women will never date him.................and how is the guy a pathetic excuse? just cuz he did porn? then there must also be a bunch of pathetic excuse for women who did ametur porn ACCORDING to ur LOGIC! Again ur hypocritical double standards! Relly girl, u have not much problems in the dating world, ur acne is no issue as u are still able to get hot men,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,its ur unrealistic expectations and demanding nature and insecurity thats pulling u down! Go relax and enjoy life, ur face can get u plenty of men even goodlooking men, u have nothing to stress over...................Ur only problem is that (1) Hot men have options and will NOT settle for u(and if they settle u will get cheated on) and (2) Average looking men are unappealing(losers) to U..........................................however both will date u and treat u well, so be happy most men cant even get a date to save their lives................................and relly u dont have to keep up with the jones like ur fellow workers, ur NOT a loser being single................u have freewill from God to live life as u please, so live a life to make u happy instead of trying to please or keep up with ur coworkers.............as u came into this world alone and will also leave alone taking nothing with u!

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Yes, that's true (both about online dating and his STDs probably lol). I would much rather meet someone randomly in the "real world" but with my busy work schedule and lack of social life, that seemed a bit unlikely. I was surprised this guy was texting and skyping me for almost a month before we actually managed to meet...and the conversations were never sexual at all. He had intelligent things to say, that's why I thought he might be worth getting to know.

Oh well... live and learn I guess.

Alexander, I really like your cynical (or perhaps accurately realistic) views on life...I feel that way myself. No, it doesn't bother me that there is no purpose in life. I try to make my own purpose, like help other people, otherwise I couldn't bear to live a meaningless existence. My career helps people and is very rewarding sometimes, so I don't mind focusing on it. I agree about capitalism and materialism being fake...but I look at it as this: more money = more opportunities to travel and experience the world. Nothing comes cheap unfortunately. What do you focus on in your life?

I agree that relationships shouldn't be to fill a void...I guess I meant it would be nice to have someone to do various activities with and explore the area etc.

Yes, I looked at some meetup groups online but haven't joined any yet. My plan is to go to more fitness classes at the gym and yoga classes in the park. Even if I don't meet any new friends, at least I'll be doing something I like. I'm also planning on going back to Europe this summer because there I have my family and my friends, and I feel more fulfilled. I don't even look for a relationship when I'm back home because I have so many great people around me that I never feel lonely or inadequate (well, unless my grandmothers start asking me when I'm getting married and having kids).

Oh I forgot about NY...and I guess LA too. The bigger the city, the more crazies it attracts it seems. I'll have to look into meetups more seriously. I was going to join one last summer when I moved here, but when I was finally ok with my skin to attend an event, they blocked me because I hadn't paid the membership fees! I didn't even know I had to pay before even attending a meetup... I will need to search and see if there are any other meetups I can join. The one that blocked me was for girls in their 30s and it seemed like such a fun group...too bad I was kicked out lol. How do you meet people in NY? That seems even harder, especially since you have to filter out all the crazies.

I didn't see that you posted here twice... I guess you are offering mixed advice but half of it does make sense. To address your points:

1. I have NO PROBLEM with men or women posting porn online, to each their own. I was just saying that I personally would not be interested in someone who posts online porn. If you happen to be attracted to that, good for you but don't judge me because I have standards. And for the record, I was specifically referring to this guy, a supposedly very serious buddhist, posting porn online with, I forgot to mention, a HALF UNCONSCIOUS girl. Anyone who brags about that is nobody I'm interested in. Especially someone who does those kind of things and then pretends to be spiritual, non materialistic, and everything else pertaining to buddhist philosophy (and no, amateur porn is not part of buddhist philosophy).

2. When I say "attractive", everyone has different standards of attractiveness. If I showed you guys a photo of this guy, you might not even consider him attractive. And let me remind you that I was attracted to his personality first of all, since we were talking for almost a month before we actually met. Yes, I have dated some good looking men in the past, but the most meaningful relationships I had were not with men that would be considered conventionally attractive (i.e. they were much older than me, overweight, gray hair, etc.... but still, I found that attractive at the time because of their personality and other qualities, and even their looks were appealing to me).

3. I never said average looking men are losers. Why would I say that??? I even said I was hoping this guy would be less good looking because then I'd feel more comfortable around him. As I said in point no. 2, I dated various types of men and I am fully aware that the so-called good looking guys have other options and usually also have stuck up/ superficial personalities. A loser to me is someone who uploads amateur porn with a half conscious girl just to show off. Has nothing to do with looks, it has everything to do with poor judgement and lack of moral standards (and protection!).

4. I agree about the insecurity part. My last bf said that my insecurities were too much to handle, so you do have a point there. But ater being through severe acne more than once in my life, I don't think I will ever fully emotionally recover from that experience. I will never feel 100% confident about my face, but if I can get to 90% confident I'll be fine with that.

Noone is "cuddling" anyone here. People were just offering their opinions, and I trust their judgment because they have been through the emotional and psychological scars of acne.

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Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

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i wouldn't have justified that idiot with a response wishclean lol, if you have nothing nice to say then don't bother saying anything!! You'll meet someone when you least expect it, life works very funny like that, i have no doubts :)

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@brandylad Your are the moron, not me......................I live in a realistic world, not the politically correct feminist world that you and the rest live in where everything is done to shelter women and white knight them.....................the best people are those who keep in real and tell u bluntly how life is, not those who try to kiss your ass and be nice.......................and yes I deserve a response more than all u ass kissers here cuz I gave her the best advice and not tried to please her or ass kiss her booty..............................I told her that nothing is wrong with her and that she could get plenty of men, but I told her how hot men really operate(they have options, wont settle) and called her out on her bs and double standards which she critized men and yet she herself was guilty of being a jerk too..................so if your too afraid to be real with people and want to kiss their ass and be nice then U are the true 'idiot' ok, not everything in this world is all rainbows and fairytales ok!

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@brandylad furthermore she admits to getting many dates with both average looking men and goodlooking men,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,but you all fail to realise the ones who really need help i.e. the average/below average/ugly looking men with acne, as I said these men fail to get a single date, maybe once in a blue moon after much effort, but who cares for them huh? everything in minds of women are all about themseleves and dont give a damn about the true people who are really suffering....................u think those guys didnt also suffer the psychological and emotional scarring of acne,u think that these men dont deserve love and intimacy and sex which are all human needs, at least men have lower standards and will give women with acne attention (even good looking men) but u women(especially pretty women) have ur high 'standards' and shit on these men...........................u all are just a bunch of cry babies who want nobody to judge u all yet u are judging everyone around u all and holding them to impossible standards.........................well at least @Wishclean is not so bad as she admitted to dating some average men, but the majority of u all put men through such shit in dating, no wonder why many have given up after being rejected so much (even though they are doing their best to work on their apperance and personality)...................I already know what u all gona say: ur gona shame me with the typical drivel ur a sexist, mysogynistic, pig but u know what I dont care becuz I dont need any man or woman to validate me, I am not a people pleaser, I dont want approval from others, furthermore I LOVE WOMEN but I am strong enough and not afraid to call them out on their double standards, so dont think you cud make me afraid cuz I fear no one except God!

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i wouldn't have justified that idiot with a response wishclean lol, if you have nothing nice to say then don't bother saying anything!! You'll meet someone when you least expect it, life works very funny like that, i have no doubts

You're right. Sorry he offended you too.

Seems like he joined acne.org just to post on this thread. Hmmm.

Anyway, I'm sure every female who posted on this thread would have nothing against dating a guy with acne...in fact, I would prefer to date someone with acne and/or scarring because they will relate to what I went through.

And btw, my high school boyfriend had acne and when his skin cleared up he thought he could do better and dumped me. So even people with acne can have high standards and be superficial sometimes.


Current regimen: garlic supplements [as needed], Enzymedica gluten blocker [as needed], nicadan [not sure if it works yet]. I try to simplify as much as I can. Don't take more supplements than you need....try one at a time and be patient.

The supplements that really helped me when my acne was at its worst: inositol, DIM [not as frequently now!] digestive enzymes [don't need them every day anymore, only on cheat days], herpanacine & vitamin C with rose hips/ low acid [not every day], regular sun exposure for vitamin D3, superoxide dismutase (SOD) enzyme supplements. NOTE: I do not recommend DIM for long term use, and I do not recommend hormonal creams without doctor supervision.

Lifestyle & Skin Care: acupuncture, regular exercise/ yoga, low histamine diet, avoiding unnecessary stress, balancing skin's PH (using Image Ormedics), using distilled/ filtered water to wash face, occasional high frequency facials...

 

Grocery list:

 

** Find the cause, find the cure **

** If you have a question for me, please ask it publicly so that others can benefit from the discussion**

 

 


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