During my time lurking on this forum, I've noticed that one of the more common complaints is that 'society' does not accept those who suffer from acne. I've especially seen this sentiment implied through threads concerning social activities -- specifically, meaningful relationships. For instance, although I assume most people here suffer from acne, it seems like the majority are either in a relationship or striving to be in one. And the acne, if an issue at all, is something that bothers other people. I know that you're not happy about your appearance, but it seems like it has almost no impact on your desires. Take, for example, this hypothetical scenario:
You're currently single and there is one person you've been attracted to for a long time. But, you've always thought of them as being "out of your league", never really viewing a relationship as a realistic possibility. Then -- from seemingly out of the blue -- they start interacting with you; eventually, this interaction leads them to clearly demonstrate that they're 'interested' in you, too.
Do you pursue this relationship?
Seems like 'yes' is the obvious answer, right? Well, for me, the answer would be 'no.' I know, that sounds crazy, but, honestly, that would be my response; as the title states, I don't view myself as being worthy of such an honor. I mean, I feel that anyone that I'm attracted to is, at some level, objectively attractive and I know that I am not. I'm just being realistic; I have acne, acne scarring, and discoloration from acne, and I know that this makes me unattractive. Maybe I'm too proud. Perhaps I'm too superficial. I don't know. But, regardless, I simply cannot come to terms with being in a relationship with someone I deem attractive while knowing I am not. It seems unfair; I feel they deserve better. Thus, I have lost all desire to pursue such a relationship. Not because I fear rejection from 'society', but because I have rejected myself. Now, I know this seems entirely unhealthy, but I'm not necessarily unhappy. In fact, I'd probably be less happy in a relationship.
Also, for clarification, I don't believe it's impossible to be attractive with acne; it's just that, in my case, I know that I am unattractive -- by any reasonable standard.
I'd love to hear any thoughts, opinions or advice you have.