Hey check this out. Dr Phil actually talked about this on Thurday's show. It's the first time I've seen anyone talk about this on TV.
holy f**king shit! that is bad. I thought i was bad, but that really is sad her before and after is insane.
this has scared me to death.. I think i'm going to watch this video again and again when I feel an urge to pick.
but I also realise help is a must.
dr phil said
"The good news is that neither of you have disfigured yourself to the point that you can't return to completely normal in terms of your skin. You haven't gone too far, but you're getting close,
really? i would have thought that sort of damage is irreversible?
further more dr phil says "What you need to do is be able to identify your anxiety, alleviate your anxiety and take away the need for the ritual," he insists. Both girls accept the help.
so ok my anxiety is the redness/spots.. and hating them and pretty much exactly what that girl said, getting what ever is under there 'out', so surely i cant be healed because we all get spots and i seem to break out a lot even at 26 .... so what do I do? argh
tbh that video has been an EYE opener for me.. its weird how seeing someone else can impact me personally so much. Like when its your own face you don't really think.. seeing this really has spun a whole new perspective on it for me.
Jack - I was mad at that Dr Phil piece too. My picking has everything to do with acne and black heads. if i didn't have them...i wouldn't pick. Maybe her situation was different. i felt sad when she didn't realize that it is anxiety / stress based. I know when my mother pisses me off i tend to pick more and around my period (sorry TMI lol).
I found myself nodding in agreement when she said 'all i want to do is get that stuff out. Then there is a short period of relief and than OMG what have i done.'
Dr. Phil is right though....I heard this from my therapist too. You cant just break the habit (it will come back), you have to replace it with something and the habit will slowly slowly melt away. I find that 10 minutes of yoga and breathing in the AM helps before i get in the shower. and when i feel my anxiety building, i stretch and breath right in the bathroom. I don't think we'll ever be "cured", we'll just learn how to recognize and deal with the stress.
hang in there. do you see a derm for the acne? and have someone to talk to about the picking?....professional or not...it helps to vent and breath.
thanks for the reply nancy, I have calmed down a lot now too after seeing that video.. basically I totally forgot that I was picking because of spots.. i wasn't picking at nothing or imagined flaws.. my picking obsession is also black head related.. vis a vis if i didnt' have clogged pores.. I'd never have picked however *
*what gets to me a lot is that I have never had BAD acne... just persistent spots here and there... and i've never learned to just leave them be.. if it wasnt for me trying to make my skin better i.e moisturised/cleansed/ trying to prevent spots in the first place by using oils/cleansers/ etc (which always clogged me up... which stressed me out... which led to me squeezing FAR to hard sigh) then maybe I wouldn't have these small marks and indentations. I remember I picked at times of high stress/ exams was one time and the other time around 2 months ago at a work do. sigh. its pissing me off thinking about it. I couldnt help myself, and now i've got the damage. I wonder if it can be healed.
Sure some marks are not that obvious but when you know its there.. and how it got there... thats what eats away at me I feel ugly in public like I really do have the worst skin ever.. but i don't..
so I must have huge insecurities.. for a guy..
I saw my gp. here in England you cant just see a derm, you have to be referred, once referred you can see one. or go private and it will cost about 800 dollars for an hour consultation. He (the GP a.k.a Doc) gave me a prescription of dermolotion... which is an emolient. It is anti bacterial and he said to use it after a shave to stop irritation and spots etc. I used this, and it worked so well i hadnt seen my skin look so good. My confidence came back. However after a few weeks it clogged up again.. and then i squeezed out the black heads, and had enlarged pores and pock marks ever since.
I went back, and told him I had no luck. This time he gave me 300mg tetralysal to prevent spots coming up in the first place, but in the past although yes antibiotics have cleared and prevented them, they always come back afterwards. and they are just not good to be taking are they?
I saw a derm a few years ago (4-5 years ago) and he said I have light acne, clogged pores, and Acne excoriee... which comes the term comes from france, its apparently what young girls often do/did to purposely make themselves not attractive so that they wouldn't be sexually assaulted by men...
anyway sorry for the long post. Hopefully you can relate? is there anything we can do? I am getting professional help after 1st jan 2014 through private health care, i'll be seeing someone who specialises in CBT and BDD. I think if that helps at least i'll stop picking and maybe over time if as long as I dont break out much, then the skin will heal and go back to an even tone. then perhaps once the mental behavioural side is locked down then maybe look into dermapen and try and fix the light/mild damage caused over the years?
what do you think guys and girls
Edited by .JacktheLad., 24 December 2013 - 09:10 AM.