I cannot believe how many of you are telling the OP to stop whining or saying negative comments based on his feelings and views. He's allowed to vent and say what he feels. He's not hurting anyone, he's not being rude or obnoxious, he's telling it how it is based on his life. Do I think he should try a bit harder to help himself? Yes. Of course, but it's not as easy to snap yourself out of a deep depression, I know this first hand.
Many of us can relate to the way he feels and just because you're able to overcome your problems and or your depression, doesn't mean it's easier or easy for everybody else to just take your advice and ride the high horse out of depression town.
The OP didn't come here to whine about his problem (however severe it may be, if it effects him to the point of severe depression, maybe you should be a little more respectful and understanding where he's coming from and try to talk it out with him without trying to pity him and ESPECIALLY without writing disgusting paragraphs about how it's own doing, or that there's other people off worse than he is). He came here to let his story and views be heard, not to start controversy and have people tell him his problem is nothing to be depressed about, etc. Maybe he does need to speak to someone and maybe he doesn't want to admit it but he needs to let it out to people who understand him because he feels he doesn't have anyone else to speak to? Well guess what, the lot of you should be ashamed (not the people trying to provide positive feedback and support). The rude people here know who they are.
This forum is about people with a common problem trying to get through it together, to lend a helping hand to each other. There should be NO REASON to put him down in any way or complain that he's whining or anything of the sort. The ONLY reason anyone on here has the right to say anything negative to another person is if they're being a rude person to begin with, like a few of you were towards him.
As you could see in his posts, he didn't rebuttal negatively to any of your negative comments that were posted about him. He should be giving some of you advice on how to, even when in a sensitive topic like this, act civilized and respectful without childish remarks that are doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO HELP.
Some people are born mentally stronger than others, some are physically stronger, some people are smarter than others. Mentally, he seems in a state of depression and confusion, but does that mean we should call him weak minded and that he's doing it all to himself and to man up and to stop whining, etc.? Definitely. Not. Going. To. Help. Yet some of you chose to be rude even though he wasn't trying to be; the poor guy was just expressing himself, no matter how raw it was for you people to read, that does NOT give you the right to say these things to him. There's always more than one way to do things, and the right way is to, EVEN THOUGH HE DIDN'T WANT IT, provide some insight and make him feel like he's not alone, and hell, help him even if he doesn't want it until he tells you to not too. I bet you 100 to 1 that even though he says he doesn't want anyone's pity or help, it's better hearing people sympathize and trying to lend out help rather than saying rude disgusting things to him. If your advice is for him to try to pick himself up and dust himself off, clearly you could say it with a lot more respect.
I'm tired of seeing these unhelpful comments and even the people comparing one persons problems to another. Everyone has problems, telling someone about how another person has it worse isn't going to make his mentality a stone fortress and make him immediately forget about the pain that acne has caused him. He is hurting, he is a human being, no matter what the problem is, speaking the way that some of you did, is just not cool and I always lose more and more respect for humanity the more I see how the vast majority really is. NOW can you at least understand a little more why he has lost faith in humanity? The evidence is on this thread right here. It seems where ever he goes, for whatever reason, even to get help. There's always those people that put him down when all he's trying to do is help himself by venting. It would have been a lot more respectful and helpful if the rude ones here just never posted.
Do you think he wants to be this way? Do you think he wants to vent on a forum about the depression in his life and his unfortunate battle with his mental well being? Do you think that he wants to upset you by posting this thread? Do you think he wants or cares if anyone sees life the way he does? The answer is NO. He just wants to share his story with fellow acne sufferers. I don't care if your acne is worse or better than his condition, everyone's got their problems and just because yours seems to be worse to you or is a lot more detrimental to your health, doesn't mean his depression is something to be mocked.
I'm sorry for rambling on, but I just got fed up by some of the comments I read and I'm not a mean person but to those of you who were acting rude for no apparent reason, I'd kindly like for you to never post again when someone is venting. You do not know how to help, nor do I think you care about helping anyone else but yourself because if you did, you'd understand that what was said here by the OP, was NO REASON to write those comments the way some of you did. I mean the OP seems like a decent human being and as much as he doesn't want it, he needs help from those of us who actually care and understand, and if he doesn't want to take the advice, so be it. He's not hurting anyone, and he may be hurting himself, but it's not on purpose and it's not easy for him to not think that way. Believe me I can relate.
In conclusion, I would like for ALL of you to think for a minute. In your mind, really put yourself in his shoes. Just think how he's thinking, why he's thinking it, what causes are behind it, etc. and if you come back here and write a response saying how it's not as hard as he makes it seem to get out of this rut, then please don't bother replying back to any of these points because as I said earlier, not everyone has a stone hard mentality where they can over come any or many of life's problems. Everyone's different and I bet he has tried very hard to help himself to no avail and a venting on a forum where he felt welcome might have been something to get him closer to developing a stronger mind and a stronger urge to better his life, yet I don't see many people trying to relate or sympathize with him, all I see is people being rude towards him, comparing other peoples problems with his own, calling him names and being absolutely careless, arguing what he said rather than trying to help. I may not have a strong mentality, but I am building it, and it's hard for me, but that doesn't mean it's hard for you. Maybe all he needs is a positive place to turn, to help him progressively build up his happiness again; Well, that's probably gone now, thanks to the few of you who were rude and the others who compared his problems instead of leveling with him. This is one perfect reason why he can't get along in society, it's because everywhere he turns, he gets the same bullshit replies over and over and the same rude comments over and over.
I'm sick of it and I hope I have changed some of your minds to be more respectful in the future and change your approach on these types of situations. Just remember this, he is depressed, there's no doubt about it. Should we act hard and cruel, or kind and supportive? You decide, but please remember, it's not always the persons fault that their depressed. Some of you are strong mentally, some of you are getting there, some of you aren't. I'm not. Are you going to call me a "phaggot" or tell me that I'm whining if I just need a person too talk to? Or would you rather tell a suicidal person to stop whining. Pathetic, really. For Shame.
If no one else was going to stick up for him, I had to
and sorry if anyone thought any of my comments were rude but if you want to reply to my points,
please be kind and respectful.
Edited by AndySoprano, 09 October 2013 - 04:06 PM.