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#41 CBIOT13

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Posted 05 September 2013 - 12:05 PM

I suffered from acne for about 11 years.  8 of those years it actually affected my life for the worst. So much that I wouldnt be where i am today or be the person I am today because of it.  That thought of that alone blows my mind away. It still upsets me from time to time because of what I could have done and learned in that time. But as I look at it I would never be able to help anyone like I hope I can.

 

I havent had acne problems in 10 years. Hell , I rarely use any cleansers anymore.  I will pretty much stick to my guns on this solution because anything less would be 10 steps back and I would die trying to help at least one person understand this. Because I know others feel like its killing them or that they want to die some days. I mean I wanted to die but somehow instead I ended up  willing to die for this realization... until I gave up. So I will just sum up some 6 principles to healing that came out about from the miracle I had.

 

Just a few facts that I learned on my own about acne that no doctor could ever tell you because he has probably never had to heal his own acne. (Plus, he would be out of business.)

 

First before you read this just stop whining. Stop looking for someone to make it go away for you. Its your acne. You're the one who created it ,you're the one prolonging it. Trying to whine about it on here and not take anyones advice that has put an end to the problem  even though you "want a solution" is  basically saying you want it. To paint a better picture its like paying a personal trainer to get in shape but instead of you lifting the weights you want him to lift them. LOL.

 

 

 

1. Acne is not out there trying to get you. It is not a separate entity from you. It is an extension of you. It starts in your mind ( like any other thing).

Acne thoughts + emotion( "I can't stand acne!") = Acne

2. Since it is in your mind it is created by your thoughts.And since it starts with a thought it can be ended with...no thought.

Acne thoughts -  acne emotion( I can't stand acne)= Healing 

3. You have an emotional attachment to acne. " I can't stand acne".  It must be let go. Forgiven. But first let me emphasize any form of medicine or naturopathic home remedy, or no remedy, you wish to take has to go through this process to heal. 

 

Forgiveness is what heals.  Right now you're at "F@ck you acne". when you need to be at "Acne is ok. " Then eventually you will get to "Who's acne?"

 

When you cut your finger most of the time there is no grudge with the cut , so you let it heal. Its not "F@ck you cut! or F@ck you kitchen knife(well sometimes but only for a minute hehe).  When you make up with a friend its not "I forgive you for breaking my Justin Bieber but when you get a chance burn in hell"  Its either "I forgive you "or it what I call " No need to forgive because, I was never upset." You simply cannot have peace without letting yourself have it. 

 

4. You have to change your mind about acne.  You think it makes you ugly and unattractive. But since  your so wrapped up in yourself,  you've never bothered to look around and realize theres really no such thing as ugly. There is nothing unbearable to look at.

Think about it. Take a look around at people with it and without it. Does acne change how you feel about them? The ones that  do have it can you tell it bothers them? Can you tell how it makes them feel at all? Usually not. And why is that? Because its all in their head! If you can't perceive a problem with your eyes then it must be in the mind, right?

 

5. Stop resisting the acne. Let it be there. Remember its there because you cant stand it. So for now on tell yourself its ok to have it.

Because it does not matter. ITs like bird shit on a car. Its not going to change how you feel about a car. It would never keep you from buying a car you love. You'd have to scour a car just to see it anyway. If it was a ferrari you wouldn't even care!  The problem is taken care of you just need to get out of the way because you have been in the way the whole time by caring about acne.

 

6.The BEST ACTION to take to release  your attachment to it is to affirm : "I don't care if it stays or goes,  I'm not going to do this to myself anymore. I going to live my life and be happy."  Then start living your life like someone who doesn't have it. Stop putting all this crap on your face. pick one cleanser use it no more than twice a day if you need that to make you feel at ease.  Stop looking for zits in the bathroom for an hour. Stop picking. Stop hiding. People that don't have it don't do that crap. So stop taking it so seriously. Laugh at yourself once in awhile and spend time trying to always be laughing or doing something you enjoy.  

 

Keep in mind if you took Accutane or something and it went away, your attitude towards it would be different. You will eventually feel "safe" but it will just take longer and cost more. Eventually you may even forget your grudge and approve of yourself and actually be happy but only conditionally. You'll never know unconditional happiness or love. 

So to conclude if you can't understand at least one of these then saddle up for a long ride on a road to nowhere and good luck with your next battle. Acne's cousin cancer.

 

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Posted 06 September 2013 - 12:12 PM

It seems that you are a very sad person. I feel you, i´ve been there, and you said that you been battling with acne for about 8 years?, Well, i´ve been battling with acne for 11 years!cry.gif  And i still enjoy life to the fullest.cheer.gif  Yes i do have to admit that there were times were i didn´t want to leave the hous, i just want it to stay inside of my house everyday and not going out. Or if i had to go out, i would try to hide my face ninja.gif so people won´t look at me. Especially when someone makes negative remarks about my skin, my dad do that all the time, saying how bad my skin is and blah blah blah. I don´t give a fuck anymore, it´s been almost 1 month without using any makeup, just mascara and lipstick that´s it. I´m not covering myself again with tons of makeup. If a guy is going to love me...he is going to love me for who i´m not for what i look like, and if he is not willing to accept me for my skin than he was never worth my time.

 

About dating, love, relationships i gotta say that i´ve been very lucky on those things. Never a guy left me because of my skin, in fact most of my friends are very pretty girls with perfect skin but most of the guys hit on me. Yes acne is a nightmare but think about it this way. Many people who are burn survivors, will stay like that for the rest of their life, they cannot covert it with makeup and they still live their life to the fullest. Take a look around you, take a look at those who surround you and there are alot of people who have disabilities, they are amputee, they are burn, they are blind, they have cancer, hiv think about those people and than take a look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself that you have all of your body parts, you are not burned, you do not have hiv, you are not blind you have healthy eyes that can see the world.

 

Think about others who are in a worst position than you and YET! they still love life. I just think that the more you think about your acne, the more bad you are going to feel which will make your life miserable. Alot of people here in this forum still have boyfriends or girlfriends, they are marry, they go out to the world!. Why can´t you just do that? Why don´t you go out to the world and enjoy life without thinking about your acne, just for one day. You will realize then how beautiful life is. If you are single now...is because that´s how you want it, because my friends have boyfriends who have acne and they still love them for whom they are.  



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Posted 06 September 2013 - 09:02 PM

To nair housten:: ok so here is the major diffrence between acne & most other conditions out there. People dont view acne the same way its a taboo subject unlike cancer or even a burn in that people are far more understanding, acne on the other hand is viewed more as a joke. Thats why they wont go through the level of humiliation that i have & imo that makes it twice as hard to deal with not only the actual condition. But the people as well.


tell me how is someone gonna forget about it when its mentioned by almost everyone that sees you? i want to live normaly but society wont let me. Im treated as a joke, people can go fuk themselves

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Posted 06 September 2013 - 09:31 PM


Sorry guys, I went over the line there. Been tough times lately. No reason to rage it out here though. sorry again


Well as far as me feelings go. Im fine i dont get hurt by words..

Edited by fatalbert911, 06 September 2013 - 09:40 PM.


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Posted 07 September 2013 - 01:22 PM

Took a look at OP's pictures and could not believe how much better his skin was as compared to mine and then proceeded to completely not comprehend the crap that I just read.

 

I can empathise, sure, there are days when I think my acne is way worse than it really is when nobody around me cares, or even notices sometimes until I point out a pimple I'm obsessed over. But I sure as hell have no sympathy for this kind of bs attitude. If you wanna mope and hate yourself, by all means be my guest, but don't go trying to drag everyone along with you just because misery loves company.

 

I completely agree with one of the posts above - ugly thoughts make ugly people. You're the reason for your own God damn unhappiness, stop holding other people responsible. You clearly haven't tried and it's nobody's fault but your own because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of making a conscious effort to change it. 

 

I'm not sorry that this is coming off as rude because OP is just plain offensive and I can't stand it.



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Posted 07 September 2013 - 05:13 PM

Took a look at OP's pictures and could not believe how much better his skin was as compared to mine and then proceeded to completely not comprehend the crap that I just read.

 

I can empathise, sure, there are days when I think my acne is way worse than it really is when nobody around me cares, or even notices sometimes until I point out a pimple I'm obsessed over. But I sure as hell have no sympathy for this kind of bs attitude. If you wanna mope and hate yourself, by all means be my guest, but don't go trying to drag everyone along with you just because misery loves company.

 

I completely agree with one of the posts above - ugly thoughts make ugly people. You're the reason for your own God damn unhappiness, stop holding other people responsible. You clearly haven't tried and it's nobody's fault but your own because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of making a conscious effort to change it. 

 

I'm not sorry that this is coming off as rude because OP is just plain offensive and I can't stand it.

 

Well said.

 

Some people make it like they have cancer; and it's offending if you know someone WITH A SERIOUS MEDICAL PROBLEM that b****** and moans less than these people do.

 

Your skin is not perfect. Okay, We get it. Ours is not great as well, that's why we're here. BUT we can either choose to let it rule our life, or you can find ways to manage and make the most of what you've been given.

 

If you think that acne automatically makes people hate you and destroys any chance of happiness, then fine. Enjoy one heck of a miserable life.

 

You have the opportunity, every time you are blessed enough to wake up in the morning, to make the day a good one. If you choose to throw that away because of some seriously distorted views, that's your deal. Just know that while some people on this website will indulge you and listen to your crap, you will not be receiving ANY sympathy or pity from many of us.

 

EDIT: I just looked at the OP's gallery pictures as well. You sir, have literally no active pimples that are shown. You have slightly large pores, and some uneven skin-tone. That's it. 


Edited by CBIOT13, 07 September 2013 - 05:17 PM.


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Posted 07 September 2013 - 05:55 PM

The best thing to do
Is deal with it.
Everyone is fighting their own battles in life, and we just happen to be fighting acne's battle, including other lifely things.
That's just the way it is.
It helps build character and make us stronger people.
I used to be severely depressed.
But after a few years I've realized that If we truly want to win the battle, then we have to be stronger than acne.
Let your personality shine and show the person that you are on the inside & just keep ya head up.
Its not simple, but its that or being plagued by pain in the heart.

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Posted 08 September 2013 - 08:31 PM

To nair housten:: ok so here is the major diffrence between acne & most other conditions out there. People dont view acne the same way its a taboo subject unlike cancer or even a burn in that people are far more understanding, acne on the other hand is viewed more as a joke. Thats why they wont go through the level of humiliation that i have & imo that makes it twice as hard to deal with not only the actual condition. But the people as well.


tell me how is someone gonna forget about it when its mentioned by almost everyone that sees you? i want to live normaly but society wont let me. Im treated as a joke, people can go fuk themselves

I understand what you are saying but for example people who are burn are seen like MONSTERS to society. Some of them won´t be able to get a job because of their looks, but with people who have acne will get a job do you understand what i´m trying to tell you? you are not alone there are days that i feel disgusted by my skin but MATURE people wont take you as a joke because of acne. Assholes are everywhere you just have to learn to deal with it. I have a friend whom is disfigured for life, she has third degrees, burns, and some people even say ´´she´s a monster´´ children get scare of her, how do you think she feels when society calls you monster,? it´s not the same as acne. Acne has a solution other diseases don´t. And i´m sorry if i´m always saying the same thing about other diseases but if you think about it, your acne is not even compared to other stuff. I hope that you feel better someday, you are not alone, and those who laugh at you because of your acne...they can go to hell, karma exist and someday they will get acne or something even worst. 

 

The main thing is that you should know is that the more you show to the people that you are weak the more they are going to pick on you. Yoou are not alone, i´m a girl so for me is way more harder than you because we girls worry so much about our looks. I wish i could be besides you just to let you know that you are not alone. rolleyes.gif



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Posted 09 September 2013 - 06:07 PM

I understand what you are saying but for example people who are burn are seen like MONSTERS to society. Some of them won´t be able to get a job because of their looks, but with people who have acne will get a job do you understand what i´m trying to tell you? you are not alone there are days that i feel disgusted by my skin but MATURE people wont take you as a joke because of acne. Assholes are everywhere you just have to learn to deal with it. I have a friend whom is disfigured for life, she has third degrees, burns, and some people even say ´´she´s a monster´´ children get scare of her, how do you think she feels when society calls you monster,? it´s not the same as acne. Acne has a solution other diseases don´t. And i´m sorry if i´m always saying the same thing about other diseases but if you think about it, your acne is not even compared to other stuff. I hope that you feel better someday, you are not alone, and those who laugh at you because of your acne...they can go to hell, karma exist and someday they will get acne or something even worst. 

 

The main thing is that you should know is that the more you show to the people that you are weak the more they are going to pick on you. Yoou are not alone, i´m a girl so for me is way more harder than you because we girls worry so much about our looks. I wish i could be besides you just to let you know that you are not alone. rolleyes.gif

 

I respect your right to an opinion, but I completely disagree.  I mean, sure, third-degree burns are going to be more severe than the typical case of acne; but, still, I don't see the logic behind attempting to trivialize acne.  All cases of acne are not created equal and, although acne is more treatable than some diseases, it's not always easily treated.  Moreover, I can personally attest to the fact that can negatively impact your ability to get a job -- either by directly hurting your appearance or by lowering your self-confidence.

 

Also, for some, acne is not a temporary issue; even if they manage to 'cure' their active acne, they can be 'disfigured' for life by scarring.  And, unlike victims of burns or diseases, they rarely see any sympathy.  Instead, their appearance is viewed as being their 'fault', as if it was a mere hygiene issue.

 

Finally, I don't think being a girl necessarily makes having acne harder.  I understand that society puts a lot of emphasis on the physical appearance of females, but, regardless of gender, people care about how they look.  In fact, I could argue it's harder for males because, as a male, you're expected to be the one that makes the 'move.'  Ultimately, though, I think acne is equally difficult for everyone.



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Posted 09 September 2013 - 10:24 PM

Took a look at OP's pictures and could not believe how much better his skin was as compared to mine and then proceeded to completely not comprehend the crap that I just read. I can empathise, sure, there are days when I think my acne is way worse than it really is when nobody around me cares, or even notices sometimes until I point out a pimple I'm obsessed over. But I sure as hell have no sympathy for this kind of bs attitude. If you wanna mope and hate yourself, by all means be my guest, but don't go trying to drag everyone along with you just because misery loves company. I completely agree with one of the posts above - ugly thoughts make ugly people. You're the reason for your own God damn unhappiness, stop holding other people responsible. You clearly haven't tried and it's nobody's fault but your own because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of making a conscious effort to change it.  I'm not sorry that this is coming off as rude because OP is just plain offensive and I can't stand it.


As i said from the start of this thread, my goal is to to give people a reality check on what having acne is like. What i cant stand is all the positive bs people keep spitting out, I feel its its a complete denial of whats really going on.

How was i responsible for every insult iv ever gotten? How was i responsible for 8 years of people giving me hell for something i didnt control?

I am not the problem! Peoples ignorance is, their lack of sympathy & understanding is! Dont even try to pin this on me i never asked for any of this god dame bs!

Those pics are recent & not very good quality my skin was horrible for years...

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Posted 09 September 2013 - 10:55 PM

Im fairly positive that most of you guys just didnt have the level of acne i did. Anyone who has would know exactly were im coming from & im sure would agree with most of what ive said.

So my acne isnt as bad anymore so what? To me that changes nothing, im still treated just about the same lol jezz man its only gone from horrid to bad, that is not worth much imo..

To me being positive about a negative thing just means you would rather not face the truth about it. Instead that person would rather hide behind the dilution of a positive thought

Im sorry guys but in my mind i find such an act weak. Why not just face reality? I may be unhappy but thats only becuase Its the logical result of what i have lived through.

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Posted 09 September 2013 - 11:16 PM

No one's saying you're responsible for other people being rude and ignorant etc - that's their problem. So you can leave it at that - being their problem - and get on with your life.

 

But it's your choice to then have a 'screw all of society for being idiots' attitude and being negative about everything (that's just how I feel you're coming across - sorry if I have it wrong) instead of just realising that only a few people have been like that and that there are still decent, kind people out there and that yes, you can still enjoy life etc. 

 

And it's my choice to try and be positive and to still enjoy life - because I can still do that. It's still an option. Acne / bad skin doesn't change that! The fact that I have had bad acne in the past, and that I'm still dealing with it now (it's more light now) as well as with a lot of PIH, does not change the fact I can still enjoy life. Why would I want to waste the rest of my life feeling miserable when I've already wasted enough of it due to me holding myself back because of acne?? Yes, you will encounter idiots who judge you on your skin or will say something stupid - but that's rare really. And who needs people like that. If you meet someone like that, ignore them, move on. They're not worth your time.

 

It's not an 'act.' I'm not being delusional. It's all to do with a persons attitude and willpower I think. But I guess it's easier said than done for some people.

 

I don't know... I just don't get why you seem so closed to the idea or possibility of still having a good time and enjoying life. Isn't it worth trying?

 

Also just out of curiousity - a  few posts ago you said this:

 




tell me how is someone gonna forget about it when its mentioned by almost everyone that sees you? i want to live normaly but society wont let me. Im treated as a joke, people can go fuk themselves

 

 

 on an average day when you go out - how many people actually stop and comment to you about your skin? I find it really hard to believe that nearly everyone that sees you will mention your skin - no matter it's condition. My skin is worse than how yours is in the pics and I don't have people stopping me. Have I just been lucky in recent years? I have had someone say things in the past (when my skin was worse than it is now) but that was one person years ago. So one person, in 8 or so years of acne, saying something to me...

 

You don't need to forget about acne / your skin. I think that's near impossible. But you just need to worry about it less or change your perspective on life or society (whatever) a bit. Society doesn't care how you live. I don't think people are treating you like a joke. It's up to you to make life what you want it to be for you. It really is. 


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Posted 10 September 2013 - 01:01 PM

No one's saying you're responsible for other people being rude and ignorant etc - that's their problem. So you can leave it at that - being their problem - and get on with your life.

 

But it's your choice to then have a 'screw all of society for being idiots' attitude and being negative about everything (that's just how I feel you're coming across - sorry if I have it wrong) instead of just realising that only a few people have been like that and that there are still decent, kind people out there and that yes, you can still enjoy life etc. 

 

And it's my choice to try and be positive and to still enjoy life - because I can still do that. It's still an option. Acne / bad skin doesn't change that! The fact that I have had bad acne in the past, and that I'm still dealing with it now (it's more light now) as well as with a lot of PIH, does not change the fact I can still enjoy life. Why would I want to waste the rest of my life feeling miserable when I've already wasted enough of it due to me holding myself back because of acne?? Yes, you will encounter idiots who judge you on your skin or will say something stupid - but that's rare really. And who needs people like that. If you meet someone like that, ignore them, move on. They're not worth your time.

 

It's not an 'act.' I'm not being delusional. It's all to do with a persons attitude and willpower I think. But I guess it's easier said than done for some people.

 

I don't know... I just don't get why you seem so closed to the idea or possibility of still having a good time and enjoying life. Isn't it worth trying?

 

Also just out of curiousity - a  few posts ago you said this:

 




tell me how is someone gonna forget about it when its mentioned by almost everyone that sees you? i want to live normaly but society wont let me. Im treated as a joke, people can go fuk themselves

 

 

 on an average day when you go out - how many people actually stop and comment to you about your skin? I find it really hard to believe that nearly everyone that sees you will mention your skin - no matter it's condition. My skin is worse than how yours is in the pics and I don't have people stopping me. Have I just been lucky in recent years? I have had someone say things in the past (when my skin was worse than it is now) but that was one person years ago. So one person, in 8 or so years of acne, saying something to me...

 

You don't need to forget about acne / your skin. I think that's near impossible. But you just need to worry about it less or change your perspective on life or society (whatever) a bit. Society doesn't care how you live. I don't think people are treating you like a joke. It's up to you to make life what you want it to be for you. It really is. 

Well said!!! i think just the way you think. Life is too short, so we have to live it to the fullest.



Im fairly positive that most of you guys just didnt have the level of acne i did. Anyone who has would know exactly were im coming from & im sure would agree with most of what ive said.

So my acne isnt as bad anymore so what? To me that changes nothing, im still treated just about the same lol jezz man its only gone from horrid to bad, that is not worth much imo..

To me being positive about a negative thing just means you would rather not face the truth about it. Instead that person would rather hide behind the dilution of a positive thought

Im sorry guys but in my mind i find such an act weak. Why not just face reality? I may be unhappy but thats only becuase Its the logical result of what i have lived through.

It doesn´t matter if any of us here in this forum, has mild acne and not severe like yours we still have acne and we still have to cope with it. Now you are the one who is feeling miserable and not enjoying life. Just like another user said before here, how many people in the streets, stop you and say something negative towards your skin?

 

My father is ALWAYS making nasty remarks about my skin how do you think i feel? he is my father, he is supposed to support me but no, he laughs at me and makes bad comments because of my skin, yes sometimes i feel down but at the end of the day i want to live my life like others, just to be happy and enjoy everything that surrounds me life is not about staying in your house feeling sorry for you. You have to do something or you know what is going to happen? You are going to be unhappy till the day you die, but everyone in this world, will move on, will get marry, have children, have a job, a career but you are going to be the only one who is going to loose all the good moments of this life. 

 

I haven´t seen your recent pics if you have any about your current skin condition but i gotta say that i might have more acne than yours. 



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Posted 10 September 2013 - 01:42 PM



To me being positive about a negative thing just means you would rather not face the truth about it. Instead that person would rather hide behind the dilution of a positive thought

Im sorry guys but in my mind i find such an act weak. 

 

Being positive doesn't mean not accepting the truth.
That's not being positive at all. That's called lying to oneself.

Being positive means accepting the truth or what cannot be undone while doing your best to see the good in everything.

I see you know reality, but that does't mean you have to blind yourself from the positivity.

There are always two sides.
Light and darkness.
Happy and sad.
Bad and good.

You see the bad, but do you see the good? Now i call that a pessimist.


For me, the people who have gone through a lot and still see life as an opportunity to be happy are the strong people.
They are the ones who faced mountains but didnt give up. They didnt whine about it. Instead, they try their best to fight. To seek happiness.

You see what i mean?
So i completely disagree to what you said that positive people are weak. Your definition of a positive person is quite off.

 
You also say that you are positive that people here dont know how bad your skin was.
But do you know how bad OUR skin is?
I have a dogbite scar on my face. I have rolling scars, boxscar scars, large pores, HYPERTROPHIC scars on my nose as well as icepicks on my nose, I also have icespick scars on my cheeks.

You say you had bad acne, but usually REALLY BAD ACNE LEAVES SCARS, because they are very deep. I saw your pictures, and you barely had any scars like wth.
DUDE im 16! and my nose looks much more disfigured because it has a combination of hypertrophic scars AND atrophic scars. IMAGINE that. Did i mention i have really big cysts on my nose?
 


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Posted 11 September 2013 - 12:02 AM

Took a look at OP's pictures and could not believe how much better his skin was as compared to mine and then proceeded to completely not comprehend the crap that I just read. I can empathise, sure, there are days when I think my acne is way worse than it really is when nobody around me cares, or even notices sometimes until I point out a pimple I'm obsessed over. But I sure as hell have no sympathy for this kind of bs attitude. If you wanna mope and hate yourself, by all means be my guest, but don't go trying to drag everyone along with you just because misery loves company. I completely agree with one of the posts above - ugly thoughts make ugly people. You're the reason for your own God damn unhappiness, stop holding other people responsible. You clearly haven't tried and it's nobody's fault but your own because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of making a conscious effort to change it.  I'm not sorry that this is coming off as rude because OP is just plain offensive and I can't stand it.


As i said from the start of this thread, my goal is to to give people a reality check on what having acne is like. What i cant stand is all the positive bs people keep spitting out, I feel its its a complete denial of whats really going on.

How was i responsible for every insult iv ever gotten? How was i responsible for 8 years of people giving me hell for something i didnt control?

I am not the problem! Peoples ignorance is, their lack of sympathy & understanding is! Dont even try to pin this on me i never asked for any of this god dame bs!

Those pics are recent & not very good quality my skin was horrible for years...

 

Pretty sure that the only one who needs a reality check is you. You're not held responsible for every insult you receive but you're held responsible for how you react. I don't care that you gave up. I don't care that you're all sad and bitter and miserable boo hoo. You can't even admit that all of this is your own fault because you're a weak-minded individual.

 

You need to go fix yourself before you start parading your stupid ideas in this forum.



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Posted 11 September 2013 - 03:41 AM

Im fairly positive that most of you guys just didnt have the level of acne i did. Anyone who has would know exactly were im coming from & im sure would agree with most of what ive said.

So my acne isnt as bad anymore so what? To me that changes nothing, im still treated just about the same lol jezz man its only gone from horrid to bad, that is not worth much imo..

To me being positive about a negative thing just means you would rather not face the truth about it. Instead that person would rather hide behind the dilution of a positive thought

Im sorry guys but in my mind i find such an act weak. Why not just face reality? I may be unhappy but thats only becuase Its the logical result of what i have lived through.

I understand you completely and I sympathize 100% with your personal situation. However, I am wondering what you are trying to achieve here. Do you want a solution for your problems?



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Posted 11 September 2013 - 07:13 AM


Took a look at OP's pictures and could not believe how much better his skin was as compared to mine and then proceeded to completely not comprehend the crap that I just read. I can empathise, sure, there are days when I think my acne is way worse than it really is when nobody around me cares, or even notices sometimes until I point out a pimple I'm obsessed over. But I sure as hell have no sympathy for this kind of bs attitude. If you wanna mope and hate yourself, by all means be my guest, but don't go trying to drag everyone along with you just because misery loves company. I completely agree with one of the posts above - ugly thoughts make ugly people. You're the reason for your own God damn unhappiness, stop holding other people responsible. You clearly haven't tried and it's nobody's fault but your own because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of making a conscious effort to change it.  I'm not sorry that this is coming off as rude because OP is just plain offensive and I can't stand it.


As i said from the start of this thread, my goal is to to give people a reality check on what having acne is like. What i cant stand is all the positive bs people keep spitting out, I feel its its a complete denial of whats really going on.
How was i responsible for every insult iv ever gotten? How was i responsible for 8 years of people giving me hell for something i didnt control?
I am not the problem! Peoples ignorance is, their lack of sympathy & understanding is! Dont even try to pin this on me i never asked for any of this god dame bs!
Those pics are recent & not very good quality my skin was horrible for years...
 
Pretty sure that the only one who needs a reality check is you. You're not held responsible for every insult you receive but you're held responsible for how you react. I don't care that you gave up. I don't care that you're all sad and bitter and miserable boo hoo. You can't even admit that all of this is your own fault because you're a weak-minded individual.
 
You need to go fix yourself before you start parading your stupid ideas in this forum.
Perfect.

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Posted 11 September 2013 - 07:31 AM

No one's saying you're responsible for other people being rude and ignorant etc - that's their problem. So you can leave it at that - being their problem - and get on with your life.

 

But it's your choice to then have a 'screw all of society for being idiots' attitude and being negative about everything (that's just how I feel you're coming across - sorry if I have it wrong) instead of just realising that only a few people have been like that and that there are still decent, kind people out there and that yes, you can still enjoy life etc. 

 

And it's my choice to try and be positive and to still enjoy life - because I can still do that. It's still an option. Acne / bad skin doesn't change that! The fact that I have had bad acne in the past, and that I'm still dealing with it now (it's more light now) as well as with a lot of PIH, does not change the fact I can still enjoy life. Why would I want to waste the rest of my life feeling miserable when I've already wasted enough of it due to me holding myself back because of acne?? Yes, you will encounter idiots who judge you on your skin or will say something stupid - but that's rare really. And who needs people like that. If you meet someone like that, ignore them, move on. They're not worth your time.

 

It's not an 'act.' I'm not being delusional. It's all to do with a persons attitude and willpower I think. But I guess it's easier said than done for some people.

 

I don't know... I just don't get why you seem so closed to the idea or possibility of still having a good time and enjoying life. Isn't it worth trying?

 

Also just out of curiousity - a  few posts ago you said this:

 




tell me how is someone gonna forget about it when its mentioned by almost everyone that sees you? i want to live normaly but society wont let me. Im treated as a joke, people can go fuk themselves

 

 

 on an average day when you go out - how many people actually stop and comment to you about your skin? I find it really hard to believe that nearly everyone that sees you will mention your skin - no matter it's condition. My skin is worse than how yours is in the pics and I don't have people stopping me. Have I just been lucky in recent years? I have had someone say things in the past (when my skin was worse than it is now) but that was one person years ago. So one person, in 8 or so years of acne, saying something to me...

 

You don't need to forget about acne / your skin. I think that's near impossible. But you just need to worry about it less or change your perspective on life or society (whatever) a bit. Society doesn't care how you live. I don't think people are treating you like a joke. It's up to you to make life what you want it to be for you. It really is. 

What if living is hanging out with other people? People were not really interested in me until last Saturday. I am absolutely not joking. You know how old I am. It took me years, I spend a lot of money, joined a lot of clubs and seeking professional help until I met a small group of people who were able to lift me out of my depression and relieve me of my social problems that has affected my career. I am on average 5 years behind everyone else in my age group and I probably have to pay money for my problems.

 

But I am not going to leave it at that. I am going to strike back. I am going to strike back fiercely. Not through violence, but through convincing people that things have to go different in this world.


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Posted 11 September 2013 - 02:56 PM


Took a look at OP's pictures and could not believe how much better his skin was as compared to mine and then proceeded to completely not comprehend the crap that I just read. I can empathise, sure, there are days when I think my acne is way worse than it really is when nobody around me cares, or even notices sometimes until I point out a pimple I'm obsessed over. But I sure as hell have no sympathy for this kind of bs attitude. If you wanna mope and hate yourself, by all means be my guest, but don't go trying to drag everyone along with you just because misery loves company. I completely agree with one of the posts above - ugly thoughts make ugly people. You're the reason for your own God damn unhappiness, stop holding other people responsible. You clearly haven't tried and it's nobody's fault but your own because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself instead of making a conscious effort to change it.  I'm not sorry that this is coming off as rude because OP is just plain offensive and I can't stand it.

As i said from the start of this thread, my goal is to to give people a reality check on what having acne is like. What i cant stand is all the positive bs people keep spitting out, I feel its its a complete denial of whats really going on.How was i responsible for every insult iv ever gotten? How was i responsible for 8 years of people giving me hell for something i didnt control?I am not the problem! Peoples ignorance is, their lack of sympathy & understanding is! Dont even try to pin this on me i never asked for any of this god dame bs!Those pics are recent & not very good quality my skin was horrible for years...
 Pretty sure that the only one who needs a reality check is you. You're not held responsible for every insult you receive but you're held responsible for how you react. I don't care that you gave up. I don't care that you're all sad and bitter and miserable boo hoo. You can't even admit that all of this is your own fault because you're a weak-minded individual. You need to go fix yourself before you start parading your stupid ideas in this forum.
so how should someone react? & its fine by me If you dont care this message wasnt meant for you then. My view is too raw for you

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Posted 11 September 2013 - 03:18 PM

Im fairly positive that most of you guys just didnt have the level of acne i did. Anyone who has would know exactly were im coming from & im sure would agree with most of what ive said.So my acne isnt as bad anymore so what? To me that changes nothing, im still treated just about the same lol jezz man its only gone from horrid to bad, that is not worth much imo..To me being positive about a negative thing just means you would rather not face the truth about it. Instead that person would rather hide behind the dilution of a positive thoughtIm sorry guys but in my mind i find such an act weak. Why not just face reality? I may be unhappy but thats only becuase Its the logical result of what i have lived through.

I understand you completely and I sympathize 100% with your personal situation. However, I am wondering what you are trying to achieve here. Do you want a solution for your problems?
My goal here on this thread has been to get my story & personal views of the world out. I believe every thing i have said based on facts and experiance. Most of all id like for some who is just starting out on really bad acne to know what to expect from the world, the idea is that perhaps with prior knowledge of such events. A person could better prepare for it. Or at least not be surprised when it happens because it will....

If by solution you mean normal skin then of course. i dont enjoy this & i dont want to live with it anymore. I want to live without it Not adapt myself to it. thats reasonable dont you think?




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